Meeting Master for the first time?

[doll_parts85]

Hah... the REAL training, particularly if he's looking at changing how you think about your role in the relationship, and react to his presensce and direction, has already started. The mind and heart do not need a physical presence to be shaped and molded.

okays

 

[the captians wench]

Hah... the REAL training, particularly if he's looking at changing how you think about your role in the relationship, and react to his presensce and direction, has already started. The mind and heart do not need a physical presence to be shaped and molded.

That's what I was trying to say, but I don't think she'll believe you either. Seems to me she things training is going to be something totally different from what she's already doing. But guess she'll find out.

 

[doll_parts85]

That's what I was trying to say, but I don't think she'll believe you either. Seems to me she things training is going to be something totally different from what she's already doing. But guess she'll find out.

Hopefully it'll be lots more rules and structure and everything

 

[BiBunny]

I'd say that if you "can't" make decisions, "can't" get a job, "can't" go to school, etc. that a Dom is the absolute last thing you need in your life right now. The last thing a Domly type needs is a useless sub. I've been basically crippled with social anxiety my entire life, but I learned a long, long time ago to grow up, take responsibility for my actions, and do what I have to do to get through my life. It's not easy, and I'm still not where I want to be, but I can do the things that are necessary for living in the "real world." I know if I were the type of person who always tried to avoid responsibility for the things I did, B. wouldn't want me as his, and I'd have missed out on the most wonderful man I've ever met. I love him, and I damn sure won't let this Thing inside me destroy our relationship.

Although maybe he's just the exception to the rule. The Knight-In-Shining-Armor-Dom who comes to save you from everything is, after all, quite attractive, if not very realistic.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

sorry Is it bad that I trust Him completely?

Bad? No.
Terrifying? Yes.

Rule #1 - Anyone can claim to be anything online. Trust No One until they prove they are who and what they say they are. Even me. Get references. CHECK THEM. And I don't mean email addresses, hell between work and my retired scene nick, my current scene nick and my vanilla life I've got at least 6 email addresses. Get phone numbers and snail mail addresses, people you can talk to and write to.

I preach caution, caution, caution when meeting anyone from off line. Why? Because Suzette Trouten was a friend of mine. And she ended up dead and stuffed in a 55 gallon drum courtesy of John Edward Robinson, aka "slavemaster"

Not to be crude about it, but what do you REALLY know about this person you are surrendering control and power too? I'm not talking about what he's told you, I'm talking about independently verified and confirmed by your own research? Spend the money and do a background check.

Nuff said.

 

[Etoile]

Hopefully it'll be lots more rules and structure and everything

And you think he'll do this for free, do you? There's a reason day programs hire staff and charge money. It's a lot of work to give that much structure. He has his own life to manage, and he probably doesn't have time to provide everything you need. Day program staff does it because it's their job and they get paid for it. I kind of doubt you will be providing him with enough in exchange to do all that for you for free, in his spare time. Unless, of course, you give a REALLY good blowjob.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

but I always do what I'm told?

*coughsbullshitcoughs*
If you did what you were told, instead of arguing about it, making excuses, and rationalizing why you "can't" do the things you've been told to do, this thread would've died out 4 pages ago, and you'd be doing a lot better with your therapy.

Nuff said.

 

[Etoile]

I preach caution, caution, caution when meeting anyone from off line. Why? Because Suzette Trouten was a friend of mine. And she ended up dead and stuffed in a 55 gallon drum courtesy of John Edward Robinson, aka "slavemaster"

BINGO!

Exactly what I was thinking. Unfortunately our little girl is an ostrich and would rather stick her head in the sand than think about things like that. I'd be surprised if she clicked on the links, much less read the articles.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

BINGO!

Exactly what I was thinking. Unfortunately our little girl is an ostrich and would rather stick her head in the sand than think about things like that. I'd be surprised if she clicked on the links, much less read the articles.

Don't you have that cute little "drama llama" pic floating around here? *lol*

 

[doll_parts85]

And you think he'll do this for free, do you? There's a reason day programs hire staff and charge money. It's a lot of work to give that much structure. He has his own life to manage, and he probably doesn't have time to provide everything you need. Day program staff does it because it's their job and they get paid for it. I kind of doubt you will be providing him with enough in exchange to do all that for you for free, in his spare time. Unless, of course, you give a REALLY good blowjob.

I've never done that before maybe He likes that I'm innocent and stuff?

 

[the captians wench]

I've never done that before maybe He likes that I'm innocent and stuff?

honey I'm innocent, you're down right clueless.

I'm sorry if that's harsh, but one thing I learned with Jounar is that I had to learn to be my own person, to be who I needed to be before I could be what he needed me to be. That included making choices day to day. I didn't want to, I didn't like to, I had my fair share of panic attacks, but I had to do it, and I did it. And I'm better for it.

 

[doll_parts85]

honey I'm innocent, you're down right clueless.

I'm sorry if that's harsh, but one thing I learned with Jounar is that I had to learn to be my own person, to be who I needed to be before I could be what he needed me to be. That included making choices day to day. I didn't want to, I didn't like to, I had my fair share of panic attacks, but I had to do it, and I did it. And I'm better for it.

okays I do make some choices...I get to pick out most of my food...but I have to stay between 1200-1500 calories a day...and I can't eat some things...like junk food and stuff....only once in a while...and pop tarts are not allowed *sniffles* I have to okay my shopping list with Him before I go shopping though.

 

[callinectes]

I'm throwing a big 'ol BS flag on this whole thread.

