Real men shouldn't fear Strapons !!!

[fauconier]

Do you think more guys would open up about their strap-on dildo fetish if the femdom videos were more loving/couple-friendly and less about female domination and male suffering ?

It might help. I believe all videos should be loving, and my own preference is for couple-friendly. I have a lot of trouble relating to dominance/submission of any kind, though, because to me it seems to depict neither loving nor balanced relationships. Though I haven't seen more than short clips of them, I believe there are a couple of videos by Dr Carol Queen (Good Vibrations) of her using a strap-on with her real-life male partner. AFAIK, they both really enjoy this kind of play (she can come while using a strap-on) and theirs is not a D/S relationship.

I must admit, though, that I don't personally like any kind of anal play---the result of childhood illnesses during which I had to have my temperature taken rectally, and which I really disliked. Obviously, of course, many folks do enjoy it.

 

[Samuelx]

It might help. I believe all videos should be loving, and my own preference is for couple-friendly. I have a lot of trouble relating to dominance/submission of any kind, though, because to me it seems to depict neither loving nor balanced relationships. Though I haven't seen more than short clips of them, I believe there are a couple of videos by Dr Carol Queen (Good Vibrations) of her using a strap-on with her real-life male partner. AFAIK, they both really enjoy this kind of play (she can come while using a strap-on) and theirs is not a D/S relationship.

I must admit, though, that I don't personally like any kind of anal play---the result of childhood illnesses during which I had to have my temperature taken rectally, and which I really disliked. Obviously, of course, many folks do enjoy it.

I agree one hundred percent.

 

[Josef_K]

I guess I just don't understand why it matters if there is a gay association or not. If it turns you on and everyone involved is a consenting adult, then I say go for it, whether what turns you on is penis-like dildos, un-penis-like dildos or real penises, or what have you. There are plenty of people who live their lives sexually unsatisfied, and if someone is able to have their sexual fantasies realized, they should consider themselves lucky, whatever that fantasy may be. Too much emphasis is put on gay, straight, bi, etc. when people should just focus on what they find pleasurable and fuck what anyone else thinks about it aside from the people involved.

 

[Samuelx]

I guess I just don't understand why it matters if there is a gay association or not. If it turns you on and everyone involved is a consenting adult, then I say go for it, whether what turns you on is penis-like dildos, un-penis-like dildos or real penises, or what have you. There are plenty of people who live their lives sexually unsatisfied, and if someone is able to have their sexual fantasies realized, they should consider themselves lucky, whatever that fantasy may be. Too much emphasis is put on gay, straight, bi, etc. when people should just focus on what they find pleasurable and fuck what anyone else thinks about it aside from the people involved.

Must not underestimate how society's biases affect the minds of men and women.

 

[homunculus]

of course

Of course, if labels mean nothing to you then, as you say, fuck what anyone thinks and do as you please. But if you think derogatory terms matter-- nigger, or for me, mick (hardly compares in sting, of course), or fag or whatever--then you are in it anyway. And if you think nice terms matter, you are in it, it being the world where words matter. If having a plastic cock up your ass gets you in touch with your gay self, what is the harm? When a man can say, 'I want to try something gay tonight' to his lover (woman), then we'll have something. But when a man says, hey let's try strapon play, but don't get me wrong, this has nothing to do with cocks or mm anal sex, then we are just being full of, ahem, shit.

 

[Josef_K]

Must not underestimate how society's biases affect the minds of men and women.

Very true

 

[Josef_K]

Of course, if labels mean nothing to you then, as you say, fuck what anyone thinks and do as you please. But if you think derogatory terms matter-- nigger, or for me, mick (hardly compares in sting, of course), or fag or whatever--then you are in it anyway. And if you think nice terms matter, you are in it, it being the world where words matter. If having a plastic cock up your ass gets you in touch with your gay self, what is the harm? When a man can say, 'I want to try something gay tonight' to his lover (woman), then we'll have something. But when a man says, hey let's try strapon play, but don't get me wrong, this has nothing to do with cocks or mm anal sex, then we are just being full of, ahem, shit.

I do not disagree with you. I realize that everyone, myself included, is guilty of using labels. It's unavoidable and as a Jewish person who enjoys sex with males and females, I am well aware of how much it can hurt to have derogatory terms directed at you. I guess my only point was do what feels good, and if that makes you gay or straight or bi, that is much less important than whether it sexually fulfills you.

 

[Wolf of Mibu 69]

It's not the strap-on that inspires fear... nay, it is the woman wearing it who has all the power and control, and the look in her eye that I would be more concerned about. But it's the kind of fear I would love to feel. That thrill of surrendering my ass to her. Relinquishing the iron control I usually try to maintain over everything. It would be liberating, aside from simply sexual fulfillment.

 

[susurrus]

http://www.tube8.com/fetish/wife-take-strapon-to-husband/111655/

Here ya go, gang. This is probably about as loving a female-on-male strap-on encounter's going to get on film. She at least doesn't humiliate the hell out of him, and she actually gives him more action than he gives her.

Her tits are unnaturally large and round, but what the heck...

