From maturity to youth

[Mikro]

Still learning

I'm only 21...reminding people to watch a fire they started is about the only wisdom I've accumulated so far.

At 21 if that's all you've learnt then you better speed up a little. lol

At 21 you still have a lifetime of learning to do.

I am 55 and i have lived more and learnt more in the last 15 year's than in the previous 40.

 

[Mikro]

Sweet,
It is more than feeling sad. I am saddened at the loss of my friend. I feel tremendous guilt for not going to see him in the hospital. Part of me thought he had been in there numerous times and would be home again soon, part of me thought I was just too tired after work to take the time to go. He knew I cared about him, so it's not like there were things left unsaid. Just made me reflect on how we all say we are too busy to do something, yet really, we are not THAT busy. Time can be made to do the important things.

8 years ago my only brother and i had a major bust up. We wnet from living in each other's pockets to never seeing each other.

After 6 years i decided it was time to bridge the gap and make thing's better between us.

Like you i was always too busy, or too tired. 2 years ago he died suddenly. We never made up

It was difficult to live with in the beginning but deep in my heart i knew that he and i would have made up and forgiven each other. We had always been that close.

Like you i was and am still saddened at the loss. But it was yet another lesson learnt

Never go to sleep on a row or argument, you may never be able to say 'Sorry'

 

[Nikasha]

This is a favorite of my SO:

If you keep her happy, she'll keep you happy.

He does, and so do I.

 

[Cathleen]

8 years ago my only brother and i had a major bust up. We wnet from living in each other's pockets to never seeing each other.

After 6 years i decided it was time to bridge the gap and make thing's better between us.

Like you i was always too busy, or too tired. 2 years ago he died suddenly. We never made up

It was difficult to live with in the beginning but deep in my heart i knew that he and i would have made up and forgiven each other. We had always been that close.

Like you i was and am still saddened at the loss. But it was yet another lesson learnt

Never go to sleep on a row or argument, you may never be able to say 'Sorry'

 

[Cathleen]

This is something a friend told me. She works for Delta and one day was called from the reservations desk to go to the check in area in the terminal. She is patient to a point ... so after many hours dealing with the flying public one man in particular had pushed every button she had... she sort of on purpose checked his luggage to a city in the opposite direction he was flying.

Moral of the story - don't ever tick off the person holding your luggage!

 

[Ricwilly]

This is something a friend told me. She works for Delta and one day was called from the reservations desk to go to the check in area in the terminal. She is patient to a point ... so after many hours dealing with the flying public one man in particular had pushed every button she had... she sort of on purpose checked his luggage to a city in the opposite direction he was flying.

Moral of the story - don't ever tick off the person holding your luggage!

Or anyone handling your food.

 

[Nikasha]

Absolutely

Or anyone handling your food.

Don't piss off the cook or your server BEFORE you get your food.

 

[Ricwilly]

"What one knows is of little moment; they know enough who know how to learn."

 

[Ricwilly]

"Our minds thus grow in spots; and like grease spots, the spots spread. But we let them spread as little as possible: we keep unaltered as much of our old knowledge, as many of our old prejudices and beliefs, as we can."
-- James Truslow Adams (1878-1949)

 

[Ricwilly]

"True wisdom is less presuming than folly. The wise man doubteth often, and changeth his mind; the fool is obstinate, and doubteth not; he knoweth all things but his own ignorance."
-- Akhenaton (d. c.1354 BC), Egyptian king

 

[seohdwm46]

8 years ago my only brother and i had a major bust up. We wnet from living in each other's pockets to never seeing each other.

After 6 years i decided it was time to bridge the gap and make thing's better between us.

Like you i was always too busy, or too tired. 2 years ago he died suddenly. We never made up

It was difficult to live with in the beginning but deep in my heart i knew that he and i would have made up and forgiven each other. We had always been that close.

Like you i was and am still saddened at the loss. But it was yet another lesson learnt

Never go to sleep on a row or argument, you may never be able to say 'Sorry'

I am now in a situation where the woman I am in love with has terminal cancer. We don't know how long she has, they said 1 year a year ago. We have learned to live every day to it's fullest, and never let argumnts get out of hand. In fact, in lieu of arguments, we discuss our differences. Nothing heated. Like the song says, "Live like you are dying". Spend the money now, for there is no rainy days ahead wors than thos of today. Enjoy life as you are young enough, and can. Never ever go to bed pissed off. Settl it, give a hug and kiss, and tomorrow is a bright new day.
Sorry you never got a chance to patch things up with your brother.

