how and when did you release your inner slut

[SandraMustard]

When: A year ago. I'm no Spring chicken. I was 62.

How: Too long to go into detail here. I once had 30,000 words in a thread about how (since taken down because it is the basis of my next novel).

 

[sandie350]

after watching my mum with some of her friends at parties......i started in my teens giving blow and hand jobs.....went on to become a woman and have fun

 

[suckonsimon]

Sandie, I like your suggested definition of 'becoming a woman'; yeah, men can have fun too with women such as yourself around.

 

[LizVegas79]

College and right after college. Working in the casino industry will do that to you! Fortunately I eventually met my husband and I put all that behind me. Until recently anyway! I kind of want to revisit some of those old good times with him now though. But so far he's been reluctant. Says we have obligations and have to "be careful". Fuck that, right? I didn't join this wine club to drink wine! I joined it to get passed around at classy parties like a fine bordeaux!

 

[JaneNatural]

after watching my mum with some of her friends at parties......i started in my teens giving blow and hand jobs.....went on to become a woman and have fun

sounds pretty typical. Sexy nonetheless

 

[vlad22]

Ummm. Anybody notice the OP has been a member for 7 years and this is his 3rd post? I don't think anything we say will be read anytime soon.

read what you wrote.... Check. In all fairness, that's true I have mostly been a lurker and don't come to this forum daily but I've always found it fun to read and that's why I am coming back. And in all fairness, duration of one's membership really holds no bearing to how soon he would come back to the *first* post that he himself started.

Funny thing is that if I was to join last week, you probably would've said, "Did you guys see that he joined a week ago and has no posts, he'll never read this" yeah, from my lurking I've read a lot of that too. So what's left for any new person that wants to start a post then?

 

[vlad22]

I was going to post more, besides that snarky reply to "we'll never hear from this guy again" but my better half just walked through the front door. be back later

 

[bi_9491]

Done with this

 

[LauraJane008]

I don't know about slut, but I became a lot more adventurous in my early 20s. Until then I'd had boyfriends but the sex was fairly vanilla. At that time I spent 6 months as an intern in a company and really fancied one of the senior men. He was mid 40s, self confident, good looking, really sexy.

We didnt do anything until I left the company. On my last day we went out to the pub and he came along, we got chatting, and he said we must have dinner. It took him a couple of weeks to phone - I thought he'd given up - and then he took me to a nice restaurant. He was complimenting me, touching my hand, playing footsie. We kissed when he dropped me off afterwards and we went out again a few days later. That time we both knew we'd be going to bed together.

He really opened my eyes to what more there may be. There were some things I said no to but we tried a lot of different things and i learned that that was ok and what I like and what I don't.

 

[soccergurl7]

.......

 

[southern_gal]

My inner slut no longer sneaks out the back door of my mind. She is a brazen whore that struts out the front door with a laugh and slams it on the way out. Bitch.

 

[vlad22]

It all started with fetishes for me. Before, sex was just sex. Whoa, some guy blew his load and barely did anything for me... Big deal! But once I started reading more advanced erotic stuff, and explored a lot of the crazy stuff out there, I started to figure out what I really liked.

Then, the idea of just living out one of those fetishes got me off. And before long, I started trying other girls. Had a two year relationship with one as well.

So, I dunno. I think it's different for every person. It all really boils down to what idea your wife gets off to. Have her use this site to explore more erotic pleasures. Reading this stuff has a much higher effect than porn. Imagination is a powerful thing.

Completely agree with you. Compared to this site and real people posting themselves, professional porn isn't nearly as much of a turn on for me either.

I did mention this site to her once or twice, but still can't get her to get interested in it

 

[vlad22]

she has done some things, on purpose or and few by accident which have been great turn ons for both of us and compared to when we started dating she is definitely more comfortable with her sexuality. And yet she still acts very reserved. I think she feels guilty because "good girls shouldn't be like that". But why not? We both have a lot more fun when I finally convince her to try something.

So yeah I got the idea that maybe I can stop lurking around and start a thread with you guys, so you can help me gently nudge her toward our more fun and just plain better side

keep them coming, I'd love to hear from anyone here, but especially from husbands who succeeded in opening up their traditional conservative spouses after 10+ years of marriage or from wives that went through that

 

[Paige_gurly]

For me it would definitely be in college. I was in a relationship at the time but my roommate was pretty crazy so I'd live vicariously through her. At first I didn't know her very well so I'd pretend I was sleeping when she brought people back but eventually we became good friends and we'd talk all about it, she knew i was watching. It was actually pretty funny because she would almost put a show on for me and the other people would never even realize, it was so hot. Anyways, this led to me being a lot more adventurous and sexually aggressive with my bf and when we eventually broke up, that's when I got a little crazy myself. Her and I had some pretty fun times in that room together.

 

[vlad22]

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[missgreekgeek]

Oh boy. I was probably like 18-19.

I was with a guy who was far more experienced than I was.

