Negative Feedback Trauma Center

[LadynStFreknBed]

I guess we better put these sticks down before this turns into another BDSM thread.

um, that was a stick you poked me with, wasn't it?

-Sheila

 

[hmmnmm]

I guess we better put these sticks down before this turns into another BDSM thread.

um, that was a stick you poked me with, wasn't it?

-Sheila

Probably. Safely Blunted.
Hope your pokes were sticks.
Just sticks right?

 

[LadynStFreknBed]

Yes, just ordinary sticks..

I am not a tranny... much to my daughter's dismay. She firmly believes that there aren't enough trannies in the world. LOL

-Sheila

 

[hmmnmm]

checked out your Alienation bit and enjoyed it very much. nice and clean and touched the buttons. except i sometimes feel I've acheived it without following any of your steps. sometimes. just sometimes. now, if i have practised some of those steps and any have felt alienation, i'll... wait, no i won't apologize. but alienation has never been my intent. hell, i forget the original intent. Oh! curiosity. that's what it was. then lit gets you hooked.

 

[LadynStFreknBed]

Thank you for taking the time to read it. I enjoyed writing it. I love a satirical "How to" piece. I was surprised that my "How to Spot a Literotica Author" was nominated for a Reader's Choice award. That's kinda cool.
Maybe I need to write more of these little tongue-in-cheek pieces.

Oh, wait. Then, I would become alienated for sure. Oh, well. Who cares?

 

[LadynStFreknBed]

Ya know, this conversation would have gone a hell of a lot faster over Yahoo messenger!
Of course, then others would have missed us poking each other with sticks.

LOL

 

[ellynei]

Is there a doctor in the house?

Frantic one: "Is there a doctor in the house?"

NFT-thread: "Yeps, this is the negative feedback trauma center!"

Frantic one: "I know, I know, but do you handle other cases of trauma too?"

NFT-thread: "Well in special cases we go a little beyond the..."

Frantic one: "I got an emergency here!"

NFT-thread: "Whats the problem then?"

Frantic one: "An overdose it was an accident."

NFT-thread: "Oh dear, what happened."

Frantic one: "Overdose of positive feedback! No, I'm not joking. It was completely unexpected."

NFT-thread: "How bad is the situation?"

Frantic one: "Well it is a newbie-writer so... Pounding heartbeat, dilated pupils, hyperventilation, dehydration. I dunno what to do, what can I do?"

NFT-thread: "I'll fetch back-up, wait right here."

Frantic one: "No, dont go away. Please don't leave me here. Wait, come back. Oh no, oh no. I don't know what to do, what am I gonna do? Please hurry back."

 

[hmmnmm]

Frantic one: "Is there a doctor in the house?"

NFT-thread: "Yeps, this is the negative feedback trauma center!"

Frantic one: "I know, I know, but do you handle other cases of trauma too?"

NFT-thread: "Well in special cases we go a little beyond the..."

Frantic one: "I got an emergency here!"

NFT-thread: "Whats the problem then?"

Frantic one: "An overdose it was an accident."

NFT-thread: "Oh dear, what happened."

Frantic one: "Overdose of positive feedback! No, I'm not joking. It was completely unexpected."

NFT-thread: "How bad is the situation?"

Frantic one: "Well it is a newbie-writer so... Pounding heartbeat, dilated pupils, hyperventilation, dehydration. I dunno what to do, what can I do?"

NFT-thread: "I'll fetch back-up, wait right here."

Frantic one: "No, dont go away. Please don't leave me here. Wait, come back. Oh no, oh no. I don't know what to do, what am I gonna do? Please hurry back."

Hey that's pretty good. Definitely something here. I'd think special restraints should be at hand, for the benefit of the especially-frantic-ones.

But really, I think you're on to something.

More than just a trauma center

 

[ellynei]

'Special restraints,' Ellynei read. The Ellynei's imagination worked a bit on those words and Ellynei began to drool.

 

[hmmnmm]

'Special restraints,' Ellynei read. The Ellynei's imagination worked a bit on those words and Ellynei began to drool.

It is only for the consideration of others' safety. The frantic one is giddy, and now drooling. So... the frantic one should understand.

