I have a lot of anal sex, both giving and receiving, and have been enjoying it for almost 50 years. There are occasionally accidents, but never anything more than a smudge. Knowing your body and maintaining routines makes it easy to avoid them. I eat a high fibre diet, exercise regularly, and stay well-hydrated. I keep a container of wipes in my bedside table along with condoms and several types of lube. I occasionally douche, but usually only if I've had a recent bowel movement or it's part of our foreplay. I will also douche between partners at a sauna or bathhouse.
If you're using a condom, water-based or silicone lube are the best choices. Silicone seems to last longer than water-based, but it doesn't really matter if you're reapplying regularly. Don't use silicon lube directly on your toys. Oil-based lube is best for bareback anal fun. Sometimes we make due with just a bit of spit.
My trans girlfriend and I have anal sex almost daily. We have never had any big messes, and we're comfortable enough with each other that a rare small mess is no big deal. One of my FWB's has a very large cock, and I used to worry sometimes that the suction effect on the backstroke would cause a problem, but it never has. Again, the occasional small mess is no big deal and has never resulted in us stopping what we're doing for longer than it takes to wipe up, reapply lube, and get back to it.
If you're using a condom, water-based or silicone lube are the best choices. Silicone seems to last longer than water-based, but it doesn't really matter if you're reapplying regularly. Don't use silicon lube directly on your toys. Oil-based lube is best for bareback anal fun. Sometimes we make due with just a bit of spit.
My trans girlfriend and I have anal sex almost daily. We have never had any big messes, and we're comfortable enough with each other that a rare small mess is no big deal. One of my FWB's has a very large cock, and I used to worry sometimes that the suction effect on the backstroke would cause a problem, but it never has. Again, the occasional small mess is no big deal and has never resulted in us stopping what we're doing for longer than it takes to wipe up, reapply lube, and get back to it.