Submissives in control

[KatieDoes]

So true fine example of the power exchange. My submissive other has made me the more submissive one. Isn’t it true that you sweet women really always have the power an will use it whenever you feel you need it. My sweet Hotwife, whom by the way doesn’t like the word cuckold, always asked to fuck someone so I would feel I had the power but when she really needed her fb to give it to her better than I was doing her, she disregarded my feelings when I told her I didn’t want her going an went anyway.
Please in your wisdom, which I believe you have it, explain this for me!

Your issue isn’t a D/s issue, it’s a disrespect and cheating issue.

If she’s fucking other people and that’s not a mutually agreed upon aspect of your relationship, you have the option to leave relationship.

Only you can decide what’s best for you. But a partner disregarding your feelings and expressed needs isn’t being a Dom/Domme, they’re just being a jackass.

 

[cocktaildress21]

At the very least, the submissive always has the option to end relations if he or she isn't getting what they want out of it.

 

[cocktaildress21]

as does the Dom(me)

Obviously. But that's hardly relevant for this particular topic.

Also, to my mind there are two types of doms. One is the internet dom, who demands absolute control, unquestioning obedience, and so on and so forth - and has NEVER EVER had any real experience. They are, as far as I've been able to determine, almost all a waste of time.

And then there are the others. Who know that unless they're willing to give to me - I'm giving nothing to them.

 

[Somethingdifferent74]

Obviously. But that's hardly relevant for this particular topic.

Also, to my mind there are two types of doms. One is the internet dom, who demands absolute control, unquestioning obedience, and so on and so forth - and has NEVER EVER had any real experience. They are, as far as I've been able to determine, almost all a waste of time.

And then there are the others. Who know that unless they're willing to give to me - I'm giving nothing to them.

I wouldn't consider your "internet" Dom a Dom at all. Most might agree those are called "Poser/Fake Doms" or abusers or whatever many call them which don't really align with "Dom" in general.

 

[Somethingdifferent74]

I wouldn't consider your "internet" Dom a Dom at all. Most might agree those are called "Poser/Fake Doms" or abusers or whatever many call them which don't really align with "Dom" in general.

So much more I can say and add but that's a short version

 

[cocktaildress21]

I wouldn't consider your "internet" Dom a Dom at all. Most might agree those are called "Poser/Fake Doms" or abusers or whatever many call them which don't really align with "Dom" in general.

I would agree, except the sum total of four succesful ... dates or meetings or whatever have been with doms I found on the internet. There are doms to be found in clubs and so on - but without fail, they .. just haven't felt attractive to me.

 

[Somethingdifferent74]

I would agree, except the sum total of four succesful ... dates or meetings or whatever have been with doms I found on the internet. There are doms to be found in clubs and so on - but without fail, they .. just haven't felt attractive to me.

What do you mean by "successful" dates?

 

[cocktaildress21]

What do you mean by "successful" dates?

That I had fun. Also sex.

The good thing about the internet doms is that usually, they devolve into open insanity long before we ever get to set up a meeting. So I haven't had a lot of awful mistakes.

 

[Littlebeau]

I saw this posted on another lifestyle forum and it honestly doesn't make sense to me. Opinions about this and how I should answer would be appreciated.

They say a when a woman drops to her knees in front of a man that she is submissive.

That is far from the truth.

When takes your shaft in her mouth and looks you in the eyes as she takes you deep then you know that she is going to take your soul.

As she pushes you on your back and straddles your face

Then looks down as she lowers her sweet neither lips on your tongue and Rides you till she comes

She owns you now

As she lays on her back and parts her thighs and beckons you to mount her and take her and make her come but she tells you not to release till she says

Now tell me who has the power now.

A woman will let you think that you have to power. In all actuality her submissiveness is only to show us men that when she looks you in the eyes you can feel you soul leave your body.

This is the greatest feeling as your release is to please her.

Wow! You know your stuff Miss. Like Shania Twain sings “Better show me a teasin', squeezin', pleasin' kinda time” one of my favorites.

 

[Somethingdifferent74]

That I had fun. Also sex.

The good thing about the internet doms is that usually, they devolve into open insanity long before we ever get to set up a meeting. So I haven't had a lot of awful mistakes.

Ok I might be confused or perhaps just a blonde moment. Your 1st post sounded as if you were bashing "internet" Doms then the next it sounded as if you preferred the "internet" Doms. Umm help?

 

[cocktaildress21]

Ok I might be confused or perhaps just a blonde moment. Your 1st post sounded as if you were bashing "internet" Doms then the next it sounded as if you preferred the "internet" Doms. Umm help?

It's not complicated, but maybe I explained it poorly.

Doms on the internet are like 99% bad - but the only good experiences I've had are with the remaining 1%.

