Online --> RT relationships

[IsabellaSnow]

Well! Seems like a load of happy campers here!

Cati - The googled tidbits had a direct effect on our relationship. I ended it the next day. I probably would have discussed it with him, had be been in his home country at the time. And it's probably very good he wasn't. Thank God for triband. SMS was so much cheaper.

Can't say I'd do the online thing again.

RL is bad enough, lol.

 

[Marquis]

Marquis - Leading to an LTR?

Yeah, I guess you could say that.

 

[TNRkitect2b]

Most of my relationships in the last few years have come from meeting first online. The longest any have lasted so far has been a little over a year. The reasons for them ending are all the same; we were too far away from each other to get enough face-to-face time.

Yet the reason they have been successful other than the distance issue is that I have been truthful in my dealings with each of them.

 

[TheRiverWild]

I'l happily answer (the question of why I want to know)..it is because I am a scientist and by nature very curious.

OR

because I am a nosy bitch.

take your pick! lol

I pick "lol" !

 

[briar_rose]

I met my boyfriend via an online forum...well i met up with this one guy from a fantasy novel chat site, just as friends and he brought my current boyfriend along. After that one meeting we continued to interact over the net quite a bit, flirting chatting extra with maybe 2 or 3 actual meetings. Then one day he kissed me, and asked me out...2 1/2 years later we are as solid as rock and nothing could break us.

 

[Bandit58]

I moved from New Zealand to Sydney Australia almost 3 years ago to be with my Master Gil_T2. We met on Lit in 2002. We're getting married in 5 weeks

 

[catalina_francisco]

We're getting married in 5 weeks

And don't forget we want pics, OK!!!!

Catalina

 

[Netzach]

my first SM experiences came from online contacts, but my ongoing ones were all met face-to-face. I don't really think there's more to it than coincidence, though, one can meet people in so many ways.

 

[cati]

Gotcha Isabella....
We spent the first year online. Needless to say there were too many women "friends" lurking about. Personally speaking if I had to do it over again, I wouldn't do the "online" thing. For BDSM/Ds purposes its one way to go, but absolutley not for the thin skinned...way too stressful!
On occasion a Dom needs to be weaned away from the temptations of the web and that can be a slow and difficult process, speaking for myself here.

 

[LordHawk]

I met my wife online. Was in the same chatroom one night, got to talking. Didn't go any further for a while since I was involved but we became really good friends. Once I was single, things progressed until she was the only woman. I moved to Nova Scotia from Kentucky and we got married this past June.

 

[catalina_francisco]

I met my wife online. Was in the same chatroom one night, got to talking. Didn't go any further for a while since I was involved but we became really good friends. Once I was single, things progressed until she was the only woman. I moved to Nova Scotia from Kentucky and we got married this past June.

Congrats on the marriage.

Catalina

 

[NemoAlia]

My Dom and I met online -- on CollarMe, as a matter of fact. We chatted for exactly, oh, half a day. And then we met for beer!

 

[A Desert Rose]

I moved from New Zealand to Sydney Australia almost 3 years ago to be with my Master Gil_T2. We met on Lit in 2002. We're getting married in 5 weeks

What a happy happy day for you!!! And as catalina said... PICTURES AND LOTS OF 'EM!!!

Now on topic... what was the middle part again?

Oh yea... (warning: to those of you who've read this a kazillion times before, you can move along, there's nothing to see here)
I met my previous Dom online at a game site: pogo.com... we met playing backgammon. (I so love that game and still play lots, online and off.) We were together for 7 years. Mostly it was an LDR. And up until our last meeting, they were absolutely marvelous times. Meeting him for the very first time was probably the most exciting thing that's ever happened to me.

And what a wonderful Domly lover... sigh.

But most things don't last forever... and this didn't either.

 

[A Desert Rose]

Gotcha Isabella....
We spent the first year online. Needless to say there were too many women "friends" lurking about. Personally speaking if I had to do it over again, I wouldn't do the "online" thing. For BDSM/Ds purposes its one way to go, but absolutley not for the thin skinned...way too stressful!
On occasion a Dom needs to be weaned away from the temptations of the web and that can be a slow and difficult process, speaking for myself here.

I have to laugh at this... and not in a bad way. He had lots of women friends lurking about and all in real life... lol none online.

It's hell being charming, charismatic, handsome and reaaaaaaaaly Domly. But it's more hell to be the submissive of one of those guys.

 

[cati]

It's hell being charming, charismatic, handsome and reaaaaaaaaly Domly.

............laffs, yeah life's a bitch ain't it?


But it's more hell to be the submissive of one of those guys.

...heavy sigh, uhuh.

