Rituals and positions

[Shadowsdream]

RITUALS PERTAINING TO SHOES

I would never dream of putting My shoes on Myself or removing them for that matter. I expect My submissive to do this mundane task and to do it with class and joy.
When I am going out I will indicate which shoes or boots I will be wearing. They better be clean and polished to My expectation. If they are not it is a reflection on his respect for Me as his Dominant. Each shoe is placed on My foot with care and devotion. Never hurried. I am served in this way from his knees, as he knows that his place is below Me. It is both where I wish him to be and where he needs to be. If I see any imperfection in the care of My foot wear he can be certain that My scathing words will cause him to squirm and repair his dereliction with haste and efficiency.
I do not like to be kept waiting and this trait in My personality is magnified when I am in the mood to go out. If he wants to put Me in a bad mood that is likely to last all day this is the best time to accomplish it. Waiting makes Me seethe with discontent. If there is one thing a submissive does not want to see in this Domme it is discontent.
The ritual is similar when I return home. I will stand at the door while he removes My shoes respectfully. But at this time he is expected to kiss each foot as the shoe is removed and placed at his side. I am shown his humility and his pride in My ownership of him and his submission. This ritual is never hurried; it is a pure sign of devotion and love.
If I have been out of the home and not allowed him to join Me I see his joy and desperation for My presence when he drops into the frog position telling Me how glad he is to see Me and how much My presence has been missed. I have not taught him this. There is no need. Their honesty and comfort has made it a natural welcome that comes from their heart and goes directly into Mine.

 

[Shadowsdream]

You crack Me up Ebony...

Just determined to raise that glove count aren't You?

 

[Ebonyfire]

the perfect bath ritual

Everytime I read this, I love it just a little bit more. In my mind, it is perfect. I have a shower ritual for sissy boy, but I never thought of the blindfold which to me is the perfect touch.

Ebony

BATHING RITUAL

Generally I prefer to bathe in the morning but this is not a hard and fast rule that My submissive can take for granted. What he can take for granted is that he will be doing the bathing and I will be doing the relaxing.
Lets assume for the sake of simplicity that this is a morning ritual that I am describing… I will also describe, later in this page, a bathing ritual that would take place in the evening.
When I have finished with My coffee and taken care of My Email or anything I wish to do on My computer, I will be in the mood to be bathed in preparation for a new day. My submissive asks Me when I wish to bathe and I instruct him as to My desires. I continue enjoying the morning as I hear the water running in the bath, I know by experience that he will be efficient with the time it takes to fill the tub.
I can hear him washing any dishes that may be in the sink from the morning or the night before. I know that he will have made the bed as well before he calls and tells Me that the bath is ready. I find him in the frog position that I love so much, waiting patiently beside the bath of hot water. I know the water will be hot, as My submissive would never prepare it in a way that did not please Me. The hotter the better is My motto!
I like to stand above him for a moment or so, just to add a bit of suspense to a routine event. Even though this ritual is expected to be routine I occasionally will add an element that is unexpected. I will instruct him to sit up upon his knees and at that time I will place a leather blindfold over his eyes so that the only glimpse of My nakedness will come from his hands. Once I am certain the black leather blindfold is correctly placed to block out all vision I will give the command to undress Me. Obediently his hands come from behind his back and he reaches blindly before him to slip My nightgown respectfully from My body. Often his head will rest upon My belly as his desire to feel My strength over powers his resistance. I may allow it for a moment before stepping from him and into the water that awaits My pleasure.
He kneels quietly with his hands once again behind his back. I see that his mouth has slackened as his submission is captured in this focused moment. When it is evident from the sound of the still water that I am awaiting his service My submissive/slave will search blindly for the soap. Always he asks if he will be washing My face. There are some days that I wish to do this Myself. If I say yes he will then ask if I am going to wash My hair. He does this so that he knows how careful he must be not to get My hair wet.
My submissive washes My body with adoration with both My cleanliness and comfort in mind. It would be unthinkable for him to turn this into a sexual moment. Those moments only come through My need not his. I can feel the love in his hands when he uses the strength of his fingers to give Me a mini back massage during the bathing process. This is his gift to Me that I do not ask from him. When I am given this unexpected gift I accept it as seriously as if he were giving Me a Mercedes. When I hear the words " I think you are finished Mistress." I will instruct this wonderful man back into the frog position to wait until I am ready to leave the bath.
I direct even the smallest details of this ritual. It will be My direction that will have My submissive reaching for the towel that he will be expected to dry Me with. I do NOT want him thinking for himself at this moment. I want him to have the freedom of obedience. This boy reaches blindly for My towel, often having to crawl a few feet to locate it hanging on the bathroom wall. I watch every tentative move he makes.
I do not stand and step from the bath water until he is quietly positioned, with his thighs spread beside My bathtub. I use his head for balance as I step before him. This boy would not make a move or a sound until I direct him to do so. I will issue the words, " I am ready to be dried" before he lifts his head in blind obedience. Thoroughly but softly My body is worshipped with the towel. Always beginning with My hair and travelling a well-learned path to My feet. When he feels satisfied I will hear the same words he used to indicate he felt my bath was complete. " I think you are finished Mistress."
I will then instruct him back to the frog position to await his next task. I will don My nightgown as I prepare to return to My bedroom to dress. Once I am covered again I will command My submissive back to his knees and remove the blindfold, which has kept him in the dark. He is almost in subspace. I will usually direct him to shower and do any body shaving that I wish at this time. I know that he enjoys his time in the shower so I seldom rush him. I also know that he does not enjoy the shavings, which take so much time, and care but I do not let that fact influence My decision. I want him shaved. He has no choice, he obeys.

