How should I finish a handjob?

[LongDraw]

For God sake, please don't keep asking questions mid-handjob/blow job. My wife has never gotten the point that it is a mood killer. No one wants to be interrogated during sexy time.

Also, I will agree that point does not translate to real life. And only a very very very small minority of us are that long and thick without drugs/surgery. And if you do end up with a guy of that size, take gentle care during the handjob as the skin gets stretched to a painful extent when that long/thick.

Good luck.

 

[madmatt618]

For me, I like full strokes until I start to cum. Then pull the foreskin back tight, and just gently rub the underside of the head with fingertips until the contractions and last of the cum stops.

 

[Jonnymc]

I have been lurking on these forums for a while, but this is my first time posting here. Anyways I am curious, how do most guys like to be finished off when getting a handjob? And do most guys want you to stop right when they start to ejaculate, or keep going until it stops shooting out?

In my last relationship, I only did handjobs. Right after he would start to ejaculate, he would make me stop moving my hand completely, and just hold his penis near the bottom while he was cumming. I know that in porn though, most guys seem to keep masturbating their penis until they finish ejaculating. I tried a few times to keep stroking my ex like that while he was cumming but he would always grab my hand to keep it still, and said guys really don't need or want to be stimulated while they're ejaculating.

So, I thought I would ask here to see what most guys prefer (or what your partners prefer, for my fellow women), so that next time I do give a guy a handjob I'll be a bit better prepared lol. Appreciate the advice!

The boyfriend you described about having you keep you hand still why even cause a penis is super sensitive when cumming, keep stroking rub the tip make him empty his nut sack stroke away he will cum like a horse and not go limp right after , but the best is when cumming and you squeezing the tip with every pulse and stroke with the other hand controlling the orgasm , also good luck

 

[Gbeard11]

By starting all over again

 

[siobhancan99]

I like to shout "ta-da!" and do jazz hands.

 

[Gbeard11]

I like to shout "ta-da!" and do jazz hands.

I'd like a nice flourish, maybe a fanfare

 

[sterculius]

I always finish a hand job orally.

 

[joefelton]

I always finish a hand job orally.

I prefer it when my wife uses both hands, one is squeezing my balls while she milks my cock with the other hand. When I start to ejaculate I have her slow down a bit and use less pressure, but keep working my junk until I tell her to stop. We've been married for 40 years.

 

[tristantrotsky]

I always finish a hand job orally.

In my experience the handjob tends to end up in my mouth anyway, and the orgasm happens in its own very sweet time, maybe helped along by a slight teasing lick along the frenulum, and you feel the warning tightening of the balls, then the swelling of the sperm duct on your lower lip a nano-second before ejaculation...

 

[SallyIsHere]

I like to shout "ta-da!" and do jazz hands.

Or jizz hands

 

[Nellie60]

For me, the answer would be "with either a blow job or full sex". I think there's something a bit ridiculous about hand jobs. It's the only sex act a woman can perform on me that I can actually do just as well, probably better, by myself. Your mileage may vary!

Hmmm...so you don't get excited by the presence of a woman jacking you off? Even if she's not good at it?

 

[Whanmore]

and said guys really don't need or want to be stimulated while they're ejaculating.

Interesting he's speaking for all guys here. Maybe he's had personal experience finishing guys off that way? But it probably varies

For me I say, drop your face down there and suck the semen off seems like a good way to finish ;-)

 

[Wonderer67]

I’m prolly an outlier here, but I like a good ruined orgasm, when the giver removes the stimulation just before the man cums. The orgasm is less intense, and more frustrating.

In fact I can usually go on and get hard and fuck or play some more after this, as you don’t go thru the refractory period if timed correctly. Requires some real knowledge of your partners and/or good communication.

 

[Flowerbox]

I agree completely that there is no "right one way" to finish a handjob. You just have to pay attention to your partner's reactions and adjust your own actions accordingly. That goes both ways, actually, and to sex in general, not only to handjobs. After all, sex is about giving pleasure at least as much as it is about receiving pleasure, and sometimes even more.

 

[Athalia]

For God sake, please don't keep asking questions mid-handjob/blow job. My wife has never gotten the point that it is a mood killer. No one wants to be interrogated during sexy time.

Good point. But right after his orgasm is a good time. "Did you like that, dear? How if I did it X way next time? Would you like that?"

