Pick Your Label(s)

[Homburg]

Apparently I'm missing the difference between calling Him "Sir" or "Master", because they're the same thing to us. I call Him either one depending on the moment.

*shrug* I'm missing the difference too.

Frankly, the only time either one of them calls me Master consistently is when they are asking permission to orgasm. The rest of the time it varies.

 

[ecstaticsub]

I call my Dom Daddy though I don't consider our relationship D/lg. I refer to him on here and other forums as either my Dom or Daddy, usually my Dom. I am his submissive. He sometimes calls me Baby, but most often by a name that he chose for me. It's a normal name but it is private between he and I. Like adopting a pet he has picked his own name for me. I love hearing him use it.

 

[graceanne]

what can I say... I'm a heavy player.

Wouldn't that be . . . edge play?

 

[NALA CAYENNE]

So, I'm asking y'all to go ahead and pick your label. If you have more than one, tell us about all of them.

I'll go first. I'm a switch with more emphasis on the bottom end. As a pyl, I'm B.'s pet. I'm there to entertain him, and I'll jump through whatever hoops I have to in order to make him happy in that way. As a PYL, I'd be probably be more of a pet Owner if/when the day comes that I have a submissive type of my own.

Feel free to discuss the dynamics of your relationship if you like. I may come back and do it myself later, but I'm being lazy at the moment.

I am a submissive to my Dom who refers to me as his whore or pet. My purpose in his life is to make sure that he is pleased and that his desires are met. I make sure that whatever he asks of me is done and I will jump through hoops to make sure he is happy. As I told him, I would walk to the ends of the earth naked for him if I knew it would please him.

I call him either Sire or my Lord.

 

[serijules]

I'm Dawnie's property, her slave.

Not *a* slave mind you. I'm of the opinion that my slavery exists on the level that it does because she is my owner. Without Ma'am, I'd certainly still be kinky and perhaps even submissive, but I would no longer label myself as 'slave'.

 

[HottieMama]

*shrug* I'm missing the difference too.

Frankly, the only time either one of them calls me Master consistently is when they are asking permission to orgasm. The rest of the time it varies.

i have a REALLY hard time with the word "Sir" as an honorific of any sort. i call the cable guy Sir...the cashier Sir...etc. It's the way i was raised, and what is very common where i live. To call my Dom "Sir" isn't "enough" for me. It just seems too "common."

i think i called LC "Sir" for four days after the "official" start of our relationship. (i had "slipped" and called him Sir a few times before that though.) i finally got to the point where i was biting my tongue to keep from calling him Master or Daddy, and it was getting uncomfortable. Master and Daddy both mean a lot to me. Master as an honorific, and Daddy as the greatest term of endearment that i know of. (Again, for me personally...) i had to think and monitor my speech in order for Sir to come out. Master/Daddy both flow out effortlessly.

 

[myinnerslut]

i have a REALLY hard time with the word "Sir" as an honorific of any sort. i call the cable guy Sir...the cashier Sir...etc. It's the way i was raised, and what is very common where i live. To call my Dom "Sir" isn't "enough" for me. It just seems too "common."

i think i called LC "Sir" for four days after the "official" start of our relationship. (i had "slipped" and called him Sir a few times before that though.) i finally got to the point where i was biting my tongue to keep from calling him Master or Daddy, and it was getting uncomfortable. Master and Daddy both mean a lot to me. Master as an honorific, and Daddy as the greatest term of endearment that i know of. (Again, for me personally...) i had to think and monitor my speech in order for Sir to come out. Master/Daddy both flow out effortlessly.

A hates honorifics so i call him by his first name or baby or darling or something sweet and vanilla like that. Sir does still slip out though, especially in the heat of the moment. he has given up trying to break me of the habbit as no moatter what he does, i still slip unconciously.

 

[Homburg]

i have a REALLY hard time with the word "Sir" as an honorific of any sort. i call the cable guy Sir...the cashier Sir...etc. It's the way i was raised, and what is very common where i live. To call my Dom "Sir" isn't "enough" for me. It just seems too "common."

I was raised to say "sir" and "ma'am" as well. Dad was in the Army, and while he didn't expect it, it was simply the norm for me. When everyone around you says "sir" and "ma'am" as a kid, you pick it up.

The difference, and it is an important one, is in how you say it. I say "sir" without absolutely zero meaning. It is simply a word for me. I don't think I've ever said "Sir" in my life. The difference, in this case, being capitalisation, but I think you know where I'm going insofar as spoken intent is concerned.

When "v" says it, there is an underlying tension in her voice. I can hear the thrill she gets from it. It is actually a compromise. She prefers Master, but knows that she can't very well call me Master in front of our kids, friends, family, etc. She doesn't usually call me Sir in front of those either, but uses Sir outside the bedroom just in case anyone is close enough to overhear.

