Friends With Benefits AKA My Dom Dumped Me

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I don't believe anyone is saying that this is the reason he left. It is a symptom of a problem in the relationship. You have explained at length that this was not an healthy situation. From what you have said, he was going to leave regardless of your actions. What people are trying to point out is that when someone feels the need to develop an online relationship there is something wrong, missing, incomplete, or a lack of communication and trust in their existing relationship. Your story is an argument for why this is true rather than why it is not.

Well yes, there were some things wrong in our relationship for sure. Enough to make me look for something online yes, not enough to ever leave him tho. I moved from his flat after I found out that he have another woman tho, so it was he who left me again. I would stay and sort things I am not a leaver, but its hard to sort something when he even wasn't there.

You have broken the cycle of a relationship with an user. That is the best thing you could have done. Hopefully at some point you can regain the ability to trust again. I'm sure that is going to be a long road after all that you have been through. At some point everyone will put their trust in someone that does not deserve it. The key is to learn which ones you should not place your trust in rather than abandoning the ability to trust completely. Life without trust is very hollow. A relationship without trust is not a relationship.

I am not really sure if thats the best thing I could have done. When I moved outta his flat it was more forced decision than something I wanted to do. I didn't want to go, not at all. I was way too happy about us being back together just to leave him when things goes wrong, but I couldn't stay either, Not when I knew he live with someone else.

We have split many times, but the last one was surely the most fucked up and weird one the more cuz he kept assure me we were okay. He even acted like we were, so I though we was. There were things that was wrong yes, but nuthing so terible to give him a reason to leave me thinks. When he did I was shocked. It was unexpected, unfair and very cruel from him and it was something I thought he could never do to me again. Guess I still haven't learn my lesson about who can be trusted and who not. I always try to see just the good in peeps, maybe I should wake up LOL.

Life without trust is very hollow. A relationship without trust is not a relationship.

You are right, life without trust is hollow. I still trust people, some, but I have doubts more often than its healthy I would say. My Sir know his about my insecurity and lack of trust I must say. He have some holy patience with me on this matter whats very appreciated.

Ya know, when you doubt someone who actualy can and should be trusted it hurts their feelings and as much as I hate to do that I still do now and then. If I found me a new man right now he would be prolly poor person with me cuz of my neverending doubts. As for my Dom I can just say I often feel he desereves something so much better than what I can provide atm. I am glad he keeps me as his sub tho, he's surely very patient and awesome person. If I really trust someone, as much as I can, than it's him.

 

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I've not read the whole thread. The term "friends with benefits" regardless of kinked or vanilla, means (to me), friends you sometimes fuck with no strings (perhaps ropes though), attached.

If he is trying to use definitions to break shit off, there is very likely another reason. The reason is possibly one he doesn't want to admit to you or himself.