get some conversation going on the HT.

[midwestyankee]

My friend has a tattoo of a hundred dollar bill on his cock...says it is because women like to blow money!

A woman I worked with told of a friend of hers who had the following tattooed at the top of her bikini line: "No meat on Fridays."

 

[EJFan]

My friend has a tattoo of a hundred dollar bill on his cock...says it is because women like to blow money!

lol...

i knew a guy who sold novelty condoms in his record store... he had a camo-colored condom with the phrase, "never let 'em see ya cummin'" on the package.

 

[pleasteasme]

A woman I worked with told of a friend of hers who had the following tattooed at the top of her bikini line: "No meat on Fridays."

D'oh!!!!


A rather, ummmm, colorful girl that went to the same college as I did...always said she was going to have the budweiser bullrider tattoed on her inner thigh with the saying "Shut up and ride" written above it...

Tough rodeo chick!!!

 

[bobsgirl]

Because of a few things that have happened in my life recently, I've really begun to wonder about the value of the Internet. On line you can find so much good information as well as friendship and support. But more and more, I see, first-hand that there is an ugly underbelly to the Internet, and it's becoming more pervasive and invasive.

I am just so disillusioned of late by some of this ugliness hitting close to home. Some days like today, I am ready to pack my bags and head for a remote location with no computers.

 

[midwestyankee]

Because of a few things that have happened in my life recently, I've really begun to wonder about the value of the Internet. On line you can find so much good information as well as friendship and support. But more and more, I see, first-hand that there is an ugly underbelly to the Internet, and it's becoming more pervasive and invasive.

I am just so disillusioned of late by some of this ugliness hitting close to home. Some days like today, I am ready to pack my bags and head for a remote location with no computers.

Ya know, BG, you're right. Wherever you look in our society, there is an ugly underbelly. The Internet is no exception; in fact, it seems to bring out the worst in some people because it's so easy to hide behind a screen name and a false persona. like to joke that I'm not really....but I play one in Lit. Truth is, you don't really last around here unless you are yourself. I can't be sure that this is the corner of the underbelly that is getting to you or not, but I hope that you'll see how much the balance is tipped in favor of the good and the giving = at least here in HT.

for ya, young lady. May you have a peaceful and giving weekend.

 

[bobsgirl]

Ya know, BG, you're right. Wherever you look in our society, there is an ugly underbelly. The Internet is no exception; in fact, it seems to bring out the worst in some people because it's so easy to hide behind a screen name and a false persona. like to joke that I'm not really....but I play one in Lit. Truth is, you don't really last around here unless you are yourself. I can't be sure that this is the corner of the underbelly that is getting to you or not, but I hope that you'll see how much the balance is tipped in favor of the good and the giving = at least here in HT.

for ya, young lady. May you have a peaceful and giving weekend.

No, it's not Lit. Lit is the one constant bright side. You guys always make me smile.

 

[midwestyankee]

No, it's not Lit. Lit is the one constant bright side. You guys always make me smile.

Just a quick bump to make sure that we still make you smile, bg.

I'm not getting old, btw, bg; I'm coming into my best corkage years.

 

[bobsgirl]

Just a quick bump to make sure that we still make you smile, bg.

I'm not getting old, btw, bg; I'm coming into my best corkage years.

That's nice, Yank.

I didn't think I was old either, until just now when I saw a commercial for 20/20. They're doing a story on Shakira. Who is Shakira?

 

[midwestyankee]

That's nice, Yank.

I didn't think I was old either, until just now when I saw a commercial for 20/20. They're doing a story on Shakira. Who is Shakira?

Not entirely sure. Could be a very tall basketball player or a character from The Jungle Book.

 

[bobsgirl]

Not entirely sure. Could be a very tall basketball player or a character from The Jungle Book.

all I know is she's a girl and she wears very revealing clothing in her videos.

 

[wicked woman]

all I know is she's a girl and she wears very revealing clothing in her videos.

She's a Spanish singer...very popular....not only dresses provacatively..but shakes her bootie as well....boy you guys are ol' geezers not to know that! *runs to hide*


bg you might prefer Marc Anthony or Enrique Iglesias....both are also Spanish singers.

 

[Guest]

 

[wicked woman]

she knows just how to shake it too!

A true connoisseur of her talent, I can tell.

 

[Guest]

 

[wicked woman]

I do my best to keep up with the times.

Surprised the hell out of the young 'uns at work the other day when they were talking about the concert they were going to that night....they couldn't believe I not only knew who Common was, but had a CD.

 

[bobsgirl]

She's a Spanish singer...very popular....not only dresses provacatively..but shakes her bootie as well....boy you guys are ol' geezers not to know that! *runs to hide*


bg you might prefer Marc Anthony or Enrique Iglesias....both are also Spanish singers.

I'll take the Fifth on that, ww! I can only say in my defense that neither of my kids live with me any more so MTV is never on.

I do however have a Marc Anthony cd that I really like.

 

[wicked woman]

I'll take the Fifth on that, ww! I can only say in my defense that neither of my kids live with me any more so MTV is never on.

I do however have a Marc Anthony cd that I really like.

