Humiliation Help: How to make a man blush

[twysted73]

I don't enjoy being the voice of potential doom.

I really don't. Infact, my thing is the "I told you so" moment. Far more humiliating when I knew ahead of time and mentioned it.

But I've noticed a pattern in D/s. Pay very close attention, you'll notice this later.

But newcomers who are just breaking into the lifestyle are very much like virgins or young teens when they start out with sex for the first time.

Very impressionable. Very.....suceptable. What happens in the first few months/years will embed those erotic ideals and actions deeply within the psyche.
This may help in later years when his performance isn't as it used to be and you bring out an "old toy" from the box to get him going agian.

However.......it also has it's flip side.
I simply hope you don't come home to find him wearing your underwear out of preference. (or more extreme, with his best male friend in tow)

Unless.....of course, this is also considered a bonus for you. In which case....enjoy.

 

[Netzach]

I don't enjoy being the voice of potential doom.

I really don't. Infact, my thing is the "I told you so" moment. Far more humiliating when I knew ahead of time and mentioned it.

But I've noticed a pattern in D/s. Pay very close attention, you'll notice this later.

But newcomers who are just breaking into the lifestyle are very much like virgins or young teens when they start out with sex for the first time.

Very impressionable. Very.....suceptable. What happens in the first few months/years will embed those erotic ideals and actions deeply within the psyche.
This may help in later years when his performance isn't as it used to be and you bring out an "old toy" from the box to get him going agian.

However.......it also has it's flip side.
I simply hope you don't come home to find him wearing your underwear out of preference. (or more extreme, with his best male friend in tow)

Unless.....of course, this is also considered a bonus for you. In which case....enjoy.

What ...the...fuck?

When has any post from the newbie M/f M OR f resulted in "ooo watch out, you're going to turn her into a REAL cocksucking whore, she won't know when to stop!"

OMG.

Uh. Yeah.

I hate to say this but these questions are sometimes better asked in communities that have more F/m presence than like, six people.
Bullshit 1:

men who like things other than cotton next to their dick have to have teh gay.

bullshit 2:

SM BD D/s is like addictive drugs that you have to make more and more intense and ramp up and change constantly. Lace and spanking are gateway drugs to gangbangs and horsefucking.

Uh no.


Do you like to kiss?

Do you still do it pretty much the same way you have your whole life? Have you been compelled to get more and more of your tongue in there to the point where you eventually want to have it cut off and glued to her esophagus, or do you kind of stick with the same program, yet it remains exciting?

So it is with SM for most people.

 

[nh23]

What ...the...fuck?

When has any post from the newbie M/f M OR f resulted in "ooo watch out, you're going to turn her into a REAL cocksucking whore, she won't know when to stop!"

OMG.

Uh. Yeah.

I hate to say this but these questions are sometimes better asked in communities that have more F/m presence than like, six people.

LOL..just what I was thinking. It kind of reminds me of the watch out gay is catching bullshit.

 

[Netzach]

The OP came in with a nice, workable, erotic idea. HER idea.

A person with a good idea and a good sense of their partner, and reaching within reach of beginning fun. While the OP *asked* for "ideas" - in my mind there was an idea.

Most women with any kind of top interest or desire, being solicited/elicited by their bf or gf or not have never ever never in their lives had these feelings or interests validated.

"Any ideas" also means "this is ok, right?" to some extent. Almost always.

Had the OP had a femsub I think this post would have been night and day different.

The bottom line is that this little subculture here, which I do enjoy so, does not really understand or want to understand F/m. Male submission scares the shit out of mainstream BDSM. Female Dominance doesn't really actually exist, it's just an enabler for male fantasies of submission which are ew weird.

 

[subbie_333]

The bottom line is that this little subculture here, which I do enjoy so, does not really understand or want to understand F/m. Male submission scares the shit out of mainstream BDSM.

( wakes up with a loud *SNORT* )

Huh? What? You mean i actually scare people, like, in a way other than being batshit fucking crazy? Like, geez, i *might* have some, um, like, "power" to scare the horses?!?!?!?!

WOO HOO

Female Dominance doesn't really actually exist, it's just an enabler for male fantasies of submission which are ew weird.

Damn, see, like that's not funny, getting my hopes up and then dropping this on me. But, i always knew i was weird. My nieces even call me "Weird Uncle {RL-name}" and they don't even know how weird.

 

[Netzach]

( wakes up with a loud *SNORT* )

Huh? What? You mean i actually scare people, like, in a way other than being batshit fucking crazy? Like, geez, i *might* have some, um, like, "power" to scare the horses?!?!?!?!

WOO HOO

Yes.

Damn, see, like that's not funny, getting my hopes up and then dropping this on me. But, i always knew i was weird. My nieces even call me "Weird Uncle {RL-name}" and they don't even know how weird.

Then change it. F/m has to change that part for itself.

 

[Feelfreetotouch]

you need to send him out to buy panties for you (in your size). Once he comes back from this errand, his next task is to put them on for you. Then you tell him to keep them on , get dressed and go to the nearest sex shop to buy a but plug and lube. He must tell the sales lady that his Mistress has ordered him to buy his first toy.

That should make him blush.

 

[twysted73]

Humiliation play. Sitting you in a chair. Clothed. Tarp under you.
Sitting across from you. Enjoying your discomfort.
Giving yu glass after glass of water.
Having a small "bed, bath & beyond" table-top water fall going on the table next to me.
Seeing how long you can hold out until you can't anymore and let go.
Then enjoying the added humiliation of watching you sit in your own piss. And then have you masturbate in it until you come.
Then I get to laugh at you.
If you're going to do humiliation, do it correctly. I admire thoroughness. And the best rout, the deepest, is when you go for the childhood humiliations.
What mortifies you as a child can sometimes terrorize you as an adult.