Oh! Congrats to the frantic one.


Also: thoughts on the insinuation of guardedness - I happen to be married. And while Missus Hmmnmm sanctions my active interest in written erotica, I do have to take care when walking through the open-air-gardens of erotic-literary-learning. So that could contribute to the perception of guardedness?

An Also Addendum to Blue: wishy-washy? who's wishy-washy? How about wiggly-squiggly? I can handle wiggly-squiggly a little easier than wishy-washy.

 

[LadynStFreknBed]

The potential for harm is my concern for the frantic ones. I remember when I first started contributing to Lit. The positive feedback was an affirmation of my talent. Inevitably, the trolls will attack. If writers' opinions of themselves are based on feedback from others, then it can potentially be destroyed when the destructive comments begin.

So, oh frantic ones, enjoy the positive feedback but don't base your own opinion on it. Brush off the negative comments when they occur. Positive or negative, it's only the opinions of a few readers.

 

[hmmnmm]

The potential for harm is my concern for the frantic ones. I remember when I first started contributing to Lit. The positive feedback was an affirmation of my talent. Inevitably, the trolls will attack. If writers' opinions of themselves are based on feedback from others, then it can potentially be destroyed when the destructive comments begin.

So, oh frantic ones, enjoy the positive feedback but don't base your own opinion on it. Brush off the negative comments when they occur. Positive or negative, it's only the opinions of a few readers.

The frantic one should still be restrained, though? Right? Administer the Special Vaccine.

 

[LadynStFreknBed]

Also: thoughts on the insinuation of guardedness - I happen to be married. And while Missus Hmmnmm sanctions my active interest in written erotica, I do have to take care when walking through the open-air-gardens of erotic-literary-learning. So that could contribute to the perception of guardedness?

Perhaps. I was more interested in how this guardedness is affecting your writing. I can totally understand being guarded on the boards and when interacting with others. But, does it affect your writing? Does it create limits that aren't necessary?
Could you ever write a character that would cause your wife to question your own sanity or suspect perversion?
When I was married, that was never an issue. My ex-husband never read any of my work. Typically, men I date have read more of my work by the 3rd or 4th month of dating than my ex-husband did during 10 years of marriage.

 

[hmmnmm]

Perhaps. I was more interested in how this guardedness is affecting your writing. I can totally understand being guarded on the boards and when interacting with others. But, does it affect your writing? Does it create limits that aren't necessary?
Could you ever write a character that would cause your wife to question your own sanity or suspect perversion?
When I was married, that was never an issue. My ex-husband never read any of my work. Typically, men I date have read more of my work by the 3rd or 4th month of dating than my ex-husband did during 10 years of marriage.

Wow! You're a therapist aren't you? And I bet you're a good one.

I never really thought about your questions. They're good ones. And I'm thinking of them now, and will be for awhile.

Don't know. Really. Don't know. Don't know how it affects the writing. Surely it does. But always adversely? Don't know. Really, really, really, don't know.

There's probably a definite tentative approach. Which goes against the oft-bespoke convention that recommends grabbing the reader right away. Such slow pacing might put a lot of people off, but I don't think it's a result of a guardedness, and if it is, I'll defend that particular part.

But not always. Never always or not always on any of this. Absolutely no absolutes.

Yet all that aside: you got me thinking, all day and tomorrow, and beyond.

 

[LadynStFreknBed]

Wow! You're a therapist aren't you? And I bet you're a good one.

Is it that obvious? No, I'm not a therapist- at least not yet. But, I am a psychology student. I'm finishing my bachelor's of science in psych.

-Sheila

 

[hmmnmm]

Is it that obvious? No, I'm not a therapist- at least not yet. But, I am a psychology student. I'm finishing my bachelor's of science in psych.

-Sheila

So do you think we reveal stuff about ourselves through our written work even if we take great pains to do otherwise?

 

[hmmnmm]

Or do I come across as more hopelessly fucked up than I'd want to know?
Shhh.

 

[ellynei]

So, oh frantic ones, enjoy the positive feedback but don't base your own opinion on it. Brush off the negative comments when they occur. Positive or negative, it's only the opinions of a few readers.

