Sph / tiny penis fetish

[J_Bone]

I dated a girl right out of college who had recently split from her ex and it was such that she held some animosity over it because of the way he treated her. The first night we were together, she asked that I be slow and easy with her because I'm substantially larger than him in lenghth, but especially girth. She also later told me he was completely hung up on his size and constantly asking her whether she wished he was bigger, etc., to which she always gave the same stock reply of.....well, size doesn't matter, what matters is how you use it, etc., etc., only in an effort to save his feelings from being hurt since she did prefer larger.

At some point a month or two after we started dating, he started sniffing around and calling her wanting her back. She told him she had moved on and was with me now and he needed to move on too. She ran into him at a work function which is how they met in the first place and he cornered her privately with the same requests, to which she denied. At some point, he brought up the "what's he got that I don't have" question. She said she didn't hesitate and told him, well, for one, he's got a really big dick. He then reminded her that she'd always said size didn't matter, to which she told him that she lied and that it matters a lot, at least to her. She said he then looked totally defeated, slumped his shoulders and walked off and never bothered or contacted her again.

She said for her, she felt satisfaction over her brutal honesty and that it was somehow cathartic. And it was also a bit of a turn-on for both of us.

 

[whenagain]

I dated a girl right out of college who had recently split from her ex and it was such that she held some animosity over it because of the way he treated her. The first night we were together, she asked that I be slow and easy with her because I'm substantially larger than him in lenghth, but especially girth. She also later told me he was completely hung up on his size and constantly asking her whether she wished he was bigger, etc., to which she always gave the same stock reply of.....well, size doesn't matter, what matters is how you use it, etc., etc., only in an effort to save his feelings from being hurt since she did prefer larger.

At some point a month or two after we started dating, he started sniffing around and calling her wanting her back. She told him she had moved on and was with me now and he needed to move on too. She ran into him at a work function which is how they met in the first place and he cornered her privately with the same requests, to which she denied. At some point, he brought up the "what's he got that I don't have" question. She said she didn't hesitate and told him, well, for one, he's got a really big dick. He then reminded her that she'd always said size didn't matter, to which she told him that she lied and that it matters a lot, at least to her. She said he then looked totally defeated, slumped his shoulders and walked off and never bothered or contacted her again.

She said for her, she felt satisfaction over her brutal honesty and that it was somehow cathartic. And it was also a bit of a turn-on for both of us.

Did you like knowing how much bigger you were? Do you think you turned her into a size queen?

 

[J_Bone]

Did you like knowing how much bigger you were? Do you think you turned her into a size queen?

Absolutely I loved it and always have in subsequent instances. And yes, I think it turned her into a size queen or at least made her more of one than she was when she was with him, not really knowing what the difference was to her yet.

 

[irishblade]

Interesting. I will indulge in this sort of playful humiliation with a man if I am quite sure that he enjoys it, but I know lots of women who couldn't bring themselves to do so. My husband made clear to me long ago that he doesn't want me to pretend it is big when it isn't. He finds it patronizing, which he finds more hurtful than simply accepting reality, which he has already done.

Yes! This. That’s also our, ahem, reality. For me, it’s patronizing. Great term that I likely never would have come up with. But yes, for her, she’s trying to protect me by saying it’s big and fills her up and so on and so forth. Great explanation, PW. Thanks!

 

[sterculius]

Interesting. I will indulge in this sort of playful humiliation with a man if I am quite sure that he enjoys it, but I know lots of women who couldn't bring themselves to do so. My husband made clear to me long ago that he doesn't want me to pretend it is big when it isn't. He finds it patronizing, which he finds more hurtful than simply accepting reality, which he has already done.

I know my wife loves me in spite of (or possibly because of) my diminutive member. She affectionately refers to my penis as my "little guy". Early on, I learned to, if not to love, then to at least to accept my inferior, denigrated status. I have always been orally oriented and extremely sensitive to, not merely the taste of food and wine, but also the texture. I actually enjoy the taste of vaginal secretions and I like both the taste and the texture of semen and I enjoy eating it whenever the opportunity arises. Sex between my wife and myself invariably involves me kneeling between my wife's legs and orally stimulating her to usually two, if not more, orgasms, all the time fondling my little guy until she's satisfied, finally ejaculating into my hand and slurping up all my semen for my wife's amusement.

