Mr Blonde
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Dom/me "Thought of the Day" calendar
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Limbhugger
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February 15.
By Scarlett_t2
"BDSM discovered me and slapped me right upside my head. I have always been the way I am but not putting the pieces together, after much research...and contray to popular belief I got to know a wonderful sub (I am a Domme) who spent many a night answering and filling in with a personal touch the many questions I had that neither the net or books could answer. I had to get out of the black and white of it and look into the grays. With the realization of what I truly am fit the pieces of my puzzle together making me for the first time feel whole and complete. Everything made sense and all I am makes sense."
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=230689
By Scarlett_t2
"BDSM discovered me and slapped me right upside my head. I have always been the way I am but not putting the pieces together, after much research...and contray to popular belief I got to know a wonderful sub (I am a Domme) who spent many a night answering and filling in with a personal touch the many questions I had that neither the net or books could answer. I had to get out of the black and white of it and look into the grays. With the realization of what I truly am fit the pieces of my puzzle together making me for the first time feel whole and complete. Everything made sense and all I am makes sense."
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=230689
Mr Blonde
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February 17
I do not want a SAM or a submissive who plays games by topping from the bottom. I am very clear about what I want in a submissve and what I expect. Game playing is grounds for dismissal. My part-time subs know this and I have dismissed a few who thought I was joking. I do not joke. Nor do I want my time wasted.
--Ebonyfire link
I do not want a SAM or a submissive who plays games by topping from the bottom. I am very clear about what I want in a submissve and what I expect. Game playing is grounds for dismissal. My part-time subs know this and I have dismissed a few who thought I was joking. I do not joke. Nor do I want my time wasted.
--Ebonyfire link
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Hey everyone. I just wanted to say how much I enjoy reading what Mr. Blonde comes up with on this thread, and I really hope that some of you other Domly types take up the torch while he is gone... It would be nice hearing from more than one perspective 
And you wouldn't want us subbie type people to have a better calendar, now would you?
And you wouldn't want us subbie type people to have a better calendar, now would you?
catalina_francisco
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February 18th - Richard49
"Nothing....nothing replaces the real thing...
However
For many they discover BDSM D/s online.......
They learn and are educated
Those who realy decide it is for them.....go RT
For others they decide this is not for them
for whatever reason........
Still others...and to me these are the dangerious type....
but this is just my opinion
Are those that do not descover BDSM D/s online but a place to
MIND FUCK
Leaving behind the corpes of dead bodies"
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=73425
"Nothing....nothing replaces the real thing...
However
For many they discover BDSM D/s online.......
They learn and are educated
Those who realy decide it is for them.....go RT
For others they decide this is not for them
for whatever reason........
Still others...and to me these are the dangerious type....
but this is just my opinion
Are those that do not descover BDSM D/s online but a place to
MIND FUCK
Leaving behind the corpes of dead bodies"
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=73425
catalina_francisco
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February 19th - Hecate
Not all BDSM is done in leather and gagged and chained - trust me *s*. There are many many different and much more subtile ways to express Dominance (at least in my opinion). Only fact those are maybe not really "widely published" is that they aren't as pituresc and distinctive and "clichee" so those pictures wouldn't "sell"
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&postid=723619#post723619
Not all BDSM is done in leather and gagged and chained - trust me *s*. There are many many different and much more subtile ways to express Dominance (at least in my opinion). Only fact those are maybe not really "widely published" is that they aren't as pituresc and distinctive and "clichee" so those pictures wouldn't "sell"
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&postid=723619#post723619
catalina_francisco
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February 20th - DVS
I feel everything has its own place and time. I also agree that vanilla people shouldn't have to put up with our kinky lives any more than we should have to deal with theirs. Simple respect for someone's space is all that is needed. I consider it a rather brazen act for the people to include the neighbor's outdoor gathering in their sex lives. I am very kinky, and I would be upset if someone invaded my party this way.
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=89502
I feel everything has its own place and time. I also agree that vanilla people shouldn't have to put up with our kinky lives any more than we should have to deal with theirs. Simple respect for someone's space is all that is needed. I consider it a rather brazen act for the people to include the neighbor's outdoor gathering in their sex lives. I am very kinky, and I would be upset if someone invaded my party this way.
