Getting over him.........

[Lust Engine]

I hurt alright, and I appreciate the hug, thanks!

I know.

I just wanted to give you a slight boost in the Confidence Department too knowing in my heart of hearts you'll come out of this pain eventually and be better for it in the long run. You're one tough broad (& I mean than in the nicest of ways too!) and I have faith in you.

 

[psyche]

I know.

I just wanted to give you a slight boost in the Confidence Department too knowing in my heart of hearts you'll come out of this pain eventually and be better for it in the long run. You're one tough broad (& I mean than in the nicest of ways too!) and I have faith in you.

Thanks baby............<smiling>...........

 

[Cathleen]

psyche, I am sorry for your loss. I don't even want to attempt the "magic pill" answer, it doesn't exist. When I have been in that place, I tried to make it go away by not feeling, or by stuffing the feelings. Obviously that doesn't help but the heart will try anything to excape pain.

I wish you the best as you feel this, process it all and with time find the place where it can be inside and no longer hurt so badly. If I think about certain people I will still feel the pain, but I know now how and where to put it, time does help but there is no way around feelings, only through them.


Cate

 

[ChromeCollar]

Thanks Chrome. I can't imagine your struggle, if he was still around I wouldn't be able to stay away. I was hesitant to broadcast my loss here, and at first I was just going to try to act like nothing has happened and go on. I figured that some people would notice that something has changed, but that most would really never know. The support that I have here on lit and in real life means so much to me and will help me get through this. I'm glad I started this thread......It's like a purging process for me to share the pain of this relationship ending. Even though we feel like we are alone sometimes.......we never really are........

To be honest, at the risk of sounding horribly selfish, I am glad I saw this thread. It is SO nice to know that I am not the only person enduring these same exact feelings at this point in time. I feel better about our relationship having ended for the very first time. Not sure what made the difference, but sometimes it is that feeling of being utterly alone in something that makes it unbearable.

Thank you, for posting your feelings, and know you helped make someone feel better about themselves through your sharing.

 

[psyche]

psyche, I am sorry for your loss. I don't even want to attempt the "magic pill" answer, it doesn't exist. When I have been in that place, I tried to make it go away by not feeling, or by stuffing the feelings. Obviously that doesn't help but the heart will try anything to excape pain.

I wish you the best as you feel this, process it all and with time find the place where it can be inside and no longer hurt so badly. If I think about certain people I will still feel the pain, but I know now how and where to put it, time does help but there is no way around feelings, only through them.


Cate

Thanks Cate, and you're right. There isn't any easy answer. Some days I think I'm over him and I feel pretty good, and then I can spend the next day ready to cry at a moments notice. The ebb and flow of strength and weakness I guess.......

I know I will never forget him.......

 

[psyche]

To be honest, at the risk of sounding horribly selfish, I am glad I saw this thread. It is SO nice to know that I am not the only person enduring these same exact feelings at this point in time. I feel better about our relationship having ended for the very first time. Not sure what made the difference, but sometimes it is that feeling of being utterly alone in something that makes it unbearable.

Thank you, for posting your feelings, and know you helped make someone feel better about themselves through your sharing.

That's what's so wonderful about not keeping everything inside and pretending that you are ok. People come together to share their difficult times and it makes our own pain easier to bear. When I was going through my divorce I couldn't believe how people shared their own stories and helped me think about different aspects that I may never have thought of at the time. You aren't selfish and the proof is that you were here to listen to me and share your own pain, making me feel like someone cares. Thanks.......

 

[Jatek]

Dear Psyche,

I know you don't know me very well; I'm new here, and have only really posted in one thread... through that thread, I saw your pain, and knowing you may have posted about it, sought this thread out.

I know you know by now it isn't easy, and won't soon heal... unrequited love is a rose with more thorns than petals; the pain begins long before the breakup. And now that you're finally apart, two years full of that pain all comes crashing down at once. And it HURTS.

I remember reading through several pages of your posts and thinking about how wholly devoted you were to him. It's sad that it had to end, but it needed to be done. The longer you would have waited, the more it would have hurt.

You hardly know me, but my thoughts are with you. There's nothing more that I can say to ease your pain. This is something you need to do yourself, though you are not alone, as your fellow lit-goers have shown you so far.

