Blackie_Lovless
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- Oct 2, 2005
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While it's certainly possible that a novice sub paired with a novice Dom might have some chance at getting along together just fine.
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Not only is it possible, but we've made it into a reality!
My Master and now husband and I were introduced online by mutual friends over 6 years ago...on ICQ actually. We spent nearly a year online before we met. He lived in Charlotte, N.C. and I in B.C, Canada.
Granted, those months were "very" difficult for us, but we both had jobs that we weren't willing to give up and I had 2 teenagers who weren't going to be left behind or uprooted.
As far as online went... we were part of two different D/s chat groups, we had ICQ, we had the phone, wrote letters, sent cards...did everything we could think of to keep our long distance relationship alive and intact. We read together and discussed whatever article interested us. We had the BDSM theory in place but no RT experience...but all that would come.
As a potential couple, it wasn't so much the D/s aspect we were concerned about, but whether we would we mesh as "husband " and "wife" (this would be a second marriage for both). Five years ago he moved here and we began our life together.
Getting back to the online thing: I met many "alleged" Dominants online, and most had no clue what the lifestyle was about. It was difficult and a nuisance to sieve through the flotsam and jetsom of the online population to find the "one " I needed. I met several "experienced" Doms who for whatever reason were unwilling to take on a novice sub/bottom.
My "now" Master had the intelligence and desire to learn as much as he could, and by whatever means available to him, before taking on the responsibility, care and training of "his" submissive.
Online relationships are scoffed at and relationships belittled, but where would you be able to find/search for a partner discreetly and in relative safety? Would I recommend having an online relationship to others?.... NO.
Would I do it again...NOT..only for the reason that many online relationships don't seem to last very long. Long distance relationships are costly, time consuming, and can be difficult to maintain, add to that list...breakdowns in communication, misunderstandings and interference by others online. The stress can be incredible.
Like any D/s or "vanilla" couple we have our disagreements, misunderstandings and small arguments. These are a fact of life. Things may not be as perfect as we would like them to be. For all that, we are committed to each other and we accept that, which we cannot change, in our lives and the people around us.
To make a long story short...Master now has duel citizenship (U.S and Can.)
We also helped establish a local BDSM group in our city.
Good things come to those who wait.
(Please note: I write this from my own experience, and not to knock the experiences of others.)
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Not only is it possible, but we've made it into a reality!
My Master and now husband and I were introduced online by mutual friends over 6 years ago...on ICQ actually. We spent nearly a year online before we met. He lived in Charlotte, N.C. and I in B.C, Canada.
Granted, those months were "very" difficult for us, but we both had jobs that we weren't willing to give up and I had 2 teenagers who weren't going to be left behind or uprooted.
As far as online went... we were part of two different D/s chat groups, we had ICQ, we had the phone, wrote letters, sent cards...did everything we could think of to keep our long distance relationship alive and intact. We read together and discussed whatever article interested us. We had the BDSM theory in place but no RT experience...but all that would come.
As a potential couple, it wasn't so much the D/s aspect we were concerned about, but whether we would we mesh as "husband " and "wife" (this would be a second marriage for both). Five years ago he moved here and we began our life together.
Getting back to the online thing: I met many "alleged" Dominants online, and most had no clue what the lifestyle was about. It was difficult and a nuisance to sieve through the flotsam and jetsom of the online population to find the "one " I needed. I met several "experienced" Doms who for whatever reason were unwilling to take on a novice sub/bottom.
My "now" Master had the intelligence and desire to learn as much as he could, and by whatever means available to him, before taking on the responsibility, care and training of "his" submissive.
Online relationships are scoffed at and relationships belittled, but where would you be able to find/search for a partner discreetly and in relative safety? Would I recommend having an online relationship to others?.... NO.
Would I do it again...NOT..only for the reason that many online relationships don't seem to last very long. Long distance relationships are costly, time consuming, and can be difficult to maintain, add to that list...breakdowns in communication, misunderstandings and interference by others online. The stress can be incredible.
Like any D/s or "vanilla" couple we have our disagreements, misunderstandings and small arguments. These are a fact of life. Things may not be as perfect as we would like them to be. For all that, we are committed to each other and we accept that, which we cannot change, in our lives and the people around us.
To make a long story short...Master now has duel citizenship (U.S and Can.)
We also helped establish a local BDSM group in our city.
Good things come to those who wait.
(Please note: I write this from my own experience, and not to knock the experiences of others.)
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