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=89502
catalina_francisco
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February21st - Lancecastor
Granted, the chances of long term love emerging and always having soil to grow with are better they say where common interests help bind one to the other.
But I wouldn't go so far as to say that one should look for the common interests only and exclusively before even THINKING about the possibility of Love rearing its' ugly head.
Methinks the answer is in the middle somewhere and BDSM is no different than stock car racing in this respect.
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&postid=2263612#post2263612
Granted, the chances of long term love emerging and always having soil to grow with are better they say where common interests help bind one to the other.
But I wouldn't go so far as to say that one should look for the common interests only and exclusively before even THINKING about the possibility of Love rearing its' ugly head.
Methinks the answer is in the middle somewhere and BDSM is no different than stock car racing in this respect.
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&postid=2263612#post2263612
catalina_francisco
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February 22nd - Mr Blonde
Having a code of ethics is personally important for me. Even though I have my own style that has taken shape based on my aggregate life experiences, I find that each relationship is different and evolves in its own way. Just like boundaries can change and shift, a code of ethics tends to shift slightly as the relationship deepens. I never have 100% compatibility with a partner and I do not go so far as brainwashing the submissive to match my preliminary protocols.
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&postid=7618402#post7618402
Having a code of ethics is personally important for me. Even though I have my own style that has taken shape based on my aggregate life experiences, I find that each relationship is different and evolves in its own way. Just like boundaries can change and shift, a code of ethics tends to shift slightly as the relationship deepens. I never have 100% compatibility with a partner and I do not go so far as brainwashing the submissive to match my preliminary protocols.
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&postid=7618402#post7618402
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But, I believe that there has to be an overwhelming and undisputeable punishment that is feared and beyond reckoning for a child. Usually that punishment is pain... I will and do spank..
I will never regret that decision... Never is it used easily, and without thought, although it is all encompassing. Repeated lies, physically harmful activities, open and willfull disrespect to either parents, and failure of the previous corrective measures of other discipline will result in spanking.
To me a spanking of a child will never result in physical harm, but will bring them to a level that shows them that they do not and have not earned the right to control their physical environment. What they want is not an issue, as a parent, it is my job to show them that until they have shown the resourses to make critical judgements, those judgements will be made be me. Everyone, including children have the right to make mistakes, and the punishments for those mistakes should be lenient but fulfillingly a learning experience. Willful disobedience should be quelled, because a spank on the ass is much less painful than ten years in the pen if left unchecked. I believe that mother and father is the name for God on the lips and hearts of all children. I would never abuse a child, or even discipline him/her in public, but you bet your ass, if they act less than a little Lord or Lady as an youth, then they will become a menace in later years.
by Saint Sinner
I will never regret that decision... Never is it used easily, and without thought, although it is all encompassing. Repeated lies, physically harmful activities, open and willfull disrespect to either parents, and failure of the previous corrective measures of other discipline will result in spanking.
To me a spanking of a child will never result in physical harm, but will bring them to a level that shows them that they do not and have not earned the right to control their physical environment. What they want is not an issue, as a parent, it is my job to show them that until they have shown the resourses to make critical judgements, those judgements will be made be me. Everyone, including children have the right to make mistakes, and the punishments for those mistakes should be lenient but fulfillingly a learning experience. Willful disobedience should be quelled, because a spank on the ass is much less painful than ten years in the pen if left unchecked. I believe that mother and father is the name for God on the lips and hearts of all children. I would never abuse a child, or even discipline him/her in public, but you bet your ass, if they act less than a little Lord or Lady as an youth, then they will become a menace in later years.
by Saint Sinner
catalina_francisco
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February 24th - trodas
I need the response, i need to know, that i doing something to her, i need to see her body fighting with pain and bondage (that's the most erotic view for me), i need her moans - and when need, i do use gag, to i can hear only the moans, not the words
I never says "shut up and take it", i allways wanted the response, the fight, the tension of body, the view of fastening muscles under straps...