 

[seohdwm46]

Glad to see this post is still active. I have not had time lately to keep up with it. You all are doing a fine job. Keep it up. I will check in from time to time as she is resting, just to keep in touch. Good wishes to all.

 

[sassykat]

I am now in a situation where the woman I am in love with has terminal cancer. We don't know how long she has, they said 1 year a year ago. We have learned to live every day to it's fullest, and never let argumnts get out of hand. In fact, in lieu of arguments, we discuss our differences. Nothing heated. Like the song says, "Live like you are dying". Spend the money now, for there is no rainy days ahead wors than thos of today. Enjoy life as you are young enough, and can. Never ever go to bed pissed off. Settl it, give a hug and kiss, and tomorrow is a bright new day.
Sorry you never got a chance to patch things up with your brother.

This is good advice to take even with someone who you don't know is dying...after all, life is short and noone ever knows how long someone might be in their life.

 

[sassykat]

I think another very important part of a good relationship is never being deceitful with the other, no matter what...my sig line says it all!!!

 

[sassykat]

This is a favorite of my SO:

If you keep her happy, she'll keep you happy.

He does, and so do I.

Excellent!!!

 

[seohdwm46]

This is good advice to take even with someone who you don't know is dying...after all, life is short and noone ever knows how long someone might be in their life.

Sometimes we learn these things the hard way.

 

[seohdwm46]

I think another very important part of a good relationship is never being deceitful with the other, no matter what...my sig line says it all!!!

We live and we learn.

 

[blue112]

In my 23 years, if Ive learned one thing its that there are billions of people. All of those people see the world differently and see different reasons,causes,explanations and motivations for every possible action. Since one person is only that, one person, why should that person be positive that the view of the reason or cause of something is the right one?

 

[Cathleen]

When in the presence of children - play!

 

[seohdwm46]

I hope this thread continues to shed insight to others. Best wishes to anyone who wishes to take it over. Do with it what you will. I am signing off. Thanks for all the input and sharing.

 

[NaughtyLil1]

Always be true to yourself, even if it goes against popular opinion.

 

[seohdwm46]

Sometimes being there for someone who is terminal can be a frustrating situation. They go through a wide range of emotions. They tend to take out
their anger, frustrations, and other emotions on the ones closest to them at the time. Be patient. Be tolerant. Be there. As best you can anyway. It will not be easy. Imagine how they must feel.

 

[seohdwm46]

Over the many years of my life I have done some good, and done some bad. I have made as many mistakes as I have good decisions. Throughout it all, I have learned. I believe I have grown. Despite what some may say, or even believe. Be that as it may, I know that towards the end, I gave all that was in me to those I have held dear. I was a good dad, my children say so. I was good to the woman I loved, yet wasn't perfect. I was loyal and loving, I was giving and caring. My feelings were genuine, both the good ones and the bad ones. I fell short of many a goal I had set, but that's ok. One must have goals in order to grow. I learned you can't have all you desire in life. You can't make someone love you who doesn't already. That if you do your best, you can still feel good about the effort no matter the end results. How would I like to be remembered? The way most of us would, I would hope. That I was a caring person. That I gave of myself to others. That I gave of my time, my heart, my abilities, and my possessions. That I was not perfect, but I strived to be good. I made an effort every day to be a better man. That my heart and intentions were pure in the end. That I took all that I had learned in life, and used that to become the man I ended up being. How well a person did in life, may best be determined in this world, by how they are remembered. Live your life so that you may be remembered fondly by those with whom you came into contact along the way.

 

[seohdwm46]

This is VERY important

If you are going to run around the house in the nude, DO NOT throw french fries into a deep fryer !!!!

 

[gravyboat]

My favorite Hermann Hesse quote: "If you hate a person, you hate something in him that is part of yourself. What isn't part of ourselves doesn't disturb us."

If you hate or are angry/upset with someone, take a moment to consider why. It very well may be that you hate something about them that is also part of you.