get some conversation going on the HT.

[Guest]

 

[bisexplicit]

yup, listen to him bi. people do care.

I know they care.

But, I don't like people to be too overly concerned.

 

[Guest]

 

[silverwhisper]

bi quoth
i don't like people to be too overly concerned.

yep, but your dogged insistence in talking to nobody is creating precisely the circumstance you're seeking to avoid, ya big doofus!

ed

 

[TBKahuna123]

Yeah, it just figures when we're in the middle of having a fight about how my boyfriend doesn't care about listening to me and how my day is going and all that sortof thing -- that then my ex would message me, and be all super good listenerish.

I just need to remember that I broke up with him 'cause he was a stupid horny teenage boy who didn't respect my wishes.

Ugh, guys suck, actually.

If it makes you feel any better we start to listen better as we get older. Personally I think younger guys would be well advised to learn the first tenet of marriage: Listen and be attentive to what she's saying. Even if you really don't care, it's still easier than fighting about it.

Now before you flame me, let me explain how I arrived at this. Usually I do really care about what my wife has to say, but there are times when its the same complaints I've heard 1000 times and she just needs to vent. If I stop what I'm doing and listen attentively she gets it our and is done in 5 minutes. If I don't listen she stews about it and we wind up fighting for 45 minutes. So you do the math: You can spend 5 minutes and wind up making your partner happy, or spend 45 minutes later after you've pissed her off.

Oh and one last thing, as we get older we start to realize how important those little things such as how was your day really mean, not just to you, but to us too. It's all aobut becomein sensitive to our lover's feelings and their need for us. Personally I love that feeling, but I didn't get there over night. Give him time, he'll learn, but that doesn't mean letting him off the hook when he acts like a dick.

Oh and to Bi's boyfriend, if you are reading this, stop acting like an ass and tell her your sorry! And buy her some flowers while you're at it.

 

[bisexplicit]

ed: I know, I know. I just want to be able to stop thinking about things, and just fix everything.

TBK: Thanks - the thing is, hes already thirty five, when exactly is he gonna learn all this? Ugh. Sometimes I want to tell him that - you're older than me, you're supposed to better at this shit than I am.

 

[TBKahuna123]

ed: I know, I know. I just want to be able to stop thinking about things, and just fix everything.

Now that's the smartest thing I've heard on this board in a very long time.

TBK: Thanks - the thing is, hes already thirty five, when exactly is he gonna learn all this? Ugh. Sometimes I want to tell him that - you're older than me, you're supposed to better at this shit than I am.

Um... Yeah, good question. Maybe you make him feel like a kid again?

 

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[Eilan]

My response: Whatever you want is OK with me.

Because of my ex, I would have been a little uspet with this as well, but for different reasons.

Apparently he used to agree to a lot of the things that I wanted (like where to eat, etc) because he thought I'd get upset if he didn't. Then, when he told me that he was moving out, all the things that he'd done and later resented came to light. YEARS worth of insignificant crap was thrown in my face.

 

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[silverwhisper]

so what's going on, bi?

ed

 

[bisexplicit]

so what's going on, bi?

ed

Well, I did call my best friend last night - and talked to her just a little bit about stuff.

As for what else is going on - no classes today, but I desperately need to work on statistics homework I've been avoiding.

 

[silverwhisper]

so of course, here you are, procrastinating some more... :>

it's too early in the day to do coursework.

[nods sagely]



ed

 

[bisexplicit]

Of course it is too early to do any work.

I can only do work mid-afternoon, thats the only reasonable time to do anything.

 

[silverwhisper]

but of course!

ed

 

[bisexplicit]

Lit is rather boring at the moment, though, because I kindof feel like being a bitch right now, and theres no one to really be bitchy at. I hate that.

 

[silverwhisper]

you haven't been over to the GB?! what's up w/ that?!

ed

 

[bisexplicit]

No, I have. They're just all so dull at the moment. Nothing I can really be bitchy enough about.

I need a newbie with bad grammar and spelling to come along.

 

[silverwhisper]

what about the playground?

ed

 

[bisexplicit]

I don't go there. *shudders*

Its happy fluffy little games are disturbing.

 

[silverwhisper]

[shrugs]

you could go re-read some of the stuff i've sent you and send back mean, hurtful feedback. :>

ed

 

[bisexplicit]

You completely misused a comma in that sentence! Its horrific! I have never seen such poor comma usage in my life!

 

[midwestyankee]

You completely misused a comma in that sentence! Its horrific! I have never seen such poor comma usage in my life!

It's a good thing you're not concerned about the proper usage of the apostrophe.

 

[bisexplicit]

It's a good thing you're not concerned about the proper usage of the apostrophe.

Shush.

We don't point out my mistakes. We only point out other people's mistakes.