...i simply must have it
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=235174&pagenumber=2
I need the response, i need to know, that i doing something to her, i need to see her body fighting with pain and bondage (that's the most erotic view for me), i need her moans - and when need, i do use gag, to i can hear only the moans, not the words
I never says "shut up and take it", i allways wanted the response, the fight, the tension of body, the view of fastening muscles under straps...
...i simply must have it
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=235174&pagenumber=2
catalina_francisco
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February 25th - Netzach
I like working with pleasure and pleasureable pain primarily, because of the control factor.
Pleasure is a great way to control another. If you suddenly stop whatever feels so good you've created a dependency, an instant tension.
If you push pleasureable pain (oh yeahhhh) into a moment of non-pleasureable pain (arrrggggh fuck) you can then milk that dynamic for hours.
Many tops into painplay derive huge pleasure from this fundamentally pretty cerebral game, and I'm one.
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&postid=7892113#post7892113
I like working with pleasure and pleasureable pain primarily, because of the control factor.
Pleasure is a great way to control another. If you suddenly stop whatever feels so good you've created a dependency, an instant tension.
If you push pleasureable pain (oh yeahhhh) into a moment of non-pleasureable pain (arrrggggh fuck) you can then milk that dynamic for hours.
Many tops into painplay derive huge pleasure from this fundamentally pretty cerebral game, and I'm one.
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&postid=7892113#post7892113
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February 27
On a personal note, even as a Domme i have had feelings of guilt and confusion to overcome, i had to accept my darker needs and desires which conflict completely with my everyday life, it takes awhile, but the freedom when you accept who you are and what you want is the most fantastic feeling.
--ImmortaleAmante link
On a personal note, even as a Domme i have had feelings of guilt and confusion to overcome, i had to accept my darker needs and desires which conflict completely with my everyday life, it takes awhile, but the freedom when you accept who you are and what you want is the most fantastic feeling.
--ImmortaleAmante link
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February 28
D/s isn't only about whips and chains, at least not for us. It is about one person taking charge for both people, whether that involves detailed instructions about behavior, or just deciding what to have for dinner. We live in a 24/7 D/s relationship, in that any time of the day or night, if something comes up, I decide what happens next.
--Johnny Mayberry link
D/s isn't only about whips and chains, at least not for us. It is about one person taking charge for both people, whether that involves detailed instructions about behavior, or just deciding what to have for dinner. We live in a 24/7 D/s relationship, in that any time of the day or night, if something comes up, I decide what happens next.
--Johnny Mayberry link
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February 29
As my pets Owner...trust came from being friends for years. It was built with every step forward we made into the realm of the unknown. Since my grrl was my best friend long before she married (and my grrl for about a year of that) the trust was always in place. My boi (on the other hand) was a gift from her to me. (AS they are now married). His trust issues were different.
AS of yet, the three of us have yet to discover a place where the trust crumbles or breaks down. They trust me...i love and care for them..it is a good trade. WE have been together a total of 3 years (off and on). For me, my only issue with their trust is whether or not I can keep it. Especially since I do alot of mini-managing their lives for them (By their own needs and desires).
--apet4you (speaking as a Domme) link
As my pets Owner...trust came from being friends for years. It was built with every step forward we made into the realm of the unknown. Since my grrl was my best friend long before she married (and my grrl for about a year of that) the trust was always in place. My boi (on the other hand) was a gift from her to me. (AS they are now married). His trust issues were different.
AS of yet, the three of us have yet to discover a place where the trust crumbles or breaks down. They trust me...i love and care for them..it is a good trade. WE have been together a total of 3 years (off and on). For me, my only issue with their trust is whether or not I can keep it. Especially since I do alot of mini-managing their lives for them (By their own needs and desires).
--apet4you (speaking as a Domme) link
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March 1
When My slave presents his wrists to Me for binding him to My will I immediately begin to enter a new world. The world of power and control. I feel an internal growth that radiates throughout My being and fills Me with the heat of passion. Each increase in bondage that My locks assure gives My heart a rush of adrenaline. Having total control of My slave_and his responses excites Me beyond reason. My pleasure is emotional as well as physical. The stimulation of My intellect while taking him wherever I choose brings Me to the Domme Space I love.
