Pick Your Label(s)

[Homburg]

I've got a friend that calls me "Boss" all the time. And he identifies as a Dom. What's worse is that he hops to double-quick whenever I ask him to do something. "Hey man, can you grab me a soda while you're up?" "Yeah, boss!" and, bang, off he goes. It makes me twitch.

 

[Byakuya]

hmm.. I'd probably label myself as a "wannabe" since I really don't get into a lot of BDSM in my relationship with my wife..

in an ideal world, I'd label myself as a "switch" since I'd like to experience both master and slave roles.. but yeah.. in reality my sex life is pretty vanilla unfortunately...

 

[northwoods_sub]

I guess you would call me a submissive with a healthy masochistic streak, I don't really think I could be a slave. I like to talk back way to much.

 

[tanijaana]

I call myself an opportunist. If it will get me what I want or need, I will do it in a heartbeat, throwing myself totally into whatever role is required by the relationship I have with my partner.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

I am a sadist.

Dominant.

Owner of janey.

Fanboy, sci-fi reading/comics collecting/role-playing gamer geek.

I like sensual play, I like nurturing someone. I've been a parent, I can be someones Daddy. Or Boss. Or Master. Or Sir. I've had a poly family before, I can have a poly family again.

I believe my position in the relationship is one of earned surrender and trust. Submission given not because I demand it, but because it's been inspired. Obedience rendered, not because I demand it, but because to disobey is unthinkable. Loyalty given and loyalty returned.

I am the benevolent dictator, the righteous king, the kind tyrant.

I am the darkness, the devourer, the beast.

I'm Geoff, and because I live somewhat outside the rules of mainstream society, I'm Evil_Geoff.

 

[SubKekiLee]

I am a sadist.

Dominant.

Owner of janey.

Fanboy, sci-fi reading/comics collecting/role-playing gamer geek.

I like sensual play, I like nurturing someone. I've been a parent, I can be someones Daddy. Or Boss. Or Master. Or Sir. I've had a poly family before, I can have a poly family again.

I believe my position in the relationship is one of earned surrender and trust. Submission given not because I demand it, but because it's been inspired. Obedience rendered, not because I demand it, but because to disobey is unthinkable. Loyalty given and loyalty returned.

I am the benevolent dictator, the righteous king, the kind tyrant.

I am the darkness, the devourer, the beast.

I'm Geoff, and because I live somewhat outside the rules of mainstream society, I'm Evil_Geoff.

Incredible Geoff... Love your description...

 

[Homburg]

We're still together. We're still trying. But not a day goes by that I wonder if this will be the last day we are together.

Well, no more wondering.

I'm going to go somewhere and be very fucking broken.

 

[HottieMama]

Well, no more wondering.

I'm going to go somewhere and be very fucking broken.

i am SO sorry.

 

[FurryFury]

Well, no more wondering.

I'm going to go somewhere and be very fucking broken.

I'm so sorry to hear that.

*HUG*

 

[myinnerslut]

Well, no more wondering.

I'm going to go somewhere and be very fucking broken.

i am so sorry to hear that. {hugs} i hope that you feel better soon, though it is understandable for you to feel the way you do now. if you ever want to talk, my pm box is always open. {{morehugs}}

 

[BiBunny]

Well, no more wondering.

I'm going to go somewhere and be very fucking broken.

*Great big hugs for Homburg* I am so sorry.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

Well, no more wondering.

I'm going to go somewhere and be very fucking broken.

There are no words to ease the pain, only wisdom gained from similar experiences... It's okay to feel the pain, the loss, that "broken-ness" that the end of this relationship brings. But remember to hold on to the joy, the love, the comfort to be found with your OTHER relationship. She will need to know that your love for her is still there. And you will need to know that her love for you is still there.

Do not let the loss of one grieve you into losing the other.

And I'm here if you need me. I can't promise anything except to share my truth, my experience, my painfully won knowledge.

Safe journeys.

 

[Homburg]

Dammit. You all made me start tearing up again. I'm a Man, rawr, I'm not supposed to cry. Dom's shouldn't cry either, least that's what they say. I don't feel very dominant right now.

Thank you. I haven't been here long, but these responses have made me feel very welcome.

After "w" and I talked, I drove home, with "v" on the phone with me telling me to let her pick me up. I got home and wanted to be alone, to curl up somewhere and feel miserable. "v", being a bad submissive (only because she didn't listen when I told her that I wanted to be alone ), but an incredible human being and amazing wife, refused to let me be alone. I may have wanted to be alone, but I needed her there.

I've told her I don't know how many times that she's the best thing that ever happened to me. So, no worries that I will let her down. I couldn't survive losing her.

Sorry about the threadjack. Thank you all once again.

 

[NALA CAYENNE]

Well, no more wondering.