"w" and I have a different dynamic, as she has not fully submitted to me. At that point, she is as likely to call me Sugar or any of a number of terms of endearment. *shrug* I don't mind. It really only matters to me when we are in the bedroom as it were. There it is as I mentioned above.

It is always interesting to watch her fight with herself over the term Master. She wants to call me Master, but doesn't do it comfortably because she hasn't submitted fully. So she and I do conditional limited submissions, and the poor thing fights her own nature over the term every time. But, oh, when it comes time to ask permission, it's "Master, may I come please?" every time.

 

[BiBunny]

It is always interesting to watch her fight with herself over the term Master. She wants to call me Master, but doesn't do it comfortably because she hasn't submitted fully. So she and I do conditional limited submissions, and the poor thing fights her own nature over the term every time. But, oh, when it comes time to ask permission, it's "Master, may I come please?" every time.

I had this problem in the earliest stages of my relationship with B. I wanted to call him Master more than anything in the world, and I wanted to submit fully, but it was so freakin' hard. He never pushed and never asked for me to give more of myself than I was willing to give. I remember the first time I was ever able to give myself completely; he pointed it out to me and rewarded me for it. The next time we were together, he gave me my collar and asked me to call him Master. I struggled, but it came out in a very heartfelt manner before the night was over. My reward was that I got to keep the collar.

What I'm trying to say is, don't push. It'll come.

 

[Homburg]

What I'm trying to say is, don't push. It'll come.

I dunno. It might not. I want it badly. I can tell that she does too.

She actually submitted to me, and, a few days later, in the single most heart-breaking night of my life, retracted it. Someone that I considered a friend decided to spread the word about "w" and I, and she got scared as she is not comfortable with people knowing about this side of her life. She still hasn't recovered. I don't know that she will ever submit fully at this point.

Wow, it was fucking hard to type the above paragraph. Bares my soul more than a bit. Still, your anecdote was beautiful, and what I hope for with "w". The night she said those words is still this shining memory burning in my mind. Unfortunately it sits right next to this ragged hole that I would rather not remember.

We're still together. We're still trying. But not a day goes by that I wonder if this will be the last day we are together.

 

[sureibu]

I'm his sureibu, which translates from Japanese to slave. He's my Shujin, which translates to Master. I had a hard time with Sir or Master (for some reason in another language its better ) because it felt so formal and stiff and that is not how our relationship is. I'm also his babygirl and slut, which ever he feels fits the occassion. I'm in training as I'm new to this, although I've always had submissive tendencies.

 

[EmpressFi]

I am his pet and he is my Master. There is another name he calls me more than he calls me anything else.. but that's for our private use.

 

[BiBunny]

I dunno. It might not. I want it badly. I can tell that she does too.

She actually submitted to me, and, a few days later, in the single most heart-breaking night of my life, retracted it. Someone that I considered a friend decided to spread the word about "w" and I, and she got scared as she is not comfortable with people knowing about this side of her life. She still hasn't recovered. I don't know that she will ever submit fully at this point.

Wow, it was fucking hard to type the above paragraph. Bares my soul more than a bit. Still, your anecdote was beautiful, and what I hope for with "w". The night she said those words is still this shining memory burning in my mind. Unfortunately it sits right next to this ragged hole that I would rather not remember.

We're still together. We're still trying. But not a day goes by that I wonder if this will be the last day we are together.

Let me revise then. If the need to submit to someone she loves more than she loves herself is strong, it will happen. I wish you both the best of luck, but I think you need to have a serious talk with her. Tell her how you feel and then give her the space to make her own decisions. I know how hard things can be.

 

[Netzach]

My slave is usually called by name, or else some very unflattering pet names which excite us both.

My husband is his name, sweetie, honey, kitten, pretty boy and other nauseating endearments.

my Bull is his name, doesn't require anything of me. Sir slips out if I'm feeling especially awestruck, but I don't think he has any attachment to it, so I don't overdo it. I'm usually dearest, lovely, beautiful pet, periodically just "ooo, yum" or baby. Baby in the oh, baby sense not the little girl sense.

I'm never slut because I am not easy- I am exceptionally difficult. Oh, sure, crack me open and I'm open all right, but that's the reward of a long haul, so I'm not a slut.

I'm never little one or slave. Pet once that I can recall ever. "My beautiful brown eyed pet" I think, said with just enough triumphant arrogance.

 

[TheBlackDahlia]

Said it already, but I mostly idenitfy myself as a domme.

Although I'll admit I wouldn't mind switching roles every now-and-then just to see how it feels on the other side.

 

[ms.read]

I dunno. It might not. I want it badly. I can tell that she does too.