 

[Ebonyfire]

You crack Me up Ebony...

Just determined to raise that glove count aren't You?

Yes, I would do a daily inspection if I could. I love to finger that ass!

Eb

 

[Shadowsdream]

Ebony

Any ideas for a good secure blindfold for the shower..I know a subbie that may like to know ~~~grin~~

 

[Ebonyfire]

latex strips

Ebony

Any ideas for a good secure blindfold for the shower..I know a subbie that may like to know ~~~grin~~

I found this place online that sells latex strips for mumiffcation play and CBT. There are wide strips for mummification, that would make a great blindfold.

I thought I bookmarked the website, but have not been able to find it. If anyone knows a company that sells this, please post it. they also sell other latex clothing.

Eb

 

[P. B. Walker]

ROTFLMAO

Here, PBW, come here, I have something to show you...it will not hurt, I promise. <standing with fingers crossed behind her back>

hey now... show me those hands... <creeping forward>... uh huh... then why does that hand have a glove on it. <backing away quickly>.

PBW "I'm not that easy. " hehe

 

[P. B. Walker]

Ebony

Any ideas for a good secure blindfold for the shower..I know a subbie that may like to know ~~~grin~~

I don't know if this is reasonable, since it's kind of a pain in the ass to get on and off, but an ACE bandage works great as a blindfold. Can just wrap it around all over, so they can't see at all. And it's a light enough color so they can still get that feeling of it being light out. And, getting it wet won't ruin it.

Just an idea.

-PBW

 

[Shadowsdream]

RITUALS SURROUNDING MEALS

My submissive cooks all of O/our meals. I seldom initiate the menu unless I wish something special or am in the mood to add a bit of unexpected Domination. I enjoy the meals he prepares so lovingly for My enjoyment as he is a very good cook who loves to experiment in the kitchen. Since I seldom allow submissive of Mine to be clothed in My presence he cooks naked with the few exceptions I will demand he wears a woman's apron to protect those wobbly bits I have claimed as Mine.
The apron serves a dual purpose. One is protection from spattering fats another is the humiliation of wearing any form of feminine apparel.
Occasionally I will go into the kitchen to add torment to his otherwise peaceful space. I love to caress any exposed areas as he tries to keep his mind on food and not on orgasms. Just feeling his frustration is a very big turn on for Me. Slapping his naked butt as he tries unsuccessfully to prepare a salad can be a very amusing pastime, if I am having a bored moment.
My submissive knows that his legs must be spread the moment I walk into the kitchen. I do not care how important he thinks his task might be. Nothing is more important to Me than My amusement or needs. If he has the audacity to forget this simple rule I will simply spread his legs with My foot and give him more torment that he would like. Taking him to the edge of frustration and then walking away is a good lesson in obedience.
When My boy has finished the preparations and the meal is on the table he is required to come to Me to announce this fact. It would be simply too disrespectful to allow him to yell at Me from the kitchen. He is My servant. I am not his! Once again this vision of humble submission drops into the frog position to indicate that the meal awaits My pleasure. Often I will drag out this moment before acknowledging his announcement.
When I feel that he has been patient long enough to please Me I will direct him to make his way back to the kitchen, which I see as his domain. He crawls from Me and I follow in appreciation of the work he does to please Me. I always without exception, enjoy My toy when he is happily on his knees for Me. When he is at the table he side steps his body to let Me pass and then he kneels before Me with his proud spine straight and thighs spread as he kisses the rim of the glass containing My beverage and hands it submissively to Me. He drops back into the frog position and I place My feet majestically upon his back sipping the cool fluid as I make him wait a few minutes longer for the meal to begin.
I expect My submissive to sit on the floor for these meals with the rare exception that I will occasionally reward him with, when I allow him to join Me at the table. Once I have released him to sit up he pulls the small red plastic table I allow for his use as close as he can get it to My legs. I instruct him to join Me in the meal and we companionably eat together and speak of daily events. When the meal is over I allow this good boy a cigarette before he washes up the dishes and puts the kitchen back into an acceptable condition. I return to any pleasure I was previously enjoying of course.

