Sph / tiny penis fetish

[NancyPan]

Sex is not just about penis size. We have plenty of sex without PIV sex. She gets plenty of orgasms (on average 5-7 for every one she allows me). As discussed elsewhere in this thread, it is important for those of us who are inadequate in cock size to have good oral skills and know how to use a vibrator.

Hard to believe a woman would seek a divorce over impotence or cock size. There has to be more to the story as there is more to a marriage than fucking.

 

[policywank]

There is more to marriage than sex. And there is more to sex than penis size. I find it difficult to imagine ending a long-term relationship over either. But it is obviously not for me to judge.

One of the things that I think it is helpful for a man to understand is that while oral sex is very enjoyable and ideally a part of any man's repertoire it is not a substitute for PIV sex. It is not "equivalent to" or "just as good" as PIV sex. Neither is a vibrator. They are all unique experiences with their own merits.

I have often used the food analogy here. If I want steak and chicken is on the menu tonight, that is fine. I will eat the chicken and appreciate it for what it is. But I don't see it as equivalent. And next time I may choose to go somewhere that serves steak. Or maybe next time I'll be more in the mood for chicken or something else altogether. Each is unique with their own merits.

In that sense being an attentive lover is a bit like being a good chef. Those skills and attention are more important than the ingredients and tools you have to work with. But those things aren't irrelevant and you will be better off not trying to pretend that they are. If you have a little dick, then apply yourself to what you do offer. But understand that your wife would like a bigger dick - whether or not she indulges that desire if you want things to be open and honest don't ask her to deny it.

 

[SlutAddicted]

There is more to marriage than sex. And there is more to sex than penis size. I find it difficult to imagine ending a long-term relationship over either. But it is obviously not for me to judge.

One of the things that I think it is helpful for a man to understand is that while oral sex is very enjoyable and ideally a part of any man's repertoire it is not a substitute for PIV sex. It is not "equivalent to" or "just as good" as PIV sex. Neither is a vibrator. They are all unique experiences with their own merits.

I have often used the food analogy here. If I want steak and chicken is on the menu tonight, that is fine. I will eat the chicken and appreciate it for what it is. But I don't see it as equivalent. And next time I may choose to go somewhere that serves steak. Or maybe next time I'll be more in the mood for chicken or something else altogether. Each is unique with their own merits.

In that sense being an attentive lover is a bit like being a good chef. Those skills and attention are more important than the ingredients and tools you have to work with. But those things aren't irrelevant and you will be better off not trying to pretend that they are. If you have a little dick, then apply yourself to what you do offer. But understand that your wife would like a bigger dick - whether or not she indulges that desire if you want things to be open and honest don't ask her to deny it.

Yup. I apply myself to being the best lover I can for my wife. For me that means oral skills and obedience. But I never forget that she also likes bigger dicks and deserves to indulge that experience with her lovers. Once I could embrace that whole picture I really started to enjoy the role of cuckold and being available to support her sexual fulfillment.

 

[chad132]

I will never be able to watch as my wife is taken by another man. And I can not live like this. I must find a way to get back to me. It's do or die. If women were given the question of whether you want a Big cock or a small cock and only one answer what is it. that way all men know what to do to be with that answer big or small. That way we will fit together. The problem is all women with this choice will pick a big cock. That is the end of my story.

 

[LustyScribe]

This thread has shown a light on my problem. I was about 6 inches and 5 inches in girth my whole life. I got prostate cancer and had prostate surgery. Which damages your nerves for erections. No more erections, so the doctor gave me a small penile implant,3.5L x 4.5 G .this has ruined my life and now I see that women will not want you with that size cock.I know my wife no longer wants sex with me and she is ending our 37 rear marriage and is looking for a man who is about the size used to be. And I hear from this thread that almost all women only want a large cock to be satisfied. So my quest is still on to find a way to increase the size so I can find a woman I can satisfy. So surgery and PE exercises are now my life.

I'm taking your statement at face value, assuming there were no other major factors leading to the divorce when I say this.
If she divorces you after 37 years just because a life-saving medical procedure costs you some of your sexual capability, then my friend, you are not getting a divorce.

You're getting a deliverance.

 

[NancyPan]

Has this thread been hijacked? The title/theme is sph (small penis humiliation) / tiny penis fetish. Okay, I get it, women prefer big cocks. That is why it is humiliating to be reminded that mine is small.

In reality of course, there is no such thing as a perfect lover. Hopefully, we all learn to do the best with what we have.

I enjoy sph. My wife understands this and finds it amusing to use this knowledge to tease me.

