How’s your married sex life?

[ctarrantella]

I just saw I posed in late March on this thread.
Both mid 40s
Married 20+
Kids

We average about once a week. However we hit these 10-14 day stretches with nothing. The sex is good when we have it, but would like to have sex at least twice a week regularly. It’s been a strain on the relationship the last decade.

There has been no change. Except for the month of November and most of December we went more than a month between sexual encounters. Then did it 3 times in 5 days. However, we are currently on a 10 day drought.

 

[WhtCuckBlkWife]

My wife only have sex with other men.

 

[Buff_Orpington]

Late 40's, married almost 25yrs and we have reached the "don't come in I'm changing" stage of intimacy. And no, it's not because she is putting on something exciting and wants it to be a suprise.

The hardest part is that over the last 5 years we have had 1 -2 times a year where we have awesome sex. Like soak the bed, wake the neighbors, her doing her best to make round 3 happen kind of sex. Then nothing for 6+ months.

It's too much of a mind fuck and coupled with the constant rejection I'm just done trying.

 

[Buff_Orpington]

We have chickens and Buff Orpington always sounded like a good alias. Now that I've decided to participate in the naughty internet, instead of just observe, it is getting pressed into use.

 

[ffdan]

That’s an oxymoron

 

[Noedel]

So sad to read some of your replies

37F me and 38M husband
Together for 20 years next February
Married for almost 8 years (August)
Have sex at least once every two days but oftentimes daily. Try to invite our regular third (M) at least once a month.

 

[RoanMtn]

So sad to read some of your replies

37F me and 38M husband
Together for 20 years next February
Married for almost 8 years (August)
Have sex at least once every two days but oftentimes daily. Try to invite our regular third (M) at least once a month.

I can't even begin to imagine something like that. It's been over 20 years for me. It's not just the sex either, but the intimacy of it, and cuddling afterwards.

 

[Noedel]

I can't even begin to imagine something like that. It's been over 20 years for me. It's not just the sex either, but the intimacy of it, and cuddling afterwards.

I'm so sorry to hear that I can't even imagine that... I absolutely love the cuddling afterwards. It's a bit harder to divide the attention between two but aftercare is so important

 

[Sgts19]

After 46 years the lust is gone. There no surprises. Been there done that a 100 time, ho hum. Once or twice a week is good for me if she had a vote she'd say more. And I'm certainly no stud. The only times I get really excited is if we play with our friends, can't get enough of her for a week

 

[Trubbycat]

My what...?

 

[zcraft5]

Once a day.

30 and 30

13 years together 10 years married. Got to give my man his love. Keep his balls empty

orals good allothersparts suck for me thus i am inhere to chat and cum

 

[nothingatall27]

I don't remember how long it has been. I'd say at least 8 years. It's not a good feeling. My wife has no interest in anything sexual or even intimate anymore.

 

[PMarky2]

Still inhabiting the SFZ (Sex Free Zone.) After the last go-round I have not even felt like initiating.

 

[Paguy8641]

Male 62 female 63 married since 1983 and together since 1980. Still making love and having sex3 to 4 times a y. More if our
Schedule allows.

 

[Tweedledude]

Sex a number between five and seven

 

[Guillermo54]

I am ashamed to be writing this as self respecting man.
1-2 times a year for the last 6 years. I am 54 we have been married 22 years. Like others it is not just the sex but she shows almost no affection and I am a touch person. I feel so alone.

 

[Winchester3030]

Non existent

 

[Jander1]

I'm 48 and she is almost 50. Just as good, or even better, sizzling in fact.

 

[Trubbycat]

Worse than my single sex life. And that was bad.

 

[sexymilf44]

44 and 46. 0 in the last month

 

[Dubinsky]

Oh, it's shit. Lol.

There are many worthwhile compensations, but "sex" ain't one of them.

 

[Greaseman93]

our sex life leaves much to be desired. She only wants to do it at night, in bed and that only happens maybe once every couple weeks. She cant have an orgasm from vaginal penetration, so the routine is always the same. I try to get her to be a little more spontaneous but she won't give. Kinda frustrating to say the least. no affection, no build up. I rarely see her naked, and she never initiates. We havn't been married that long, less than 10 years. She is 56 I'm 57

 

[BackwoodsMama]

I’m so curious and have so many questions about this. It seems a common theme that men are in sexless marriages and at least here, seem to be open to doing anything to please and pleasure their spouses.

How did things get there?
What is the health of the rest of the relationship?
Are there conversations about this or only fighting?
What is the perspective of the wife?

All things I want to know!

 

[Dubinsky]

I’m so curious and have so many questions about this. It seems a common theme that men are in sexless marriages and at least here, seem to be open to doing anything to please and pleasure their spouses.

How did things get there?
What is the health of the rest of the relationship?
Are there conversations about this or only fighting?
What is the perspective of the wife?

All things I want to know!

Who can say? I’m sure there are as many answers as there are couples.

We had kids. They slurped up a lot of energy from us, and I think it changed the way my wife saw herself? If that makes sense? There was a general lack of interest I picked up on.

Other than that, it’s a very healthy relationship.

 

[BackwoodsMama]

Who can say? I’m sure there are as many answers as there are couples.

We had kids. They slurped up a lot of energy from us, and I think it changed the way my wife saw herself? If that makes sense? There was a general lack of interest I picked up on.

Other than that, it’s a very healthy relationship.

That sounds reasonable. I too have kids and they for sure added to dysfunction between my spouse and I.

I agree that there isn’t a one size fits all answer to my questions. Curious nonetheless.