 

[subbie_333]

Then change it. F/m has to change that part for itself.

hhhmmm OK, i was rifling through the things i could say right here (half of them being another smart-ass comment), but, You have inspired me to START A THREAD! Cus, like, i don't wanna hijack this thread. And, it scares more horses to start a thread than it does to hijack one.

 

[Netzach]

hhhmmm OK, i was rifling through the things i could say right here (half of them being another smart-ass comment), but, You have inspired me to START A THREAD! Cus, like, i don't wanna hijack this thread. And, it scares more horses to start a thread than it does to hijack one.

Rock on.

 

[subbie_333]

If you're going to do humiliation, do it correctly.

Damn straight!

 

[oneguy4fun]

I do think he's going to be reluctant to put them on, and aroused by the fact that I make him do it. The teasing is going to be more in terms of making fun of how aroused he is (if the commands don't do it, a hand job will).
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Lily - I think you're right on with this thought. That's the part of the joy of being dominated - knowing that your doing something because your made to do it. Although, you and he may be surprised at how aroused he gets from it.

Silky panties are definitely good because they will feel soo good against his cock. Rather than make fun of him, I think encouraging him would add to his embrassament and arousal. Saying things like "They look so pretty and sexy on you.....you look so cute....It's turning me on seeing you dressed in panties." Maybe even exxagerate your arousal slightly when he's in the panties. Also, you putting the panties on him could be exciting. Make sure you pull them up nice and snug.

IF all goes well, you could comment at how exciting it was and that you should shop for more panties. Then take him out the next day to buy panties. This could still be private, because you are the only ones that know you are shopping for him.

Good luck

 

[twysted73]

OP....you have my apologies.

Lost my mind a couple posts back. I suppose those whispering from family that medication might help just may have merit.


I hate retractions. But it's all part and parcel of learning. Myself most definitely included.

C'est la Vie

 

[ataxia.girl]

Very impressionable. Very.....suceptable. What happens in the first few months/years will embed those erotic ideals and actions deeply within the psyche.

i was going to post in regard to this but now that you've retracted i suppose you want it to just drop. Oh well...

i happen to think you're onto something. i don't think its a reason not to do something which could be powerful for someone. i do think i have some very specific triggers now introduced by BD that are proving extremely difficult to let go of. Perhaps its a chicken\egg sort of thing though. He saw ageplay was going to push my buttons and he used it. Now i wonder if i will forever be searching for the D who knows how to play Daddy just like he did. The preference for ageplay was already there, He just gave it definition.

i do find i struggle with separating the concept in general from the particular objects, actions and words he used. i continually have to remind myself that this is not BD and they are not going to be just like him and are not going to use the same methods he used to put me in that space.

It was always going to be a trigger for me no matter who did it the first time or exactly how they orchestrated it. It was inevitable.

 

[DreamSensualist]

......

 

[twysted73]

What?

No, I retracted the impression that I was wishing some tranny doom on her relationship.

Everything else is spot on. I know I'm right.

I'm my own lab test result. Why the hell else would I love giving oral so fucking much?
If you know me, you know why.






.

 

[sissy_sweetguy]

This depends on his anatomy, but if you want to take it further you can also tease him for having a small(er) cock. This especially works if he has no problem getting into the panties and wearing them. Can even be a tease like "oh might mistake you for a girl..." or something more "severe" its really up to you, but I'm sure that'll get his face to turn red.

 

[FaustARP]

this thread is hot.

 

[twiggy_the_spider]

my ex used to work in a supermarket so when he was working I would go up to his till with panties in his size to buy just to watch him blush. no one knew but us of course but it used to make me laugh.

Anyways, it sounds like a really fun idea, I think you should just see how it goes and if you enjoy it maybe bring in more feminization (sp?) next time. What people said about being made to wear them in public has worked well for me, so during the evening you can say stuff to him that you know will embarrass him (imagine what that cute waitress would think if she knew... oh my god, I can see them over your jeans.. tease tease etc etc.)
x

 

[DreamSensualist]

How'd it go?

......

 

[sullivan96]

simple but effective

i like hearing slaves say dirty things while doing, shall we say provactive acts. have him bend over and spread his ass cheeks saying: 'i like women looking at my ass hole.'

 

[Mistress_Lyla]

Another idea:
Something that I have found to be very useful in getting a man to blush when doing something like this is a full length mirror. Stand it in front of him, make him pull his pretty panties to the side and rub himself for you while he tells you how much he loves wearing pretty panties...
OR
first make him pleasure you...getting your panties sticky wet and slip them over his neck while he performs the above.
Seeing himself in the mirror...emasculated, wearing girly panties, your own cream filled panties twisted around his neck as he jerks for you while you make him tell you how he feels, how he looks... he'll be blushing in no time!


Oooh I just LOVE humiliation play !!

-Mistress Lyla

 

[TerribleChester]

I have an idea.

Strip him naked, tie him face down on the bed and stick a cucumber up his arse. Then phone his mother and tell her to come around and see him.

 

[ponysslave]

Terrible Chester...that's terrible....quite funny though. Ha.

 

[waterkemist]

Give him a nice slow enema. Then, call up a friend, for real or pretend, and tell her about his reaction while he is in the room.