How to spot a Domme/Dom

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

CUTIEMOUSE

You explain it however it suits you. I dont care. You dont own the goddamned place. So....like it or lump it or click on the ignore button.

Didnt we have this conversation back in the beginning?

 

[TheBlackDahlia]

you do know that the more you feed into what is says, the more he'll do this. unless this is a game you guys have going on. that's the last i'm gonna say about this.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

CUTIEMOUSE

One more round and then i need to go.

I get private messages from other participants here. Some like me, some dont. But all of them say pretty much the same thing: Dont let them chase you off because you wont kiss their asses.

Do you want your ass kissed? Is that your problem?

 

[Homburg]

I'm here because I can be. But to be honest with you I'm collecting information. Like Jane Whatshersface, the chimp lady. And I feel at home. God knows why! So, have a banana and go away. SHOOOOO!

I don't think Doc Goodall antagonised the gorillas. That would've likely lead to a violent squashing by said gorillas. And that would NOT have looked fun in the movie.

 

[Esclava]

For reference:

...Snip ...
If you want to discover who you are take a stroll through a bad neighborhood about midnight. The monsters and demons will clue you in. They know who you are. While youre walking pay attention to how you really feel.

As Homburg said, I have done this before as well. Not because it was my job - but because I had to live there and I decidedly don't suggest it as an exercise in self-discovery.

I still think there has to be a more reliable way to spot a Dom/me or sub because fortunately, whether Dom/me or sub, when your will to live to see the next day kicks in - the monsters and demons won't stand a chance.

Esclava

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

HOMBURG

Gorillas are antagonized because of what they know about themselves.

If I post something like "All Homburg's are purple with orange stripes" the assertion has almost no meaning to you. If you react to the statement at all, youre reaction is likely puzzlement or curiosity. Because the claim doesnt resonate with anything in you, or very little. It's not a boner builder.

If I say "Albert Einstein was a retard" people wonder what's up with me.

So when I say something that gets a noisy response, I'm confident I touched a nerve.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

ESCLAVA

You may be unaware of it but the scenario I'm speaking of existed almost everywhere a century ago. Attack by wild animals was common. Bandits infested rural roads. Assassination and aggravated battery was nothing unusual.

So it was good to be handy with a gun and a knife. I have some letters my great-grandfather wrote in the 1890s. When he graduated Harvard University he went West to the Indian Nation to teach school. In one of his letters he mentions the necessity of keeping a .45 calibre six-shooter atop his desk. He used it once or twice with parents.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

I came across this report a child wrote. I'm posting it here rather than where it rightfully belongs, to keep the peace. But it reminds me of so many posts people make when theyre clueless. Enjoy.

"There are nine planets in our solar system, ten if you count the Sun. But the Sun's not a planet, is it? People live on each of these planets, with the Pluto people being the shortest because Pluto's the smallest planet. The Earth is the middle planet in the Universe. It has one moon which is a million, trillion, billion, zillion feet wide and made of mayonaise and granola. The Earth itself is trillions of feet long and made up of different stuff. There's water. Fifteen thousand gallons of it on the planet's surface. This is where the fish and sea monsters and water people live.

"Surrounding the Earth's water is land. Lots of land. The land is home to the Earth's ten million inhabitants. The land is divided into three continents and 153 countries. This is so people know where to send their mail."

 

[Homburg]

HOMBURG

Gorillas are antagonized because of what they know about themselves.

"I say, Geoff. Do you think that skinny pale female is antagonsing us?
"I do not believe so Rodney. Look deep inside yourself. You will realise that she is lost, and seeking to learn from our superior culture."
"Good show, Geoff. Do you mind getting this tick off of my back? It's a bit less than brilliant."

Gorillas and self-knowledge.

If I post something like "All Homburg's are purple with orange stripes" the assertion has almost no meaning to you. If you react to the statement at all, youre reaction is likely puzzlement or curiosity. Because the claim doesnt resonate with anything in you, or very little. It's not a boner builder.

I would hope not. It would disturb me to find out that you are actively working towards providing me with an erection.

If I say "Albert Einstein was a retard" people wonder what's up with me.

So when I say something that gets a noisy response, I'm confident I touched a nerve.

How hard is it to do that, however, in the internet - the great land of the easily offended? In RL, people frequently keep their offense to themselves. That biker over there has just said something that ticked you off. You are smart enough to ignore it because you are not the 6'8" hulking brute that e is. He doesn't care whether or not you are offended becuase he can pound you flat, and you don't rate. None of that on the internet, where everyone is the 6'8" biker in the dive bar because they don't have to care about repercussions.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

HOMBURG

A 6-8 biker bothers you?

We need to talk.

