Is it cheating?

[janisjoplin197888]

my husband also feels this way about me and other women. His exact words were" it's not cheating unless you leave me for her, and I'm pretty sure you're heterosexual so you won't" If I sleep with another guy it's cheating, but I can have all the girls I want and it's not.

Lol, sounds like my b/f..........his onlu stiulation would be (and I quote) "As long as I get to be involved." He needs to realize,,,,,,What he won't know,won't hurt him. I can't do that tho, I'm a greedy bitch, I aint sharing! I get to have my cake and eat it too!

 

[Shallkneel4u]

Lol, sounds like my b/f..........his onlu stiulation would be (and I quote) "As long as I get to be involved." He needs to realize,,,,,,What he won't know,won't hurt him. I can't do that tho, I'm a greedy bitch, I aint sharing! I get to have my cake and eat it too!

You can be as greedy as you want, and have that double standard where you can sleep with other women, but you are not sharing, but it will eventually lead to serious problems between the two of you. It also shows a huge sense of immaturity and insecurity on your on part when you are willing to allow yourself to have other lovers, but your husband or your boyfriend may not. Doubble standards are a sure fire recipe for ending up broken up or in divorce court.

As for what someone does not know not hurting them...they eventually do find out, and secrets are just another way of cheating and ruining the foundation of trust that a successful relationship depends on.

Shall

 

[WhisperHaven]

forgiveness

The healing will only begin once you stop playing the blame game and decide whether or not you can and will forgive. If you decide to forgive, establish communication and rules and live by them.

Do not continue to forgive if the rules continue to be broken. However, everyone is human and I don't think anyone is without at least one transgression in their lifetime.

Coming out is very difficult for some people and perhaps it may have been a situation of him feeling that maybe he would try it once, not like it, and get it out of his system, without being put at risk for being thought of as "sick, twisted, unusual, abnormal" or any of the other labels society (and likely he) puts on the homosexual community.