I hope that someday you'll find the person that will love you as much as you love them; you deserve someone like that.

Regards,
Jatek

 

[psyche]

Dear Psyche,

I know you don't know me very well; I'm new here, and have only really posted in one thread... through that thread, I saw your pain, and knowing you may have posted about it, sought this thread out.

I know you know by now it isn't easy, and won't soon heal... unrequited love is a rose with more thorns than petals; the pain begins long before the breakup. And now that you're finally apart, two years full of that pain all comes crashing down at once. And it HURTS.

I remember reading through several pages of your posts and thinking about how wholly devoted you were to him. It's sad that it had to end, but it needed to be done. The longer you would have waited, the more it would have hurt.

You hardly know me, but my thoughts are with you. There's nothing more that I can say to ease your pain. This is something you need to do yourself, though you are not alone, as your fellow lit-goers have shown you so far.

I hope that someday you'll find the person that will love you as much as you love them; you deserve someone like that.

Regards,
Jatek

What a wonderful post.........Thanks. Welcome to lit and I hope to get to know you better.

 

[ChromeCollar]

Pysche,


I have been reading this book for a little while, and I dont buy into the self help book phase, but when I was at the bookstore the other day, I was halfway through his first one before I realized it. So I bought all the books in his series. I wanted to share this little tidbit with you.


"If others say one thing, but do another, you are lying to yourself about their actions. If you are truthful with yourself, you will save yourself alot of emotional pain. Telling yourself the truth about it may hurt, but you dont need to be attached to the pain. Healing is on the way, and it is just a matter of time before things get better for you.

If someone is not treating you with love and respect, 'it is a gift if they walk away from you.' If that person doesnt walk away, you will surely endure much suffering with him or her. Walking away may hurt for a while, but your heart will eventually heal. Then you can choose what you really want. You'll find that you dont need to trust others as much as you need to trust yourself to make the right choices."


The book is called The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. He has a fantastic way of thinking about the human mind, and the agonies we put ourselves through. Hope your day is going well. Just wanted to share that with you.

 

[psyche]

Pysche,


I have been reading this book for a little while, and I dont buy into the self help book phase, but when I was at the bookstore the other day, I was halfway through his first one before I realized it. So I bought all the books in his series. I wanted to share this little tidbit with you.


"If others say one thing, but do another, you are lying to yourself about their actions. If you are truthful with yourself, you will save yourself alot of emotional pain. Telling yourself the truth about it may hurt, but you dont need to be attached to the pain. Healing is on the way, and it is just a matter of time before things get better for you.

If someone is not treating you with love and respect, 'it is a gift if they walk away from you.' If that person doesnt walk away, you will surely endure much suffering with him or her. Walking away may hurt for a while, but your heart will eventually heal. Then you can choose what you really want. You'll find that you dont need to trust others as much as you need to trust yourself to make the right choices."


The book is called The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. He has a fantastic way of thinking about the human mind, and the agonies we put ourselves through. Hope your day is going well. Just wanted to share that with you.

What a nice thought and it makes me feel lucky that he is staying away. I don't know how strong I would be if he came around! Thanks.........

 

[Roy Kay]

Hi psyche.

I haven't been on Lit much in a long while, but I remember you from when I first came on and you were getting flak about your relationship. I've always thought highly of you and wondered how you had been doing. I just got a heads up on your situation from a more regular poster.

All I can say is that you are a great woman and very deserving of better. If I were in northwest Ohio instead of northeast Ohio, I would be earnestly angling for an F2F - even if it was only for lunch. I hope you recover in reasonable time. I am sure that you will find yourself with a partner(s) that truly value you. It will take a year or to, but my observation in that ya can't keep a good gal down.

>I couldn't keep my emotions in check.

Sometimes it's better to take the bad with the good. Your emotions overreached, but they were still gracious and pleasurable emotions. Now, there is a due bill, but my guess is that the net has been positive. Accept that. In truth all love will come with hurt. Mortal will pass and some hurt always goes with caring about people. Still, it's better to engage and enjoy.

I hope you see peace and love soon.

 

[psyche]

Thanks Roy, I remember you, it's been a while! In some ways I'm glad to find that I can still fall in love, even though it hurts a lot more than just keeping your emotions in check. I appreciate your message and feel honored that you came back to check on me........

Hi psyche.

