Males, how do you feel about sexually / socially dominant women?

[rosco rathbone]

I've got many dominant female friends.

For fucking, I need deferential. I'm the guy women are always complaining about..."why are you so intimidated by strong women". I just don't find them sexy in the slightest.

 

[meljeffmo]

Love a Strong Woman

Strong in the sense that she will take the lead and be assertive! I do not care for a woman that dominates just to dominate. But, I do enjoy a woman who makes sure her rights are not trambled.

I grew up with four sisters and so I have been used to women and their ways.

My sister warned me that men often like strong women while dating and then weaker ones when married.

I have surrounded myself with women friends all my like that were strong. I like them strong intellectually, emotionially and sexually. I like a take charg kind of woman. I have enjoyed giving myself to others sexually even did it in sexual play as kid - grew up with 4 sisters and always lived in neighborhood where the girls were the dominate sex.

 

[smotherman]

Let me put it this way, I live, eat, sleep, breathe for Dominant Women in every aspect of life.

 

[JamieB]

Dommes

I've known several Domme's, and a couple of them used to be good friends until I sort of got out of the lifestyle and lost track of them. I was a Dom with a switchy streak, meaning with the right woman, the right situation, the right level of trust...whatever. I have gotten a lot of heat about that (one of the reasons I sort of chucked the whole thing), but I think it makes me qualified to address the point.

Seems to me a dominant, male or female, has to radiate confidence and at least have a general idea what the hell they're doing. That holds true in both sexual, work, and social situations. The key point is, it can be done without being an egotistical, self-serving jackass.

So, my point is simple. Domme or Dom, if they're calm and confident and sure and know what they're doing, I like them. Egotistical, self-serving jackasses, not so much.

J

 

[carverII]

It's good to be a switch. I like (as EG puts it) both sides of the flogger. If she is going to be dominant, then I want the whole package, socially and sexually. Same goes for her being submissive.

 

[twysted73]

Like a few listed I switch. I enjoy agressively sexual women. Someone who meets my own predatory/animalistic impulses. It's an integral element for my partner to be as "hungry" as I am.

As for her being dominant overall, it has it's ups and downs I'm sure. I like options. So for her to be dominant 24/7, it would undoubtedly get on my nerves after a while. That's when my own Dominant side would assert itself. (if we're speaking in terms of a relationship that's non-D/s-based)

 

[Imagetaker]

My two cents...

Ripping off WriterDom. Your question about submissive men got me thinking and curious.

Gentlemen - submissive or otherwise,

How do you feel about sexually dominant women?

How do you feel about socially dominant ones?



I am looking forward to your opinions. Thank you for taking the time and sharing.

I am typically a dominant (but low key) kinda guy. But in life, variety is good. There's a great Leon Redbone song "I Want to Be Seduced". Sometimes its nice to be the passenger and have someone else drive for a change -- in social and sexual situations.

Personally, I find stronger women to be more interesting and erotic. And by stronger I don't mean my partner needs to be a Dominatrix. To stimulate my imagination and libido a woman cannot be totally passive and yielding.

 

[smotherman]

I think I am going to invite some of my Dominant Female friends from myspace to join this forum. We definitely need more on here lol

 

[chauderlos]

As others have said, I don't really care about the sexual preferences of either women or men. An asshole (I mean, by my standards) will be an asshole, no matter if s/he's a Dom/me or not.

Socially, I go along pretty well with Dominant women. I have been working with female bosses, without more problems than I had with male bosses (with the notable exception of my current boss, who is stupid, period, her gender has nothing to do with it).

 

[FreelanceGamer]

My fiance and i switch with each other often...depends on our moods. Socially, i am more dominant than she is. She is still working on really coming out of her shell, so to speak. But she has had much more of a 'take charge' attitude towards life recently and it makes me want to have her dominate me in the bedroom even more!

 

[Guest]

As a general rule, I prefer Dominant women... but then, I'm a collared submissive, so go figure!

I like being sexually dominated (never could make a vanilla relationship work, and finally figured out why), but it has to be the right person. No spark, no chemistry, no reaction.

Of course, I like a little foreplay, too. "Let's fuck" or "On your knees and worship Me" as opening lines leave quite a bit to be desired, as far as I'm concerned.

In social settings, I dislike Dominant women, or men, who are so insecure, or so clueless about human interactions, that they're one-dimensional. (Pick your label for which dimension.) Dominant and ridiculously rigid are NOT a turn-on. Dominance, flexibility, and a sense of perspective about the whole thing definitely are. A sense of humor helps, too.

 

[mirrors2]

I enjoy both, but God and Devil save them if they're idiots.

Actually, that goes for men and women who're sexually or socially dominant.

 

[YourCaptor]

Other, my liking depends on whether she is kind or not.

I’m not bothered by dominant women, to be honest I’m more bothered by dominant men because they often also come with stupidity.

 

[Mistress-Flame]

Until recently I could not figure out why certain types of people had a problem with me - generally dominant themselves and continously trying to be that way with me ... I would get complaints that I was not a team player etc ... But now I recognise that they were trying to dominate me and I was just not having any of it ... I would get into all sorts of trouble because I would not bow down to them ...

I was then introduced to BDSM by someone who recognised all of the traits of a Domme within me - it certainly was a revelation ... He said that I had been in the lifestyle without even recognising it ... so from a relatively new comer, it is very interesting to note that there are so many different perspectives to this fascinating subject ...

I also feel that I am home now ... this is my place and feels familiar and comfortable ... I have learned so much in such a short space of time ... this is thanks mainly to older patient men who have guided me through the nuances of becoming a Domme ... To them I thank you most sincerely for your patience and my constant questions and information retrieving ... I consider myself a lifelong learner and hopefully this will be my life committment ... and with the help of those who I have made close friendships with ... it will continue and I will grow as an individual ...

To answer the question literally ... if I like a person then I like the person ... being dominant or not does not enter into the equation unless I have to work with them or fuck them ... a lot of my friends are dominant in nature ... but they recognise that they can not be so with me and are accepting of that fact ... Those who push me, get pushed right back ...