How to spot a Domme/Dom

[CutieMouse]

CLOSETDOM

Your job as a tv wrestler is what tipped me off.

Mmmm... yeah the steroids use can be kinda difficult to hide, but I thought it was some silly notion that a real submissive wouldn't have noticed or bothered to pay attention to a newcomers behaviour on the boards...

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

CLOSETDOM

I always get suspicious when a sub wanders too far from the children, church, or the kitchen.

 

[CutieMouse]

CLOSETDOM

I always get suspicious when a sub wanders too far from the children, church, or the kitchen.

Not nice.

Now I have diet coke on the monitor.

 

[LadyAria]

*scratches head*

Ummmmm Did we profess to be open minded and tolerant????

*snicker*

 

[LadyAria]

Spotting a Dominant is like spotting any other sexual preference, you see the reaction behind their eyes when faced with the object of their attraction.

 

[Homburg]

THEBLACKDAHLIA

I think doms/subs are easy to spot. I mean, you cant tell if theyre in the lifestyle, but I sure know a dom/sub when we meet. And how I know is how I feel and the reactions I get. To me, at least, people let you know who they are. All it requires is self-awareness and a selective-sensitivity.

That I can agree with. I was talking about women and sex with a friend of mine going through a dry spell. I told him that I can figure out whether I have a chance or not with a woman within a few minutes of meeting her. I then described a couple of the ways that submissive women behave when give attention and said that if any of these signs are present, I have a chance. If not, not as likely.

This isn't chauvinism or some Domly ego thing, it's just compatibility. If she is a submissive by temperment, my chances are better. (Said friend is a submissive, but can't get the idea through his head.)

If you want to discover who you are take a stroll through a bad neighborhood about midnight. The monsters and demons will clue you in. They know who you are. While youre walking pay attention to how you really feel.

I've done this. More than once. For a while, it was my job to wander through bad neighbourhoods in the middle of the night. Never got messed with, even by the worst knuckleheads.

CLOSETDOM

Your job as a tv wrestler is what tipped me off.

I would totally buy that pay-per-view.

"SUNDAY! SUNDAY! SUNDAY!! IN A LOCKED CAGE MATCH, LIBRARIAN RAGE!! CUTIEMOUSE AND THE PITTSDOWN BARBARIAN LIBRARIAN!!! SUNDAY! SUNDAY! SUNDAY!! PAGES WILL FLY!!!"

I would be right there watching. That would own.

 

[CutieMouse]

I would totally buy that pay-per-view.

"SUNDAY! SUNDAY! SUNDAY!! IN A LOCKED CAGE MATCH, LIBRARIAN RAGE!! CUTIEMOUSE AND THE PITTSDOWN BARBARIAN LIBRARIAN!!! SUNDAY! SUNDAY! SUNDAY!! PAGES WILL FLY!!!"

I would be right there watching. That would own.

Best. Quip. Ever.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

HOMBURG

Exactly. Even predators know who to mess with and who to leave alone. Ted Bundy did. I know who turns me on, and when I get a boner I immediately know all about the woman who gives me the erection. It's not ego, it's knowing yourself.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

CLOSETDOM

I dated one or two librarians. You people dont fool me.

 

[CutieMouse]

CLOSETDOM

I dated one or two librarians. You people dont fool me.

Mr. Johnson,

I'm not a librarian; I'm a kinky prude (and submissive) who owns a small business dealing in vintage lingerie and clothing, with a background in cataloguing 15th - 18th century books. The "librarian" comments are kind of an inside joke on the board, because I tend to research things a lot. In other words, I ain't your typical librarian.

 

[Homburg]

Best. Quip. Ever.

I was hoping you'd like it. I was afraid you'd use the Flying Late Book Fee Death Clutch on me if you didn't.

HOMBURG

Exactly. Even predators know who to mess with and who to leave alone. Ted Bundy did. I know who turns me on, and when I get a boner I immediately know all about the woman who gives me the erection. It's not ego, it's knowing yourself.

Pretty much. I've wandered into areas that had a couple of police officers I know asking me how I made it out okay. Never worried me. I don't get bothered when I'm out. Hell, I've had people cross the street to get out of my way.