I don't watch or even get MTV. I just have friends with varied musical tastes and mine is eclectic so I like to try new stuff.


Was listening to Marc this afternoon at work. When I saw him in concert I was kicking myself for not getting better seats. Didn't know his music until my concert-going buddy suggested seeing him. Didn't want to pay for really expensive seats for someone I didn't know. Then I listened to her CD. Was a great concert. I'm in a multicultural city so he sang a number os songs in Spanish and had the crowd going wild.

 

[pleasteasme]

Here is something for y'all to gnaw on:

Relationships. Yeah, they puzzle me to no end!

I was speaking with my hairstylist - whom is really more of a friend (and no she is not a gossipy type). She has been married for just 6 months and already the bloom is off the rose, so to speak.

She opened up to me and told me what was going on: HE has pulled a 180 on her about several things. One of them being having children. She very badly wants to have one, like now and he is holding some other things over her head and changing his mind (in comparision to pre-marriage) about wanting to have a child.

I don't get it. Why act like such a child and use issues that are unrelated to having a child in an argument? If he truly is upset about those other things going on, fine...be upset about that but...why act like this? If he has changed his mind about having a child, why can't he just say so?

From my own experience in argumenting, you loose credibility when you drag other issues (and or namecalling) into a disagreement.

Anyway, she even said this could be a deal-breaker for her. She has always been open and honest with him about wanting to get married and starting a family. He was in accord with her until just recently.

What gives?

Oh, and I used the "communication, communication, communication" advice with her. She is going to attempt a sit down talk and hopes he will be reasonable when they discuss the issues at hand.

I just don't get it. Quite frankly, with all the problems I hear about relationships/marriage I am thanking my stars that I am single!!!


Btw, she does an awesome job with my hair and I always look forward to visiting with her!!! It is like therapy for my hair and my brain!

 

[Eilan]

She opened up to me and told me what was going on: HE has pulled a 180 on her about several things. One of them being having children. She very badly wants to have one, like now and he is holding some other things over her head and changing his mind (in comparision to pre-marriage) about wanting to have a child.

I don't get it. Why act like such a child and use issues that are unrelated to having a child in an argument? If he truly is upset about those other things going on, fine...be upset about that but...why act like this? If he has changed his mind about having a child, why can't he just say so?

I don't get this, either. The night that my ex told me that he was moving out, he brought up YEARS of things that I'd done that he'd disagreed with, hated, or resented--things that I'd either forgotten about or considered pretty insignificant. While I knew we had our share of issues, particularly toward the last couple of months that we lived together, I had no idea that I was such a detestable person.

Do you think it's possible that he's scared of the responsibilities, expense, etc. of parenthood and he's bringing up these other issues because he doesn't want to admit this her? I can see where it's easy to agree to have a child before marriage and then have second thoughts when the reality of marriage sets in (if that makes sense). Just a thought.

If I were your friend, I certainly wouldn't even think about having a child until I got to the bottom of this. Of course, she's gonna need his cooperation no matter what.

 

[LadyJeanne]

It's passive-aggressive behavior - he's avoiding the kids conversation because the other stuff is easier for him to talk about. The stuff he's holding over her head is about her - what's she's done wrong or said or whatever. The kids conversation is about HIM and his issues, fears, neuroses, etc.

My ex used to pull that all the time. Instead of talking to me about our relationship problems, he would do things like promising to fix the dryer but would never fix it. When I'd ask him about it, he'd say he just forgot but would get to it soon, and not to call someone to fix it. And then he'd never fix it...and it would just irritate the hell out of me. He probably wasn't even aware that he was being passive-aggressive - it's ingrained behavior.

 

[LadyJeanne]

Actually, now that I'm thinking about it, my SO and I have some communication challenges to deal with. Sometimes I think we've got it down, and then other times, it gets hard again.

His thing is that he really really wants to avoid conflict with me.
My thing is that I really really want to avoid making things uncomfortable between us.
Neither of us wants to bring things up that we think might hurt the other one's feelings.

You see how this might mean we don't talk about things that might actually be important?

We're getting better about this. Approaching an issue with humor so we don't upset each other's delicate sensibilities seems to work best, but that's not always easy.

I've been trying to remember to do what someone here recommended - I think it was Sweet Erika. She said to touch and hold each other when having the tough conversations, so as to reassure each other that you're still playing on the same team even though you need to talk about the plays. Touching really seems to make a difference.

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[pleasteasme]

She has put the idea of having a child on hold for right now. She is hoping this can all be cleared up in one manner or another.

You are right about this being his issue...but in reality it becomes both of their issue. She is even baffled about the whole thing. It was such a sharp u-turn that he made, her head was spinning.

I hope it all works out for her, she is a wonderful person and deserves to be happy (as does everyone in life).

I'll find out in another 6 weeks what the prognosis is.

 

[silverwhisper]

so has anybody seen bi recently?

ed

 

[EJFan]

so has anybody seen bi recently?

ed

i actually never SAW her at all.

but, no, i haven't heard from her or seen any postings by her in ages.

 

[Eilan]

so has anybody seen bi recently?

ed

No, but someone was using her ass av last weekend.