From Computer to RL (Personal)

[DVS]

As far as I'm concerned, munches are great. You get to meet people like you, and you then have people you can relate to and socialize with. You can even find a play partner, if you are needing one. There are play parties, dinners, munches, and even weekend naked campouts. It is also nice that we have a BDSM performing group that performs weekly in a local club. The audience comes in BDSM dress and can even join in with the action, if they want.

But, like any organized group, there are politics. Of the two BDSM groups in my area, they both have had ups and downs and fights over a direction to take. Alot of it is because the arguing is done over the Internet. Email and forum talking lacks all body language, facial expressions and emotions. Emails can be easily be taken the wrong way, and soon it starts. Flame wars abound.

But, for someone who is looking for a safe way to meet like minded people, socialize and maybe play, this sort of group is great. Just stay out of the politics, and everything will be fine.

 

[Merelan]

Hint ahead...

You know Spectre... You could have picked me up on the way to her place. Geesh.

A threesome, and we missed it!!!!

 

[KillerMuffin]

Spectre'n Taken, me darlins, my suggestion is that you get a hold of Munch groups already in place and find out how they did it.

I'm sure that some of them might be willing to let you know how they started theirs and what sorts of things to do and to avoid.

The few I looked up seemed to have websites at like geocities or groups like yahoo and msn. You might want to consider starting a group at one or both of the "high profile" domains.

This is my local one, though I've never contacted them. They seem, from what I can see, like nice people:

http://come.to/K-I-N-K

Here's some NY ones that you probably already know about:

http://www.albanypowerexchange.com/
http://www.rks-society.com/
http://www.tes.org/
http://www.dorsai.org/~ldnqb/applemunch.html
http://members.tripod.com/~The_Mission/
http://slave_catherine.tripod.com/brunch/
http://www.webbdsm.com/
http://www.domsubfriends.com/
http://www.albanystocksandbonds.com/
http://www.hellfireclubny.com/
http://www.dsdesires.com/
http://www.mcsp.com/smcop/nysma/nysma2.html
http://www.paddlesnyc.com/
http://www.mcsp.com/smcop/welcome.html
http://www.cc.columbia.edu/cu/cv/
http://www.geocities.com/PepBuffalo1/

I could probably find more.

Places like geocities makes it easy to set up a page. Not very difficult. Communities/groups might be more your style because they include boards and chats.

 

[iamaddog]

at home

hey yo!........mad dog is home in iowa/safe and sound.

will try.......very hard.....to keep you all updated.....since everyone was.......concerned for me. and I have been feeling so low about myself recently......nice there IS someone out there that cares......like all of you have been....

it really really helped me....MY real life experience bombed out on me but that doesn't mean there isn't a future.....

mad dog back home in iowa.......

see ya later.......

may the soft breeze caress your cheeks and the warm sun upon your back.....may your feet always find soft ground....

 

[lilfrk]

This is the first time I've read this thread. I'm not sure how I missed it before but I did. I had no idea, but I live like 2 hours from you Spectre and probably not too far from Merelan and MissTaken.

 

[cymbidia]

I live like 2 hours from you Spectre and probably not too far from Merelan and MissTaken.

Hell! Y'all have almost enough people for a munch just by yourselves!

I know i posted this link before, someplace, but who knows if the right eyes saw it then so here it is again... How To Start a Munch, http://www.cufsmaine.org/howtorun.htm

 

[DVS]

Below are BDSM search sites to help you find one in your area. There are several, so surely there is one near you. Check them all...some are worldwide searches and some are only local Europe or U.S.

Happy Hunting!!!

www.fetbot.com/Links/Lifestyle/Organizations/

www.soj.org/groups.html

www.bdsm-peergroup.com/Resources_Groups_Midwest.html

www.tdl.com/~thawley/smgroups.html

www.whisper.co.nz/page6.htm

www.fetishengine.com/directory/Yahoo_and_other_Groups___Clubs/Yahoo__BDSM_Groups/

 

[MissTaken]

The Pic is sized down, and it's my AV now.

Now if I could just get me sized down a bit. Not a major issue, but more stamina and lower heart rate and blood pressure would be nice.