 

[irishblade]

I know my wife loves me in spite of (or possibly because of) my diminutive member. She affectionately refers to my penis as my "little guy". Early on, I learned to, if not to love, then to at least to accept my inferior, denigrated status. I have always been orally oriented and extremely sensitive to, not merely the taste of food and wine, but also the texture. I actually enjoy the taste of vaginal secretions and I like both the taste and the texture of semen and I enjoy eating it whenever the opportunity arises. Sex between my wife and myself invariably involves me kneeling between my wife's legs and orally stimulating her to usually two, if not more, orgasms, all the time fondling my little guy until she's satisfied, finally ejaculating into my hand and slurping up all my semen for my wife's amusement.

That’s incredible! I’m glad you guys have found something you both enjoy. I haven’t taken a ride on the creampie train yet but I also love vaginal secretions. The feel, the taste, the smell, etc. As they say, the wetter the better.

 

[policywank]

I know my wife loves me in spite of (or possibly because of) my diminutive member. She affectionately refers to my penis as my "little guy". Early on, I learned to, if not to love, then to at least to accept my inferior, denigrated status. I have always been orally oriented and extremely sensitive to, not merely the taste of food and wine, but also the texture. I actually enjoy the taste of vaginal secretions and I like both the taste and the texture of semen and I enjoy eating it whenever the opportunity arises. Sex between my wife and myself invariably involves me kneeling between my wife's legs and orally stimulating her to usually two, if not more, orgasms, all the time fondling my little guy until she's satisfied, finally ejaculating into my hand and slurping up all my semen for my wife's amusement.

I think that as it relates to penis size what is most important in the relationship is for the man to accept his reality. All relationships involve compromise and in a monogamous relationship one of those might be foregoing the opportunity to enjoy a larger cock. So be it. The man makes his compromises as well whether sexual or otherwise. But constantly having to pretend is an unnecessary burden too often put onto women.

Do the best with what you have. Enjoy being a superior cunnilinguist. But don't pretend it is a perfect substitute for her being filled with a bigger dick. The two are different experiences. If she married a guy with a big dick that wasn't very good at licking pussy she'd be wishing he was better at cunnilingus. Maybe she'd like to have both and some women do, but those aren't the only two aspects to a relationship and none of us have it all. We can only have the things most important to us.

However, I would say that my message is a bit different than some. Lots of men and women say 'you can't change the size of your cock so don't worry about it.' I agree , but the message is incomplete. Too often that is interpreted to mean it doesn't matter at all which is a nice sentiment, which is also untrue and as a result compels women to support that fiction. I think it is better to say 'accept it and don't worry about it.'

It is sort of like having a receding hair line. Would she rather you had a full head of hair? Unless you are one of those guys who looks great bald then yes she would rather you had a full head of hair. But if she loves you anyways just take that for what it is. Don't make her pretend that a receding hairline is sexy.

 

[sterculius]

I think that as it relates to penis size what is most important in the relationship is for the man to accept his reality. All relationships involve compromise and in a monogamous relationship one of those might be foregoing the opportunity to enjoy a larger cock. So be it. The man makes his compromises as well whether sexual or otherwise. But constantly having to pretend is an unnecessary burden too often put onto women.

Do the best with what you have. Enjoy being a superior cunnilinguist. But don't pretend it is a perfect substitute for her being filled with a bigger dick. The two are different experiences. If she married a guy with a big dick that wasn't very good at licking pussy she'd be wishing he was better at cunnilingus. Maybe she'd like to have both and some women do, but those aren't the only two aspects to a relationship and none of us have it all. We can only have the things most important to us.

However, I would say that my message is a bit different than some. Lots of men and women say 'you can't change the size of your cock so don't worry about it.' I agree , but the message is incomplete. Too often that is interpreted to mean it doesn't matter at all which is a nice sentiment, which is also untrue and as a result compels women to support that fiction. I think it is better to say 'accept it and don't worry about it.'

It is sort of like having a receding hair line. Would she rather you had a full head of hair? Unless you are one of those guys who looks great bald then yes she would rather you had a full head of hair. But if she loves you anyways just take that for what it is. Don't make her pretend that a receding hairline is sexy.

My wife has often told me that the orgasms I provide for her orally have been the best and the strongest she has ever experienced, particularly when it results in multiple orgasms, each succeeding one stronger than the one before. She has occasionally had to beg me to stop because they became too intense. We have purchased a number of large dildos for my wife to use on herself when she masturbates in order to give her the sensation of fullness my inadequate penis is unable to provide. My earliest sexual experiences growing up were as cocksucker to my best friend, and I'm certain that the associated emphasis of focusing on my partner's orgasm rather than on my own has made me a better lover with women as well as with men.