That comment about the boner and knowing the woman as a result is interesting. I basically had that happen recently when I met "w", and years ago with "v". In each case, there was immediate, powerful, and visceral interest. I knew immediately that this was an incredible person that I would be compatible with, and had no question about what I needed to do to get somewhere.

Fortunately this sort of reaction does not happen very often.

 

[Homburg]

Mr. Johnson,

I'm not a librarian; I'm a kinky prude (and submissive) who owns a small business dealing in vintage lingerie and clothing, with a background in cataloguing 15th - 18th century books. The "librarian" comments are kind of an inside joke on the board, because I tend to research things a lot. In other words, I ain't your typical librarian.

It would be so freaking hot if you were though. Wow. The way you talk about books, ooh, grabs me down deep, someplace dark and... literate. *shudder*

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

CLOSETDOM

I predict we're gonna see you on the news some night.

You remind me of a fish I read about. The other fishes think the fish is bait and they nibble on him and eat little pieces of him until he devours them. I think that's you.

Hannibal Lecter liked old books, too.

 

[saw_man1]

You have it all wrong

You don't spot a Dominant. We spot you and we're never wrong.

 

[CutieMouse]

CLOSETDOM

I predict we're gonna see you on the news some night.

You remind me of a fish I read about. The other fishes think the fish is bait and they nibble on him and eat little pieces of him until he devours them. I think that's you.

Hannibal Lecter liked old books, too.

Hmmm... I devour "dominant" egos for lunch; does that count?

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

CLOSETDOM

You just keep confirming my claim. The real you keeps ooozing out.

 

[CutieMouse]

CLOSETDOM

You just keep confirming my claim. The real you keeps ooozing out.

And Mr. Johnson, you keep confirming my opinion that you are an abrasive, arrogant, ignorant fool with little or no understanding of BDSM.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

MS. MOUSE

If you go back and check I'm pretty confident you'll find a post of mine where I said I DONT KNOW SQUAT ABOUT BDSM. I dont know the secret passwords. I dont have a secret decoder ring. I have no leather thongs or any of the OFFICIAL TOYS.

My kink is psychological.

So get it out of your head that youre gonna lure me to your used underwear shop, tie me up, and tickle me.

 

[saw_man1]

If you go back and check I'm pretty confident you'll find a post of mine where I said I DONT KNOW SQUAT ABOUT BDSM.

Then why are you here? You certainly aren't her to learn.
Are you here to harass women and make a general ass of yourself?

 

[CutieMouse]

MS. MOUSE

If you go back and check I'm pretty confident you'll find a post of mine where I said I DONT KNOW SQUAT ABOUT BDSM. I dont know the secret passwords. I dont have a secret decoder ring. I have no leather thongs or any of the OFFICIAL TOYS.

My kink is psychological.

So get it out of your head that youre gonna lure me to your used underwear shop, tie me up, and tickle me.

Mr. Johnson, I'm confused. If you know nothing about BDSM, then how do you know enough to classify people as dominant or submissive? I will agree I am not a spineless, meek, wilting flower; however, that doesn't mean I'm not submissive (in the BDSM sense, at least)... or have you been stomping about the forum, stirring things up just to entertain yourself with a psychological game?

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

Where have you been?
Click on the IGNORE button if you dont like my comments.
I'm here because I can be. But to be honest with you I'm collecting information. Like Jane Whatshersface, the chimp lady. And I feel at home. God knows why! So, have a banana and go away. SHOOOOO!

 

[saw_man1]

Sure you are

Collecting information? Certainly you a man of your stature should have been able to come up with a more plausible lie.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

CUTIEMOUSE

No, dear. The real question is: Why are you smitten with me? I am touching something in you.

 

[CutieMouse]

CUTIEMOUSE

No, dear. The real question is: Why are you smitten with me? I am touching something in you.

Interesting... I thought it was more that I don't like "my" forum fucked with, and the more I push your buttons, the more foolish you look.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

SAW MAN

I never lie. I'm not smart enough to lie. People see thru me instantly, and it makes me look worse than I already am.

But I am assembling a plot for a book about a couple involved in BDSM. Its a murder-mystery.