Sexual Torture [Pain]: Yes or No?

[the_mgp]

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[EasyDoesIt]

Holy FiretrUCK Batman!!!!

Have not read this thread. The poll drew my attention. I wanted to see (quickly) what people thought.

85% into pain blows me away. I enjoy it both ways......guess I am NOT the biggest perv here.

It's soooo erotic. Swelling a woman's labia.....or beating my balls swolen and red....with a cat-o-nine-tails.

Was this what the Joker had up his sleeve......or was it the Hooker?

 

[Valleyl81]

*****

 

[wildehafer]

Ok, here's a question you guys may be able to help with connected with some research I've read:

For those of you who enjoy the pain, were you ever spanked as a punishment growing up? Or did you ever get other sorts of corporal punishment growing up (including belts, paddles, etc.)? And now are you the one who likes to give or receive pain?

Nope and nope. I won't give unless asked as seeing somone else suffering from pain (as in not liking it) turns me way off.

I enjoy receiving

 

[CutieMouse]

Ok, here's a question you guys may be able to help with connected with some research I've read:

For those of you who enjoy the pain, were you ever spanked as a punishment growing up? Or did you ever get other sorts of corporal punishment growing up (including belts, paddles, etc.)? And now are you the one who likes to give or receive pain?

Generally speaking, there isn't a connection.

I received my last spanking around age 8*; my parents had a letter on file with every school I attended that none of the teachers/VP/principal/etc were authorized to use corporal punishment [on me].

As a parent, I've maybe spanked the kids (5 of them) a dozen times [total]. I can always come up with a logical consequence 10X worse than a spanking, and they know it. I also know myself, and most of the time I have to be angry to react with a spanking; I prefer not to go there.

*I will say that a very impressionable thing happened in the first grade. A classmate of mine was taken out of class and paddled in the hall for some minor infraction... small Mississippi town; the paddle was a 1x6 with holes drilled in it. My desk was near the door, and I can still hear the air whistling as the paddle came down, and his howls. From that point forward, I was scared to death of getting in trouble/paddled. Well into college, if a teacher/Professor/TA/authority figure walked into the room, I stopped talking (often mid-sentence), faced forward, put my glasses on, opened my notebook, and refused to socialize/talk/pass notes/goof off/whatever until the bell rang and the teacher/Prof/TA/authority figure left. It was drastic enough that friends learned to not even bother talking to me if a Prof. was in the room.

I still have the good girl complex [in spades], but I've (thankfully) learned to eroticize pain.

 

[Homburg]

Well into college, if a teacher/Professor/TA/authority figure walked into the room, I stopped talking (often mid-sentence), faced forward, put my glasses on, opened my notebook, and refused to socialize/talk/pass notes/goof off/whatever until the bell rang and the teacher/Prof/TA/authority figure left. It was drastic enough that friends learned to not even bother talking to me if a Prof. was in the room.

I still have the good girl complex [in spades], but I've (thankfully) learned to eroticize pain.

Now that's just all kinds of hot. Damn.

 

[CutieMouse]

Now that's just all kinds of hot. Damn.

Sorry.

(I always forget stuff like that can look hot from the outside...)

 

[Homburg]

Sorry.

(I always forget stuff like that can look hot from the outside...)

Why are you apologising? (Which is, in its' own way, sexy as well)

This is a board about sex. You can get your sexy on (and do, as we see above). It's okay.

 

[butterfly74]

I didn't think I would like it at first, but I find that it heightens my pleasure, overwhelms my senses and makes my orgasms incredibly intense. I have never been beaten, but I love spankings, hair pulling and nipple torture...the sensations are exquisite. If that makes me wrong in some way I don't wanna be right

 

[fatang]

Love your description. I know where you're coming from...

 

[myinnerslut]

Have not read this thread. The poll drew my attention. I wanted to see (quickly) what people thought.

85% into pain blows me away.

eh, im not surprised in the slightest.

not all but a large majority of the BDSMers ive met or interacted with have been either masochists or sadists to some degree.

the poll asked if you are a masochist or sadist to some degree.

not all but a large majority of the people on the thread responded in the affirmitive.

seems common sense to me

 

[Kinkybytch]

Yes I actually like pain to be inflicted on me or to inflict it on my spouse while we have sex why??? i cant explain why thats just the way i am sometimes for me the sex isnt as plesuarable unless it involves some pain but thats just my opinion

 

[dogskatt]

I've been thinking a lot about how people develop certain fetishes. One that actually bothers me is someone who enjoys ether receiving or inflicting pain. My question is for anyone out there with masochistic tendencies. Do you enjoy giving/receiving pain during sex? If so please tell me why, and what, if any is your root for this desire. I especially want to know why someone would enjoy receiving it.

Personally: I do have rape fantasies, but none of them involve brutality. I'm a relatively submissive person in that I prefer to give pleasure rather than receive. If my partner wants to be dominated I can work with that because I see it as a way of 'giving pleasure.' Yet if it involves any sort of physical or mental abuse that's a no no.