 

[policywank]

My wife has often told me that the orgasms I provide for her orally have been the best and the strongest she has ever experienced, particularly when it results in multiple orgasms, each succeeding one stronger than the one before. She has occasionally had to beg me to stop because they became too intense. We have purchased a number of large dildos for my wife to use on herself when she masturbates in order to give her the sensation of fullness my inadequate penis is unable to provide. My earliest sexual experiences growing up were as cocksucker to my best friend, and I'm certain that the associated emphasis of focusing on my partner's orgasm rather than on my own has made me a better lover with women as well as with men.

I certainly find oral clitoral stimulation just as satisfying as vaginal penetration. And I like it when a guy starts with oral. I just find that the two are different experiences and one isn't a substitute for the other. Dildos are fun but for me there is no substitute for the real thing attach to a real man spreading my legs and fucking me.

 

[ebpts]

I think that as it relates to penis size what is most important in the relationship is for the man to accept his reality. All relationships involve compromise and in a monogamous relationship one of those might be foregoing the opportunity to enjoy a larger cock. So be it. The man makes his compromises as well whether sexual or otherwise. But constantly having to pretend is an unnecessary burden too often put onto women.

Do the best with what you have. Enjoy being a superior cunnilinguist. But don't pretend it is a perfect substitute for her being filled with a bigger dick. The two are different experiences. If she married a guy with a big dick that wasn't very good at licking pussy she'd be wishing he was better at cunnilingus. Maybe she'd like to have both and some women do, but those aren't the only two aspects to a relationship and none of us have it all. We can only have the things most important to us.

However, I would say that my message is a bit different than some. Lots of men and women say 'you can't change the size of your cock so don't worry about it.' I agree , but the message is incomplete. Too often that is interpreted to mean it doesn't matter at all which is a nice sentiment, which is also untrue and as a result compels women to support that fiction. I think it is better to say 'accept it and don't worry about it.'

It is sort of like having a receding hair line. Would she rather you had a full head of hair? Unless you are one of those guys who looks great bald then yes she would rather you had a full head of hair. But if she loves you anyways just take that for what it is. Don't make her pretend that a receding hairline is sexy.

Nicely put. You capture the nuance of this discussion and all of its variables.

 

[Diosax]

I definitely have indulged someone in this kink and derived pleasured from his pleasure but I wouldn't necessarily say I'm into it other than being into it for the purpose of indulging my then partner. I wouldn't say that I'm a size queen either but I have been with someone who was pretty big and the satisfaction from penetration alone was far better than when I have been with someone that was much much smaller. However that one person also didn't know what he was doing in all other areas so the experience wasn't enjoyable for me. I do wonder if I would've receive pleasure from SPH in that scenario

 

[artgorden]

https://SPAMPOST/Sissywhiteboy4bbc/post/234fba2e-e06b-4f30-ba94-35a481ed9429

 

[shesaysimreallytiny]

I think that as it relates to penis size what is most important in the relationship is for the man to accept his reality. All relationships involve compromise and in a monogamous relationship one of those might be foregoing the opportunity to enjoy a larger cock. So be it. The man makes his compromises as well whether sexual or otherwise. But constantly having to pretend is an unnecessary burden too often put onto women.

Do the best with what you have. Enjoy being a superior cunnilinguist. But don't pretend it is a perfect substitute for her being filled with a bigger dick. The two are different experiences. If she married a guy with a big dick that wasn't very good at licking pussy she'd be wishing he was better at cunnilingus. Maybe she'd like to have both and some women do, but those aren't the only two aspects to a relationship and none of us have it all. We can only have the things most important to us.

However, I would say that my message is a bit different than some. Lots of men and women say 'you can't change the size of your cock so don't worry about it.' I agree , but the message is incomplete. Too often that is interpreted to mean it doesn't matter at all which is a nice sentiment, which is also untrue and as a result compels women to support that fiction. I think it is better to say 'accept it and don't worry about it.'

