I don't care if I'm sounding naive or puritanical. (both of which sometimes everyone is)
But you got married to your spouses becuase:
*you loved them & wanted to be together for ever & a day
*it was convenient.
*you were brought up with the belief that if you didn't run out & get hitched, & have your 2.5 children like all your friends & neighbors you just weren't a good American
*you were afraid of being alone
*other.
But well you bit the bullet & you did that thru sickness & health, Good Times & Bad..and now, the sex is unfullfilling.
I'm not Dr. Ruth, or anyone like that. But I was always under the impression that it takes 2 people to have sex..(if you're intrested in haveing it with a partner, perferbably your spouse if that's who you're married to, & so on & so forth)
So if you don't like your sex life, than 'you're' partially to blame. There's nothing stopping you from sitting down & talking to your mate. Just they way you don't think 'they' know about your needs/desires/wishes. How are you actually 'sure' you know what there's are? You haven't really talked about it.
To the poster who's wife was sporadic before the baby, and now you won't get it till he's graduated from college. Does she have 'the baby blues'? It's got a real technical term that I don't feel like remembering now. But if she's got them, and has packed on some pounds she can't seem to shake, along w/ her hormones being outta wack. Chances are you need Couciling or She might need temporary Medical Treament/Medication.
The one poster who's husband is a Minute man (k, you said 6, but close e-damn-nough) Has he always had a problem keeping the horses in the stables? You know how there are Keagle (I think I spelled it wrong, but it's said the same way the dog breed sounds, but w/ a 'K') muscle excersises for women? Well try something like the Kama Sutra. It has excersises in it for Men to learn more endurance.
Did you try a cock ring? Heard they're supposed to be prolong your encounters, or perhaps some numbing cream, so long as he's not allergic to it, on the head of his cock, gives you more time to thrust, till he's ready to deploy tha boys. (I'm not selling the stuff, but if I remember right, Kama Sutra the actual product has a balm to use..dont' remember the name..but guys & gals they have one that's 'mint' it actually hieghtens youre nerve endings. so your lover won't let you do something wacky that's new. put a dollop on the tip of your tongue, or fingertip as your going down or strokeing. Sometimes you need to do a wee finangaling, but once they try it, chances are if you/they have a good experience/response, they'll want more, More, MORE!..Analease that's it...the stuff in like a toothpaste container..but instead of useing it for analsex, you put it on your lovers penis, like around his head. Not tons, just enough to make him numb, <it wears off, won't harm ya> then thrust away blissfully.>
To the other chick, or fellas who's partner won't give them oral. Chances are they tried it once, & the other partner wasn't hygenic enough, or they don't like the pubic hair. You can let your lover bathe you, then slather yourself with honey, or chocolate syrup, and let them lick it off. If it's the pubic hair, then if you're so inclined, you can shave/wax/whatever. (men or women, some gals cant' stand pubic hair either) If it's still a NO! Then beg them to try it, while you wear (guys) wear a condom, so they know you won't force them to swallow. (Girls) let him use a dental dam. It's like a VERY thin piece of latex, that he can stretch over your vagina (or anywhere else) and then he can lick & nibble you to your first oral little death.
If it's still a NO..then tell him he'd better make sure his/her hand isn't tired because there's no reason not to digitally stimulate you to 'O'.
Many People are suffereing from depression, or on various prescribed medications that alter thier sex drive. Not to mention the people who use recreational drink or drugs. If it used to be higher than it is now. Then think about what's changed?
* Kids? Try to get a baby sitter, so it's not going to be a weeklong sex a thon like when you were in college, but sending the kids to the Boys n Girls Club, or on purpose enrolling them into an extra curricular activity, say Boy Scouts, & carpooling, that should leave you at least an hour. Quickies 'CAN' help your sex drive survive
*Illness (unless it's extreame depression or fatigue, or communicable, use precautions ) Well make an appointment, to see your Family Physician, Phychiatrist, Sex Councilor.
*Boreing. Jesuits!! Get a how too book. So what if you know how to do it, pull out a sex manual, and go through it position by position..you know you mastered it, when you've both orgasmed doing #45 (I'm celibate in Real Life, so I hope # 45 isn't illegal in your state)
*No Time? If YOU don't make time, NO ONE Else will.
Do something different. If she watches the kids and makes your dinner all the time. Even if you burn water, you can order out. Do it in the minivan when the kids are asleep & the cars in the garage, ask your man to finger you in your pool for a midnite skinny dip.
And really the most obvious thing is BE HONEST WITH YOUR MATE!
Cheating's not the way to go. (Unless it's your mate & your fetish, then far be it from me to be judgemental) But think about it. A fucks cum & go (takeing/leaving god knows what with them & you) Your marraige is supposed to last for life & even if not, the fucking paperwork from the divorce/alimony & child support do.
(yes I have been married, yes I did have an affair on my husband, No I don't suggest it to anyone who wants to continue a relationship that's supposed to be based on trust and support. & last but not least, how would you feel if you found out your mate was on one of these boards, posting something like this behind your back? Would you feel angry because they didn't tell you 1st? Would you be pleased they were trying to find a soloution..that didn't include you? You know that old shoe on the other foot thing.)
I'm not being self righteous, or wanting anyone to flame me, or get ticked, I really hope that something I said helps someone just a little.
And as for that "All Guys Cheat" thing. From all the Anthropology things I know about it's more like Males try to spread thier seed to make sure that they have viable offspring to carry on thier genetic code. Where as Females will go to whom they see as the best provider for themselves and and thier off spring. So think of it as, the more the guy fucks around, the less appealing he is to more women, because then he's spreading himself so thin, she knows he isn't going to be there to provide, so she's going to look for another male who can.