I have a craving for pain during sex. I enjoy being spanked, whipped, hair pulled, bound so I can not prevent any torture given to me. I enjoy all my sences being removed, sight, hearing, speach. This way I am in suspence of what is going to happen.

 

[SubmissivePet]

I've been thinking a lot about how people develop certain fetishes. One that actually bothers me is someone who enjoys ether receiving or inflicting pain. My question is for anyone out there with masochistic tendencies. Do you enjoy giving/receiving pain during sex? If so please tell me why, and what, if any is your root for this desire. I especially want to know why someone would enjoy receiving it.

Personally: I do have rape fantasies, but none of them involve brutality. I'm a relatively submissive person in that I prefer to give pleasure rather than receive. If my partner wants to be dominated I can work with that because I see it as a way of 'giving pleasure.' Yet if it involves any sort of physical or mental abuse that's a no no.

I personally enjoy pain...a lot...during and before and after sex.
I think for me it is a release, just part of my masochistic nature. A need to hurt to feel pleasure.
Simple as that, at least for me. But i also get off while being tattooed, so I may just realy like pain. Everyone has their reasons.

 

[Cattypuss]

Well I have liked pain with my sex since I started masturbating at the age of around 12. Pinched the hell out of my nipples.

It heightens the sensations. A few days ago my man had my nipples clamped hard, clothespegs on my labia, something uncomfortably large in my ass, while he rubbed my clit, which he had been flogging earlier - rubbed it hard enough for that to be painful too. I thought I was in heaven.

Shywong needs to stop being so judgmental and holier-than-thou.

People like pain because it makes sex better - simple!

 

[tina12345]

I have no problem giving or receiving pain.

 

[jen_litgirl]

I agree, if you force a persons body to like something when their mind/heart dosn't want to, you make it FAR worse becuase they feel as they're being betrayed by their own bodies... not cool dude

This is interesting to me because I find the whole concept of being sexually betrayed by my own body extremely erotic. Just the idea of it gets me super excited!

How amazing to have a sexual desire so intense that you cant control it, it overwhelms all sense or reason. I can't explain why my body is reacting, it just is because my body is inherently sexual, naturally sexual.

Now that's hot!

I love the idea of my orgasms being ripped from my body! Having said that I'm not really into serious pain, I'm talking about a analogous ripping.

 

[njlauren]

I realize this is a way old thread, but since it did a lazarus, well....I think my answer to that is that I don't consider it giving/receiving pain but rather about giving/receive intense sensations that my body/mind turns into something quite different. It is hard to put into words, I remember trying to describe the difference to my sweetie and having a hard time.

The way I described it was going to the bathroom in the middle of the night and stubbing you toe on a doorframe is pain; getting hit by a baseball traveling at 130 MPH in the tits at a ball game is pain; having to listen to your mother in law (almost anything) is pain. Pushing a baby out with the head the size of an american football through an opening designed to take a kielbasi sized thing is pain (and then it becomes a teenager, even more pain)

On the other hand what I experience in BD/SM is not pain, it is an incredible sensation that takes me to a different place, that puts me on a different level of existence, whatever (and oh, yeah, turns me on, too)...it generates a kind of energy between myself and my top/domme, it creates a kind of circle between us that is different then anything else in the world we experience. Both pain and the sensation I/we get in BD/SM starts with the same source, a response to stimuli caused by some sort of induced nerve response, but if I stub my toe on the door all I want to do is scream; if my maniacally loving domme is sticking needles through my aureolas and flogging me all I want to do is fly even harder

On a lighter note, funniest story about this came years ago (I am talking prob 15 years ago) by a character who called himself Philip the Fool on the old alt.fetish.bdsm newsgroup on Usenet, who related the account of when he had a heart attack and was strapped to a gurney and such and was able to turn that into an erotic sensation, that had to be the ultimate description of what someone can do with pain, getting severe angina while being tied to a stretcher and getting turned on by both...

 

[OnceFuturePoly]

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On a lighter note, funniest story about this came years ago (I am talking prob 15 years ago) by a character who called himself Philip the Fool on the old alt.fetish.bdsm newsgroup on Usenet, who related the account of when he had a heart attack and was strapped to a gurney and such and was able to turn that into an erotic sensation, that had to be the ultimate description of what someone can do with pain, getting severe angina while being tied to a stretcher and getting turned on by both...

Luv it! They could use this as a case study in the Spy School class about Resisting Interrogation.

 

[OnceFuturePoly]

I've been thinking a lot about how people develop certain fetishes. One that actually bothers me is someone who enjoys ether receiving or inflicting pain. My question is for anyone out there with masochistic tendencies. Do you enjoy giving/receiving pain during sex? If so please tell me why, and what, if any is your root for this desire. I especially want to know why someone would enjoy receiving it.

My first wife was a 'neat pain' freak. She would say, "When I'm aroused, it's not pain: it's stimulation!"

The trick with her, like surf boarding, was to stay in the wave. As she became more excited, she perceived a higher degree of pain as stimulation.

I could play with her nipples, building up from light stroking to gently pulling to pinching, twisting, and pulling hard -- occasionally giving her a nipple orgasm.