It is sort of like having a receding hair line. Would she rather you had a full head of hair? Unless you are one of those guys who looks great bald then yes she would rather you had a full head of hair. But if she loves you anyways just take that for what it is. Don't make her pretend that a receding hairline is sexy.

just makes me horny and hard when she says its small

 

[NancyPan]

I would like to revive this thread. I find SPH very arousing — if done in a thoughtful and truly humiliating tone. Most of the SPH porn videos are rather crude with comments that don’t really make sense.

I am just under 4 inches erect. My wife likes to remind me how she prefers my tongue, that “it” should not be called a “cock,” and that it belongs in panties, not men’s underwear.

I fantasize about my small penis being exposed to other women.

 

[sterculius]

The expression "All men are created equal" certainly does NOT apply to men's physiology, and especially not in my case. As the unfortunate but undeniable owner of an abnormally small and thin penis, (barely 3 inches, FULLY ERECT!), my life's evolution validates the axiom "Biology is Destiny". My diminutive endowment places me far down on the sexual pecking order and inferior to men with phalluses of more generous proportions and has mandated that I make myself available to orally service both men and women alike. While I certainly wish that my cock were bigger. I accept that it is not and strive to excel in the role nature has assigned to me. I take pride in my developed cock sucking skills and my lingual abilities and put them into practice as frequently as possible whenever the opportunity 'arises' and I try to be the best Cocksucker and Cuntlicker I can possibly be.

 

[policywank]

I would like to revive this thread. I find SPH very arousing — if done in a thoughtful and truly humiliating tone. Most of the SPH porn videos are rather crude with comments that don’t really make sense.

I am just under 4 inches erect. My wife likes to remind me how she prefers my tongue, that “it” should not be called a “cock,” and that it belongs in panties, not men’s underwear.

I fantasize about my small penis being exposed to other women.

The expression "All men are created equal" certainly does NOT apply to men's physiology, and especially not in my case. As the unfortunate but undeniable owner of an abnormally small and thin penis, (barely 3 inches, FULLY ERECT!), my life's evolution validates the axiom "Biology is Destiny". My diminutive endowment places me far down on the sexual pecking order and inferior to men with phalluses of more generous proportions and has mandated that I make myself available to orally service both men and women alike. While I certainly wish that my cock were bigger. I accept that it is not and strive to excel in the role nature has assigned to me. I take pride in my developed cock sucking skills and my lingual abilities and put them into practice as frequently as possible whenever the opportunity 'arises' and I try to be the best Cocksucker and Cuntlicker I can possibly be.

I wonder how much of the SPH fetish is linked to a rational approach to self acceptance and self image. You both know damn well that a penis under 4" erect is going to be regarded as inadequate but most women. It may not be a deal breaker because penis size isn't the only thing that matters in relationships but it isn't irrelevant. All other things being equal, yes of course your partners would prefer a larger penis. For those that wish to pretend otherwise it must be exhausting to try to maintain that charade.

The basic premise that any man can be whatever he wants to be is not true. It is just a nice motivational slogan for little boys. As I have said before if you are 5'2", uncoordinated and slow you just aren't going to make it as a centre for the Chicago Bulls. It isn't a matter of more practice and trying real hard. There are many things you can be, but not that. And people around you shouldn't have to pretend otherwise.

 

[policywank]

The expression "All men are created equal" certainly does NOT apply to men's physiology, and especially not in my case. As the unfortunate but undeniable owner of an abnormally small and thin penis, (barely 3 inches, FULLY ERECT!), my life's evolution validates the axiom "Biology is Destiny". My diminutive endowment places me far down on the sexual pecking order and inferior to men with phalluses of more generous proportions and has mandated that I make myself available to orally service both men and women alike. While I certainly wish that my cock were bigger. I accept that it is not and strive to excel in the role nature has assigned to me. I take pride in my developed cock sucking skills and my lingual abilities and put them into practice as frequently as possible whenever the opportunity 'arises' and I try to be the best Cocksucker and Cuntlicker I can possibly be.

Of course it is natural that you would develop your oral skills to compensate for your tiny penis. Is your obvious sexual inferiority to other men part of what makes you want to submit to sucking cock or do you think you are just naturally bi-sexual?

 

[sterculius]

Of course it is natural that you would develop your oral skills to compensate for your tiny penis. Is your obvious sexual inferiority to other men part of what makes you want to submit to sucking cock or do you think you are just naturally bi-sexual?