Scrawny boys and small women will hurt you, NOT big men. A big man has one thing going for him. MASS. IF he connects you get hurt. But he's not agile or coordinated. Boys and little women ARE. And they can exert a lot of force across a small area...like there foot. I've seen them knock large men out. I worked with a guy named Frank, once. Frank was, oh!, 6-7 or 6-8. HUGE. His wife, Marilyn, was 5-2. Marilyn kicked Frank's ass. Frank got drunk one time and hit Marilyn, and Marilyn took him apart.

You talk like I've never tangled with LARGE men. Not so. It's happened many times. I took a knife away from one large boy, then tied him up. Pssst, (whispers) because I know how to do it.

I worked in a shipyard full of bikers, and I dont know a biker who isnt a pussy without his buds. And theyre not very smart. I mean, they keep getting run over...like oppossums and armadillos. How smart is that? How smart is it to ride around in the heat and the rain and the cold and the bugs on a motorcycle that costs more than a decent car? Youve forgotten how Clint Eastwood and Burt Reynolds ridiculed them in their movies. Bikers were DUMMIES. They still are. My son owns two Harleys. He's 6-5. I tell him, "Youre a big dum biker." And he says, "I know." HE IS. His uncle was run over on a bike.

Real men drive pickups.

So when you try and scare me with BIG bikers, I go Ooooooo!!!! Not a big biker!! LOL

 

[Homburg]

Aroo? You make a lot of assumptions.

First, the 6'8" biker example was just that, an example. Most people understand that huge biker equals scary. Normal people. Having ridden motorcycles for most of my life, and being a large scary dude, I get on like gangbusters with bikers. Most bikers are really awesome guys. Just stay away from the ones running speed, and you'll be fine.

As to the rest of it, I'm not personally afraid of most big guys. They get by on being big. The bikers that scare me are the twitchy little dudes with names like "Hatchet". A friend's dad used to ride with a guy named "Hatchet". Everybody was afraid of that little bastard.

So, remember, it was an example. If I tried to scare you, I dunno, fuck if I know what scares you. *shrug* You've already showed more than a bit of "Internet Badass", so probably nothing. Meh.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

HOMBURG

Superior culture? You need to check some of the other BDSM threads for your superior culture. It's embarrassing to read. I'm assuming the posters are involved in the lifestyle for a while, but they think like morons. They remind me of the worst TREKKIES.

That is, they only eat DOM bread, and do the wash with SUBBIE soap flakes.

 

[shy slave]

How to Spot a Dom

Step by Step Guide


Get a tin of green paint and large brush.

Wait until they are asleep (even Doms sleep)

Carefully daub paint in circles over the sleeping Dom in a semi random pattern

Get some rope

Tie yourself up in a corner far far away from said Dom.

When he wakens you can protest you could not have done such a thing as he tied you securely prior to his falling asleep....doesn't he remember?

You are disappointed, you thought he cared enough to remember tying you up.

 

[EmpressFi]

Step by Step Guide


Get a tin of green paint and large brush.

Wait until they are asleep (even Doms sleep)

Carefully daub paint in circles over the sleeping Dom in a semi random pattern

Get some rope

Tie yourself up in a corner far far away from said Dom.

When he wakens you can protest you could not have done such a thing as he tied you securely prior to his falling asleep....doesn't he remember?

You are disappointed, you thought he cared enough to remember tying you up.

ROFL

I have to share this with Master

 

[shy slave]

ROFL

I have to share this with Master

A word of advice....don't actually follow the guidelines
Unless your planning on wearing green paint forever!


LOL

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

ROFL

I have to share this with Master

Puhleaseeeee don't encourage her. She is the 'type' that does actually does stuff like that.

: tries hard to forget the burping thang :

 

[shy slave]

Puhleaseeeee don't encourage her. She is the 'type' that does actually does stuff like that.

: tries hard to forget the burping thang :

I am not encourging anyone!

Honest, I am just answering the orginal question for my POV


(The burping thang, I am still waiting for a perfect opportunity. Hell, my porn fantasies include it everytime)

 

[EmpressFi]

He only laughed.. and sorry.. didnt mean to encourage her..and no.. I wouldnt do it.. he wouldnt cover me in paint..he'd lick my face

 

[shy slave]

He only laughed.. and sorry.. didnt mean to encourage her..and no.. I wouldnt do it.. he wouldnt cover me in paint..he'd lick my face

YUCK!!

I would rather wear the green paint in strange crease areas forever, than have that.

 

[EmpressFi]

YUCK!!

I would rather wear the green paint in strange crease areas forever, than have that.

AMEN

sad thing is.. he knows it.. I cant even look at pictures of someone getting their faces licked.. *shudders*

 

[Homburg]

HOMBURG

Superior culture? You need to check some of the other BDSM threads for your superior culture. It's embarrassing to read. I'm assuming the posters are involved in the lifestyle for a while, but they think like morons. They remind me of the worst TREKKIES.

That is, they only eat DOM bread, and do the wash with SUBBIE soap flakes.

It's a pair of gorillas talking. Gorillas. It's funny because they sound smart. It's irony. It's... Never mind.

