From maturity to youth

[seohdwm46]

Wow, this is turing out to be pretty cool. I had doubts anyone would take the time to get involved. What a joy it is to see so many people of different stages in life share what they have learned thus far.

Thank you Cathleen, SweetErika, nighthawk289, and hydrex for joining us, and for sharing.

Hope everyone has a wonderful week.

 

[seohdwm46]

Ran across some pretty cool quotes that may apply. At least you all might find intresting.

We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.
Aristotle

I know of no more encouraging fact than the unquestionable ability of man to elevate his life by concious endeavor. Henry David Thoreau

What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us. Oliver Wendell Holmes

 

[seohdwm46]

Mistakes are a not a sign of stupidity, but a wonderful learning tool. What we learn from them is invaluable. Repeated mistakes are a different matter. Just a little motto I have for myself.

Sometimes I am a slow learner. Mostly, I learn the hard way. Retaining that learned information is all that matters in the grand scheme of things.

The purpose of this thread is to maybe help others move past those areas more rapidly, and onto new horizons with collected experience. Thus far, it has been an exciting adventure in this thread.

Thank you all.

 

[seohdwm46]

Hydrex, that's just funny right there. We could have been brothers growing up from the sounds of things. ;D

 

[Missingmeds]

If someone tells you not to feel guilty about something, then don't.

Just remember that other people have to make their own mistakes and no matter how many times you voice your opinion, it probably isn't going to change what they do.

You can, however, limit the number of times that you are willing to listen to them whine about making the same mistake.

 

[YinandYang]

Learn to love yourself and respect yourself, that way you won;t settle for less

 

[Cathleen]

I have to say one lesson I wish I'd learned years ago is using patience. I never really 'got it' until later in life - actually during the dying of a relative. I had to have patience for all the things I needed to help me care for him - I did my part and then had to wait for answers. It was so difficult but in time it all worked out just the way is was supposed to - I learned to keep my mitts off. You have to let the system work, you can't force results. Let is come in its own time.

 

[seohdwm46]

I have to say one lesson I wish I'd learned years ago is using patience. I never really 'got it' until later in life - actually during the dying of a relative. I had to have patience for all the things I needed to help me care for him - I did my part and then had to wait for answers. It was so difficult but in time it all worked out just the way is was supposed to - I learned to keep my mitts off. You have to let the system work, you can't force results. Let is come in its own time.

Sorry you had to endure such a hardship as losing a loved one. Patience is indeed a difficult virtue to master. Thank you so much for sharing that part of your life in this thread. God bless.

 

[seohdwm46]

Learn to love yourself and respect yourself, that way you won;t settle for less

Excellent point.

 

[seohdwm46]

If someone tells you not to feel guilty about something, then don't.

Just remember that other people have to make their own mistakes and no matter how many times you voice your opinion, it probably isn't going to change what they do.

You can, however, limit the number of times that you are willing to listen to them whine about making the same mistake.

I hear that. I am one of those who was told this or that will happen if I did this or that...but had to find out for myself. They were right. That very thing is what gave me the idea for this thread. Maybe it will reach someone and divert them from the same mistakes myself and others have made. Certainly, not everyone is as dense and hard headed as me
Thanks for the input.

 

[Willing and Unsure]

Sometimes people do change and should be given a second chance.

Not everyone comes from the same mold and you should try to be accepting of those that are different from you, even if you dont think they are worthy of that.

 

[seohdwm46]

Sometimes people do change and should be given a second chance.

Not everyone comes from the same mold and you should try to be accepting of those that are different from you, even if you dont think they are worthy of that.

Thank goodness we are all different. What a boring world it would be if we were all alike and everyone saw things the same way. Keep 'em coming, I am sure you have more. Thanks for taking the time to contribute.

 

[babydoll2u]

Hi seo.... I'm so glad to see that your thread has taken off.
I don't really have anything to offer at the moment, as the past few days have been rather rough, but there is one thing that comes to mind...

"Don't walk away from your problems, for you will always hear their footsteps following right behind you.
The sound will only go away when you stand tall and truly believe in yourself."​

 

[seohdwm46]

Hi seo.... I'm so glad to see that your thread has taken off.
I don't really have anything to offer at the moment, as the past few days have been rather rough, but there is one thing that comes to mind...

"Don't walk away from your problems, for you will always hear their footsteps following right behind you.
The sound will only go away when you stand tall and truly believe in yourself."​

appreciate the contribution babydoll2u.... and excellent point

 

[Missingmeds]

Here is another thing that might help someone else of younger years.

Don't believe all that you are told. Especially about people. Get to know the person and form your own opinions.

 

[sassykat]

points from an oldster...

~everyday with a loved one should be as wonderful as the day before...

~be sure of the love that you feel for another.

~understand that each has a past, but that past is what has prepared you for your present and your future.

~want to be the person's world, but understand that you are only a piece of what makes up that person's world and be proud to be a part of it.

~understand that interupting is not always good, but at least it means the other person is listening and wanting to be a part of the conversation with you.

~share every part of your life with the one you say you love...that way everyone is on the same page.

~be a best friend as well as a lover.

~understand that each of you have flaws...and that that is an acceptable thing.

~enjoy any time tht you have with the other person...you never know when it will come to an end.

And that is all from this oldster for now.

 

[seohdwm46]

Both make good points

 

[SlyKitten]

Say it now; you may never have the chance to say it again.

 

[seohdwm46]

Don't be embarassed to show affection to your parents in public.

 

[Cathleen]

Here is a dumb one but might save you a few bucks on occasion.

ALWAYS check the expiration date on milk before leaving the store. Also helps with over-the-counter meds too.

 

[Cathleen]

Sometimes people do change and should be given a second chance.

Not everyone comes from the same mold and you should try to be accepting of those that are different from you, even if you dont think they are worthy of that.

I agree and add that some people need a third and forth chance - and they're worth it.

 

[SweetErika]

Here is a dumb one but might save you a few bucks on occasion.

ALWAYS check the expiration date on milk before leaving the store. Also helps with over-the-counter meds too.

I don't think that's dumb at all, Cate! A money tip from my mom that's also kept me out of trouble:

Credit cards are a convenience, but should be treated exactly like cash...if you're not absolutely certain you have the money to pay at the time of purchase and when the bill comes, don't use them at all.

 

[seohdwm46]

Wise advice from 2 obviously bright ladies. Thank you so much.

 

[seohdwm46]

Two weeks ago, a friend of mine went into the hospital. He had a bad heart at the age of 36, and he was not doing well. I told another friend that I really wanted to go see visit with him. It wasn't that I was too busy, just too lazy actually. I figured I would go see him maybe on the weekend. He passed away last Monday and was creamated on Tues. I never got to see him. If someone you know is ill, or lonely, oron your mind, go see them. It may be the last chance you have. We always assume there will be tomorrow. What else would you be doing, sitting around watching tv? Make the time, and go. Sure as hell beats what I am feeling now.

 

[seohdwm46]

Words, once spoken, become part of history. They cannot be undone. Do not say things in haste or anger you would do anything to be able to take back later.

We have commited the Golden Rule to memory, now let us commit it to our lives. ___ Steven Covey