Taboo. Open discussion, no attitude.

[timaea]

in my world, my sexuality is taboo....

 

[skittles_lm]

in my world, my sexuality is taboo....

My Domme is a marine. it's taboo for her to even be with me. It would mean her job if the wrong people found out. So I guess I might understand.

Of course, I have no idea what you're into...care to enlighten?

Just for the sake of conversation of course!

 

[timaea]

first....i'm very new to this board....i've been lurking....learning....

i'm submissive....very....but it's never been something i could tell people....i grew up in a very small town in northern europe.....small community...very small community....i was a nice girl...i had boyfriends, but i never shared my real desires with any of them....i'm going through my second divorce....couldn't be honest about myself to either one of them.....

the only person who really knows who i am, is Master....but even with Him i'm embarassed to talk about sex.....

does this make sense, at all....?

 

[skittles_lm]

first....i'm very new to this board....i've been lurking....learning....

i'm submissive....very....but it's never been something i could tell people....i grew up in a very small town in northern europe.....small community...very small community....i was a nice girl...i had boyfriends, but i never shared my real desires with any of them....i'm going through my second divorce....couldn't be honest about myself to either one of them.....

the only person who really knows who i am, is Master....but even with Him i'm embarassed to talk about sex.....

does this make sense, at all....?

sure. I gotcha. I was married and my husband thought I was nuts when I asked him to spank me, so we never ever talked about any of the other weird things that turned me on.

this is why i like lit so much. I can talk about all my kinkiness here, and not have to feel like I am hiding a huge part of my life.

and it's normal to be embarrassed about sex and talking about it...but I would encourage you to work as hard as you can to get over it, at least with your master. Be as open as possible.

 

[timaea]

sure. I gotcha. I was married and my husband thought I was nuts when I asked him to spank me, so we never ever talked about any of the other weird things that turned me on.

this is why i like lit so much. I can talk about all my kinkiness here, and not have to feel like I am hiding a huge part of my life.

and it's normal to be embarrassed about sex and talking about it...but I would encourage you to work as hard as you can to get over it, at least with your master. Be as open as possible.

thank you....Master already knows me better than anyone else....i strive to be completely honest....some taboos are just harder to break than others....to me, it's all about trust...trusting that you breaking taboos won't affect the way someone else feels about you....

 

[skittles_lm]

thank you....Master already knows me better than anyone else....i strive to be completely honest....some taboos are just harder to break than others....to me, it's all about trust...trusting that you breaking taboos won't affect the way someone else feels about you....

It is all about trust...



Our conversation leads me to another 'taboo'. Interracial relationships. Or any relationships out of the norm, really.
I'm female. So is my girlfriend. she happens to be in the military. This is taboo. My sister married a hispanic guy. Most of my family is way happier with my lesbian relationship than her interracial one.

???

 

[timaea]

actually, both of my husbands are foreigners....my current husband is west african.....but oddly enough, that's never in itself been a taboo....hmmmm.....not to me, anyway.....but when i was younger i was seeing this transexual woman....who is now a man, btw...now that was taboo in my family.....my brother is gay....this was only taboo for a while....my parents got over it pretty quick...

 

[Life_Noir]

my best friend is in a 'supermax' and i can HONESTLY tell you, that first of all, He is not a 'fucker' and he would be fine to be put back into society, and yes, he's in there for murder. well, conspiracy to commit murder, his girlfriend (she was his girlfriend at the time) is the one who got stuck with the murder charge. it's a long drawn out story and i'm not going to tell it all here, but i think there's a thread somewhere that i laid it all out in, i'm just too lazy to look it up.

basically the story goes, the girlfriend told my friend that her daughter was being molested by her ex husband, her ex husband was trying to get custody of the daughter, they made the decision to break into his house, rob him, and leave, that's not how it happened. my friend broke into the house with a crowbar, unlocked the door for her to come in, and he went out the back door handing her the crowbar on the way out. she used the crowbar to kill him. hitting him over 500 times in the head, chest, etc...

i guess my point is, that when we see these stories on the TV we forget that there may be 'reasons' behind things that people do, and that there are people who love and care about those who committed these crimes, and that not always are things the way they appear. we just see the 'crime' and say wow, 'kill the fucker' without knowing ANYTHING about the person behind the crime...i do feel sorry for the family of the one that was killed, i can't imagine their pain, but i also know the pain of the family and friends of the one who committed the crime. i still love him with all of my heart, and i still can't believe he even had a part in the murder because it is defiantly NOT who he is. *shrugs* i think my point has now been lost....so i'll shut up...lol

Care to post a link to that thread?

