Tales from the front lines

[Daddy2mylilgirl]

In his defense he did just get a blowjob from a stranger for money. Maybe if it was his girlfriend or wife he might have felt differently about kissing afterwards.

 

[Homburg]

The Smoking Gun has run a bit on terminology used in the escort business. I am not sure if I should be surprised with how many of these I was already familiar with.

 

[Bandit58]

I'm curious - how do those of you involved in sex work "compartmentalise" (for want of a better word) your job and your personal lives?

How do you separate the sex you do for work and the sex you have with a romantic partner?

Several of the girls in the brothel I worked in were in relationships, but I never got up the courage to ask them how they managed it

 

[twysted73]

I'm curious - how do those of you involved in sex work "compartmentalise" (for want of a better word) your job and your personal lives?

How do you separate the sex you do for work and the sex you have with a romantic partner?

Several of the girls in the brothel I worked in were in relationships, but I never got up the courage to ask them how they managed it

Good question. One step further: How about the men/relationships you're in..how do they do the same?
Or is it all about choosing the type who isn't genuinely bothered but, in fact, arroused?

Inquiring minds...

 

[DeservingBitch]

I'm curious - how do those of you involved in sex work "compartmentalise" (for want of a better word) your job and your personal lives?

How do you separate the sex you do for work and the sex you have with a romantic partner?

Several of the girls in the brothel I worked in were in relationships, but I never got up the courage to ask them how they managed it

One answer is that I usually don't fuck men anymore in my personal life, nor have romantic relationship with men.

Another answer is that when I fuck, it's always a particular moment on its own. Put differently, every time I fuck I 'compartmentalize' it. Fucking X will never be like fucking Y like fucking Z, irrespective of 'why' I fuck X, Y and Z.

Good question. One step further: How about the men/relationships you're in..how do they do the same?
Or is it all about choosing the type who isn't genuinely bothered but, in fact, arroused?

Inquiring minds...

I don't have any 'significant others' in my life right now. Well, except for my imaginary GF but she's really not territorial.

I'm poly. To be considered dating/relationship material, being OK with the fact that I fuck other people is a requirement, not an option. Whether I fuck them for cash or because I want to is irrelevant to this basic requirement.

 

[DeservingBitch]

The Smoking Gun has run a bit on terminology used in the escort business. I am not sure if I should be surprised with how many of these I was already familiar with.

Here's a list of some of the most common terminology used, mostly acronyms:

Agency = a company that manages calls, bookings, and advertising for a group of providers.
AMP = Asian Massage Parlor
analinus = licking anus
Asian = analingus
Asian Cowgirl = girl on top, squatting
ASP = Adult Service Provider, or alt.sex.prostitution newsgroup
ATM = ass to mouth
Aunt Flo = menstruation
babyback = petite, young, attractive Asian
bait and switch = person who shows up is a different one than advertised
bareback = without condom
BJ = blow job = oral sex = fellatio
BBBJ = bare back blow job = BJ without condom
BBBJTC = bare back blow job to completion (in mouth)
BBBJTCIM = bare back blow job to completion in mouth
BBBJTCWS = bare back blow job to completion with swallow
BBBJWF = bare back blow job with facial
BBFS = bare back sex
BBW = big beautiful woman
BDSM = bondage, discipline, sado-masochism.
BF = boy friend
BFE = boy friend experience
BLS = ball licking and sucking
Blue Jay = blow job
blue pill = Viagra
CBJ = covered blow job = BJ with condom
CDS = covered doggy style
CFS = covered full service = Sex with condom
CG = cowgirl = girl on top facing you
CIM = cum in mouth
Cowgirl = CG = girl on top facing you
cover = condom
DATY = dining at the y = cunnilingus
DDP = double digit penetration, kitty and anus
Doggie = man behind girl, girl on hands and knees
Doubles = A threesome with two girls and a john
DFK = deep french kissing, open mouth with tongue
DIY = do it yourself (masturbation)
DT = deep throat
facial = cumming on partner's face
FS = full service = BJ + Sex
Get Comfortable = get completely naked
GFE = girlfriend experience. Typically BBBJ, CFS, DFK, DATY, and MSOG
Greek = anal sex, back door
GS = golden shower = urination play
Italian = penis rubbing between butt cheeks
LK = light kissing, closed mouth
Mish = missionary position, or the SF Mission District
Missionary = man on top, girl on back
MP = multiple pops = multiple releases
MSOG = multiple shots on goal = multiple releases
PIV = penis in vagina
PSE = Porn Star Experience
rimming = analingus
Reverse cowgirl = RCG = girl on top facing away
Russian = penis rubbing between breasts = Pearl Necklace = titty fuck
SOG = shot on goal = one release
SP = Service Provider
spanish = ATM = ass to mouth
teabag = man squats and dips balls in partner's mouth
TG = transgender
YMMV = Your mileage may vary. Your service level could be different than reported by others. Applies to everyone, some more so than others.
1/2 and 1/2 = half and half = oral sex + full service