 

[Ebonyfire]

RITUALS SURROUNDING MEALS

My submissive cooks all of O/our meals. I seldom initiate the menu unless I wish something special or am in the mood to add a bit of unexpected Domination. I enjoy the meals he prepares so lovingly for My enjoyment as he is a very good cook who loves to experiment in the kitchen. Since I seldom allow submissive of Mine to be clothed in My presence he cooks naked with the few exceptions I will demand he wears a woman's apron to protect those wobbly bits I have claimed as Mine.
The apron serves a dual purpose. One is protection from spattering fats another is the humiliation of wearing any form of feminine apparel.
Occasionally I will go into the kitchen to add torment to his otherwise peaceful space. I love to caress any exposed areas as he tries to keep his mind on food and not on orgasms. Just feeling his frustration is a very big turn on for Me. Slapping his naked butt as he tries unsuccessfully to prepare a salad can be a very amusing pastime, if I am having a bored moment.
My submissive knows that his legs must be spread the moment I walk into the kitchen. I do not care how important he thinks his task might be. Nothing is more important to Me than My amusement or needs. If he has the audacity to forget this simple rule I will simply spread his legs with My foot and give him more torment that he would like. Taking him to the edge of frustration and then walking away is a good lesson in obedience.
When My boy has finished the preparations and the meal is on the table he is required to come to Me to announce this fact. It would be simply too disrespectful to allow him to yell at Me from the kitchen. He is My servant. I am not his! Once again this vision of humble submission drops into the frog position to indicate that the meal awaits My pleasure. Often I will drag out this moment before acknowledging his announcement.
When I feel that he has been patient long enough to please Me I will direct him to make his way back to the kitchen, which I see as his domain. He crawls from Me and I follow in appreciation of the work he does to please Me. I always without exception, enjoy My toy when he is happily on his knees for Me. When he is at the table he side steps his body to let Me pass and then he kneels before Me with his proud spine straight and thighs spread as he kisses the rim of the glass containing My beverage and hands it submissively to Me. He drops back into the frog position and I place My feet majestically upon his back sipping the cool fluid as I make him wait a few minutes longer for the meal to begin.
I expect My submissive to sit on the floor for these meals with the rare exception that I will occasionally reward him with, when I allow him to join Me at the table. Once I have released him to sit up he pulls the small red plastic table I allow for his use as close as he can get it to My legs. I instruct him to join Me in the meal and we companionably eat together and speak of daily events. When the meal is over I allow this good boy a cigarette before he washes up the dishes and puts the kitchen back into an acceptable condition. I return to any pleasure I was previously enjoying of course.

Is it me or is the room getting hot? I love it.

Ebony

 

[Ebonyfire]

sissyboy

when sissyboy is here he cleans my kitchen. sometimes he is dressed in sissy clothes, and sometimes he is naked. If he is naked it sometimes amuses me to torment him while he cleans the kitchen. Other times I ignore him while I am not the computer or watching TV.

When he is done, he goes to his spot on the living room floor and kneels the way I have taught him and there he waits until I give him other instructions.

Eb

 

[WillowPuss]

ummmmm ... excuse me Ladies ... but how do you do the torment when your boys have sharp impliments in their hands.

Robuck often likes to 'tease' me when I am in the kitchen, but has to make sure I am not using my sharp knife ...

 

[Ebonyfire]

ummmmm ... excuse me Ladies ... but how do you do the torment when your boys have sharp impliments in their hands.

Robuck often likes to 'tease' me when I am in the kitchen, but has to make sure I am not using my sharp knife ...

It just goes to show how well they are trained. Good Dommes are very hard to find! We are their gold bars.