 

[ecstaticsub]

It is all about trust...



Our conversation leads me to another 'taboo'. Interracial relationships. Or any relationships out of the norm, really.
I'm female. So is my girlfriend. she happens to be in the military. This is taboo. My sister married a hispanic guy. Most of my family is way happier with my lesbian relationship than her interracial one.

???

On the subject of interracial relationships...I am white, so is my husband and my Dom is black. He is also about 10 years older than me and is married. I'm not sure which upsets some people more, him being black, being older, or being married. I do know that on the last site I used to hang out on I would get some of the most hateful racist email whenever I would post pictures of my Dom and I together. I met him on the internet, I didn't even know he was black when I first was attracted to him. I will admit that I think we visually look very good together, I like the color contrast.

 

[Life_Noir]

Heaven forbid you don't agree with everything I say! How could you not?


i hate people. Is that taboo to say?

Well... It's not currently PC.... But damned if it's not understandable...

 

[HottieMama]

On the subject of interracial relationships...I am white, so is my husband and my Dom is black. He is also about 10 years older than me and is married. I'm not sure which upsets some people more, him being black, being older, or being married. I do know that on the last site I used to hang out on I would get some of the most hateful racist email whenever I would post pictures of my Dom and I together. I met him on the internet, I didn't even know he was black when I first was attracted to him. I will admit that I think we visually look very good together, I like the color contrast.

Oh..i think the age thing is a HUGE one...On both sides... i have always been attracted to older men and women but men especially. LC is significantly older than me (20+yrs), though you would never know it by the way we interact with each other. i just don't understand why someone will discount a relationship based on the age of their prospective partner. Seems incredibly limiting to me. i tend to judge people for who they are as people, and how they present themselves, not the yr on their birth certificate.

 

[Puman]

On the subject of interracial relationships...I am white, so is my husband and my Dom is black. He is also about 10 years older than me and is married. I'm not sure which upsets some people more, him being black, being older, or being married. I do know that on the last site I used to hang out on I would get some of the most hateful racist email whenever I would post pictures of my Dom and I together. I met him on the internet, I didn't even know he was black when I first was attracted to him. I will admit that I think we visually look very good together, I like the color contrast.

Well Ecstatic, if your AV is anything to go by, then YEAH! you look really good together!

My family and friends would be far more accepting of an interracial relationship than they would be of ANYTHING kinky. To them it's ALL taboo... that's why I love this discussion board.

 

[Life_Noir]

Care to post a link to that thread?

Never mind..I found it...

 

[ecstaticsub]

Well Ecstatic, if your AV is anything to go by, then YEAH! you look really good together!

My family and friends would be far more accepting of an interracial relationship than they would be of ANYTHING kinky. To them it's ALL taboo... that's why I love this discussion board.

Actually I didn't really mean that the way it came out, it sounded a bit conceited. Sorry. What I meant to say that I like the way we look together, especially naked.

My Mother probably would never talk to me again if she found out about my relationship with him for all the above reasons without even mentioning the D/s part of it. Oh well...

 

[Puman]

Actually I didn't really mean that the way it came out, it sounded a bit conceited. Sorry. What I meant to say that I like the way we look together, especially naked.

My Mother probably would never talk to me again if she found out about my relationship with him for all the above reasons without even mentioning the D/s part of it. Oh well...

Nah, you didn't sound conceited at all... your AV has always been one of my favourites... . I guess I was just curious if that was actually you & your PYL - coz if it is - you look really hot together... *pant pant*.

I often ask myself what my family's reaction would be if I had to just blurt it all out, and the same thing pops into my head every time... they'd call a priest and perform and exorcism! What can you do... some just don't understand...

 

[skittles_lm]

you're right, some will just never understand. For example, I think black skin against white skin is visually stunning and artistic. A lot of people would just curl their lip up and start bitching.

Age is a good one too. I know a girl (25ish) who is with a 60 yr old man. they get shit all the time, but they are really happy together. they don't let it bother them too much, but it annoys the hell out of me that people wont just let them be. grrr...

 

[ecstaticsub]

Nah, you didn't sound conceited at all... your AV has always been one of my favourites... . I guess I was just curious if that was actually you & your PYL - coz if it is - you look really hot together... *pant pant*.