--Shadowsdream link
When My slave presents his wrists to Me for binding him to My will I immediately begin to enter a new world. The world of power and control. I feel an internal growth that radiates throughout My being and fills Me with the heat of passion. Each increase in bondage that My locks assure gives My heart a rush of adrenaline. Having total control of My slave_and his responses excites Me beyond reason. My pleasure is emotional as well as physical. The stimulation of My intellect while taking him wherever I choose brings Me to the Domme Space I love.
--Shadowsdream link
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March 2
Discussing lack of respect
I personally have no problem with anyone here as long as my opinions are not attacked or flamed. Disagree if you must, but leave character assassination out of it. My only purpose here is too exchange ideas with folks who [a]re interested in D/s. I am not here to be "liked"or "popular". I always use "I" language to post my opinion. So if someone wants to disagree, that is fine, but I do take exception to being called names. I will not tolerate verbal abuse from anyone, sub or Dom/me.
--Ebonyfire link
Discussing lack of respect
I personally have no problem with anyone here as long as my opinions are not attacked or flamed. Disagree if you must, but leave character assassination out of it. My only purpose here is too exchange ideas with folks who [a]re interested in D/s. I am not here to be "liked"or "popular". I always use "I" language to post my opinion. So if someone wants to disagree, that is fine, but I do take exception to being called names. I will not tolerate verbal abuse from anyone, sub or Dom/me.
--Ebonyfire link
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March 3
Discussing post-scene aftercare....
I lie beside him or her and take that treasure into My arms with their head upon My chest, My left hand holding their head firmly against My breast so they can be lulled into a deeper contentment by My heart beat. I advise them to sleep while I watch over them. To feel no stress, relax and let the mind and the body fall deeper and deeper into subspace. Stroking their hair until I feel the body go limp.
--Shadowsdream link
Discussing post-scene aftercare....
I lie beside him or her and take that treasure into My arms with their head upon My chest, My left hand holding their head firmly against My breast so they can be lulled into a deeper contentment by My heart beat. I advise them to sleep while I watch over them. To feel no stress, relax and let the mind and the body fall deeper and deeper into subspace. Stroking their hair until I feel the body go limp.
--Shadowsdream link
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March 4
For me it is the feeling I get from having someone trust me so very very deeply and without reservation. To trust that even when I make mistakes they are for the right reasons. To trust that the mistakes will be few. The feeling of knowing that she puts me above herself, looks to me for guidance and protection even when it is within her capability to make a joyous path for herself. That I can silence, elate, or relax her with only a glance or a pause in my voice.
--Ricckk link
For me it is the feeling I get from having someone trust me so very very deeply and without reservation. To trust that even when I make mistakes they are for the right reasons. To trust that the mistakes will be few. The feeling of knowing that she puts me above herself, looks to me for guidance and protection even when it is within her capability to make a joyous path for herself. That I can silence, elate, or relax her with only a glance or a pause in my voice.
--Ricckk link
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March 5
I have apart from the sexual excitement, a very deep and satisfying connection with my slave. The bond goes very deep and it is not only sex in whatever form. It is about commitment going both ways I feel often very proud, not of my own accomplishments but more of hers. I feel a deep sense of pride of owning her. I can be very proud when she performs a task which she finds difficult to do.
--Francisco link
I have apart from the sexual excitement, a very deep and satisfying connection with my slave. The bond goes very deep and it is not only sex in whatever form. It is about commitment going both ways I feel often very proud, not of my own accomplishments but more of hers. I feel a deep sense of pride of owning her. I can be very proud when she performs a task which she finds difficult to do.
--Francisco link
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March 6
Dom/me space for me was a surreal feeling, like it was just our scene, nothing else existed. I wanted to do more, feed on her reactions. I had to really concentrate to keep my focus. It was a wonderful feeling. I had to force myself to end the scene, because I wanted it to go on forever.
--LadyHeart link
Dom/me space for me was a surreal feeling, like it was just our scene, nothing else existed. I wanted to do more, feed on her reactions. I had to really concentrate to keep my focus. It was a wonderful feeling. I had to force myself to end the scene, because I wanted it to go on forever.
--LadyHeart link