I'm going to go somewhere and be very fucking broken.

i'm sorry;( {{{{{{{{{{{{{{Homburg}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

 

[vffan]

Well, no more wondering.

I'm going to go somewhere and be very fucking broken.

i'm sorry too. *hugs*

 

[JMohegan]

I'm a Man, rawr, I'm not supposed to cry. Dom's shouldn't cry either, least that's what they say.

Those are bullshit rules.

Unrealistic, unenforceable, and very unhealthy to boot.

 

[sister76]

Dom's shouldn't cry either, least that's what they say. I don't feel very dominant right now.

Not true at all. I think a Dom does whatever he wants to, no matter what society says a "man" should do. Crying when sad makes no man a lesser dominant. It may even make one more dominant because they are doing what they feel is appropriate rather than denying themselves the release because of some stupid societal impositions on men.

 

[sister76]

Submission given not because I demand it, but because it's been inspired. Obedience rendered, not because I demand it, but because to disobey is unthinkable. Loyalty given and loyalty returned.

Sounds to me like a statement emanating from true dominance.

 

[sister76]

Anyway, getting back to the purpose of the thread...
I am a submissive, happily owned, also a slave and pet. And I love every second of it. My man is what I have always dreamed of and it's really an amazing thing that he ever found me and I am happier than ever.

 

[Homburg]

Not true at all. I think a Dom does whatever he wants to, no matter what society says a "man" should do. Crying when sad makes no man a lesser dominant. It may even make one more dominant because they are doing what they feel is appropriate rather than denying themselves the release because of some stupid societal impositions on men.

Thank you, to you and JMohegan. I was being facetious when I said it, thus the "rawr". Should've put a smiley or something to indicate levity, but I wasn't all there.

I agree, men cry. I sure as hell do. Not often, but I do get misty eyed at the stupidest things sometimes. And this has really wrecked me. I've cried more and harder over this than anything in my life to date.

Both "v" and "w" said that seeing me show emotion made me a better Dom in their eyes. I was "more real" to quote "v" and "more human" per "w". Made me more approachable, easier to love, and they felt closer. It just made me feel like shit, but what do I know?

I agree that it is just societal conditioning. Doesn't matter though. I still feel weak and pathetic when I cry. *shrug* I'm a "Man", rawr, and that label (trying vainly to appear topical) connotes a strong, hard exterior that doesn't cry. To quote Tom hanks, "There's no crying in baseball!"

 

[lil_slave_rose]

I dunno. It might not. I want it badly. I can tell that she does too.

She actually submitted to me, and, a few days later, in the single most heart-breaking night of my life, retracted it. Someone that I considered a friend decided to spread the word about "w" and I, and she got scared as she is not comfortable with people knowing about this side of her life. She still hasn't recovered. I don't know that she will ever submit fully at this point.

Wow, it was fucking hard to type the above paragraph. Bares my soul more than a bit. Still, your anecdote was beautiful, and what I hope for with "w". The night she said those words is still this shining memory burning in my mind. Unfortunately it sits right next to this ragged hole that I would rather not remember.

We're still together. We're still trying. But not a day goes by that I wonder if this will be the last day we are together.

i had a very hard time calling my Dom "Master" for a very long time. and i had a problem with Him calling me His property, His slut, etc...but He was patient and He did push a little a time...and eventually "Master" became second nature to me, now when i call Him anything other than that (even Daddy) it just sounds odd to me. so my advice is the same as BiBunny's..be patient..and it'll happen

as for the Original topic of this thread..haha i have so many titles i could probably go on for a while, but i'll just go with His slut, Daddy's princess, His property,His slave, masochist who is finding she likes more and more pain as time progresses. hmm..i know there are some i've forgotten..ohhh the pressure....i can't take it i'm simply "me" *nods*

 

[JMohegan]

I agree that it is just societal conditioning. Doesn't matter though. I still feel weak and pathetic when I cry. *shrug* I'm a "Man", rawr, and that label (trying vainly to appear topical) connotes a strong, hard exterior that doesn't cry. To quote Tom hanks, "There's no crying in baseball!"

Click me.

Societal conditioning is strong, no doubt. But Sister76 is right. Coach's tears were as natural as his laughter, and the sheer confidence of the man was astounding.

 

[ownedsubgal]

slave by status, submissive by nature.

 

[callinectes]

Quite possibly a soon-to-be-born-again vanilla. That way I can just keep all of this locked up nice and tight inside and not feel like a jackass.

 

[subkitty72]

Quite possibly a soon-to-be-born-again vanilla. That way I can just keep all of this locked up nice and tight inside and not feel like a jackass.

Fuck no...can't do that. You were gonna teach me to be a lady and not use the word fuck!

I'll give you my chocolate suede pumas if you stay.