He showed me pleasures I had yet to experience. And opened me up sexually to a world where I could be free. Free to express, to want, to crave...

Ever since, I've become more "aware" that this is who I was meant to be. No longer timid about initiating sex...and my bf couldn't be happier to have a girl like me.
I mean who doesn't love a girl who'll give road head while you're ordering at the McDonald's drive thru and then when you get to the window, even the worker wants to give you a high five and tell you you're the luckiest guy on the planet? And is so courteous enough to offer a napkin for me...

 

[BongoGal]

I was a 19-year-old virgin who 'lost it' to another 19-year-old virgin. I was very much a sexual being and had been for years. I knew all about sex from books and such, and I was definitely a horny little thing. I mean, I masturbated regularly, and I fantasized all sorts of scenarios, but I just never actually 'did the deed' with a guy. I think most people assumed that I was quite 'experienced', but I wasn't. Looking back, I am amazed that I made it through my freshman year without fucking somebody. I was surrounded by guys who were as horny as I was, but I managed to keep my private vow of chastity. I wasn't saving myself for marriage or doing anything for religious reasons. I simply was waiting until I felt mature enough. It was early on in my sophomore year that I felt ready. The impetus was probably discovering that a guy friend of mine was a virgin, too. I remember thinking about his virginity and deciding it was a waste, and that's when I decided that it was now a waste for me as well. I came up with the idea that the two of us should get this virginity thing out of the way with each other. Why not? We weren't boyfriend and girlfriend, so there was no romantic pressure involved. It was just a simple way to move one more step into adulthood. We picked the upcoming holiday weekend when most folks went home. We stayed in the dorms. More specifically, we stayed in his dorm room. And step by step, almost as if checking things off a list, we did everything we could think of. Seriously, I think we tried every sex position that I've ever tried on that weekend. It was a fucking blast. After an initial bit of nervousness on both ours parts, we soon were both saying, "Hey, let's try it this way!" (I was no stranger to the physical sensations of intercourse, thanks to dildo usage for years. For me the biggest revelation was how incredible a mouth felt sucking on my nipples. That's a sensation that a person can't recreate alone. Also, cunnilingus was even better than I expected.)

I wouldn't say that this released my 'inner slut', whatever that means, but it did usher in for me a period of lots of sexual activity.

 

[sandie350]

hi jane.......mum guessed i was bi too i think......and i started touching her and she me......mum was a escort then too.....and from time to time brought guys back for fun.....i used to watch them play by her bedroom door......i just copied mum,found i liked it too........and now im in same business

 

[vlad22]

Oh boy. I was probably like 18-19.

I was with a guy who was far more experienced than I was.

He showed me pleasures I had yet to experience. And opened me up sexually to a world where I could be free. Free to express, to want, to crave...

Ever since, I've become more "aware" that this is who I was meant to be. No longer timid about initiating sex...and my bf couldn't be happier to have a girl like me.
I mean who doesn't love a girl who'll give road head while you're ordering at the McDonald's drive thru and then when you get to the window, even the worker wants to give you a high five and tell you you're the luckiest guy on the planet? And is so courteous enough to offer a napkin for me...

thanks for the reply, so without prying too much I'm curious what kind of things he showed you and how he introduced those things to you. You don't have to answer with too many personal details, just looking for ideas.

I don't know if I'd ever get to McD's drive through head, but like you said feels like my SO is holding back and I'd love for her to be more free and express what she actually wants

 

[sandie350]

i suppose i actually became a whore at college,where along with my room mate we started escorting guys not just at college but business guys too.........

 

[rudrakshpathak]

after watching my mum with some of her friends at parties......i started in my teens giving blow and hand jobs.....went on to become a woman and have fun

wow. what does it take to get one from you?

 

[Teacher2061]

n/a

changed my mind

 

[magicalmoments]

... and looking for ideas or suggestions how to help my wife

So those ladies and couples of lit who were traditional/conservative/shy good chunk of your life and who know enjoy more 'freedom'. Would love to hear how you did it and what finally made you change your mind.

From a male perspective.

I married my high school sweetheart at 20. When I reached age 30 I decided I had missed something in life by having only the one lover. I started discussion with my wife about this, with me guidingher gently towards considering swapping partners. Eventualy she agreed to experiement and after starting slowly we moved to a full open relationship after about 3 years or so.

So to answer the question my inner slut (male equivalent) was released when I was about 30 because I did not wish to go to my grave having only the one lover. No regrets, I've loved every step of the journey.

 

[MaddysSecret]

By "inner slut" I assume we mean releasing our own uninhibited sexuality. I'm not sure there is any one time. I was sex obsessed in my teens, first thinking I was a freak, learning to accept it, then again thinking I was a freak. When I was 16 I started quietly dating a 25 year old neighbor I had known since I was 7. He brought me out a lot and taught me a lot of things. He was great, Then another series of things made some of my interests more known, so eventually I became confident enough to not hide my desires.