 

[ownedsubgal]

I'm curious - how do those of you involved in sex work "compartmentalise" (for want of a better word) your job and your personal lives?

How do you separate the sex you do for work and the sex you have with a romantic partner?

Several of the girls in the brothel I worked in were in relationships, but I never got up the courage to ask them how they managed it

well it's not really a matter of compartmentalizing in my case. i'm being whored out by my Master, this is not some independent personal venture. although he remains mostly behind the scenes as far as the clients know, he's controlling everything from who i see, when and for how long i see them, and what activities take place with that person. and of course all "proceeds" go to him. so really i am serving him much as i do in any other aspect of life. He still has me serve other men outside of escorting, and the protocols and parameters in that realm are far different.

but it's really as simple as being a slave, and obeying my Master's will. that applies to everything from scrubbing the kitchen floor to whoring.

 

[Netzach]

Not fucking in my case but Domination. Burnout came quick, because I had to put as much energy into a scene with a client, sometimes even more physically/adrenally than in my personal life. Eventually it really began to gnaw at me every time I was doing it for cash that I'd much rather be putting all this energy into my personal relationships again and it began to fuck with the certainty that playing at home was *for me* - I kept finding fingers to point that M had "client head" and was being selfish and it was getting out of whack, just because the man has likes and preferences doesn't mean he's seeing me as his rental Domme. It was hard to navigate for me, eventually.

He was never anything other than supportive and pure GOLD about the choice of job, though. Seriously. It was the first time in my life I was happy at work. I know he had a LOT of misgivings, especially because he was worried about me getting busted for things I wasn't doing anyway and big public shame - but he sucked it up. Probably the biggest submissive act I've seen in him yet, I know he wasn't thrilled.

 

[BiBunny]

Woo-hoo! I finally have a pic listing. It's freaking hilarious, actually.

 

[Homburg]

"SOG = Shot on Goal" made me laugh for some reason.

 

[YourCaptor]

Here's a list of some of the most common terminology used, mostly acronyms:

Agency = a company that manages calls, bookings, and advertising for a group of providers.
AMP = Asian Massage Parlor
analinus = licking anus
Asian = analingus
Asian Cowgirl = girl on top, squat...

Oh, great menu. I think Ill have the FS, starting with a BBBJTCIM, DT style… and then PIV, doggie style, maybe with a little Greek or Italian in there.

Do you happen to have any pain tolerance, and those little needles that come with it?

This teabag thing seems like you would reserve it only for cold days, cause on a hot day,

Anyway, I better stop before I keep going forever.

BF, and BFE has me perplexed as to the use.

 

[Homburg]

BF, and BFE has me perplexed as to the use.

There are male prostitutes. And, I would imagine, people that want the BFE performed by a female. Just a thought.

