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[Lancecastor]

James...I'm 100% sure that I've only used heavy artilliary (bitch, skank, moron etc) on those who:

A) had engaged in prior attacks using similar words on me;

B) appear, based on my reading of their posts, to be able to handle some of what they dish out....Mz Christa, CarolineOh & Killer Muffin being the best examples. NOTE: These people describe themselves as Domme, Switch and Vanilla, respectively.


To suggest that I've been mean to or launched pre-emptive first strikes on "broken subs" of any grade or variety is simply an unfair and incorrect statement.

If you are suggesting I need to "watch my language" when there are sad , lonely people in the room, I'd say again:

A) It's none of your business;
B) If it is your business, go post at the others, too, please;
C) It's an Internet Porn BBS.....no place for the weak & meek.

If people want to be suspicious of my bona fides....who's problem is that? (mine!)

Are you done yet?

Do you have anything else that might be pertinent to say on this?

Hey Art...how's that finger over there?

;-)
Lance

Neither I, nor anyone else is putting a limitation on your expression here. I believe that is obvious to anyone who peruses a few of your threads.
I do not disagree with you on the non-insulting parts of your post. BDSM is not therapy, either in real life, nor on a message board. But I believe it is hyperbole to claim that the support that goes on amongst the female subs here reachs the level of therapy, and I do not believe that those who are grasping to find their footing are necessarily, as you put it "broken".
I would applaud you if I saw you advising someone who needed serious help to get it. And I do not believe that you think that I , or cym, Risia, or Artful, WD, Caroline, Christa, Miss T, etc.etc., would not advise then to either. We have good people here, we really don't need one self appointed White Knight.
But Lance, can't you see that calling these women bitchs, skanks, morons, etc negates any realistic chance that you can be of any help to any of them? can't you see that every time you insult caroline, other women feel threatened by it as well?Don't you understand that the most well meaning reasonable advice you might give will be eyed with suspicion under the prevailing conditions?
I know, I know, you think they started it all, you insist on massive retaliation when you are wronged, etc. but I hope that you will consider what I've said and not merely go off on another tear about who you don't like and why.

 

[Lancecastor]

But hell what do I know

You know more than most, I'd suggest.

You often say more of value in 1 of your posts than hundreds of mine...but I guess mine are Rupees to your Greenbacks.



Lance

 

[James Blandings]

James...I'm 100% sure that I've only used heavy artilliary (bitch, skank, moron etc) on those who:

A) had engaged in prior attacks using similar words on me;

B) appear, based on my reading of their posts, to be able to handle some of what they dish out....Mz Christa, CarolineOh & Killer Muffin being the best examples. NOTE: These people describe themselves as Domme, Switch and Vanilla, respectively.


To suggest that I've been mean to or launched pre-emptive first strikes on "broken subs" of any grade or variety is simply an unfair and incorrect statement.

If you are suggesting I need to "watch my language" when there are sad , lonely people in the room, I'd say again:

A) It's none of your business;
B) If it is your business, go post at the others, too, please;
C) It's an Internet Porn BBS.....no place for the weak & meek.

If people want to be suspicious of my bona fides....who's problem is that? (mine!)

Are you done yet?

Do you have anything else that might be pertinent to say on this?

Hey Art...how's that finger over there?

;-)
Lance

Yes, I'm done. Your deliberate distortions of my points convinces me I am wasting my time trying to discuss this rationally with you.

 

[Richard49]

You know more than most, I'd suggest.

You often say more of value in 1 of your posts than hundreds of mine...but I guess mine are Rupees to your Greenbacks.



Lance

Thank you for the compliment........

 

[Lancecastor]

Praise Jeebus!

Lance

Yes, I'm done.

 

[Lancecastor]

Thank you for the compliment........

Hey, you're welcome.

I couldn't help but notice you mentioning that you are in the middle of some personal stuff.

I sometimes wish I could let people touch my forehead and see all the shit I've weathered in my days as a way of saying: "Hey, chin up, pal...I've seen worse... and I'm still vertical."

Chin up, old cock!

Lance

 

[Richard49]

Hey, you're welcome.

I couldn't help but notice you mentioning that you are in the middle of some personal stuff.

I sometimes wish I could let people touch my forehead and see all the shit I've weathered in my days as a way of saying: "Hey, chin up, pal...I've seen worse... and I'm still vertical."

Chin up, old cock!

Lance

I have been going through this "shit" for a year as of Sept 6th.
Just when I think things are better .. well..... someone shoots me again or I step on my dick .........

You know we all want the same thing(s).
We want to love and be loved by that person
We want to be able to trust ourselves and others

We want our basic needs meet ... food,clothing,shelter,sex

We all want to be free of fear

anyway this is my take and as I have said .. what the hell do I know.... I can't keep a sub lately and do not even have a plaything

 

[WriterDom]

I anyway this is my take and as I have said .. what the hell do I know.... I can't keep a sub lately and do not even have a plaything

Sorry Richard. I hope your luck chances soon. Mine too. I might just slip over to the nilla side for a little fun.They can't satisfy all my needs, but nillas like to do it all night long. And you can always pin their hands down while you fuck them. They get off on that.

