Embarrassment

[myinnerslut]

in bedroom terms, i think embarrassment can be productive to the scene. its an emotion Master likes to play with. he enjoys seeing how i suddenly can't meet his eyes, how i squirm and whimper, and how i seem to get inexplicably turned on despite my silent pleading for it to be over.

shame is detrimental. shame inhibits the proper eroticism of an action. it leaves behind feelings of guilt, feeding the shame even further and causing it to grow.

in my own experience, anal play was a deeply shameful thing for me. i did it as a child first exploring masturbation, and every time afterwards i told myself i never would again. i felt awful, guilty, convinced everybody would know. in my late teens anal *play* ceased and anal sex was used as a negative (punishment usually) and only that. the shame from enjoying it ceased as well since i no longer enjoyed it in any way and it became simply bad. in my current relationship, Master has fought very hard to counter the history of shame and of "bad".

now he has access to the embarrassment that causes me to whimper and hide when i want to ask for it. he can see my jaw start to quiver as he calls me any number of things designed to bring out that embarrassed reaction. when the shame is gone he can play my emotions as he wants to.

 

[dogskatt]

(quote) I think that submission can help lower the embarrassment of having needs that may have been suppressed for years finally coming to the surface and being met.

Any comments? (quote)

I sometimes have strong urges that I want to be humiliated and embarassed, I find that I have begged for it and then when Master wants to fullfil the urge, I get scared and begg him not to make me. I do not mind being displayed in semi public, yes I find it embarassing but it is not to bad, I can handle that.

I can handle if Master made me do something like take blame for his farts or if he wants me to kiss his feet or use one of those gags that make you use your mouth for services to him. I just find it hard to do some more obvious humiliating things, or do things in the daylight or even arround our apartment home, if he was to make me take off my clothes while we drove or tied me to trees in the bushes, then I would be able to handle it for the most of it. I would be embarassed but I could handle doing it. I would probably try to get out of it, begging him still however it would be something I could do if I had to.

Is it wrong that I like to have a certian amount of control in that? or Should I be able to openly do anything that Master wishes me to do?

What do you think?

 

[mylaceratedheart]

As a noob yet to experience kink, I wonder if I will lose my embarrassment over things and if I will miss it when it goes. Right now everything has an exciting, slightly shameful taboo and everyone knows there's nothing more seductive. It seems inevitable though, that experienced BDSMers must lose that a little, or maybe a lot. I suppose anything done with enough regularity will become slightly mundane. People talk about pushing envelopes and limits but it that just because the status quo gets dull? Presumably, people must come up against a wall of things that they don't want to do and discover that everything they're willing to do, they've tried at least once. I know sex is sex and usually enjoyable for its own sake but here at the start of my yellow brick road, I can't help wondering what I'll find at the end - if indeed I reach the end at all rather than run home to black and white Kansas like a scared little bitch.

Ach! Too much damn theory!

 

[Netzach]

The physical effects of embarrassment are about a five degree turn from the physical effects of sexual arousal.

Why this fascinates people in light of that is kind of a no-brainer.

 

[Myskaninen]

I gained a lot of insight from all of you thank you all
now I will think about it ,,,

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