 

[policywank]

I will never be able to watch as my wife is taken by another man. And I can not live like this. I must find a way to get back to me. It's do or die. If women were given the question of whether you want a Big cock or a small cock and only one answer what is it. that way all men know what to do to be with that answer big or small. That way we will fit together. The problem is all women with this choice will pick a big cock. That is the end of my story.

I do genuinely empathize with your situation. None of us want to cause harm or create mental anguish. In my observation those who enjoy SPH have come to embrace their reality. And to that end I think that it is the same as any other reality that any of us face every day. We all have something about ourselves that we might wish was different. But we also all deserve to be with someone who accepts and embrace us for who we are.

I find it fascinating to hear from men who actually enjoy SPH and women who enjoy administering "humiliation." For me it is part of the psychological part of domination. With any man that I dominate it is important that I understand what works for him and I am always interested to know why something works for him. SPH is something that was less obvious to me than other forms of domination, but I have come to realize that it is quite powerful and something that men crave more than I imagined. As with all things Dom I first learned to enjoy administering it based upon the response I received then learned to enjoy administering it. There is a bit of a sadistic element to it that is enjoyable for me for its own sake as long as I know the man is enjoying it too.

That is not to say that SPH is synonymous with female domination. That is just the perspective in which it has mostly come up for me. Although I think that teasing a man about his legitimately limited endowment dos tend to put a woman in a position of power. We usually have the power in sexual situations anyway, but men are still inclined to hang on to some sense of virility as a source of confidence and power. Stripping that away by making it explicit that he has a tiny dick makes him my vulnerable little play thing - one that I would never hurt but enjoying making him jump to my whim.

 

[policywank]

Has this thread been hijacked? The title/theme is sph (small penis humiliation) / tiny penis fetish. Okay, I get it, women prefer big cocks. That is why it is humiliating to be reminded that mine is small.

In reality of course, there is no such thing as a perfect lover. Hopefully, we all learn to do the best with what we have.

I enjoy sph. My wife understands this and finds it amusing to use this knowledge to tease me.

Do you keep it just between the two of you? Would you enjoy having other women know that you have a tiny penis be exciting if you knew that you could trust them? Imagine your wife's best friend telling her about a date she had with some well hung guy then giggling at the fact that your wife has chosen to forego that experience.

 

[NancyPan]

We do keep it private, and the fact that I wear panties and that She is in charge of our marriage. But, She knows that the threat of exposure arouses me — very much. I do want women to know. Funny thing is that I am a tall guy with an athletic build and I am in good physical condition. I think women would be surprised to find that I have an undersized cock (just under 4).

 

[chad132]

Society has been working on turning men into women for some time now. This is why you are seeing men choosing these women's dominant roles in sex. Men are slowly being changed. I have heard so many women lately say they can't find any REAL men anymore. It's because they are being turned into women just as you are trying to do. Ladies be careful what you wish for, It may come true.

 

[NancyPan]

This thread is about sph. Go to the Politics forum if you want to debate whether society is feminizing men (which is a right-wing conspiracy theory not based in fact). Let’s keep this about sex, not gender roles.

 

[policywank]

Society has been working on turning men into women for some time now. This is why you are seeing men choosing these women's dominant roles in sex. Men are slowly being changed. I have heard so many women lately say they can't find any REAL men anymore. It's because they are being turned into women just as you are trying to do. Ladies be careful what you wish for, It may come true.

Respectfully, I think that you have it backwards. Society has force fed us a contrived and inaccurate picture of gender roles. In many cases what you are seeing isn't men being changed. It is men recognizing and embracing the truth that they no longer wish to suppress. Men who lash out at women or do nasty things are often those that are struggling to reconcile their sub-conscious truth about who they are with what they have been told that they are supposed to be. Absent that conflict there would be no need for the hostility.

Living in denial doesn't change who you are. It just makes it harder to accept. The people on threads like this are just choosing to explore their own feelings and preferences. Indulging in the desire to be told the truth about their inadequate little dicks may just be the most honest and healthy thing that they can do for themselves and their relationships.

 

[policywank]

We do keep it private, and the fact that I wear panties and that She is in charge of our marriage. But, She knows that the threat of exposure arouses me — very much. I do want women to know. Funny thing is that I am a tall guy with an athletic build and I am in good physical condition. I think women would be surprised to find that I have an undersized cock (just under 4).

I imagine that juxtaposition - being a man that women would not expect to have a little dick - enhances the arousal. It makes the prospect that women who find out would see you in a different light that much more likely.

Do you imagine how each of them would just naturally assume a posture of greater dominance over you if they saw your little cock in your wife's panties? Men in a female led relationship tend to revel in their submissive role. Even if those other women never actually adopted a dominant role around you it would be clear that the relative hierarchy had changed. Knowing that under your clothes you wear panties over your tiny cock would be an ever present awareness that would permeate your relationship with them. Scary as that may be it makes your little dick hard doesn't it?

