How many sexual partners have you had?

[banes27]

If you're counting only vaginal or anal penetration, then 2.

If you then go on to count oral (performed by me or on me doesn't matter since so far I've always "returned the favour"), then 7 (6 women, 1 man).

While some people might exclude the oral, it's quite difficult for me to do that for a couple a few reasons. 2 of the women I've counted, although vaginal or anal penetration wasn't a thing that they were on the receiving end of, did perform and receive oral during foursomes where vaginal and anal penetration did take place, just not between me and them, so it seems dishonest to not include them.

Another woman, as the result of a medical condition and surgery, was incapable of having penetrative vaginal sex (at the time) and wasn't into anal. If the furthest you can legitimately go in that direction is oral, then I'd personally count it as "sex".

As for the guy, started out during a foursome, ended up together a couple of times after that, but neither of us were into being on the receiving end of anal, so you end up with the same situation as above, where oral was as far as we wanted to go.

Generally speaking, I tend to count oral as "sex", just as much as I count vaginal or anal. I think it's more honest, and is more representative of my sexual history.

 

[PTWaters1]

Generally speaking, I tend to count oral as "sex", just as much as I count vaginal or anal.

Hmmm...I hadn't considered that. Well, if we're counting oral, then I have to up my count from 1 to 2.

 

[tankermike56]

Well I guess I am a pervert like both my exwifes say I am over a 100 I know for sure

 

[EctoJohn]

Sadly, only 3.
I stalled out and nobody wants to get me started again.

 

[SandraMustard]

Thirteen months ago, my answer would have been one. I was 62, married 42 years to my high school sweetheart and only lover.

Since then, I've had sex with twelve additional men.

Making up for lost time? Having lots of fun too I hope.

There are many reasons why we now have an open marriage but didn't before.

I also made an error counting; I've only had ten additional men. Perhaps I wanted to count the two college spring breakers that I decided not to fuck a few weeks ago. Just so I don't look too slutty, of the ten, seven occurred during two swinger parties where I was in three different MFMs and only one straight MF.

If we counted oral sex as partners (that I didn't also fuck), there were three more men and two women. I don't think it's worth mentioning the times I've lent a helping hand.

Yes, I've enjoyed each one, some more than others. I been with three of my partners more than once; eight, two, and seven times respectively.

 

[justashygirl]

Sadly, only 3.
I stalled out and nobody wants to get me started again.

I wouldn't really call that sad. Sometimes a higher number can actually be a turn off. I think there are still girls out there who appreciate guys who haven't fucked anything and everything with a vagina.

And to answer the thread's question, you can still count my sexual partners on one hand, and still have fingers left over.

 

[EctoJohn]

Well if there's any women out there that would appreciate me for that, I'd be happy to be with you.

 

[CyranoJ]

Generally speaking, I tend to count oral as "sex", just as much as I count vaginal or anal. I think it's more honest, and is more representative of my sexual history.

The "oral-doesn't-count" exemption is quite weird, but hard to shake. In a way it would be flattering to (the dumbassed "more-is-better" part of) my male ego to count oral sessions, as that boosts my number of partners considerably... but I usually know when someone asks that they'd consider this inclusion to be bullshitting, and there's a part of me that agrees with them (irrational as I know that to be).

 

[fma20fma]

hi

one in school ays.Two as adult.first one helping hand. next one handy and oral. last one anal only.

 

[CrshNBurn]

If you include my right and left hand... 2

 

[mikendel]

We just made a list of her partners, 28.

 

[mterrence]

.....

 

[Buellersdayoff]

Including oral, 26.

 

[CyranoJ]

I just don't know what to think or even who I could ask for advice.

My first suggestion would be: "For God's sake don't ask the Internet for advice. Especially not a forum on a porn (erotica, sorry) site."

But since we're past that one: I didn't get seriously sexually active until my early twenties (apart from a few scattered encounters that "don't count" under the partner-count rule of this thread), and looking back was probably quite insecure about it. The main things I learned in the interim were: don't overthink it; don't fuck just for the sake of fucking (corollary: bad sex is not preferable to no sex), although there may well be those here who wouldn't agree with that one; don't be so obsessed with "sowing your oats" or racking up a "history" to supposedly overawe female companions that you pass up chances at genuine happiness. The right person might have ninety sexual partners to your one, but if they are the right person they won't care and neither should you (corollary: masculinist notions of being the Big Man to her Little Lady have little actual place in today's world).

Of course, you know, take all that with a grain of salt appropriate to your circumstance (cf. suggestion one).

 

[sixfeetundernea]

I wouldn't really call that sad. Sometimes a higher number can actually be a turn off. I think there are still girls out there who appreciate guys who haven't fucked anything and everything with a vagina.

I'm one of those women. More than 5 is kind of a turn off, unless they were in serious relationships. Over 10 can be a dealbreaker if I'm considering a relationship with them.

 

[PublicAffection]

I feel like I answered this question a thousand years ago on another thread. Whatever my answer was there, double it. Should be about right.

 

[CyranoJ]

I'm one of those women. More than 5 is kind of a turn off, unless they were in serious relationships. Over 10 can be a dealbreaker if I'm considering a relationship with them.

Precisely why I find myself massaging my numbers down, these days. If I only count the emotionally meaningful and genuinely awesome sex, for instance, I've had... seven (no wait, sorry, eight -- was bracketing one out due to trauma) partners. Sounds much better, and it's also a much truer reflection of the bulk of my history, as those were the repeat performers.

 

[magicalmoments]

None, and I think I'm starting to develop a bit of a complex about it. I have a hard time figuring out what's normal, what should be expected, what I should run away screaming from... I have this romantic idea in my head of two people who have only loved each other, but with every day that goes by that seems less likely to happen in my life. If it had worked out better with my last girlfriend, that would have been what happened, and it almost did, but it was not to be. Probably just as well.

I envy people like Simon who met the right person and stayed with them, but at the same time I wish I'd had more sex. I would at least feel more normal and like less of a freak. I'm pretty old fashioned in that I think sex is a big deal, and I'm also afraid of STIs and so on, so I'm a little scared off and intimidated by women who are more sexually experienced, which is just about all of them. It doesn't help that I have no confidence in my sexual skills (and unless I was toting a massive dong around, which I'm not, I'd have no reason to, considering). I just don't know what to think or even who I could ask for advice.

You need to get yourself laid. FFS go visit a prostitute and get it done.

 

[suckonsimon]

You need to get yourself laid. FFS go visit a prostitute and get it done.

I beg to differ; that is so NOT what this individual needs to do. Round the corner for him, I hope, is some sweet woman who enjoys his company and he hers and in due course and with her help he'll find his way around her body and by the third time they make love he'll be a star with her.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I beg to differ; that is so NOT what this individual needs to do. Round the corner for him, I hope, is some sweet woman who enjoys his company and he hers and in due course and with her help he'll find his way around her body and by the third time they make love he'll be a star with her.

preach it, Simon.

 

[justashygirl]

I'm one of those women. More than 5 is kind of a turn off, unless they were in serious relationships. Over 10 can be a dealbreaker if I'm considering a relationship with them.

I am as well (hence my post), and I have to agree with you there. I think it also has to do with the fact that my experiences with guys who fall under that category have always been terrible relationship wise.

 

[leather_spitfire]

I went through a promiscuous period in my early 20s but for penetrative sex I can still probably count my number of sexual partners on 2 hands. fooling around partners it would be more.

 

[SCcouple1990]

Hopefully one less than there will be by the end of tonight.

 

[twister947]

~30, but I've been sexually active for about 50 years, so that's not too slutty.

 

[Ramone45]

One. I'm very shy.