And living the life you choose, and the road as you do it, are the points of the thread. Kind of a public service, so others can see where I'm going and where I've been, know what I've gone through, and see the payoff is worth it.

Philosophical nugget for the day: Life is a journey, not a destination. The only end is death; so go and be and learn and do, every single day! Be an active traveller in your life, not a passenger!

T,
I have to smirk about this post. While I agree whole heartedly with your message, I am chuckling as I think about this post coming in the wake of our hike this afternoon.

Yes, I dragged poor T into the woods, through some rather mucky trails to a beautiful waterfall. He snapped photos as I wandered the water's edge until I found a place I could climb on the rocks and be as much a part of the falls as humanly possible (and remain dry.)

So, in terms of journeys? We had a rather nice journey, yesterday.

 

[James Blandings]

Re: at home

hey yo!........mad dog is home in iowa/safe and sound.

will try.......very hard.....to keep you all updated.....since everyone was.......concerned for me. and I have been feeling so low about myself recently......nice there IS someone out there that cares......like all of you have been....

it really really helped me....MY real life experience bombed out on me but that doesn't mean there isn't a future.....

mad dog back home in iowa.......

see ya later.......

may the soft breeze caress your cheeks and the warm sun upon your back.....may your feet always find soft ground....

Welcome back, maddog

 

[SpectreT]

Hint ahead...

You know Spectre... You could have picked me up on the way to her place. Geesh.

A threesome, and we missed it!!!!

On the way? I doubt it, nothing's on the way to her place. I should know: I drove through a whole hell of a lot of nothing to find it. (Just ribbin' ya MissT! )

In all seriousness, PM me and her sometime; we can all plan out a chance to talk.

 

[SpectreT]

This is the first time I've read this thread. I'm not sure how I missed it before but I did. I had no idea, but I live like 2 hours from you Spectre and probably not too far from Merelan and MissTaken.

What I said to Merelan goes for you, too.

You probably missed the thread because it was mega-buried, like most of my threads. I'm a world-class threadkiller.

 

[SpectreT]

T,
I have to smirk about this post. While I agree whole heartedly with your message, I am chuckling as I think about this post coming in the wake of our hike this afternoon.

Yes, I dragged poor T into the woods, through some rather mucky trails to a beautiful waterfall. He snapped photos as I wandered the water's edge until I found a place I could climb on the rocks and be as much a part of the falls as humanly possible (and remain dry.)

So, in terms of journeys? We had a rather nice journey, yesterday.

Who dragged whom into the woods? As I recall it was my Jeep, and one of the things to do that I suggested was to take a hike, something I haven't done in far too long. I wasn't sure you planned on staying dry, either... you got pretty close..

 

[Merelan]

But, but... Spectre. She is there, and that made the journey worthwhile, did it not?

Giggles... well, mostly. I remember when she told me she lived in the middle of nowhere, that her neighbors were cows and wildlife, I didn't really believe her. Figured she was exaggerating. So she wasn't?

 

[SpectreT]

But, but... Spectre. She is there, and that made the journey worthwhile, did it not?

Giggles... well, mostly. I remember when she told me she lived in the middle of nowhere, that her neighbors were cows and wildlife, I didn't really believe her. Figured she was exaggerating. So she wasn't?

Mild exaggeration on her part. But I can easily believe her assertion that she's the only kinky person within thirty miles...

And yes. It was worth every minute of the trip. I just pick a little bit on some people, when I know that they're not going to take it the wrong way, or get majorly pissed at me for it.

 

[petrel]

Who dragged whom into the woods? As I recall it was my Jeep, and one of the things to do that I suggested was to take a hike, something I haven't done in far too long. I wasn't sure you planned on staying dry, either... you got pretty close..

oh Spectre your Dom side is definatly showing (and I like it)

 

[SpectreT]

Heh. My manners are somewhat lacking, though. I forgot to thank her for showing me that hiking spot.

Like I told cellis over in my "Switch Space" thread, I think It's due to the amount of time I spent with MissT. Just being near some people brings it right out in me.

