How to find an online romantic/erotic relationship?

[Bigboobbabe]

This is probably the best advice I've seen.

I work in the public sector so I tend to be very careful with my anonymity.

But, the reality is if you want any kind of intimate relationship with someone you will definitely end up being open about certain parts of your life. But you can do that without sharing full on identifying information.

There is a grand total of one person on here that knows my actual complete name, and it's because we're now friends on social media outside of Lit. We know alot about each other's lives, more than some of our "IRL" friends probably do. She's also the person who I have probably stayed most consistently in contact with over my time here, much less ebb and flow.

But that is very much the exception to the rule.

I've never used a made up name, but that's just because I'd have a hard time keeping track of it.

My first made up name was so relevant to me, I wouldn't forget it..

Sadly, it was relevant to my ex, so when he was a very discreet bra pic, he recognized the bra and the name.

 

[daldog]

What are your suggestions for reputable forums or platforms that I should check out?

I'd like to know this too.

 

[KyleR215]

How do I find a woman to exchange fantasies with online and be anonymous? My privacy is paramount. My desire to share my kinks, and have an online friend to share hers with no judgement would be quite liberating I feel.

I think authenticity is a plus.

When I have made posts looking for someone to chat with I will put it out there so that there is no surprises with the other person. I am looking for someone that XXX, I am very into XXX and YYY. Looking for someone between the ages of XX and YY. I am willing to exchange pics without faces, etc...I think that the more that you put out there, the more likely you are going to find someone similar that wants to chat because they know what they are getting into

Also manage expectations. I am only available to chat during the times of XX and YY or on the East Coast of the USA. This lets the other know when you might be able to chat and not cause any hard feelings because someone on the West Coast of the USA isn't getting a response from you at 3AM Eastern.

As for being anonymous, put that out there that discretion is important and personal information will not be shared.

The more you put out there up front, the more that you will find someone or multiple people in my experience.

And if after a while it falls apart, don't take it personally. It is what it is and happens to everyone.

 

[KyleR215]

What are your suggestions for reputable forums or platforms that I should check out?

Start here and find someone and then see if there are other places that they suggest or feel better chatting on.

 

[curioustxn]

My first made up name was so relevant to me, I wouldn't forget it..

Sadly, it was relevant to my ex, so when he was a very discreet bra pic, he recognized the bra and the name.

Is the pic the reason for the divorce?

 

[Bigboobbabe]

Is the pic the reason for the divorce?

No. It seemed like it might be.
The man I was chatting with became our first 3some.

 

[I_lOvE_GiRlS]

I guess thats how i was taught- my saying. Enjoy the ride to your destination. How anyone cant be upfront on lit , now at the work place... Like dating people in good behave . People change ,just wish the other partner would be open . I'm in a sexless marriage. Try to be open to wife in my needs , never worked. Seems she hold over my head to control i think. Plus menopause she says doesnt even come into mind to have any type of closeness. Sad... But i still dont treat her badly for not wanting sex.

Yeah that's rough, I feel what you are saying, because I am living with the same type of situation in my marriage. Everything about any intimacy between us is strictly controlled by the wife and for her these past several years, having diarrhea would likely rank higher than sex. If I ask about trying something, it's always received as criticism or that somehow she thinks I am wanting her to act like a porn star or something. If we are doing something and for whatever reason I'm not feeling it, or maybe for me it's painful or I just need her to adjust the angle she's at, again red flagged because according to her I'm telling her she isn't doing it right. Heck lately even just getting and keeping her actually focused on what we are doing is incredibly hard. Nothing kills the mood like being criticized about your past performance issues or looking into her eyes and just seeing that blank thousand yard stare as she's running through her to do list in her head.

 

[Jaazy_Jazmin]

Well it depends, sometimes in my experience if you are really honest about your

be yourself, be nice, be interesting, let the relationship grow, don't suggest jumping in bed on the first meeting, it will come..

I second this one..
Well it depends, sometimes in my experience if you are really honest about your feelings and willing to show respect towrads the pther that can be found here

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Love Jaaz
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My own secret world of desires: Here

 

[Breastobsessed84]

I've successfully found one person that I chat on a regular basis with but it's not a romantic thing. Being married limits the opportunities to be on here and the extent of how far things can go.

 

[Ssbbw4u1974]

I feel that what your looking for is very attainable.
I've been here on lit for 3½ years , so not a long time. But the best way I feel to find a decent connection is to either engage in the forums that interest you, or possibly write a personal ad of what you seeking and offering.

When I first started here, I had an ad that was seeking men to masturbate for me (online only) and that led to me finding great connections with different men some I'm still friends with today

You seem genuine. Women/people will pick up on that..

Good luck in your search

 

[Jaazy_Jazmin]

How do I find a woman to exchange fantasies with online and be anonymous? My privacy is paramount. My desire to share my kinks, and have an online friend to share hers with no judgement would be quite liberating I feel.

sounds interesting. Will be happy to chat more

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Love Jaaz
Your Labelle
My own secret world of desires: Here