One Hint on Maintaining a Relationship...Others, Anyone?

[jacktar48]

A colonel defers to a general, does that mean he is sexually submissive to the general? That he doesn't speak his mind? That he has no opinion?

Sometimes it does...and no, he probably doesn't speak his mind unless ordered to do so. And if he has an opinion, unless it's an ass-kiss in disguise, he knows enough to keep it to himself or he wouldn't be a Colonel.

The military analogy really should not be valid in male-female relationships. Nobody "outranks" anybody, hopefully.

Except the clan mother.

 

[jacktar48]

What's really funny is; the guy who started this thread, who believes in the same system of categorically deferring to a particular sex in a relationship because that is his historical belief system.
Now where are the people saying he is wrong for deferring to a woman?? That he is weak-minded, timid and sexually submissive?

Hmm. Strange, nobody. A-M-A-Z-I-N-G

Don't worry Jacktar, because you are a traditionalist and nature conservative, we know what political office YOU would run for!

You do make a valid point and I wondered if someone would bring that up. It's not really quite that simple. People should do what they do best, and there are certain things that are generally the province of a particular sex.

Obviously, only women could produce children. Therefore anything associated with this was best left to the women and men had no right to intervene in any way.

Since male and female are supposed to balance each other, it is logical that war and killing would be left to the men. Women create, men destroy. Balance is maintained.

Although we have had some notable and notoriously vicious female war-chiefs. It was recognized that these women had abilities not frequently present in women, and no one objected to them taking their rightful place as the most charismatic member of the armed forces. (No one really "commanded" the army. It was more like, "Hey, I'm thinking about going out and killing some Creeks tonight. Anybody want to join me?"

I like to think my belief system is more the product of observation and experience rather than just a set of rules that was hammered into me. Although I have a faint suspicion that there may be a genetic component.

To me this is much different from adopting some ancient Hebrew creed that may or may not have been relevant to a nomadic culture but mostly does not fit at all with modern society. I had that crap hammered into me from birth too, but it did not stick, because it was grotesquely absurd, and the only rationalisation was that it said so in the Bible.

So what? It's an ancient document, patched together from scraps and hearsay, much used and abused by people with an agenda contrary to my own, so why ever would I trust it?

It really all comes back to "women have it, and we want it, so therefore it makes sense to be nice to them." It's a whole lot easier than trying to force them to give you what you wants, and probably won't get you stuck with a knife during the night either.

 

[jacktar48]

Don't worry Jacktar, because you are a traditionalist and nature conservative, we know what political office YOU would run for!

You do? Then you know more than I do, so please tell.

I can't imagine any political office for which I would run. Or even walk.

Now in days of yore in England they did have a lot more interesting political positions, like Keeper of the Royal Chamberpot, Mistress of the Boudoir, and Virgin Inspector. I might could get interested in something of that nature. But I'm afraid those were hereditary appointments, not elected offices.

 

[Trixareforkids]

Modern society wants a pill or other quick fix to all their ills, they are not willing to put in the time and effort to improve themselves to be worthy of a relationship at all, let alone one that will last more than a fortnight.

Do you want to know the secret to a happy life? Stop with all the made up drama. Stop hinging your every waking moment on what the Kardashians are doing. Stop worrying about Britney Spear's, Lindsay Lohan, Paris Hilton, and all the other celebrity gossip. Stop worrying about who the worst dressed celeb is on the red carpet. Start worrying about yourself. Start worrying about your own issues and dramas. Start seeing the crap for what it is, crap, then step around it instead of wallowing in it and then judging others who don't wallow in the same shit pile as you are.

Sorry, couldn't resist

Stop the drama


Appearances change, people don't. The best and worst is always there. Cater to the better half of your loved one and don't quibble with their lesser half.

 

[NippleMuncher]

Sorry, couldn't resist

Stop the drama

OMG, if only that were the way that little pill worked!