Yes, but you still see yourself as sexual?
Do you make
It took me a bit to get back to the sexual part, but yes I am now able to hold both the mom role and my sexual role at the same time. I know I was motivated because my partner is highly sexual and the health of our relationship was and is important to me. So ignoring the dysfunction there would be ignoring a big issue in our relationship and I didn’t want sex to be eliminated or have it feel obligatory or like a chore because that was damaging to both of us.
Thanks for sharing your experience. I’m sorry to hear about the struggles you have with both your relationship and sex. I wonder what it might take to get your “C” grade up to a “B”. Not necessarily focused on sex, but all the other things that happen day to day.
I don't know? I do house work and yard work. I'm solicitous and kind. I can't control those times she gets "short" with me, I can only control how I react. So instead of getting defensive, or argumentative, I just let it go. And, before I go to bed each night, I go through all the things I am grateful for, and it helps put things in perspective.
Sounds like you’re at the very least not a burden to her in the way men can sometimes be. I wish I could ask her what would help her feel loved, supported and cherished.
The LAST thing I want to be is a burden. She has a lot of friends, and she's very close with all her siblings. She's extremely intelligent, and engages in a variety of activities. She is very personable. Well, maybe with one exception, lol.
I suppose she can’t check all the boxes, right??
None of us can, BackwoodsMama. All of us are on the same ride and all we can do is the best we can with what we have.
There doesn't have to be any change. In the past few years I've dated women in their 50s, 60s and 70s who were all horny as fuck, all the time.
Hun... I'm not letting it change anything. I love what we have and I love sex. No stupid thing like a bit of hormones will change that... and it went a bit low but it wasn't because I didn't want to or anything.
now I want sex with you and whoever you can or want to drum up 
What a waste of a fine ass!44 and 46. 0 in the last month
That's called self-selection: women in their 50s, 60s, and 70s that are not interested in sex would have zero interest in you as well.
Maybe I can color some of it in for you. I actually had a conversation with my wife about a year ago in which she confessed that, because I make her feel so secure in our relationship, she felt comfortable in withdrawing from sex. She cited trauma from sexual abuse back in her teens (40+ years, and we've been married almost 40 now) that she, in spite of my encouragement, has never gotten professional help for. Rather than try to get the healing and potentially restoring the intimacy in our marriage, she basically felt "safe" in abandoning my needs. In other words, I loved her too much, I guess. I still try to keep working on the relationship and the intimacy with conversations away from the bedroom, but in spite of her superficial talk and empty promises, little has actually changed. Meanwhile, her abandonment has really begun to fester in my mind and heart, and my psychological health has suffered. Depression sucks.
Open up your marriage. Win win.
Well, to be "open" in the full sense of the word, she would have to have interest in having sex with someone, anyone. I'd actually be open to considering it. She's not. And as far as I'm concerned, I've been abandoned, so if opportunity arises, well, we'll see.
Oh so familiar. I have nothing but empathy being in the same sinking boat.
