Humiliation Help: How to make a man blush

[sullivan96]

phone calls

i had an exgf once call an old friend in her home state. she told her friend that i was sitting in a chair blindfolded with my hands cuffed behind my back.

 

[BiaTcHiNFiRe]

How to make a man blush?

http://i324.photobucket.com/albums/k353/hispeanut/sawunaked.gif

LOL

 

[CynicSan]

I'll...never be a sub. Ever. But I know dominating a man isn't too different then dominating a woman. You ask me a lot of submissive men might as well be women.

The panties thing may be a little too much. You have to realize your goals. Do you want to satisfy your fetish or do you want to see him rose cheeked and squirming?

I suggest do a little more dirty talk with him first. Find out what he likes and what really turns him on. If you play more to your fetishes than his he may end up walking out.

Personally I'd go down the route of pleasure denial. Cuff his arms behind him and pleasure yourself in front of him. Make it so that he isn't allowed for his dick until he begs for his mistress to let him do so. If you want to be real evil start playing to some of his fetishes/turn ons that DON'T involve sexual areas. Get him to that state where he'll practically beg for it. That's when you make him do things that humiliate him. Make him admit things by asking him questions.

The key to making a person degrade themselves is not forcing them to say it. If they say it JUST because they were told it means NOTHING. Your goal is to make them to admit and acknowledge.

Saying "I'm just a pathetic slave who wants to pleasure you" means nothing if his dick isn't aching to get wet and he openly admits that is what he is.

COURSE....everyone has their own style.

 

[kept_man]

Blusher

Last week my wife planned a special night for me to play her "bitch". She always adds in plenty of humiliation on these occasions, but on this evening she decided to kick it up a notch.
I made reservations at one the the city's finest restaurants, and we planned to have cocktails at an outdoor cafe prior to dinner. As she dressed for the night, I took a long shower and shaved my cock, balls, and ass as she requested. When I came into the bedroom, I noticed she had laid out some items for me to wear while out on the town -> fishnet crotchless pantyhose, one of her sexy thongs, and a buttplug. She told me to put them on under my trousers, so I could feel like a sexy slut during the whole night.
Needless to say, as soon as I slipped on the pantyhose my cock was hard as a rock. I finished dressing as she had ordered and then we headed out the door towards the cafe a few blocks away. With each step I could feel my hose-encased legs sliding against my pants and before long my thong was wet with precum. As we walked through the crowded streets, she would ask if I felt like a "sexy bitch", because she was going to make me into hers later that night.
Throughout the night, she would smile as I walked gingerly to avoid dropping the plug from my "pussy", and tease me when I headed for the men's room, saying, "if those guys in there see your slutty pantyhose, you might just end up sucking some cock before the night is through".
I was blushing the whole time we were out in public with our little secret. But once we got back to our room, the blushing stopped and the begging began...........

 

[Netzach]

I'll...never be a sub. Ever. But I know dominating a man isn't too different then dominating a woman. You ask me a lot of submissive men might as well be women.

While I pretty much agree with what you said, you are sure of this how? Had male subs?

And a lot of Dominant men might as well be women. A lot of Dominant women might as well be men. A lot of submissive girls might as well be boys. What does this mean exactly?

 

[CynicSan]

While I pretty much agree with what you said, you are sure of this how? Had male subs?

And a lot of Dominant men might as well be women. A lot of Dominant women might as well be men. A lot of submissive girls might as well be boys. What does this mean exactly?

Simple observations of society. I never had a male sub as I'm straight. But I've actually had several male subs approach me in the past wishing to become playthings. I, being a bastard, would give them false hope and turn them down because I'd have no interest in them. I noticed from them a lot of their reactions, mannerisms, and mindset are quite similar to women. Not only that I have been friends with some male subs and if I speak to them online I often get a "I'm talking to a woman" feeling from them. Of course I'm talking about a younger generation here, it seems scene/emo/Japanese culture is perpetuating the imagery more feminine guys.

Of course, like almost everything in this world, this isn't true for all.

If you also want to look deeper, please don't take me completely serious on this, traditional society dictates that males are in the dominant position and females in the submissive position. One could say BDSM migrated from the patriarchal or patriarchal-like societies to form a sexual extreme. As such one in a submissive role would end up adapting many characteristics of a woman. Of course this is more of a philosophical idea then a statement saying "this is true without a doubt."

To explain the vice versa...meme theory states aspects in society will evolve/mutate and depending on the mutation will form lasting fads and/or dictate other aspects of society. Female Doms possibly could have emerged as a sort of counter-culture to traditional society or be part of the strengthening role women have on society.

I guess that explains my thought process on that statement. Personal experience and philosophy told. But, of course, I am not saying EVERY male sub acts like that. There exists the loyal lapdogs type of male sub, after all. Or the "obedient pool boys."