After her first hard PIV orgasm, I could switch to her ass without any preparation (fingering, stretching, lube, etc.). She'd give a loud moan/groam/scream, dig her claws into my back, and start calling for me to "fuck my ass, just like my pussy".

She also liked 'good girl' spankings. I'd start gentle and ramp up, watching her pussy flower and flow as a guide for how hard. When she was ready, I'd separate her thighs, start slaping her pussy, and she'd start orgasming.

Wrestling could work well when I resisted going straight for the pin.Th

 

[desertslave]

On a lighter note, funniest story about this came years ago (I am talking prob 15 years ago) by a character who called himself Philip the Fool on the old alt.fetish.bdsm newsgroup on Usenet, who related the account of when he had a heart attack and was strapped to a gurney and such and was able to turn that into an erotic sensation, that had to be the ultimate description of what someone can do with pain, getting severe angina while being tied to a stretcher and getting turned on by both...

I remember that! Philip was one of my favorite people. That group is one of the very few things that I miss about Usenet.

I'm not a 'born masochist.' I used to have a very sensible aversion to pain of all flavors. Then I met this guy...he became my first Dom and taught me, first, how to endure pain and second, how to learn to enjoy it, pretty much to the point of near-addiction. (Proof: I went on to have two kids! The youngest has mere months to go before I can say I survived the teens. Go me.)

I don't think that everyone can, or should, achieve this but I'm happy with it. As lauren said, some pain can become erotic and some just isn't (for those of us lacking Philip-like qualities). I've been in the middle of an absolutely delicious flogging and gotten atrocious muscle spasms that dropped me out of subspace like a rock. Poor Master thought he'd killed me, I howled so loud.

The part that continues to amaze me is how he can work me up, up, up until I'm welcoming sensations that would likely make me cry if he did them cold. The magic, for us, is in that dance together. He inspires me to want to take the pain, because my efforts in doing so give him pleasure. His pleasure turns me on deep in my soul, and so it goes, one incredible feedback loop.

 

[Luxanna]

Do you enjoy giving/receiving pain during sex?

Yes, the need for pain has sometimes superseded my need for sexual relief - and pain has ways ways to satisfy it, albeit indirectly.

If so please tell me why, and what, if any is your root for this desire.

There are a few primal evolutionary leftovers that all people have, and are not learned but are instinctual (sexual pleasure, pain, fear). All three of these have the ability to heighten the senses to their maximum, because they can make the different between life and death (or being able to pass on your genes). These feelings give a sense of urgency, and they tie well into each other. It's this sense of urgency that gets me going. The ability for me to trick my body into that fight or flight mindset, it makes the experience all the more enjoyable. Pain and fear are extremely good at this, but while that is the main factor for me, there are a multitude of others - like the fact that it feels wrong to want to be in pain, or wrong to receive a permanent scar on your body for temporary pleasure. It just seals the deal for me.

 

[69thfirmesthand]

I have a dominant personality and attract submissive women w/o even trying.Not trying to sound concieted.I am married and my wife is submissive to a point.My wife wants to find a more submissive female so she can watch me "display my wears" as she calls it.

The submissive female must enjoy anal,being restrained and or tied up,spanked with a hand,paddle,flogger and of course the ball gag.

I had a submissive for over 10 years who enjoyed all of the above.She would twist my nipples A)because she new that would turn me on,B) immediately it led to veryintense anal sex and her eyes would role back in here head almost in a state of euphoria as I took her anally.

My wife will tweak my nipples and it turns me on and she will have to be extremly horny and very relaxed to allow to try anal with her.But invariably she will get to nervous and tighten up to tight.

I have a very high tolerance for pain outside of the bedroom as well.I played sports all of my life and have broken more bones than I care to count.I have had numerous surgeries and woken up during three.I have also woken up during a cardiovert (where they shock your heart into sinus rythm) just I rose up off the bed about 6 to 7 inches.I told the Dr that was a cheap thrill.He looked at me stunned.The Dr said "your not suppose to be awake".I replied I told you I wake up from medicine.

Anyways yes I enjoy pain giving as long as she recives immense pleasure.Whats even better is making her wait to orgasm.MMMMM so naughty yet so good.

 

[nodakgirl]

Punching, slapping, kicking, cutting = abuse???

That's so funny....I had to send my friends a link to your thread. In our world that equals love. Our tops learn from each other and at events on how to do these activities safely. Then spend countless hours learning to read there sub's cues.....as some of us are better than others at using safewords.

Our sadists love us and work hard to be creative and safe. Planning, practice, and aftercare are key. If you really are interested in this type is abuse, lol....check out a local dungeon or play event and see how miserable we all are

Thank you to all the sadists who work so hard to serve us safely, you are appreciated.

Personally speaking, I LOVE the rush of adrenaline from rough play. I love the control exerted, and wear marks proudly! Compared to some I'm a light bottom, but I cannot cum for another unless pain is involved. Imagine my relief in finding out I'm not broken (as I thought) ...I'm just different

Pain for some of us is the stimulation we need to acheive orgasm. Abuse? .....hardly.