Eb

 

[Ebonyfire]

It just goes to show how well they are trained. Good Dommes are very hard to find! We are their gold bars. And of course we would not want them to cut themselves.

Eb

 

[P. B. Walker]

Is it me or is the room getting hot? I love it.

Ebony

Errrr... yeah... hot is an understatement.

Thank you so much for the great passages Shadowsdream. I'm learning quite a bit. I love the little nuances (sp?) that come with serving (e.g., keep the thighs spread at all times,etc). I think I speak for all when I say we appreciate all your effort in posting this information.

PBW

 

[Ebonyfire]

I don't know if this is reasonable, since it's kind of a pain in the ass to get on and off, but an ACE bandage works great as a blindfold. Can just wrap it around all over, so they can't see at all. And it's a light enough color so they can still get that feeling of it being light out. And, getting it wet won't ruin it.

Just an idea.

-PBW

And cost effective. I never thought of that one. It could be washed and everything. I like it, thanks!

Eb

 

[Shadowsdream]

O no..I just posted rituals to technics..well go there if you need more ammo and to see My confession over there....

I guess multi tasking is not My thing tonight!

 

[SexyChele]

Shadows, I truly appreciate the time and effort you have put into your postings. I am fast discovering that this is just not for me, but I do love to learn new things.

But, I just gotta ask - sorry! I know when I first wake up I gotta go pee. (excuse the crude language!) Do your subs have to ask permission for that as well. (and, yes, this is a serious question!) I know there are some mornings that if I had to ask permission, my white sheets wouldn't be white for long!

 

[P. B. Walker]

But, I just gotta ask - sorry! I know when I first wake up I gotta go pee. (excuse the crude language!) Do your subs have to ask permission for that as well. (and, yes, this is a serious question!) I know there are some mornings that if I had to ask permission, my white sheets wouldn't be white for long!

I was actually wondering the same thing... cus that's actually the first thing I do in the morning... among other uhm.. things.

-PBW

 

[Shadowsdream]

YES

They must ask to go pee!

 

[P. B. Walker]

YES

They must ask to go pee!

Can they ask before or after coffee? Just teasin.

I assume this is a very common request. I would think this would wait until after the Mistress has awakened and her "first thing in the morning" needs are met.

PBW "I gotta go so bad I can almost taste it... ut oh... that might give her ideas". LOL

 

[Wizard]

......................Just marking so I can find it again to read when I have a little more time..........


Carry on then.............

 

[Shadowsdream]

in the morning

The morning pee needed by My sub is what wakes him up but he can almost forget that need as he crawls into My arms for a morning cuddle of contentment.

It is not often that he asks to pee until he sees I am about to get out of bed...

Lately I have been getting up rediculously early and leaving him to sleep. When he wakes up he comes to Me to ask to pee. Of course I say yes ALMOST immediately. Good Domme that I am...and kind to boot!

Hmmm looks like that boot could use a polishing.

 

[artful]

Shadows

in the morning

The morning pee needed by My sub is what wakes him up but he can almost forget that need as he crawls into My arms for a morning cuddle of contentment.

It is not often that he asks to pee until he sees I am about to get out of bed...

Lately I have been getting up rediculously early and leaving him to sleep. When he wakes up he comes to Me to ask to pee. Of course I say yes ALMOST immediately. Good Domme that I am...and kind to boot!

Hmmm looks like that boot could use a polishing.

At the risk of being perceived kissing your ass,...I just have to say. I have questioned myself,...my motives for CONTROL, for many, many years.

I kept DOUBTING my NEED for control to the EXACTNESS I have always demanded. Often I would ponder and ponder upon my NEED to control,... searching for an EXCUSE to change my own personality.

Thank you for giving me an opportunity to SEE outside of myself,...how CONTROL is not a BAD thing. (I had DOUBTS-*BIG TIME*)

I always LUSTED for it,...and not in a selfish way,...but in a helpful, and meaningful way. The beauty of your posts, have given me FRESH insight as to who and what I am.

Dream will be the recipient of my new found perspectives, and because I CAN, speak for both of us,...from the bottom of my heart,...WE thank you.




'es X 12

 

[Shadowsdream]

Art

Thank You...

Sometimes seeing what We feel written by another is a confirmation of what We have always known.

Control is one of the words that make You and I who We are.

I have never questioned My control...My need for it..My desire for it...or how deeply I take it.

If I ever stopped desiring it...then I would begin to question it...It might be then I would begin to feel the guilt. Because then I would be less ME.