Is it Trust or Self Delusion / Wishful Thinking

[graceanne]

I mean people who've posted on this thread. Of course there are people on the forum who get on my nerves. That's life, no matter where you go you're gonna find people you don't get along with. *shrugs*

 

[Marquis]

And there will always be people who are meek and accomodating, and there will be those with a higher level of ontological security.

 

[incubus'_sub]

I'm not the type to pack up my ball & go home just because there is disagreement over my views & opinions. I'm not going to stop expressing them either just because someone, somewhere may decide to take offence.

I haven't been rude to anyone unless asking them to give reasons for their own beliefs has somehow become a rudeness.
I explained my own mistrust of the online thing quite honestly.

There's a general trend throughout some parts of the world now to be so politically correct that it's considered an intolerance to express an opinion about almost anything. Both the US & now Australia, majority Christian countries, now consider it potentially offensive to say Merry Christmas. From what I've heard, the minority religions couldn't really care less one way or the other & in fact think it's funny. They're right, it is.

I haven't been around here long enough to remember the Cafe Wars. I have been around long enough to notice that a lot of very experienced real life regular posters have left in the last year. Is it not better to talk about problems as you see them than to abandon something you mostly enjoy because of them?

 

[Marquis]

It's only funny because people don't have the tact or concern to hide the awkwardness of their pc greeting.

 

[Mr Blonde]

Time to wrap it up

incubus_sub, during the last week you have inquired about how trust is formed during online BDSM relationships. Considering how this forum is now mostly made up of online people, the very lack of replies more than confirms your suspicions.

Amidst five pages of posts the only meaningful attempt at an explanation came from Escleva. Even if I seriously dispute the points she was trying to make, at least she "answered the call" and I can respect her integrity.

Unless anyone else wants to come in and try to explain how trust is formed during an online BDSM relationship, I suggest we let this thread drop off the front page and move on to the next topic.

 

[Netzach]

canihavethelastword canihavethelastword canihavethelastword?

Who left? what is going on, what am I missing?

I'm here, most of the people I post with and in response to do some form of BDSM D/s in real life, I suspect a lot of real lifers are just busy with life more than disgusted with the forum.

 

[Netzach]

double post

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

I have been around long enough to notice that a lot of very experienced real life regular posters have left in the last year. Is it not better to talk about problems as you see them than to abandon something you mostly enjoy because of them?

Not necessarily. I don't see the point in raising problems that are insurmountable....this thread simply and effectively points that out. I feel most comfortable in an environment that is composed of more realtime people. Therefore, I spend more time on another board that I feel provides that.

That doesn't necessarily mean that I have left this one. It just means that I don't have much to add to the conversations here anymore. I don't care about online BDSM, have no interest in it, and won't participate in threads discussing it, for the most part. I'm not going to go out of my way to flame anyone for their participation in it, either.

To quote another lurking realtimer....YMMV.

~anelize

 

[graceanne]

And there will always be people who are meek and accomodating, and there will be those with a higher level of ontological security.

 

[Marquis]

Inappropriate snippiness. You have my apologies.

 

[graceanne]

Inappropriate snippiness. You have my apologies.

's ok.