AchtungNight
Lech Master
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- May 19, 2006
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Full disclosure- I have never tried sexting. I have had women read and enjoy my stories, and my physical attention, but blind online sexting just seems too much like an unsure faked hookup. I know how to make a story or a staged video game relationship- I’ve done those also- go right and I don’t like uncertainty. I like fakers even less, however.
My last ex was an asexual who professed to hate objectification, only be interested in sexual attraction on an intellectual basis, and that she was in love with me so she chose to be together for eight years until she fell out of love. It went through cycles and I kept wondering as we built a home life together and I made various sacrifices for her while we disliked each other’s families (but acted otherwise around them to be polite) when we would split. She never prioritized mending the many flaws in our relationship. I stayed with her and did not look for other women because I was grateful to her for being with me. I ultimately never had her, though.
If I can get someone as committed to me as she was in our honeymoon phase, and as into frequent sexual encounters as I am- I will commit to that woman if she expects it. I may even not actually do ethical non-monogamy- though I will absolutely put it on the table so she knows I’m open to threesomes and her straying if she gets the urge. Easier to have the option but go back to the person who is always there. Losing mine who was, and getting starved of affection by the pandemic and emotional storms in the wake of my divorce- I will hope my next wife is smart enough to keep a sure thing. And if she can allow us the benefits of swinging and three-ways and all the other fun of dating an erotica fan (I’m not giving it up for anything in my imagination), that’s icing on the cake. I will be honest- I want my icing. But if I can’t have it, well, reality of regular attraction is most attractive in the long run since it’s in my past. I just want it fully honest and comfortable on the next round.
Hope the women here can believe and accept that. It’s the truth.
My last ex was an asexual who professed to hate objectification, only be interested in sexual attraction on an intellectual basis, and that she was in love with me so she chose to be together for eight years until she fell out of love. It went through cycles and I kept wondering as we built a home life together and I made various sacrifices for her while we disliked each other’s families (but acted otherwise around them to be polite) when we would split. She never prioritized mending the many flaws in our relationship. I stayed with her and did not look for other women because I was grateful to her for being with me. I ultimately never had her, though.
If I can get someone as committed to me as she was in our honeymoon phase, and as into frequent sexual encounters as I am- I will commit to that woman if she expects it. I may even not actually do ethical non-monogamy- though I will absolutely put it on the table so she knows I’m open to threesomes and her straying if she gets the urge. Easier to have the option but go back to the person who is always there. Losing mine who was, and getting starved of affection by the pandemic and emotional storms in the wake of my divorce- I will hope my next wife is smart enough to keep a sure thing. And if she can allow us the benefits of swinging and three-ways and all the other fun of dating an erotica fan (I’m not giving it up for anything in my imagination), that’s icing on the cake. I will be honest- I want my icing. But if I can’t have it, well, reality of regular attraction is most attractive in the long run since it’s in my past. I just want it fully honest and comfortable on the next round.
Hope the women here can believe and accept that. It’s the truth.