Married But Frustrated in West Michigan

[dobb]

Hi my first post.
I hear everything your saying night. I have been married 20 years have not had sex with my wife for 6. she isn't interested.
When I asked to go to counceling with me she told me she was happy the way things were if I didnt like it i should leave.
after years of this, and years of being told it was me that had the problem I have desided to end it. last year she told me it was my problem and that maybe I needed to find someone else. I am ending this relationship. it was one sided, Now she desides she wants to get some help. I told her it was to late, she waited to long. I no longer love her and am not interested in staying with a woman who only wants me because she is affraid of being alone. I know what its like to be in a crowded room and feel all alone. I simply want to find a woman I love and who loves me in return. I thought I was the only person in Michiagn that was like this

 

[Backyard sweaty]

I got mail very interesting.........

Okay, lets see a show of hands.......who has absolutely fantastic writing skills and should be published "yesterday"?

Okay, okay, okay, I'll give you a hint........she wears some of the most hidiously colored / patterned pj's that you've ever seen.

 

[pjwalsh]

 

[Backyard sweaty]

you should see the cute silk ones i have on now

Only if they bring out all those enticing bumps and curves you have.

That's why I hated the last pair, damn purple polka dot things, couldn't tell a curve from a bump unless your face was right there.

Oop's

 

[apollides]

lol...

Well gosh, backyard, I guess that means you'll have to use your hands instead of your eyes to tell the difference.... *looking over at pjwalsh* Any objection to that, pj?

 

[ohio4u2]

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I'm not from Mich. but I am close...Ohio....lol...but I am also in a very boring marriage.....

 

[Backyard sweaty]

Welcome Ohio

I'm not from Mich. but I am close...Ohio

Where abouts in Ohio? Toledo just as well be part of Michigan, no one including Ohioians seem to recognize that's it in Ohio.

 

[Unstuck in Time]

Haven't been here in days, but happy to see this thread continuing. I've commented before about being in a marriage with a wife that has no sexual interest. The most frustrating thing is that after more than 30 years, I'm out of ideas. I wouldn't end my marriage, there are too many great reasons to stay. She's a wonderful companion and friend, but I wish that my sex drive would just go away, like hers did more than 20 years ago. I find affairs to be dangerous, except with a rare exceptional few that I've met along the way. I find myself loooking at interesting personal ads from ladies, but I'm reluctant to start that again. I don't need Viagra (never tried it), I need anti-Viagra.

 

[Backyard sweaty]

Just this once.......

I need anti-Viagra

They do make pharmaceutical drugs for what ails you USIT!! Of course they typically give them to serial rapist's and other such sundry characters. So I would not, were I you, ask your Doc for them. He or she might get the wrong impression. However a counselor might be able to pull it off for you were he/she to medically request it.

However, this might fall under the category of........."don't ask for it or you might receive it" sorta category.

Good luck though.

 

[CatEyes]

What do you do when while looking for someone to just have some fun with, you end up meeting someone that you think might fulfill you in everyway?

And what if this person is single and doesn't want just a moment here and there but wants you to give 100% of yourself to them.

And worse yet, they don't live anywhere near you.

What do you do??

CatEyes

 

[Angelofsex]

Hey I know what all of you are going thru. I been marry for 25 yrs. and out of the 25, maybe sex for 3 yrs........Why I stood I really don't know......I turn 40 and all hell broke for me.....I needed it and he doesn't want to give it to me........Well what is a woman to do.

 

[Backyard sweaty]

What do you do when while looking for someone to just have some fun with, you end up meeting someone that you think might fulfill you in everyway? And what if this person is single and doesn't want just a moment here and there but wants you to give 100% of yourself to them. And worse yet, they don't live anywhere near you.

To "fulfill you in everyway" is to demand all your time regardless of the distance??

I was not aware of that definition, thanks for the enlightenment.

 

[pjwalsh]

Only if they bring out all those enticing bumps and curves you have.

That's why I hated the last pair, damn purple polka dot things, couldn't tell a curve from a bump unless your face was right there.

Oop's

 

[atb23456]

Hello all.

Hi everyone,

I have just found this site today and decided to look around. I came across this discussion and am surprised and relieved to find others that have the same problem. I have been married for 17 years, love my wife immensely but the sexual part of our relationship has been missing since just after the marriage (maybe 2/yr when I prefer 3-5/wk). For the longest time I believed I was alone and it was a “men’s” problem but now I can see (thank you ladies) that it is more a problem of marrying opposites (at least in my case it was). Oh well, thank you 8 for starting the thread. I will be back for mutual support.

ATB

 

[CatEyes]

To "fulfill you in everyway" is to demand all your time regardless of the distance??

I was not aware of that definition, thanks for the enlightenment.

Please don't twist my words. I did put those two things in different paragraphs didn't I? Which to me means that one thing has nothing to do with the other.

What I meant by 100% was that he doesn't want to be a boy toy on the side but wants a real relationship that could lead to marriage, a family, etc. Does that clear it up?

And by the way, to some people someone demading all of their time is the definition of fulfillment. Everyone to their own thing and all that.

CatEyes

 

[pjwalsh]

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[lablady]

Hello everyone. Found this thread yesterday and found it very interesting. It's so nice to know that I'm not the only lady out there whose sex drive seems to be greater than hubby's. I was starting to think I was a freak! Anyhoo, there doesn't seem to be any solutions out there. In theory, an affair would be the ideal solution, but we all know that what sounds good in theory seldom works when applied to real life. Too bad for us!

In my case, my sex drive was always greater than hubby's. I thought I could live with that. The sex was good, if not as often as I would have liked. Now however, the man can go months without sex and be quite happy with that. And yes I have talked to him about it. Like most of you it was better for a few weeks, then back to the old routine. I've even suggested councelling, but he doesn't think there is anything wrong. Why would he? *He* gets sex whenever he wants it!

Oops just realized that I have started to rant. Thanks for listening!

 

[pjwalsh]

LABLADY

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[lablady]

Where are you 8?

Thanks for the welcome PJ. I could rant for days on this subject, but wouldn't want to bore you all. So Mr. Eightball, where are you? You haven't posted for a while.

lablady

 

[Backyard sweaty]

Backyard I am feeling neglected

What can I say........all those bumps and curves of yours I've been feeling lately.........I lost my way.

Lablady.......welcome. I'll apologize for my "reception / introduction committee", (PJ), she sometimes gets a bit outta control and I have to take her over my knee.

Granted, she hates every minute of it but someone has to keep her in line.

 

[pjwalsh]

What can I say........all those bumps and curves of yours I've been feeling lately.........I lost my way.

Lablady.......welcome. I'll apologize for my "reception / introduction committee", (PJ), she sometimes gets a bit outta control and I have to take her over my knee.

Granted, she hates every minute of it but someone has to keep her in line.

Ps. D