She actually submitted to me, and, a few days later, in the single most heart-breaking night of my life, retracted it. Someone that I considered a friend decided to spread the word about "w" and I, and she got scared as she is not comfortable with people knowing about this side of her life. She still hasn't recovered. I don't know that she will ever submit fully at this point.

Wow, it was fucking hard to type the above paragraph. Bares my soul more than a bit. Still, your anecdote was beautiful, and what I hope for with "w". The night she said those words is still this shining memory burning in my mind. Unfortunately it sits right next to this ragged hole that I would rather not remember.

We're still together. We're still trying. But not a day goes by that I wonder if this will be the last day we are together.

You will pull through.

 

[doveofserenity]

~still lil nervous posting, but here goes~

i consider myself submissive in adult relationships. Presently not with anyone, but in the past; and in my soul...that is who i am. i willingly do all possible to please Him because it not only makes Him happy, but it makes me happy and complete to do so.

i have to be the dominant force in my household with my children since the divorce. And that feeling of total control is not one i like for myself. In most ways, it makes me depressed; knowing that i have to be the one to make all the choices and orders. As far as paying the bills and having kids to their chores and such.

i would (personally only) just prefer to hand my life and control of decisions over to Him. And be there to for Him, doing as He decides. In both sexual and every day life.

~takes deep breath and steps down~

 

[FurryFury]

I carry far too many labels to even think through them much less name them all here.

LOL

 

[the captians wench]

i have a REALLY hard time with the word "Sir" as an honorific of any sort. i call the cable guy Sir...the cashier Sir...etc. It's the way i was raised, and what is very common where i live. To call my Dom "Sir" isn't "enough" for me. It just seems too "common."

i think i called LC "Sir" for four days after the "official" start of our relationship. (i had "slipped" and called him Sir a few times before that though.) i finally got to the point where i was biting my tongue to keep from calling him Master or Daddy, and it was getting uncomfortable. Master and Daddy both mean a lot to me. Master as an honorific, and Daddy as the greatest term of endearment that i know of. (Again, for me personally...) i had to think and monitor my speech in order for Sir to come out. Master/Daddy both flow out effortlessly.

See I think that's the key right there.

I've played with doms who insisted on me calling them master, and some who insisted on sir. But the ones who last, the ones I really make a deep connection with allow the tital to come naturally, what ever tital that may be. Most of the time it's sir, and some times it developes into owner, or master, or something else, some times it doesn't. It's just what ever feels right for that person and for me.

 

[sexycaz22]

With my play partner, I don't call him anything other than his name, sometime sweetie. He usually calls me Honey or pet.

I don't think I will ever call anyone Master, but I could see myself calling someone Sir or any other labels he chooses.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

We don't use 'Sir' so much in the UK so it did feel special to call Master that at first. I'm his first sub so he didn't really feel like a 'Master' to begin with but as our relationship has deepened and his confidence has grown it feels right to call him Master now although I still use Sir quite a bit outside of the bedroom.

Since I wrote my contract I'm his owned slave. He calls me anything from pet and slave through whore and fuckmeat but as a label I'm a slave.

Or at least I will be when we finally move in together after the house has been fixed

 

[SheDevilShay]

I am a switch woman.

I submit to those who inspire it, and I dominate those who inspire it.

I have a serious love for the Daddy/little girl relationship. I've been fortunate enough to end up as a loving little girl more than once.

I have a serious sadistic streak, and I'm also masochistic.

*shrug* I can't label better than that.

I don't thikn I could have described myself "at this moment" better.. each day I learn more about myself and find myself growing and changing... so one day I really feel like his lg and the next day I really feel like Im his Kajira...

 

[Daddyslilpet]

Labels only matter to other people. The only thing that matters to me is that He loves me, want to be with me and that we have fun while we can.

 

[Homburg]

BiBunny - I've been giving her space. A pretty fair amount actually. Unfortunately, I'm not terribly patient, and the waiting is wearing my nerves thin. It's a fault I recognise, but it is difficult to deal with. Let's face it, part of being Dominant is the tendency to take, to command, and to act, not to sit back passively and wait.

It requires every ounce of willpower I have some days not to simply issue a command and expect it to be followed. It just does not seem like the right course of action. Yet there are days where I swear that she is hinting that I should do exactly that, and she's testing me.

*sigh* If I wasn't so crazy about her, I be driven crazy by her...

ms.read - Thank you, sweetheart. I know that I'll pull through, as "v" is with me, and I can count on her. I just won't enjoy pulling through.

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Thank you both for your kind words.

 

[saw_man1]

Who me?

The title I prefer is Boss.
Sometimes I am called The Boss but I don't allow that any longer as I was constantly being confused with some singer guy who also uses that title.