I would never wash with Subbie Flakes. It's not aggreassive enough to get the funk off. And DomBread is too goddamned hard. It's painful on the gums, and always laughs at me.

 

[Krinaia]

SAW MAN

I never lie. I'm not smart enough to lie. People see thru me instantly, and it makes me look worse than I already am.

But I am assembling a plot for a book about a couple involved in BDSM. Its a murder-mystery.

WTF!!

why the hell are the murderers and cirminals and antagonists always sexual deviants? why can't the heroine and hero be kinky and the criminals be prudes? bdsm gets a bad rep in the media - it's like we're all classified as criminals because we like our sex kinky and rough. I'm more law abiding then most poeple I know - I even use my turn signal and slow down and stop when lights are yellow and i tell the truth on my taxes. oh, and i like to be spanked and have my breasts slapped and bitten and tied up and forced to do and say things that i find embarassing. doesn't make me a a murderess.

 

[Krinaia]

oh, and more on topic - as this thread as gotten off subject to be a verbal sparing...

i have a new online flirting with someone who is moving to my town in the next few weeks - and one comment he made let me know he's kinky and it's funny because i seized on it and now he won't tell me what he's really into because he doesnt want to shock me and scare me away. but, those of you who are wandering how to spot the kinky might be wandering what led to my revelation. we were discussing bars in town and he mentioned one where the barmaid dresses in plaid skirts and knee highs and so i made an off-hand comment that he probably just wanted to spank her. and he didn't deny it. so sometimes things that are socially acceptably kinky - like the school girl thing or fuzzy handcuffs and blindfolds, might hint at deeper kinkiness. it isn't completely confirmed yet but i'm looking forward to finding out.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

KRINALA

I'm guessing youre not aware of the conventional wisdom about BDSM. The general public is convinced BDSM is like finishing school for the Ted Bundy's and Jeffrey Dahmers of the world.

Ten years ago I met a woman on-line. She's into BDSM. Guess what she sends me? Snuff photos of some guy tied-up and cut apart one piece at a time. Made me ill.

The purpose of my book IS NOT to harpoon BDSM, rather it's to get BDSM knuckleheads to "get" the risks they take when they injure their play-partners. I mean, if youre partner is a pain-slut and she dies on your ass after you've caressed her with a bull-whip; well, what will Mike & Carol Brady think when your ass is on trial for manslaughter?

You should read the abuse I get merely for wrting about rough sex....carpet burns and finger-marks.

Check-out the cartoons in the men'smagazines. BDSM is equated with Medievil torture.

 

[Krinaia]

KRINALA

I'm guessing youre not aware of the conventional wisdom about BDSM. The general public is convinced BDSM is like finishing school for the Ted Bundy's and Jeffrey Dahmers of the world.

Ten years ago I met a woman on-line. She's into BDSM. Guess what she sends me? Snuff photos of some guy tied-up and cut apart one piece at a time. Made me ill.

The purpose of my book IS NOT to harpoon BDSM, rather it's to get BDSM knuckleheads to "get" the risks they take when they injure their play-partners. I mean, if youre partner is a pain-slut and she dies on your ass after you've caressed her with a bull-whip; well, what will Mike & Carol Brady think when your ass is on trial for manslaughter?

You should read the abuse I get merely for wrting about rough sex....carpet burns and finger-marks.

Check-out the cartoons in the men'smagazines. BDSM is equated with Medievil torture.

There are sickos of all makes and models out there.... and being into bdsm doesn't equate me with being a suicidal idiot. Nor does it make me a victim or a victimizer. And I'm aware of the "conventional wisdom" but being conventional doesn't mean it is true. Nor are all bdsmers pain sluts and risk takers. You shouldn't sweep the community with one set of sexual likes and dislikes. Nor should you brand all of us as crazies. It's socially acceptable for you to do so, just as its socially acceptable to label fat people as lazy slobs who have no self respect or label all lawyers as unethical blood sucking vultures.

If you want to expose sexuality - and particularly that of the kinky variety - you can't show just one side or the dangerous pitfalls and think you're giving the whole story. In to Kill a Mockingbird - the author shows not just white on black prejudice and black on white but also black on black- so many different aspects of that particular human failing are brought to light and discoursed - it's a beautiful piece of literature. But turning all doms into murderers and criminals and all subs into victims doesn't really bring us to light. I've stood up for myself and prevented men from taking advantage of me and really learned a lot about myself. Ive been a lot stronger than many a vanilla woman. Not all abusers use the guise of bdsm - there are plenty of seemingly upstanding citizens who are pretty nasty pieces of work.

so i question your motives when you come onto a forum like this and make provocative statements aimed at antagonizing the members of the community. I have yet to see you actually really investigate anything - mostly you're just spreading your special brand of prejudice with the hopes that the outraged reactions who get will confirm your opinions. it's more than slightly nauseating.