Several years ago, hubby caught me AFTER I had shunned his morning advances.
He took it very personally. I tried to explain when he woke me up, I wasn't aroused.
And later I was.
He thinks my masturbation is about him.
It's really about me, my mood, my need for release.
He "forbids" me from masturbating.
LOL. Might as well forbid me from breathing.
You are quite right. It is about you and has no reflection on him whatsoever. When I masturbate it's not about my girlfriend but rather my need for release at the time.