I haven't been on Lit much in a long while, but I remember you from when I first came on and you were getting flak about your relationship. I've always thought highly of you and wondered how you had been doing. I just got a heads up on your situation from a more regular poster.

All I can say is that you are a great woman and very deserving of better. If I were in northwest Ohio instead of northeast Ohio, I would be earnestly angling for an F2F - even if it was only for lunch. I hope you recover in reasonable time. I am sure that you will find yourself with a partner(s) that truly value you. It will take a year or to, but my observation in that ya can't keep a good gal down.

>I couldn't keep my emotions in check.

Sometimes it's better to take the bad with the good. Your emotions overreached, but they were still gracious and pleasurable emotions. Now, there is a due bill, but my guess is that the net has been positive. Accept that. In truth all love will come with hurt. Mortal will pass and some hurt always goes with caring about people. Still, it's better to engage and enjoy.

I hope you see peace and love soon.

 

[shyly curious]

Hi,

I don't know you other then this thread, but what comes across is a very grounded woman who has learned more about herself then she gives herself credit for.

You have already started the healing process, and part of that is grieving for lost opportunities with him.

You seem like a pretty cool person who has her head on tight and would be a wonderful partner to someone who saw your wholeness.

I wish you well, and offer these lyrics from Harry Chapin.


All my life's a circle;
Sunrise and sundown;
Moon rolls thru the nighttime;
Till the daybreak comes around.

All my life's a circle;
But I can't tell you why;
Season's spinning round again;
The years keep rollin' by.

It seems like I've been here before;
I can't remember when;
But I have this funny feeling;
That we'll all be together again.

No straight lines make up my life;
And all my roads have bends;
There's no clear-cut beginnings;
And so far no dead-ends.

Chorus:
I found you a thousand times;
I guess you done the same;
But then we lose each other;
It's like a children's game;

As I find you here again;
A thought runs through my mind;
Our love is like a circle;
Let's go 'round one more time.

Chorus

 

[psyche]

Hi,

I don't know you other then this thread, but what comes across is a very grounded woman who has learned more about herself then she gives herself credit for.

You have already started the healing process, and part of that is grieving for lost opportunities with him.

You seem like a pretty cool person who has her head on tight and would be a wonderful partner to someone who saw your wholeness.

I wish you well, and offer these lyrics from Harry Chapin.


All my life's a circle;
Sunrise and sundown;
Moon rolls thru the nighttime;
Till the daybreak comes around.

All my life's a circle;
But I can't tell you why;
Season's spinning round again;
The years keep rollin' by.

It seems like I've been here before;
I can't remember when;
But I have this funny feeling;
That we'll all be together again.

No straight lines make up my life;
And all my roads have bends;
There's no clear-cut beginnings;
And so far no dead-ends.

Chorus:
I found you a thousand times;
I guess you done the same;
But then we lose each other;
It's like a children's game;

As I find you here again;
A thought runs through my mind;
Our love is like a circle;
Let's go 'round one more time.

Chorus

Thanks so much for stopping in and posting. The song made me cry..........

 

[shyly curious]

Thanks so much for stopping in and posting. The song made me cry..........

This is the important part of the song,

No straight lines make up my life;
And all my roads have bends;
There's no clear-cut beginnings;
And so far no dead-ends.


Follow your heart, trust your instincts, respect your needs. You have a responsibility to be good to yourself.

Good luck,

 

[psyche]

This is the important part of the song,

No straight lines make up my life;
And all my roads have bends;
There's no clear-cut beginnings;
And so far no dead-ends.


Follow your heart, trust your instincts, respect your needs. You have a responsibility to be good to yourself.

Good luck,

Thanks, shyly curious..........

 

[psyche]

miss me?

Don’t you miss me baby?