 

[SlutAddicted]

My wife enjoys having "girl talk" with her girlfriends openly around me. Sometimes it surprises them but then they get used to it. Almost all of them have talked at one point or another about the men they have been with and their views on cock size. I feel like when they do this and glance at me to see if I am listening they all know that my dick is smaller than the ones that they really like.

 

[NancyPan]

I imagine that juxtaposition - being a man that women would not expect to have a little dick - enhances the arousal. It makes the prospect that women who find out would see you in a different light that much more likely.

Do you imagine how each of them would just naturally assume a posture of greater dominance over you if they saw your little cock in your wife's panties? Men in a female led relationship tend to revel in their submissive role. Even if those other women never actually adopted a dominant role around you it would be clear that the relative hierarchy had changed. Knowing that under your clothes you wear panties over your tiny cock would be an ever present awareness that would permeate your relationship with them. Scary as that may be it makes your little dick hard doesn't it?

Yes, yes, yes! You’ve got it! I am extremely aroused, but horrified, by the prospect of exposure. I project myself as a macho guy. Under my jeans I wear pink panties, have a small dick, and my wife doesn’t let me fuck her. It is obvious to her friends that she rules the roost in our house, but they don’t know that I am her panty boy and that I only cum when she allows it, and never (any more) in her pussy.

 

[sterculius]

As male with a markedly minuscule member, I have always admired women and looked upon them as being the superior gender. if not the ORIGINAL gender. Women's bodies are amazing! They are at once, incubators and food factories, in addition to being beautiful. Men, on the other hand, are simply utilitarian, adaptations to enhance the gene pool.
We feel that our larger musculature makes us superior to women, but this only makes us more useful for women. We compete among ourselves for women's favor, obsessing about our cock sizes, because this is really all we have to offer. Those of us who have been relegated to the bottom of the sexual hierarchy due to our diminutive penises are condemned to orally servicing both men and women alike, our only consolation being that we are excused from striving for dominance over other men for women's favors and can find solace by accepting and finding purpose in our inferior status.
I choose to be the best Cocksucker I can possibly be.

 

[chad132]

I was not raised that way but that is your choice and in this country, you have that right. I was not born small I was born about average size and cancer and a bad Doctor made me small. I wanted to see if women will still date a man if he is small that is all. I have nothing against anyone doing their own thing. I can only fit with what I was taught. Society is pushing men away from being masculine. Maybe I will have to find a better thread to see if there are any women still left that would like a small cock. THANK YOU for your time and answers.

 

[nutoseen]

I have a thing for seeing small penises locked in even smaller chastity cages and denied the ability to get hard. It's a bonus seeing them leak cum while locked up.

if only you were in PNW you could see it in person. i'd let you. never done it before.

 

[chad132]

After prostate cancer surgery there is no more semen and the erection is done by pumping a bulb up until hard. It stays hard until you release the pressure. It would not be much fun for you.

 

[NancyPan]

At least you can touch yours and play with it whenever you like.

Giddy, are you currently locked? I had the impression that you were looking for a Mistress? Did the confinement result in loss of erection size?

Although I know that I need female authority in my life, being locked would be difficult for me. She finds it amusing to tease me and see my tiny (denied) erection.

 

[shymalea]

i really like small penis because they ,re so cute and when i tease&please one they can,t stop cum,over&over again!

 

[NancyPan]

Sometimes my wife does call “it” cute. Her saying this humiliates me, and “it” gets harder, especially when she has an amused, mocking tone, “It’s so cute how it makes a little bump in your panties. Pull them down so I can see it. Oh my! So cute!”

 

[sterculius]

My wife refers to my penis as my "Little Guy". We can be sitting in the living room watching TV and she'll say "Whip out your little guy and play with him". By this, she means that I should jerk off and eat my cum for her amusement. She likes to see the way I use just my thumb and index finger to furiously masturbate my thin little penis into my left hand before slurping it all up, sometime telling me "You missed a spot". My penis may be small, but it produces a lot of semen. She doesn't like the taste or the slimy texture of semen and has never eaten it, so she always makes an 'icky' face as I eat my cum. After I admitted to her that I used to like sucking cock, she also asks "Did you eat loads larger than that from the guys you used to suck off?" I told her that I did.

 

[Candysroom]

After prostate cancer surgery there is no more semen and the erection is done by pumping a bulb up until hard. It stays hard until you release the pressure. It would not be much fun for you.

Don’t be so pessimistic! I would find a way to have fun with you!

 

[chad132]

Don’t be so pessimistic! I would find a way to have fun with you!

Thank you.