Punishment

[graceanne]

Hang out for another 6 months without losing it over this particular topic's repetition. The board has a combination of r/l, cyber, and combinations of the two. You haven't seen anything until disagreements over "real" D/s start flying.

Oh. lord. We loose more members over that argument.

 

[shy slave]

Oh. lord. We loose more members over that argument.

People come and go, but in the case of the men...can their 'members' stay?

 

[graceanne]

People come and go, but in the case of the men...can their 'members' stay?

brat.

 

[FluteMaster]

People come and go, but in the case of the men...can their 'members' stay?

The most effective sex organ is the brain - and mine just keeps going.

 

[intothewoods]

People come and go, but in the case of the men...can their 'members' stay?

*giggle* Nice one.

 

[JMohegan]

brat.

So true.

But as Dolf pointed out several days ago, in Shy's case it's endearing.

Lots of good stuff in this thread, it's a topic I'm interested in so I may have to go back and give a more elaborate response later, but for now I'll just keep it really simple.

I'm not sure what you would call what I do, but this is what I do that I think could possibly describe punishment.

Mostly I punish knee jerk reactions that I want to iron out. The most common one is plain old rudeness in tone, speech or body language. Spankings work well as reminders and I've also come to use time outs pretty frequently.

My sub will speak to me in a way I don't like, I'll tell her to lie on the floor with her hands behind her back and I'll place a kitchen timer in front of her with the amount of time I find appropriate for the offense. Usually 3, 5 or 10 minutes.

If nothing else, it usually settles her temper and gives me a bit of a jolly.

I've got a buddy who does something very similar, and for the same reasons. He calls it "chill time," which his wife spends sitting on the floor in the kitchen with her back to the refrigerator as a means of reinforcing the point.

This is the same guy who imposes hiking boot time as a response to his wife's overspending.

 

[Netzach]

Normally if things are getting fucked up, I'm the person who needs to go sit with my back to the fridge for a while. Actually this sounds like a reward more than a punishment when I'm as busy as I am.