Tell me who you think about when you pull that big, hard cock out of your jeans…….do you think of me, on my knees in front of you, begging to have you………my tongue just touching you, my hot mouth sliding over the length of your cock, while my hand squeezes the base of your cock. My lips sliding over the length of you, my teeth gently playing with the head……..Do you dream of your balls wet with my saliva, after I’ve taken them into my mouth……..What do you think about when your big, strong hand strokes your beautiful cock? Is it me? Is it me licking you? Is it me so fucking hot for you that I am barely able to stand? When your hand is stroking your cock, do you picture me under you, my hot pussy so wet for you that it drips…….so hot for you that when you finally push inside me, I cum soaking your cock with my juices, cummimg over and over again for you. When you cum, what do you see, what do you feel? Me cumming with you, our hot juices mixing, my mouth on your cock sucking you, moaning for you to cum and ready to swallow all you have to give. What do you think about baby? You under me, my pussy held above your cock, teasing you……but you know better. You know that I want you baby……I want you deep inside of me. Me on top of you, sliding my wet pussy over your cock, taking you inside…..cumming so hard that my juices flow over your cock, over your balls, your ass in a puddle of my hot cum. I miss you baby……..

 

[SeXXXy19]

Hey Psyche

I'm usually one who doesnt post much on here but after reading your thread showing how much hurt and pain you're experiencing, I had to post (like the others) and let you know you're not alone!

I split with my long term boyfriend three months ago now and it's been the most heartbreaking time I've ever experienced! I've cried myself to sleep on many occassions, ranted at my friends (who have all been wonderful), kicked and screamed with the girls who I work alongside and generally tried to let it all out of my system.

Still, I miss him. And it's the most horrible feeling in the world. I want to hate him, but cannot bring myself to do so. The terms we parted on were obviously sour ones, but nothing that makes me want to really hate him. It would make my healing process much easier if I could scream out to the world that I hated him and never wanted to see him again, but it would be all lies.

I know our situations are different but I just wanted to let you know that you're not alone and that I'm sure you have many wonderful friends and family who you can turn to for support...I know I couldn't have made it through the last few months without mine!

Thought are with you and I do hope we both can get over this horrible situation in time and that we move on to more bigger and better things. Time's a healer, always remember that.

*Big Hugs* Rach xx

 

[psyche]

Hey Psyche

I'm usually one who doesnt post much on here but after reading your thread showing how much hurt and pain you're experiencing, I had to post (like the others) and let you know you're not alone!

I split with my long term boyfriend three months ago now and it's been the most heartbreaking time I've ever experienced! I've cried myself to sleep on many occassions, ranted at my friends (who have all been wonderful), kicked and screamed with the girls who I work alongside and generally tried to let it all out of my system.

Still, I miss him. And it's the most horrible feeling in the world. I want to hate him, but cannot bring myself to do so. The terms we parted on were obviously sour ones, but nothing that makes me want to really hate him. It would make my healing process much easier if I could scream out to the world that I hated him and never wanted to see him again, but it would be all lies.

I know our situations are different but I just wanted to let you know that you're not alone and that I'm sure you have many wonderful friends and family who you can turn to for support...I know I couldn't have made it through the last few months without mine!

Thought are with you and I do hope we both can get over this horrible situation in time and that we move on to more bigger and better things. Time's a healer, always remember that.

*Big Hugs* Rach xx

Thanks so much for your post. I'm sitting in front of my computer, drinking and crying, missing him so much. Our situations don't seem that much different to me! Good luck and I hope that you get over him.......

 

[SeXXXy19]

I hope we both get over them.

I cried earlier tonight and it's been nearly 3 months without him. I just wish I could tell him how I still feel (he probably already knows!) but I can't as he doesn't feel the same way anymore.

We'll keep our chins up high and keep fighting...you never know when someone new and wonderful will appear in your life!

Take Care!

Rach xx

 

[psyche]

I hope we both get over them.

I cried earlier tonight and it's been nearly 3 months without him. I just wish I could tell him how I still feel (he probably already knows!) but I can't as he doesn't feel the same way anymore.

We'll keep our chins up high and keep fighting...you never know when someone new and wonderful will appear in your life!

Take Care!

Rach xx

OH FUCK! I can't be like this n 3 months! LOL! I am a fucking zombie! Good luck to you Rach!

 

[Noor]

How are you doing?

bump!

 

[Lust Engine]

How are you doing?

bump!

GREAT question! Gratuitous hug being sent psyche's way.

 

[psyche]

How are you doing?

bump!

Thanks Noor. I'm doing better, but it's still hard that he was able to walk away so easily........... ...........I'll get through this.

 

[psyche]

GREAT question! Gratuitous hug being sent psyche's way.

LOL! Thanks for the hug and the kisses, Lust Engine. I'm really doing better every day........