Good advice for men (and women) going down on women, too. We would much prefer not to have to do play-by-play announcing. "Now do this. Now do that." The time for that is afterwards.

 

[UtilityCurve]

Good advice for men (and women) going down on women, too. We would much prefer not to have to do play-by-play announcing. "Now do this. Now do that." The time for that is afterwards.

Completely understandable. Nonverbal cues (holding his head, pulling his hair, if his hands are on your breasts [it cannot be mere coincidence that men's arms are generally long enough to reach--an argument for Intelligent Design if ever there were one], putting yours on top of his and squeezing/compressing/guiding his fingers to your nipples) are substantially adequate in the moment to give feedback. This is not to dismiss pillow talk afterward, but I enjoy the hell out of her unspoken but well-expressed feelings!

 

[Rockymtnman]

I much prefer a very vigorous finish. Milk me until I ask you to stop. The faster and the more grip you use… the better.

 

[Bigboobbabe]

Personally, I continue stroking as I cum, but it isn’t nearly as intense as when you are approaching climax. I do think that is one thing some women don’t realize is that the guy’s penis is super sensitive after he cums. So anything really aggressive might be too much.

I’m sure every guy is a little bit different. It might be beneficial to ask him to masturbate once while you watch. You’ll probably learn more about how he specifically likes it that way, and do your best to emulate that. I don’t think asking what he likes would be a mood kill, it might actually make things hotter.

I love watching my guy masturbate for just this reason.

 

[Nellie60]

I much prefer a very vigorous finish. Milk me until I ask you to stop. The faster and the more grip you use… the better.

Yep that does it for me the more furious the better until completely done!

 

[tristantrotsky]

Or jizz hands

The best way to finish a handjob is to lick the cum off your fingers...

 

[cubbyfire04]

My favorite is when she just focuses on the task at hand (sorry) and doesn't try to aim it somewhere... Like to avoid hitting her/my face or to make for easy cleanup. Part of my excitement and anticipation is just seeing where it goes when she finishes me off with reckless abandon and just lets me spray wildly wherever it may go. It's more about her focusing on the pleasure rather "dealing with" the aftermath.

 

[Nellie60]

My favorite is when she just focuses on the task at hand (sorry) and doesn't try to aim it somewhere... Like to avoid hitting her/my face or to make for easy cleanup. Part of my excitement and anticipation is just seeing where it goes when she finishes me off with reckless abandon and just lets me spray wildly wherever it may go. It's more about her focusing on the pleasure rather "dealing with" the aftermath.

Well said just focus on pleasuring your man!

 

[UtilityCurve]

For me, there are two special finishes, though one may strike you as not being 100% handjob.

Anyway, no matter what, I stand (erect) with Team "firm and vigorous," but I swoon for having my cock pressed onto my partner's nipples. Chances are pretty good (understatement alert) that I've been staring at them, so it's satisfying for me for her to feel my pleasure crest and release on them.

The other? Get as close as you can to blast-off (this is a skill that sharpens with familiarity with my body) and at the very last moment, take just the head in your mouth to catch my cum. I don't consider this a blowjob since your hand does the stimulating and your mouth only (but it's a HUGE "only") serves to keep my semen for yourself, which is profoundly meaningful. (I get the same pleasure, of course, from any sex act that results in it remaining in you in some way.)

 

[Nellie60]

For me, there are two special finishes, though one may strike you as not being 100% handjob.

Anyway, no matter what, I stand (erect) with Team "firm and vigorous," but I swoon for having my cock pressed onto my partner's nipples. Chances are pretty good (understatement alert) that I've been staring at them, so it's satisfying for me for her to feel my pleasure crest and release on them.

The other? Get as close as you can to blast-off (this is a skill that sharpens with familiarity with my body) and at the very last moment, take just the head in your mouth to catch my cum. I don't consider this a blowjob since your hand does the stimulating and your mouth only (but it's a HUGE "only") serves to keep my semen for yourself, which is profoundly meaningful. (I get the same pleasure, of course, from any sex act that results in it remaining in you in some way.)

Nice to hear other's preferences. For me just let your hand fly girl and let it land wherever Asong as she's enthusiastic and enjoys it!

 

[UtilityCurve]

Nice to hear other's preferences. For me just let your hand fly girl and let it land wherever Asong as she's enthusiastic and enjoys it!

The only two requisites are the man comes and the girl has fun making it happen: Everything else is (oh-so-delicious) icing but only icing.