If strap-on porm was a little more like this, the idea might not be quite so off-putting for a lot of men

 

[nitoc88]

I would love to have a woman do my ass with strap on. I would pay a woman to do it.

 

[SissyJane]

http://www.tube8.com/fetish/wife-take-strapon-to-husband/111655/

Here ya go, gang. This is probably about as loving a female-on-male strap-on encounter's going to get on film. She at least doesn't humiliate the hell out of him, and she actually gives him more action than he gives her.

Her tits are unnaturally large and round, but what the heck...

If strap-on porm was a little more like this, the idea might not be quite so off-putting for a lot of men

WOWOOOOWWW! That is so amazing! Very nice (although he should have been in lingerie.... )

 

[Samuelx]

I would love to have a woman do my ass with strap on. I would pay a woman to do it.

There are women on Facebook looking for guys like you.

 

[nitoc88]

really? where how do I find them i am ny too. Let me know cause I really want this.

 

[Lobo_8]

I have recently begun experimenting with anal (my finger only) but have recently told my wife that that previously VERY taboo spot is now open. The next time I see her I'm not sure she will go for it, but I dislike doing one thing to my wife and not allowing the same to be done to me. I guess the biggest reason I have been so hesitant is the quandary: Does this make me gay/bi? I have been unable to do anything other than make myself a bit stiffer, after that the pleasure from there just seems to plateau.

-Burns

 

[susurrus]

Lobo,

As far as your question, "Does it make me gay/bi?"

Do you still love your wife and want to have sex with her? Do you find yourself emotionally attracted to men?

If yes to the first and no to the second, that pretty much rules out gay.

If you still love your wife and want to have sex with her, but also wouldn't mind sucking a cock and/or getting fucked in the ass, then you might be bi, or at least curious.

Ask yourself, does it really matter? As long as both you and your wife are okay with it, the label doesn't make any difference. It means you're open minded, and willing to try things if they feel good. It doesn't really make you anything but somebody who wants to feel all the pleasure your body's capable of experiencing.

I'm assuming since you mention the reciprocity thing, that she's let you in her back door. Hopefully it was a positive experience for her, otherwise she definitely won't understand your interest in wanting to try it.

I wish you luck, my friend. Assure her you love her, and that you just want to experience as much pleasure with her as you can. If necessary, further assure her that she's the only one you want to do it with.

 

[Flyingsgt]

There are women on Facebook looking for guys like you.

Really??? How does one find them?

 

[foothillsncm]

just my 2 cents ..im as straigh as their is...but i would give anything to be in a room ofwomen with strapons....i owuld even likethem to dress me up.....but the adding the bi thing really getsto me

 

[planoman]

What about the woman?

I mentioned this to my wife and I think I noticed a hint of intrigue, but that's as far as that conversation went.

My question is, does the woman derive any physical pleasure from plowing her man or is it all mental stimulation? (looking to close the deal)

 

[janeyl]

I mentioned this to my wife and I think I noticed a hint of intrigue, but that's as far as that conversation went.

My question is, does the woman derive any physical pleasure from plowing her man or is it all mental stimulation? (looking to close the deal)

It's hard to generalise-I think it depends on the situation, the strap on you use and how turned on you are by it.

Mine has a little bullet vibe that slips in the harness strategically but I don't really like it-too intense a vibration for me although I'm sure other women like it. I don't always come from it but the levels of arousal are incredible to the extent where it runs down my thighs and into a puddle on the bed. I don't think I can separate physical from mental stimulation they are too intricately entwined

 

[SissyJane]

I think the women who do it for me love it, they all have orgasmsbefore they letme cum

 

[Flyingsgt]

What's in it for the woman

That is why we went with the feeldoe...She gets something out of it also.

 

[meflash]

http://www.tube8.com/fetish/wife-take-strapon-to-husband/111655/

Here ya go, gang. This is probably about as loving a female-on-male strap-on encounter's going to get on film. She at least doesn't humiliate the hell out of him, and she actually gives him more action than he gives her.

Her tits are unnaturally large and round, but what the heck...

If strap-on porm was a little more like this, the idea might not be quite so off-putting for a lot of men

great video if that was a real couple, wow what a wife but i think its actors

 

[susurrus]

great video if that was a real couple, wow what a wife but i think its actors

Yeah, you're probably right. I guess the point I was trying to make was the fact that these two do the strap-on bit, but they both seem to be having a lot of fun.

 

[tss48380]

It's not gay or bi

Our society's closed mind approach has us all messed up with labels. It is funny that the vast majority of straight men would say that getting penetrated anally by a woman with a strap on is a "homosexual" despite the definition of the latin word homosexual being obviously "same sex". There is nothing "homosexual" about any sex act between a man and a woman. A man can fully enjoy anal penetration without having any physical attraction to men whatsoever just like a woman can enjoy doing it to her man without secretly wanting to penetrate another woman.

If this stigma did not exist many more men would be open to being penetrated by their women. At least those that are brave enough to do it can be rewarded with an amazing experience.

The other thing that I think is funny is the forum this is posted in!!

 

[cytexas1972]

I think it would, but it would still need to have the "fucking" aspect. The hard part is finding a partner you trust with this fantasy.