 

[SierraMoon]

Re: at home

hey yo!........mad dog is home in iowa/safe and sound.

will try.......very hard.....to keep you all updated.....since everyone was.......concerned for me. and I have been feeling so low about myself recently......nice there IS someone out there that cares......like all of you have been....

it really really helped me....MY real life experience bombed out on me but that doesn't mean there isn't a future.....

mad dog back home in iowa.......

see ya later.......

may the soft breeze caress your cheeks and the warm sun upon your back.....may your feet always find soft ground....

mad dog, i'm so sorry to hear that your real life experience wasn't everything that you expected it to be..... as the saying goes..."everything happens for a reason".... you are such a terrific person, that i'm sure you will find your slice of happiness soon (still looking for mine.... have been having alot of attacks of reality lately). Take care, and keep us posted as to how you are doing!!! We care about you lots!!!! BIG HUGS...... sierra

 

[~Dream~]

With Artful's permission,

hello miss Sierra hope you are doing well hun...Specter: i wanted to respond to this thread by telling you thank-you for sharing the comings& goings of your life here as it is a great help and resource for new subs such as myself..i appreciate all the information this thread supplies as i am new and "in training" for this lifestyle..it presents more challenges to me everyday but i know the end result will be my total happiness

 

[Shadowsdream]

mad dog

I hope your real time disaster will not sour your growth nor stop your search to fullfill your needs.

If I can ever help you with some of the questions you may be struggling with please do not hesitate to PM or ask in the forum.

 

[MissTaken]

Heh. My manners are somewhat lacking, though. I forgot to thank her for showing me that hiking spot.

Like I told cellis over in my "Switch Space" thread, I think It's due to the amount of time I spent with MissT. Just being near some people brings it right out in me.

*blushing*

After taking a brief hiatus from the forum, I have been busy, I was pleasantly surprised to find that T's trip north wasn't "old news."

*smiles T's way"

Is my submissive nature so obvious, T? Even when the kids came home and I had to be power mom?

Yes. I would agree that I didn't find your demeanor at all "switchable" when here. Again, thanks for a great time. We will need to do it again sometime soon.

(Lil man's tooth finally came out yesterday! )

 

[SpectreT]

Yes, MissT, it's obvious. Not neon sign obvious, but obvious none the less.

You didn't find me "Switchy"? Took a lot of prodding from you to get a decision out of me about anything, as I recall.

Gives me an idea for a question to post in my "Switch Space" thread....

(regarding the tooth.. about time. )

 

[monster666]

Ha! I am 45 this year - definitely more than halfway to dead, considering how I've lived my life so far. I kind of remember 30. My little brother is a grandpa and my son is in college. And every day, waking up and getting out of bed is another new experience in S/M. Oooooooeee!

And before anyone tries to bring cheer to my world by saying you are as old as you feel, consider this: I had my pelvis shattered in a motorcycle accident 23 years ago. In ways I feel OLDER than I am!

(Good god... did he just say "typical 30-year-old-guy, midlife crisis crap"?)


Fuck!
That must make me, like, on death's door or something!


Hey T! You can't have a mid-life crises until you get to mid-life! Do you only plan to live until you're 60? I'm telling you, big guy, it's not all that far away when you're sitting where i'm sitting, and it's not an age when one wants to be giving it all up, either.



Geeze... 30... mid-life crises... kids today... what're they learning in schools anyway?... man... why i had to walk to school 20 miles barefoot in the snow... mid-life crises, my ass...

 

[SpectreT]

God, that bit's coming back again?

I know 30 isn't really "midlife"..

but it does seem to be the first point at which a male goes haywire, doing all sorts of things to their lives simply because they suddenly feel trapped or stuck. I'm a hell of a lot less emotionally constipated now, mind you, than I was when I started this thread. Making friends will do that to a guy.

 

[Ebonyfire]

Re: God, that bit's coming back again?

I know 30 isn't really "midlife"..

but it does seem to be the first point at which a male goes haywire, doing all sorts of things to their lives simply because they suddenly feel trapped or stuck. I'm a hell of a lot less emotionally constipated now, mind you, than I was when I started this thread. Making friends will do that to a guy.

In my case, it is an excuse to say hi to you SpectreT/ HI!

hehehe!

Ebony

 

[SpectreT]

Bump

And a belated "HI" back at'cha, Ebonyfire.