Everyone is replaceable. If you want to be happy, just make sure that replaceable person isn't you
But you got married to your spouses becuase:
*you loved them & wanted to be together for ever & a day
*it was convenient.
*you were brought up with the belief that if you didn't run out & get hitched, & have your 2.5 children like all your friends & neighbors you just weren't a good American
*you were afraid of being alone
*other.
But well you bit the bullet & you did that thru sickness & health, Good Times & Bad..and now, the sex is unfullfilling.
I'm not Dr. Ruth, or anyone like that. But I was always under the impression that it takes 2 people to have sex..(if you're intrested in haveing it with a partner, perferbably your spouse if that's who you're married to, & so on & so forth)
So if you don't like your sex life, than 'you're' partially to blame. There's nothing stopping you from sitting down & talking to your mate. Just they way you don't think 'they' know about your needs/desires/wishes. How are you actually 'sure' you know what there's are? You haven't really talked about it.
To the poster who's wife was sporadic before the baby, and now you won't get it till he's graduated from college. Does she have 'the baby blues'? It's got a real technical term that I don't feel like remembering now. But if she's got them, and has packed on some pounds she can't seem to shake, along w/ her hormones being outta wack. Chances are you need Couciling or She might need temporary Medical Treament/Medication.
The one poster who's husband is a Minute man (k, you said 6, but close e-damn-nough
) Has he always had a problem keeping the horses in the stables? You know how there are Keagle (I think I spelled it wrong, but it's said the same way the dog breed sounds, but w/ a 'K') muscle excersises for women? Well try something like the Kama Sutra. It has excersises in it for Men to learn more endurance.Did you try a cock ring? Heard they're supposed to be prolong your encounters, or perhaps some numbing cream, so long as he's not allergic to it, on the head of his cock, gives you more time to thrust, till he's ready to deploy tha boys. (I'm not selling the stuff, but if I remember right, Kama Sutra the actual product has a balm to use..dont' remember the name..but guys & gals they have one that's 'mint' it actually hieghtens youre nerve endings. so your lover won't let you do something wacky that's new. put a dollop on the tip of your tongue, or fingertip as your going down or strokeing. Sometimes you need to do a wee finangaling, but once they try it, chances are if you/they have a good experience/response, they'll want more, More, MORE!..Analease that's it...the stuff in like a toothpaste container..but instead of useing it for analsex, you put it on your lovers penis, like around his head. Not tons, just enough to make him numb, <it wears off, won't harm ya> then thrust away blissfully.>
To the other chick, or fellas who's partner won't give them oral. Chances are they tried it once, & the other partner wasn't hygenic enough, or they don't like the pubic hair. You can let your lover bathe you, then slather yourself with honey, or chocolate syrup, and let them lick it off. If it's the pubic hair, then if you're so inclined, you can shave/wax/whatever. (men or women, some gals cant' stand pubic hair either) If it's still a NO! Then beg them to try it, while you wear (guys) wear a condom, so they know you won't force them to swallow. (Girls) let him use a dental dam. It's like a VERY thin piece of latex, that he can stretch over your vagina (or anywhere else) and then he can lick & nibble you to your first oral little death.
If it's still a NO..then tell him he'd better make sure his/her hand isn't tired because there's no reason not to digitally stimulate you to 'O'.
Many People are suffereing from depression, or on various prescribed medications that alter thier sex drive. Not to mention the people who use recreational drink or drugs. If it used to be higher than it is now. Then think about what's changed?
* Kids? Try to get a baby sitter, so it's not going to be a weeklong sex a thon like when you were in college, but sending the kids to the Boys n Girls Club, or on purpose enrolling them into an extra curricular activity, say Boy Scouts, & carpooling, that should leave you at least an hour. Quickies 'CAN' help your sex drive survive
*Illness (unless it's extreame depression or fatigue, or communicable, use precautions
) Well make an appointment, to see your Family Physician, Phychiatrist, Sex Councilor.*Boreing. Jesuits!! Get a how too book. So what if you know how to do it, pull out a sex manual, and go through it position by position..you know you mastered it, when you've both orgasmed doing #45 (I'm celibate in Real Life, so I hope # 45 isn't illegal in your state)
*No Time? If YOU don't make time, NO ONE Else will.
Do something different. If she watches the kids and makes your dinner all the time. Even if you burn water, you can order out. Do it in the minivan when the kids are asleep & the cars in the garage, ask your man to finger you in your pool for a midnite skinny dip.
And really the most obvious thing is BE HONEST WITH YOUR MATE!
Cheating's not the way to go. (Unless it's your mate & your fetish, then far be it from me to be judgemental) But think about it. A fucks cum & go (takeing/leaving god knows what with them & you) Your marraige is supposed to last for life & even if not, the fucking paperwork from the divorce/alimony & child support do.
(yes I have been married, yes I did have an affair on my husband, No I don't suggest it to anyone who wants to continue a relationship that's supposed to be based on trust and support. & last but not least, how would you feel if you found out your mate was on one of these boards, posting something like this behind your back? Would you feel angry because they didn't tell you 1st? Would you be pleased they were trying to find a soloution..that didn't include you? You know that old shoe on the other foot thing.)
I'm not being self righteous, or wanting anyone to flame me, or get ticked, I really hope that something I said helps someone just a little.
And as for that "All Guys Cheat" thing. From all the Anthropology things I know about it's more like Males try to spread thier seed to make sure that they have viable offspring to carry on thier genetic code. Where as Females will go to whom they see as the best provider for themselves and and thier off spring. So think of it as, the more the guy fucks around, the less appealing he is to more women, because then he's spreading himself so thin, she knows he isn't going to be there to provide, so she's going to look for another male who can.
Everyone is replaceable. If you want to be happy, just make sure that replaceable person isn't you