 

[babiesmiles]

Out of curiosity:

How many of you have "met" someone online, hit it off, decide to meet, and actually end up dating (etc) as a result?

I don't mean just having a shag, either.

I mean became involved in a serious relationship of some kind.

Those who've had it go wrong, feel free to comment as well.

As for me, personally, I did actually meet a gorgeous Londoner online, who flew all the over here to meet me. He spent the weekend. Called me 5 times a day for the next two months (and managed to not seem needy, somehow). He was fantastic.

Until I googled him.

Ladies, google is your friend. If the bastard youre dating has done anything worth telling the world, believe me, its already in google.

Next!

Lol that's really fun !

It seems it has been taken by an X-file episode .

Time ago ( not too much not too few ) for a while I used to use the name Isabella on some website mainly british ( yes I have been naughty and cheeky and maybe somewhere I am still registered like that.. ... who knows ! ), that cause this name is not too far from my real one and it has my native language sound and flavour.

In that past life I met online a really gorgeous witty londoner as well , and he too flew straight here to meet me several times . We met, we phoned, emailed , chatted , texted , msn -ed ( msn-ed ???? arrrghh nazi language close your eyes pleazeee !) and we had all the LDR " via crucis" for a quite long time ......

..... I missed the google spot though .... ..... now that could be a brill idea ... .... and maybe we could discover that X file thing is even more scary we could think !!! lol

As for present days I also met Master online , we also are in a LDR ( yep hon I am a TRUE masochist or maybe I need to keep my SOs at some due distance to make it work ) .

After a while we met halfway one first time ( he lives much more North than London and me much more South .. ) and it was simply great .

Then we met other times and it was even better , so we started our journey and here we are.

I can say we have a really fulfiling relation (he is my Master , best friend , guide , supporter , fan , mentor , the only one who is able to lead me ..... and much much more ) .

Now it has been two years since we first talked online and since then we never stopped to do it every day .

In fact although we also use all the modern communication means the progress can offer , included some suicide carrier pidgeon , istant messaging remains our privileged and most used way to talk , laugh , discuss phylosophy , argue , make up .... everything but bdsm plays ( that we prefer to do "live"when we meet ) .

It must be cause we both use english as second language so our mispellings and grammar errors work better if they can threaten us glancing badly from a lightening screen

PS . nice website congrs

 

[IsabellaSnow]

My Dom and I met online -- on CollarMe, as a matter of fact. We chatted for exactly, oh, half a day. And then we met for beer!

Yeah I've chatted with a few guys from collarme.. they always end up creeping me out somehow, though.

Strange lot, most of them.

 

[IsabellaSnow]

..... I missed the google spot though .... ..... now that could be a brill idea ...


PS . nice website congrs

Google is your friend!

And Im glad you like me site, thanks!

 

[His_pita]

I met my Joe here on Lit and fell in love with him while we were online. Been living with him now for 7 months and it just keeps getting better.

 

[esclave_PP]

Out of curiosity:

How many of you have "met" someone online, hit it off, decide to meet, and actually end up dating (etc) as a result?

ME! Master and I met here, and started writing together. Now, we live together Woot!

 

[Avery_Chisholm]

i met my hubby from another online site have been going strong for a few months now

 

[Trombonus]

I did. We were together for 2 1/2 years. I still miss her sometimes.

 

[SpectreT]

I'm snickering, because the only places I appeared when I googled myself have to do with my past association with a Chamber of Commerce Training and Education Committee I volunteered on for a couple of years.

Googling my screen name came up with a few old threads here, and my profile in another place. Along with some group I have no affiliation with, apparently they're involved in law enforcement somehow.

So, what's the verdict when there's essentially Jack Shit about somebody when you Google them?

 

[vanelane]

Yep, met my husband online. It was a vanilla dating site and we were both looking to get married so the results are skewed, but we fell in love before we ever laid eyes on each other. Married almost three years now and going strong. Also met my play partner online. We chatted, emailed etc. for months before actually meeting in person. Probably would have met sooner but for the fact my husband needed to get comfortable with him online, too, and that just took longer.

Having just done my first public scene at a party this weekend with both of them, I'd say things have worked out quite well!

 

[FurryFury]

I'm snickering, because the only places I appeared when I googled myself have to do with my past association with a Chamber of Commerce Training and Education Committee I volunteered on for a couple of years.

Googling my screen name came up with a few old threads here, and my profile in another place. Along with some group I have no affiliation with, apparently they're involved in law enforcement somehow.

So, what's the verdict when there's essentially Jack Shit about somebody when you Google them?

I think this falls under the "no news is good news" heading.

Fury