How young is too young for BDSM?

[duckiesmut]

To me, the legality of the situation is the first factor. You've got to be 18. After that, it's all on the personal level. You can be 18 years old with the emotional and sexual maturity of a 6 year old. The idea of a 'How young is too young' question, to me, boils down to a question that needs to be answered for each person individually.

 

[garylee]

too young?

under 21 is too young in my eyes........

garylee

 

[Sodality]

How young is too young



This is a very tough question. Because, the laws of "consenting adult" vary with each state, and country, or province one lives in. If I had to come up with an answer too young would be any age that can get your S/O arrested for statutory Rape. Not only that but...I am not saying all the time, but sometimes the mind of the individual is not quite ready, despite what we may feel, to undergo some of the more intense activities.

On another forum grown adults playing a rape scene completely consentual, ended up in court, to which the male Dominant lost most of his 20's because the female sub could not mentally handle the situation and activity, thereby reporting him to the police he was in jail for rape..........

I suppose sometimes adults cant handle situations either, so where is the real line? Poses a whole new question with a whole new set of answers I know.... But bottom line, if the person is psychologically ready to handle the intensity...Play away, just remember in some places 15 will get you 20.

 

[Little Bird]

I think anyone old enough for sex is old enough for bdsm.

Sadly there are many who seem themself later as "much to young then"...

 

[garylee]

old enough?

I think anyone old enough for sex is old enough for bdsm.

Sadly there are many who seem themself later as "much to young then"...


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then you feel 12 year olds are okay in this????????

i think not......
i had my first sex at 10......would that be okay for me to be a slave then?

garylee

 

[arctic-stranger]

Many people are still developing sexually at 18 (males and female) and probably should not commit to one thing very seriously.

By 21 they have a better sense of who they are sexually. But even then it can take a long time to explore the hidden desires.

Frankly i want someone who can not only give head, but use their head, given the fact that our brain is our largest sexual organ. I want someone who can discuss sex, and other things, intelligently.

If they use the word "like" more than twice in a spoken paragraph, I am not interested in anything long term. That almost neccessitates an older person (although there are few young diamonds out there as well.)

 

[Never]

The last time this topic was raised, I said that everyone should wait five years after losing their virginity before venturing into BDSM. Obviously that is just my opinion!

Let me see, I lost my virginity at 20 and I'm 23 now... Two more years of repression. Yeah, I can deal with that.

 

[Aeroil]

well, for starters, I am definately NOT 17, I am 18.......but I think 17 is old enough, despite the fact that I am indeed 18, but I was interested in BDSM ever since I was 17, I just didn't join the forum until I was 18

 

[garylee]

age 18?

omg!!!

i feel SO old.........at 51.....

anyone seen my cane?

garylee

 

[Netzach]

I got sexually active at 19, wanted to get into SM at 20 and didn't make it to the pervert station till I was 22. I'm 31 now. I think the timing was perfect for me. I know a lot of skills for someone my age, though I am amazed at the proficiency of some of the 25-26 year olds I know who got more connected to the skilled people in the community right away. The older I get, the longer it takes me to learn new shit, much as I hate to admit it.