 

[ownedsubgal]

...saw a once a month regular early this morning (8 am!!!)...he's a pretty unique guy, has Asperger's which obviously seriously effects his ability to communicate and interact with people properly. i dig him though, he understands sex for what it is and never gets sappy on me like 95% of the men i see. also he fucks my throat beautifully...his cock is very very long, literally about 12 inches, but not overly thick. i probably wouldn't be able to deep-throat him if he DIDN'T fuck my face so aggressively. besides abusing my mouth, his favorite thing is having his balls licked, gently caressed and sucked, so there was a lot of that in between all the scrumping and cock sucking and bumhole licking. it was overall pretty pleasant, although getting up at the crack of dawn to get ready for him wasn't so great.

he does have this one weird quirkly little thing though, that i've never seen or heard of in a man before...he can only cum with permission. well, maybe permission isn't quite the right word.....it's like, he could and would probably screw me for hours on end, without ever cumming, if i didn't say anything. what i have to do is when his time is almost up, i'll ask him if he needs to cum, where does he want to cum, is he ready to cum, etc...then he'll ask me "do you want me to?" and i'll say yes, and then and only then will he cum. immediately...no additional thrusting, no build-up, he just shoots. and it will be a FLOOD, as if he hasn't cum in years. so basically, he could cum at any moment, but he won't cum until i ask for it. anyone ever heard of something like this?

 

[YourCaptor]

...saw a once a month regular early this morning (8 am!!!)...

That’s pretty cool, I wonder if anyone trained him.

It’s nice to see an equal opportunity, ehhh, for the lack of a better word, fuck. Has your master (or whatever you call him) ever considered some volunteer work for you at a hospital, hospice, or a special care clinic?

 

[ownedsubgal]

That’s pretty cool, I wonder if anyone trained him.

It’s nice to see an equal opportunity, ehhh, for the lack of a better word, fuck. Has your master (or whatever you call him) ever considered some volunteer work for you at a hospital, hospice, or a special care clinic?

no, my Master restricts my outside interactions fairly severely, so that sort of thing wouldn't be possible. why do you ask, and what did you mean by "i wonder if anyone trained him?"

 

[Netzach]

...saw a once a month regular early this morning (8 am!!!)...he's a pretty unique guy, has Asperger's which obviously seriously effects his ability to communicate and interact with people properly. i dig him though, he understands sex for what it is and never gets sappy on me like 95% of the men i see. also he fucks my throat beautifully...his cock is very very long, literally about 12 inches, but not overly thick. i probably wouldn't be able to deep-throat him if he DIDN'T fuck my face so aggressively. besides abusing my mouth, his favorite thing is having his balls licked, gently caressed and sucked, so there was a lot of that in between all the scrumping and cock sucking and bumhole licking. it was overall pretty pleasant, although getting up at the crack of dawn to get ready for him wasn't so great.

he does have this one weird quirkly little thing though, that i've never seen or heard of in a man before...he can only cum with permission. well, maybe permission isn't quite the right word.....it's like, he could and would probably screw me for hours on end, without ever cumming, if i didn't say anything. what i have to do is when his time is almost up, i'll ask him if he needs to cum, where does he want to cum, is he ready to cum, etc...then he'll ask me "do you want me to?" and i'll say yes, and then and only then will he cum. immediately...no additional thrusting, no build-up, he just shoots. and it will be a FLOOD, as if he hasn't cum in years. so basically, he could cum at any moment, but he won't cum until i ask for it. anyone ever heard of something like this?

He might just not have a sense of whatever the etiquitte is that neurotypical people have around this moment. Shit, most NT people have no idea.

 

[DeservingBitch]

BF, and BFE has me perplexed as to the use.

The gay male sex work equivalent of GFE.

 

[DeservingBitch]

He might just not have a sense of whatever the etiquitte is that neurotypical people have around this moment. Shit, most NT people have no idea.

Or he just likes the idea that you 'want' it. Not much different from a lot of the guys I see.

 

[DeservingBitch]

Woo-hoo! I finally have a pic listing. It's freaking hilarious, actually.

How hilarious?

 

[BiBunny]

How hilarious?

I'll PM you, and you can decide for yourself.

 

[DeservingBitch]

I'll PM you, and you can decide for yourself.

OK, I second Bunny on that. Hilarious indeed.

 

[Netzach]

me too me too! God I wish I still could find the pics the service gave me....haha

 

[BiBunny]

me too me too! God I wish I still could find the pics the service gave me....haha

As you wish.

 

[Netzach]

Wow. Oh wow.

 

[DeservingBitch]

Wow. Oh wow.

Indeed eh?!