Should I or should I not...

[Hipshot1554]

I haven't read every post in this thread, so this may have already been said. If you can't discuss an issue, chances are, it won't be resolved. In a relationship, neglect of either party festers and is devastating.

 

[PapaDan]

To The Trolls

The opinion I posted here was intended for Krista alone, and not for the amusement of the Lit Trolls. If Krista had told me my opinion was stupid and to mind my own business, I would have been fine with that. It's her thread, and her response is the only one that matters. And if she had said I had offended her in some way, I would have been quick to apologize.

And those few of you who have nothing better to do than troll other people's posts, if you cannot tolerate an opinion that differs from your own, *on threads that you did not create*, then you are a Troll! And if you are a Troll, what I say, and who I say it to, is none of your business.

Krista, I apologize for disrupting your thread, and I promise I won't do it again. I truly hope you and your husband find a solution that works for both of you. I can imagine you have invested a substantial portion of your life in your marriage and your family, and throwing that away is not an easy thing to do; however, at the same time, I do understand your frustration. I wish you all the best.

Now you see why I prefer PMs rather than posting openly. I have a very low tolerance for Trolls.

 

[ToPleaseHim]

Having a different opinion or perspective and sharing it does not make one a troll.

 

[KristainSC]

The opinion I posted here was intended for Krista alone, and not for the amusement of the Lit Trolls. If Krista had told me my opinion was stupid and to mind my own business, I would have been fine with that. It's her thread, and her response is the only one that matters. And if she had said I had offended her in some way, I would have been quick to apologize.

And those few of you who have nothing better to do than troll other people's posts, if you cannot tolerate an opinion that differs from your own, *on threads that you did not create*, then you are a Troll! And if you are a Troll, what I say, and who I say it to, is none of your business.

Krista, I apologize for disrupting your thread, and I promise I won't do it again. I truly hope you and your husband find a solution that works for both of you. I can imagine you have invested a substantial portion of your life in your marriage and your family, and throwing that away is not an easy thing to do; however, at the same time, I do understand your frustration. I wish you all the best.

Now you see why I prefer PMs rather than posting openly. I have a very low tolerance for Trolls.

Please, no apology needed. I respect and appreciate everyone’s response / advice, even if it might not be nave been what I wanted to hear. It is what I needed to hear, so thank each of you again for being so helpful and honest in your replies

 

[march_manness]

What is Peyronies? Is there a vaccine? Definitely don't need that..

 

[march_manness]

What is Peyronies? Is there a vaccine? Definitely don't need that..

Nvr mind, I googled it.

 

[exgovie]

There seems to be treatments

Please, no apology needed. I respect and appreciate everyone’s response / advice, even if it might not be nave been what I wanted to hear. It is what I needed to hear, so thank each of you again for being so helpful and honest in your replies

Look at this search result

 

[LAHomedog]

The opinion I posted here was intended for Krista alone,

I have no dog in this hunt, and posted my thoughts on her question at the beginning on the first page, however, please allow me to say this:

A post on a public page is not private and can not be expected to be for one person and one person alone. That is what a private message or email is for.

Public is public and digital communication never goes away, as I keep trying to remind my teenage son.

 

[KristainSC]

Look at this search result

Thank you. I will take a deeper look into that, I wonder if that has to be prescribed by a doctor

 

[KristainSC]

I know I am going to be judged harshly for this, I ended up doing something yesterday that was a little bit unexpected. Part of me is feeling extremely guilty but another part of me is so happy I let myself experience something like this.

 

[ChuckandAndrea]

I know I am going to be judged harshly for this, I ended up doing something yesterday that was a little bit unexpected. Part of me is feeling extremely guilty but another part of me is so happy I let myself experience something like this.

How you conduct yourself is your business, but I think you just added a ton of stress to an already overwhelming decision. If you don't regret it, you may be further along than you thought. I can't answer that for you, but I suspect this marks the end of your relationship. I wish you the best of luck!

 

[Bramblethorn]

Look at this search result

This page looks shonky as hell.

They claim "an 85% success rate for Peyronies" (which they keep misspelling "Peyrornies") but I don't see any links to studies/etc. supporting that claim. They don't even mention how they define "success". There's no information about side effects or contraindications ("don't take X if you're also taking Y or have a history of Z").

And right at the bottom of the page:

"These statements have not been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration. This product is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease. The information provided on this site is for informational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for advice from your physician or other health care professional or any information contained on or in any product label or packaging. You should not use the information on this site for diagnosis or treatment of any health problem or for prescription of any medication or other treatment."

 

[KristainSC]

This page looks shonky as hell.

They claim "an 85% success rate for Peyronies" (which they keep misspelling "Peyrornies") but I don't see any links to studies/etc. supporting that claim. They don't even mention how they define "success". There's no information about side effects or contraindications ("don't take X if you're also taking Y or have a history of Z").

And right at the bottom of the page:

"These statements have not been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration. This product is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease. The information provided on this site is for informational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for advice from your physician or other health care professional or any information contained on or in any product label or packaging. You should not use the information on this site for diagnosis or treatment of any health problem or for prescription of any medication or other treatment."

After looking over that site more I noticed much of the same and didn’t give it much consideration or suggest it to my husband to look at

 

[FGB]

Thank you for this and we were up all hours last night having this conversation. He has been firm that he will not do counseling which I told him tells me he is not interested in me or my feelings. He was selfish and dismissive of my needs throughout the entire conversation. I am pretty certain last night was a bit of a breaking point, I was careful with my words and was very empathetic with him but he simply chose not to consider nor care for my needs. That was very telling for me.

Well You Know.

IF he really and clearly gives you permission...is that really cheating?

He may or may not want to know about it. If he does and it turns him on that would be a break through.

If he Lied about it and Y'all get divorced well, you have certainly tried almost everything I know.

Sometimes a marriage just cannot be fixed.

That is why I'm divorced now. True, I waited ten or fifteen years longer than I should have... I hate divorces, but sometimes...

 

[JamieJ424]

It sounds like he has made clear his position: he has no interest in intimacy.

I’ll point out that his cock is just one tool in his toolbox. No matter what it’s condition or health, there’s plenty he could do for you/to you/with you if he was motivated. He unfortunately is not.

I think you should make it plain that you hve needs he is not even attempting to meet, and then suggest opening the relationship so you can enjoy sexual fulfillment with others. If he balks then you have to do some math. How unhappy are you? What will you do to support yourself and your kids as a solo provider? How will you present all this to your kids?

I would recommend NOT cheating. It can only hurt you if you initiate divorce. And if you decide to stay married and just have affairs, if he finds out you’ll be fucked.

 

[KristainSC]

It sounds like he has made clear his position: he has no interest in intimacy.

I’ll point out that his cock is just one tool in his toolbox. No matter what it’s condition or health, there’s plenty he could do for you/to you/with you if he was motivated. He unfortunately is not.

I think you should make it plain that you hve needs he is not even attempting to meet, and then suggest opening the relationship so you can enjoy sexual fulfillment with others. If he balks then you have to do some math. How unhappy are you? What will you do to support yourself and your kids as a solo provider? How will you present all this to your kids?

I would recommend NOT cheating. It can only hurt you if you initiate divorce. And if you decide to stay married and just have affairs, if he finds out you’ll be fucked.

Things have really escalated over the past couple of weeks to the point of it probably being irreparable at this point. I was honest with him about what I did and was clear with him what it was that led me to it, we talked, he mostly yelled and his ego and jealousy were both hurt and on display. Unfortunately I acted before we divorced and that will probably hurt me in the long but I can’t undo it at this point