I've gone to clubs too, and those doms are ... well, sane. But they have failed to attract me. So 0% succes in clubs.

 

[Littlebeau]

I saw this posted on another lifestyle forum and it honestly doesn't make sense to me. Opinions about this and how I should answer would be appreciated.

They say a when a woman drops to her knees in front of a man that she is submissive.

That is far from the truth.

When takes your shaft in her mouth and looks you in the eyes as she takes you deep then you know that she is going to take your soul.

As she pushes you on your back and straddles your face

Then looks down as she lowers her sweet neither lips on your tongue and Rides you till she comes

She owns you now

As she lays on her back and parts her thighs and beckons you to mount her and take her and make her come but she tells you not to release till she says

Now tell me who has the power now.

A woman will let you think that you have to power. In all actuality her submissiveness is only to show us men that when she looks you in the eyes you can feel you soul leave your body.

This is the greatest feeling as your release is to please her.

That’s one hundred percent correct, Miss. As far as power exchanges go our women have the power especially if they have a decent loving husband/bf. Our type always are out to please our women, if not we wouldn’t get any relief from them or their love.
I want to quote post this from this person on this forum
AnjaPPunk
filthy bitch cunt
She posts—in my small-because-short experience oral sex is neither dominant nor submissive i've always felt submissive no matter if i was the mouth part or the genital part in it if in the dynamic the submissive ends up in full power and control i'd call it dominating from the bottom which i'm told can destroy the dynamic i've given Him the power to order me to do anything He likes or wants and the power to do with me as He pleases but both within our agreed limits and boundaries and yes either of U/us can end this with either Him deciding to give me the power back or me deciding to take the power back from Him with all the consequences it would have for O/our relationship for the foreseeable future i don't see this happening though

This might shed some light on your subject.
Please, elaborate your interpretation of all this insight.

 

[Somethingdifferent74]

It's not complicated, but maybe I explained it poorly.

Doms on the internet are like 99% bad - but the only good experiences I've had are with the remaining 1%.

I've gone to clubs too, and those doms are ... well, sane. But they have failed to attract me. So 0% succes in clubs.

Ahh I see that makes a tad more sense. If I were to guess not fully certain but the "bad internet Doms" probably not very likely to come out from behind the internet screen in the 1st place. Thank of like internet bullying

 

[cocktaildress21]

Ahh I see that makes a tad more sense. If I were to guess not fully certain but the "bad internet Doms" probably not very likely to come out from behind the internet screen in the 1st place. Thank of like internet bullying

I think you're right. I think there's a type of male on the internet pretending to be dom, and looking for another type of male to pretend to be sub - and female.

 

[Somethingdifferent74]

I think you're right. I think there's a type of male on the internet pretending to be dom, and looking for another type of male to pretend to be sub - and female.

Unfortunately due my circumstances (working) It's hard for me to elaborate in detail a proper conversation on this topic. In the jist and short of things you're right to a degree. On the internet you have fake everything from men posing as women, men posing to be a Dom and "Domming" abusively, women posing as men (for whatever reason), women posing as subs subbing abusively, or Men and women on either side of the D/s slash to get there "short-term" needs met and I could go on and on but I think you get my point.

People learn "red flags" of abusive people that may or may be fake or just don't know or have taken the time to understand the lifestyle as a whole.

 

[barefootgirl69]

This might shed some light on your subject.
Please, elaborate your interpretation of all this insight.

I'm in agreement with Anja.

 

[barefootgirl69]

Unfortunately due my circumstances (working) It's hard for me to elaborate in detail a proper conversation on this topic. In the jist and short of things you're right to a degree. On the internet you have fake everything from men posing as women, men posing to be a Dom and "Domming" abusively, women posing as men (for whatever reason), women posing as subs subbing abusively, or Men and women on either side of the D/s slash to get there "short-term" needs met and I could go on and on but I think you get my point.

People learn "red flags" of abusive people that may or may be fake or just don't know or have taken the time to understand the lifestyle as a whole.

Right. They may be new. I'll go further.

Just because a Dom/me doesn't meet your specific needs doesn't make them "fake". Being incompatible is a thing. If you can't find someone right for you, it's not the fault of the internet. Sometimes I find it's my own fault for not taking my time getting to know someone or vetting them properly, or clarifying that their continued use of the personal pronoun "I" means they're single. I'm still kicking myself for that one!

Anyway, there's good and bad and new and incompatible in every part of the lifestyle -- internet, local clubs, etc.

It's hard to find that right one, sometimes.

 

[barefootgirl69]

hi bfg thank you but that person just doesn't know how to quote properly (look at my tagline)

I deleted it! Geesh! Thanks for setting me straight!!!

 

[Somethingdifferent74]

I'm just gonna lurk and listen

 

[LittleSwitchy]

I did a quick leaf through. I think I’ll observe a bit. See how it goes