 

[Lancecastor]

Sorry Richard. I hope your luck chances soon. Mine too. I might just slip over to the nilla side for a little fun.They can't satisfy all my needs, but nillas like to do it all night long. And you can always pin their hands down while you fuck them. They get off on that.

Ditto. The politics in BDSM communities tend to be like Junior High School dances. Silly. Trying. Dull. Stifling.

Go meet a nice vanilla woman and train her slowly and surely like "The Loving Dominant" suggests.


Tabula rasa.

Clean slate.

Cheers;

Lance

 

[zipman]

Hey Richard

We haven't chatted so I thought I would say hello. Sorry to hear things have been a little tough out in r/l for you.

Looking forward to a few entertaining verbal exchanges. Lance has been a bit busy replying to all of his fans.

Hey WD,

Long time no chat! Thanks for the kind words on the opinion thread the other day.

 

[Lancecastor]

Zip

Your mailbox is full of subluvnotes . Clean it out.
*hugs*
L

 

[WriterDom]

I think the Dom Lounge needs it's own sticky. Any suggestions?

 

[Lancecastor]

Oooo-ooo--ooo! Teacher! Can I answer that?!

I think the Dom Lounge needs it's own sticky. Any suggestions?

 

[Richard49]

Sorry Richard. I hope your luck chances soon. Mine too. I might just slip over to the nilla side for a little fun.They can't satisfy all my needs, but nillas like to do it all night long. And you can always pin their hands down while you fuck them. They get off on that.

I am in th present emotional mess I am in cause I broke my word to myself
I swore I would never turn another nilla out

well I did.. shje was such a natural sub
hit sub space first time out

then she started questioning weather this was abuse or not
weather ... well .. the whole fucking relationship

So here i set
in love,alone and horny

 

[WriterDom]

You can be on the sticky committee, Lance. Or the nonsticky committee.

I wonder how many male switches are really subs, but rationalize their Dom side because of perceived social pressure?

 

[Richard49]

Re: Hey Richard

We haven't chatted so I thought I would say hello. Sorry to hear things have been a little tough out in r/l for you.

Hello
No we have not meet
I usally just drop ion where I have an opinon and post
this Dom place here seems like a nice safe enviroment

 

[zipman]

Re: Re: Hey Richard

Hello
No we have not meet
I usally just drop ion where I have an opinon and post
this Dom place here seems like a nice safe enviroment

You know, I hadn't really thought about it, but you're right, it does! Suffice it to say that I am looking forward to reading more of your posts. And seeing you around the lounge!

Regards,
Zip

 

[artful]

Lance

Hey Art...how's that finger over there?

;-)
Lance

My finger is GREAT,...but my little rosebud was REALLY hurting. I left the fence to play backgammon,...and now my rosebud don't even hurt.

BTW ADR,...howz yours?

(NO! Not your finger!) (j/k)

 

[Lancecastor]

Thanks...I think. I'll get on that.

Male switches who are really subs...hmmmm....maybe the social presssure is similar to bi guys who are really gay but use bi as a flag of convenience en route to full gayhood.

???

Lance

You can be on the sticky committee, Lance. Or the nonsticky committee.

I wonder how many male switches are really subs, but rationalize their Dom side because of perceived social pressure?

 

[A Desert Rose]

you are baiting me BigDog,

My finger is GREAT,...but my little rosebud was REALLY hurting. I left the fence to play backgammon,...and now my rosebud don't even hurt.

BTW ADR,...howz yours?

(NO! Not your finger!) (j/k)

I toadya how I felt about posting here..... But for the record and your audience:

Art beat me extremely well. Even a (gasp) GAMMON, one game.
So there ya have it. My tushie is still stinging.

Rose

 

[artful]

Re: you are baiting me BigDog,

I toadya how I felt about posting here..... But for the record and your audience:

Art beat me extremely well. Even a (gasp) GAMMON, one game.
So there ya have it. My tushie is still stinging.

Rose

Hey,...I never laid a hand on ya!*blush*

 

[Richard49]

Re: Re: you are baiting me BigDog,

Hey,...I never laid a hand on ya!*blush*

So who do we believe
the sub or the Dom?

 

[artful]

Re: Re: Re: you are baiting me BigDog,

So who do we believe
the sub or the Dom?

Hiya Richard,...good to see you posting again my friend. Keep up the good work. There are many of us who care about your well being,...who knows what tomorrow will bring,...not ME,...that's for sure.

 

[Rubyfruit]

I am in th present emotional mess I am in cause I broke my word to myself
I swore I would never turn another nilla out

well I did.. shje was such a natural sub
hit sub space first time out

then she started questioning weather this was abuse or not
weather ... well .. the whole fucking relationship

So here i set
in love,alone and horny

I know I'm not supposed to be in here, but this broke my heart. I'm sorry you're in so much pain, Richard.

 

[Sandia]

Lance, Richard: a coupla thoughts.

Claiming a dominant identity is a pretty easy thing to do -- hell, it's practically admired. Claiming sub is a whole 'nother ball of wax. Admitting, or claiming those desires - to be humiliated, to be dominated, etc. etc. is tough. And scary. Someone coming here to say those things would be naturally hesitant and wary of being abused or taken advantage of. And when you consider - as I have - that perhaps some of them are people who've had trials and tribulations of their own that are terrible to think about... I think it explains a lot.