I like to see some kind of evidence that one person, liked something I wrote. Maybe I would dream, wish, hope, that I could be a real author, that lots of people would read something I wrote. But if some of my words reach out even to only just a few; if I can make just a few be encaptivated for a little while - laugh, cry, think, feel. It really is something special.

For someone like me, to reach out and light a spark in someone's heart or mind, even for just a moment. It warms.

"Hi there stranger," it is, "we never met, and if we did, you probably wouldn't like me, but for a second you saw a piece of me, and it made you smile, thank you for letting me reach out and touch your heart."

 

[LadynStFreknBed]

So do you think we reveal stuff about ourselves through our written work even if we take great pains to do otherwise?

Art reveals. That's what it does. Art is self-expression, whether your art is writing, painting, music, etc. The form isn't relevant.

Even if an individual's art lacks self-expression, that alone tells volumes and provokes questions (at least from me). Why is that person afraid to share themselves? Does the artist (or writer or poet) judge themselves harshly or are they afraid of judgement?

I'm not saying that our stories are true portrayers of our sexuality. However, our stories can reveal our level of openness, acceptance, interest, empathy, and even fear, resentment, and curiosity.

Most of my stories contain very little, if any, truth. Fortunately, my best quality and worst nightmare is my empathy. I strongly believe that my heightened empathy is tied to my creativity. However, it has also lead to oversensitivity and serious personal problems in my life.

 

[Rob_mDear]

So do you think we reveal stuff about ourselves through our written work even if we take great pains to do otherwise?

Absolutely, yes, although it might take a genius to sort it out. But no matter how different your characters are from you, or your stories are from one to the next, what you choose to write about, what you focus on, what details are important to you, how the characters react, are all clues about you.

But, what one might properly infer from your stories might not be obvious. It might be a trait that every one of your women share, like a tendency to always get the last word in every conversation, or to be overly receptive to complements. Or it might be the fact that certain characters are such colorful cariacatures, compared to your other characters, that it implies that you are blatantly hiding something there, which is something to know in itself.

I think an interesting exercise would be, knowing yourself, to review your own story collection and figure out for yourself what you're giving away... what someone else could infer, if they had all of the clues in front of them.

 

[hmmnmm]

Absolutely, yes, although it might take a genius to sort it out. But no matter how different your characters are from you, or your stories are from one to the next, what you choose to write about, what you focus on, what details are important to you, how the characters react, are all clues about you.

But, what one might properly infer from your stories might not be obvious. It might be a trait that every one of your women share, like a tendency to always get the last word in every conversation, or to be overly receptive to complements. Or it might be the fact that certain characters are such colorful cariacatures, compared to your other characters, that it implies that you are blatantly hiding something there, which is something to know in itself.

I think an interesting exercise would be, knowing yourself, to review your own story collection and figure out for yourself what you're giving away... what someone else could infer, if they had all of the clues in front of them.

the value of the pseudonym idea just increased.

 

[hmmnmm]

I like to see some kind of evidence that one person, liked something I wrote. Maybe I would dream, wish, hope, that I could be a real author, that lots of people would read something I wrote. But if some of my words reach out even to only just a few; if I can make just a few be encaptivated for a little while - laugh, cry, think, feel. It really is something special.

For someone like me, to reach out and light a spark in someone's heart or mind, even for just a moment. It warms.

"Hi there stranger," it is, "we never met, and if we did, you probably wouldn't like me, but for a second you saw a piece of me, and it made you smile, thank you for letting me reach out and touch your heart."

We're on the same page here. No restraints needed.

 

[hmmnmm]

What can I do to convince you to put your photo back on as your AV?

meant to ask: which one? the clean one or the shaggy one?

 

[LadynStFreknBed]

meant to ask: which one? the clean one or the shaggy one?

This one will do... nicely. LOL

I can't believe u actually did it. ty

Now, for my next request: I'd like a thousand dollars. LOL

 

[hmmnmm]

Now, for my next request: I'd like a thousand dollars. LOL

Uhhh, that's going to be a little harder to find. How about another picture instead? Or a poem?