 

[Penalt]

Stick a fork in it. Its done.

 

[lil_slave_rose]

uh...yeah she did...she dropped me b/c I wouldnt get a job or go to school...she was mean to me every week and made me cry...she said she couldnt help me anymore and that Day Treatment would be a better option for me.

that is SO not the same thing as saying 'you are beyond help'. sounds like you were not willing to help yourself and if you're not willing to help yourself, then i agree with that therapist that maybe that wasn't the best option for you....therapy is not a miracle work, you must WANT and be WILLING to change in order for it to work.....period.

 

[lil_slave_rose]

Hopefully it'll be lots more rules and structure and everything

honestly, i'm calling BS on you. i think you are, as i said in an earier post, and attention seeking person and just like to get these responses you are getting by posting these ridiculous things you post....when someone says liking parts of BDSM doesn't make you a submissive, you say, 'but i do everything i'm told' ...uh...yea..whatever......

 

[doll_parts85]

that is SO not the same thing as saying 'you are beyond help'. sounds like you were not willing to help yourself and if you're not willing to help yourself, then i agree with that therapist that maybe that wasn't the best option for you....therapy is not a miracle work, you must WANT and be WILLING to change in order for it to work.....period.

I did my best My therapist now is great though. He asks me tons of questions to keep us talking the full 45 minutes. Hasn't once pressured me to look for work or go to school or anything. He knows I am disabled and is working with me to get better.

 

[Cheshire D]

Hun, it's okay. You should go meet this guy in his hotel room, and he'll order you around like the submissive you are, and you'll be happy. All these people are wrong, you and I both know the right way of doing things.

There. I told you everything you wanted to hear. Will you please now listen to what these people who are far more knowledgeable than I are telling you? Instead of just hearing them and still thinking what you want?

 

[Etoile]

uh-oh, it's time for caturday!

Don't you have that cute little "drama llama" pic floating around here? *lol*

 

[doll_parts85]

the bunny is so much cuter!

 

[Life_Noir]

I did my best My therapist now is great though. He asks me tons of questions to keep us talking the full 45 minutes. Hasn't once pressured me to look for work or go to school or anything. He knows I am disabled and is working with me to get better.

On the off chance that any of this is real..

ROFL....No...He's not good...He's just being lazy... Probably because your reputation has preceeded you... And yes...If you are uncooperative enough...It will..
Let me make a couple of guesses...
Lessee...You aren't actually seeing a "private practice" councilor are you?
Hmmm And part of the problem is your meds...You refuse to take them don't you?

Here's a piece of free advice..Since you probably aren't going to pay attention to it anyway..
No....
The last thing you need is a "Master"..
The reason is that it probably won't last any better...Or longer than last time..
Long and the short of it...Get yourself in better health before you even think about making that kind of commitment... At this stage you are just setting yourself, and him, up to be miserable..
Of course all of this is "if this is real"..If it isn't... Well...At least it's been somewhat different.

 

[doll_parts85]

On the off chance that any of this is real..

ROFL....No...He's not good...He's just being lazy... Probably because your reputation has preceeded you... And yes...If you are uncooperative enough...It will..
Let me make a couple of guesses...
Lessee...You aren't actually seeing a "private practice" councilor are you?
Hmmm And part of the problem is your meds...You refuse to take them don't you?

Here's a piece of free advice..Since you probably aren't going to pay attention to it anyway..
No....
The last thing you need is a "Master"..
The reason is that it probably won't last any better...Or longer than last time..
Long and the short of it...Get yourself in better health before you even think about making that kind of commitment... At this stage you are just setting yourself, and him, up to be miserable..
Of course all of this is "if this is real"..If it isn't... Well...At least it's been somewhat different.

I see a social worker in a mental health clinic with medicaid.

I take a lot of meds...they just make me feel worse...I'm hoping to go off some soon. I'm prescribed: Effexor XR 300 mg, Wellbutrin XL 300 mg, Geodon 160 mg, Seroquel 50 mg, Topamax 400 mg (thats psychiatric, did you want regular meds too?) and Prilosec, Levothyroxine, Ortho Tri Cyclen, Clindagel...

 

[Life_Noir]

Hun, it's okay. You should go meet this guy in his hotel room, and he'll order you around like the submissive you are, and you'll be happy. All these people are wrong, you and I both know the right way of doing things.

There. I told you everything you wanted to hear. Will you please now listen to what these people who are far more knowledgeable than I are telling you? Instead of just hearing them and still thinking what you want?

*grin*...
It's ok...She isn't "hearing" any of it because it doesn't agree with what she thinks she wants...Which MUST be right...Because it is what she wants..
Hmmmm...
My guess...From personal experience with the type.... Is she's a what should be heavily medicated "Bipolar Syndrome" sufferer...

 

[Life_Noir]

I take a lot of meds...they just make me feel worse...I'm hoping to go off some soon. I'm prescribed: Effexor XR 300 mg, Wellbutrin XL 300 mg, Geodon 160 mg, Seroquel 50 mg, Topamax 400 mg (thats psychiatric, did you want regular meds too?) and Prilosec, Levothyroxine, Ortho Tri Cyclen, Clindagel...

Yup... Thats what I figured...

 

[doll_parts85]

*grin*...
It's ok...She isn't "hearing" any of it because it doesn't agree with what she thinks she wants...Which MUST be right...Because it is what she wants..
Hmmmm...
My guess...From personal experience with the type.... Is she's a what should be heavily medicated "Bipolar Syndrome" sufferer...

yep. bipolar, PTSD, social phobia