I often ask myself what my family's reaction would be if I had to just blurt it all out, and the same thing pops into my head every time... they'd call a priest and perform and exorcism! What can you do... some just don't understand...

No, it's not us. He won't let me post a real picture of us (yet) though I do have one of us in that same pose that I love!

 

[Life_Noir]

my best friend is in a 'supermax' and i can HONESTLY tell you, that first of all, He is not a 'fucker' and he would be fine to be put back into society, and yes, he's in there for murder. well, conspiracy to commit murder, his girlfriend (she was his girlfriend at the time) is the one who got stuck with the murder charge. it's a long drawn out story and i'm not going to tell it all here, but i think there's a thread somewhere that i laid it all out in, i'm just too lazy to look it up.

basically the story goes, the girlfriend told my friend that her daughter was being molested by her ex husband, her ex husband was trying to get custody of the daughter, they made the decision to break into his house, rob him, and leave, that's not how it happened. my friend broke into the house with a crowbar, unlocked the door for her to come in, and he went out the back door handing her the crowbar on the way out. she used the crowbar to kill him. hitting him over 500 times in the head, chest, etc...

i guess my point is, that when we see these stories on the TV we forget that there may be 'reasons' behind things that people do, and that there are people who love and care about those who committed these crimes, and that not always are things the way they appear. we just see the 'crime' and say wow, 'kill the fucker' without knowing ANYTHING about the person behind the crime...i do feel sorry for the family of the one that was killed, i can't imagine their pain, but i also know the pain of the family and friends of the one who committed the crime. i still love him with all of my heart, and i still can't believe he even had a part in the murder because it is defiantly NOT who he is. *shrugs* i think my point has now been lost....so i'll shut up...lol

Hmmmmm...

This might not be a good discussion to have here... Especially since it deals with a friend of yours.. We've talked a lot about "general cases" here.. With the exception of some articles and a few clips...All of which are about no one known {I assume } to the people on the board...
Thats a good way to keep it.

But, the only supermax listed for Indiana {though the list may be wrong} Is the Fed. prison in Terra Haute.
Him being there would be kind of odd... Not impossible..But odd.

If it helps you to understand his situation any... A "Plea Deal" is made by the D.A... But most people don't understand that a judge isn't really obligated to accept it...
And if the judge feels that the circumstances of the crime justify it..He can often throw the whole thing out. Depending on the location of course.

 

[curiouslez84]

you're right, some will just never understand. For example, I think black skin against white skin is visually stunning and artistic. A lot of people would just curl their lip up and start bitching.

Age is a good one too. I know a girl (25ish) who is with a 60 yr old man. they get shit all the time, but they are really happy together. they don't let it bother them too much, but it annoys the hell out of me that people wont just let them be. grrr...

Erm...ew. LOL But that's just me. I really don't care what other people do in the bedroom, or who they're with, really. If they wanna share, cool. If I don't like it, I turn away. Pretty simple. Too bad everyone can't feel that way, huh?

 

[UK_Strawberry]

I have to say that I agree with you. I have no issues with the idea (or practice) of vast age differences but I don't want to see it (please don't judge, I have good reason). It's just not my thing.

*runs away and hides under a rock*

 

[curiouslez84]

LOL *Steals her rock.*

By the way...

*timid* Your av is kinda sexy...

 

[Life_Noir]

*lol*
A good chunk of the above reminds me... Finally saw "Black Snake Moan" today...
One of the things they said in the "extra features" segments... That it embodies all those taboos in one way or another..

Good music... And what can ya say bad about a movie that has Christina Ricci wrapped up in chain anyway???

 

[UK_Strawberry]

LOL *Steals her rock.*

By the way...

*timid* Your av is kinda sexy...

My rock is big enough for the both of us *shimmy's aside a little* (thanks for the AV comment – just got it today)

 

[Life_Noir]

I have to say that I agree with you. I have no issues with the idea (or practice) of vast age differences but I don't want to see it (please don't judge, I have good reason). It's just not my thing.

*runs away and hides under a rock*

Indeed...Nice AV... *grin* Now...How do you define "vast"???

 

[UK_Strawberry]

Indeed...Nice AV... *grin* Now...How do you define "vast"???

Ah – now I can't define my 'issue' with an exact, or even approximate, age difference. It's about appearance. *looks around for a bigger rock* It's about a pensioner (male) being with a young thing. Not to say that I think sex ends at 60 – God forbid – I just don't want to see it. Personal choice ! (again thanks for the AV appreciation – love the idea of chains, blindfold and wax play)