 

[Netzach]

Simple observations of society. I never had a male sub as I'm straight. But I've actually had several male subs approach me in the past wishing to become playthings. I, being a bastard, would give them false hope and turn them down because I'd have no interest in them. I noticed from them a lot of their reactions, mannerisms, and mindset are quite similar to women. Not only that I have been friends with some male subs and if I speak to them online I often get a "I'm talking to a woman" feeling from them. Of course I'm talking about a younger generation here, it seems scene/emo/Japanese culture is perpetuating the imagery more feminine guys.

Of course, like almost everything in this world, this isn't true for all.

If you also want to look deeper, please don't take me completely serious on this, traditional society dictates that males are in the dominant position and females in the submissive position. One could say BDSM migrated from the patriarchal or patriarchal-like societies to form a sexual extreme. As such one in a submissive role would end up adapting many characteristics of a woman. Of course this is more of a philosophical idea then a statement saying "this is true without a doubt."

To explain the vice versa...meme theory states aspects in society will evolve/mutate and depending on the mutation will form lasting fads and/or dictate other aspects of society. Female Doms possibly could have emerged as a sort of counter-culture to traditional society or be part of the strengthening role women have on society.

I guess that explains my thought process on that statement. Personal experience and philosophy told. But, of course, I am not saying EVERY male sub acts like that. There exists the loyal lapdogs type of male sub, after all. Or the "obedient pool boys."

I simply find that submissive people vastly outnumber Dominant ones sexually. The idea that most submissive men are feminine is pretty much one of those myths that turn off women who aren't into that. I'd say that there as as many masculine/butch men who are submissives but are put off by the desexualizing crap loaded onto the F/m scene. It's not even feminization half the time it's "de-sexification" I'm all for feminization that's erotic, but most people can't even fathom that femininity in a man can be erotic so they go for dowdy and humiliating.

 

[CynicSan]

I simply find that submissive people vastly outnumber Dominant ones sexually. The idea that most submissive men are feminine is pretty much one of those myths that turn off women who aren't into that. I'd say that there as as many masculine/butch men who are submissives but are put off by the desexualizing crap loaded onto the F/m scene. It's not even feminization half the time it's "de-sexification" I'm all for feminization that's erotic, but most people can't even fathom that femininity in a man can be erotic so they go for dowdy and humiliating.

Quite the argument. And I definitely agree with you that there are more submissive people then the dominant. But you seem to think I'm under the assumption most male subs are thin, prettyboys (a-la Japanese "are they really men?") types that are prominent in the fantasies of an overwhelming number of young girls these days. I'm speaking in terms of...mannerisms and not appearance.

While I know it's quite sexist to say so, the "traditional" mannerisms of a male are quite dominant. In traditional sense males are in charge and the "leaders of the house". What we often see in BDSM are merely over-sexual and extreme things we see in a "traditional" marriage of a man and woman. As such I propose dominant traits are more masculine. And, vice versa, traits we view as submissive are generally feminine. As such, submissive people adapt many feminine traits in sexuality and the like.

The other part is personal experience. I have yet to meet a male sub that retains his masculinity. But I do not deny their existence. Hence why I referred to the loyal lap dog--you know the type. The one who obeys his mistress's every whim and is willing to fight for her like some knight in shining armor on a leash.

COURSE....I'll counter-argue my own argument to prove a point. If we think deeply isn't it true that in most relationships the woman is the dominant one? Afterall, in a consenting relationship she is generally the one who ultimately decides on when sex happens. In order to get carnal pleasure, the man has to please her through courting and gifts. As such one could argue that domination is more female then male as it is women who could manipulate men. After all, I'm sure there are women here who have hinted sex for a guy just to get something--course not all will go through with it.

The point is simple. We could argue semantics all the time but both domination and submission are unisex--they only take gender roles depending on the situation.

 

[Netzach]

"I have yet to meet a male sub that retains his masculinity. But I do not deny their existence"

Could this be because they're not participants in a subculture that denies their existence whenever they get there?

That's mah point.

As to the rest, more or less agreement. I think we *assign* masculinity and femininty to D or s as a culture, yes, but it's pretty much bullshit. The whole point of the BDSM subcultural moniker is that you can be submissive AND have a vag, not submissive BECAUSE you have a vag, but that's a matter of opinion.

 

[hoodooman]

oh baby

a little gold "slut" necklace and bracelet worn in public is a constant threat of being outed....flirt with the waiter at a decent restaurant...explain that your friend likes his type...

and dress cute sexy...short skirts and heels and etc....flirt with any man...

take him to a bar and speculate on which customer or employee might allow your bf to suck his dick...strike up a conversation with a big man and explain that you want to find a man for your sissy boy...

make him dress slutty sexy and order anything to be delivered....i bet the slut can't look the delivery person in the eye....remind the slut to "keep your knees together when you sit" with an authoritative voice...then laugh ....

say something to the deliverer like "you know how these sissy boys need to be reminded"....."last night i caught him trying to get the delivery guy to fuck him...he got spanked hard for that"