The fact that my pathetically small penis was so much smaller than my best friend Larry's huge, beautifully impressive cock, was definitely the impetus for me becoming his cocksucker, and by extension, cocksucker for men in general.
I am not, nor have I ever been, emotionally attracted to other men, but I have always been very oral. I'm told that as an infant, I was breast fed and was a thumb sucker for quite a while afterward. I consider my mouth and my throat to be my primary sexual organs.
Whenever I suck cock, I always consume his sperm because I feel that a man's semen is the embodiment and the essence of his virility and that by ingesting it, I assimilate the potent masculine energy manifested in his orgasm, absorbing it and allowing it to permanently become part of me.
After orally satisfying my wife and bringing her to often multiple orgasms, I usually masturbate and eat my own semen as she watches. Although I have fathered two children, masturbation has always been my primary means of orgasm. My wife calls my penis, my "Little Guy"
Having trained as a cocksucker has made me a better lover for women as it has conditioned me to prioritize my partner's orgasm over my own. My primary focus has always been to concentrate on bringing my partner to orgasm and doing this thrills me so that I have occasionally reached orgasm myself and ejaculated while orally servicing them, usually while being roughly throat fucked by men.

 

[NancyPan]

Unlike sterculius, I am not bi and have never been with a man. I am in a FLR and have not had PIV sex for over 20 years. My orgasms are controlled by my wife. She allows me about one every 3-4 weeks. I provide hers on a regular basis with her vibrator, dildo, and oral. I have learned to experience considerable pleasure from providing her orgasms. I actually like being in a sustained state of arousal for her — very, very much! I understand why she does not let me fuck her. I accepted it long ago (after some initial tears when she first told me no more).

 

[sterculius]

Unlike sterculius, I am not bi and have never been with a man. I am in a FLR and have not had PIV sex for over 20 years. My orgasms are controlled by my wife. She allows me about one every 3-4 weeks. I provide hers on a regular basis with her vibrator, dildo, and oral. I have learned to experience considerable pleasure from providing her orgasms. I actually like being in a sustained state of arousal for her — very, very much! I understand why she does not let me fuck her. I accepted it long ago (after some initial tears when she first told me no more).

Does your wife fuck other men? My first wife did fuck other men often and I suspect my present wife has also fucked other men earlier during our marriage.

 

[NancyPan]

No. We are both monogamous in a long-term happy marriage. Much happier after we agreed that she was in charge of the house and the bedroom and after she was honest with me that she would enjoy sex more if she didn’t have to worry about my penis or having me enter her. She loves keeping me in denial and a heightened state of arousal, and she is masterful at erotic humiliation. I am entirely devoted to her and 100% pussy-whipped!

 

[SlutAddicted]

Of course it is natural that you would develop your oral skills to compensate for your tiny penis. Is your obvious sexual inferiority to other men part of what makes you want to submit to sucking cock or do you think you are just naturally bi-sexual?

I am more or less average in the cock size department. But as my wife once asked me why would you think women want average? Do you want an average looking woman with whom you have average sexual experiences? Of course it isn't all about size so what is deemed average in size may be the ideal fit for some women. That depends upon the woman. And she is really who sets the reference points not some text book study of average cock size. My wife likes larger cocks. Almost all of her lovers are more well endowed than I am. Those that aren't need to have something special going on otherwise. Frankly I think a lot more women feel this way than they admit - as an analogy I think that the average male height is 5'9" but if you ask most women their preference it will be more like 6'0". My wife is a size queen so to her I am small. But her view is that even of women who aren't so size oriented the preferred is still somewhat above average. No matter what they say most women are very well attune to enjoying a thick 7"-8" cock and will say it was a uniquely pleasurable experience relative to average.

 

[whenagain]

I have a thing for seeing small penises locked in even smaller chastity cages and denied the ability to get hard. It's a bonus seeing them peak cum while locked up.

How often have you done this? And do you tease the men about their size?

 

[shymalea]

I have a thing for seeing small penises locked in even smaller chastity cages and denied the ability to get hard. It's a bonus seeing them leak cum while locked up.

 

[NancyPan]

I do fear impotence, and in spite of my smallness, I do take pride and delight in my erections. Although I am forbidden from ejaculating without permission, most every day I do achieve one or more erections. She has never seriously considered putting me in a device, as “the honor system” has worked for us. Part of me desires that level of control, but I love experiencing erections. I actually think it requires more self-control and devotion to have the freedom to jerk off, but not to so because of my promise to HER.

As to losing any more size … no thank you!