The Dom Lounge

[mousetro]

Thanks writer I took your advisement Thanks for pointing me in the right direction. One can only say that there must be someone in need of training and I am the one too do it.

 

[WriterDom]

If you guys need to take a leak, we have urinals in here. They get kinda bitchy if you leave the seat up elsewhere.

 

[Lancecastor]

Cold One!

If you guys need to take a leak, we have urinals in here. They get kinda bitchy if you leave the seat up elsewhere.

Hey WD, long time no see!

Care for a cold Heine?

*pop* *pop*

Lance

 

[WriterDom]

Re: Cold One!

Hey WD, long time no see!

Care for a cold Heine?

*pop* *pop*

Lance

Sounds good. I had a Buffalo burger yesterday at Ted Turner's restaurant near Atlanta. Pretty tasty. I think they'll catch on. We'll throw a couple on the grill.

 

[Lancecastor]

Mmmmm...dead meat!

Sounds good. I had a Buffalo burger yesterday at Ted Turner's restaurant near Atlanta. Pretty tasty. I think they'll catch on. We'll throw a couple on the grill.

I could use some charred flesh right about now; the salmon I had for supper was delish.....but I'm lookin for a midnight snak.

L

 

[Ebonyfire]

Hit & Run

Fie, Fi, Fo, Fum, I smell a lot of testosterone!

Eb <running in and out of the lounge>

 

[~Dream~]

Writer Dom..

I haven't seen Artful around these parts lately. I wish I had a body like his av. I guess he does to. (Wishes he did, that is, not wishes I do.) I have been hitting the weights pretty hard since June. It's been an off and on thing for probably 4 years. I've always been able to stick with it for maybe 4 months and then quit completely for at least that long. And that sucks because weights are such a quantitative thing that your loss stares you right in the face.



I know this was an older post by you and all but I'd just like to say that Master's REAL-LIFE body is in pretty damn good shape too(if equiring minds need to know?)
*heads off to EXIT stage right before SOMEBODY tries to *spank* me..btw Writer Dom? You never told us You were such a good comedian!! lol loved the convo between you and Red-neck ..lmfao

 

[rosco rathbone]

greetings pervy peeple

I'm roscoe, new in town till the next freight train comes along.

I can't call myself a dom or master or a dominate or whatever. I'm just a perverse sexually aggresive person. It does seem that guys who identify as "dominants" usually get me; speeking in an internet sense of course. I share the same interests and probably, on some level, the same basic philosophies, but I am bound by William Blake's dictum that "I must create my own System or be enslaved by another Mans' ".

So with the caveats out of the way, is anyone else psyched for the release of the movie "The Secretary"? As far as I know, it is the first major-media portrayal of an explicit male-sexually-dominant relationship since "9 1/2 Weeks" not counting all normal Hollywood fare which of course serves to reinforce the white male patriarchal sense of entitlement etc etc. Sorry, too much time spent a-trolling at Ms. Forum.

With that in mind, is anyone else here interested in portrayals of men in the media and advertisements? I find the idea of a movie about an intense, romantic, male-sexually dominant relationship to be radical at this point in the culture, but I probabyl just enjoy feeling like an oppressed minority.


roscoe

 

[Lancecastor]

Re: greetings pervy peeple

Hey Roscoe;

Beer? *pop*

I'm interested in the portrayal of men in the media as I am a man who works from time to time in the media.

Cheers;

Lance

I'm roscoe, new in town till the next freight train comes along.

With that in mind, is anyone else here interested in portrayals of men in the media and advertisements?

roscoe

 

[rosco rathbone]

Just what I need , bro. more beer.

Since you work in the media, could you please do something about all those ads where the husband is an immature idiot and the wife looks like a long-suffering saint?

Just once I want to see an ad that portrays the opposite.

A usually intelligent poster at Ms. Forum once explained this phenomenon in terms of "affirmative action".

I do like the ad with where Mike Meyers punches out Britney Speares and then tries to yank her hair off.....but they had to ruin it by having her hit him back and then having him say "Fair enough!"

So are you psyched for "The Secretary", Lance?

roscoe

 

[Richard49]

Re: Do you Gentlemen mind if I interject?

I have been researching bdsm online for over 4 years - in chatrooms, BB/Forums, lists, groups - and I have to say that I agree. The vast majority of self-identified submissive women I have met online are not submissive, in my opinion.

I think of them as PPs (pillow princess', they want to lie back on the pillow and and stay there) not as submissives. They want the sexual/emotional attention on themselves exclusively and do not really have any interest in submitting.

~pardon my intrusion into your domain *smiles*~

I find this true of most RL women also

 

[Richard49]

Re: OK so lets talk about something then!

OK! So if you don't like a post IGNORE IT!! That person will drop it if no one responds.
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Now lets talk about something from a "DOMS" Point of view, I'll just kick this out as a general question.
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As a DOM do you prefer a submissive

a)-24/7 (live in)
b) Part Time(-Keeping a misstress)
c)One Time Encounter

Well I prefer A but can live with B & C
as long as there is some honesty
about wants and expectations

 

[Richard49]

My question .... how do each of you expect a submissive to behave, to speak, to write?



I am asking - not to rake up an arguement - but to learn.
Thanks

for me it is not so much a definable set of actions
it is an attudue of respect

 

[Richard49]

w. puss',

There was discussion about submissive behavior on the boards. Is that what you are asking, or real life behavior between a Dom and his sub?

Where is this discussion?

 

[Richard49]

Re: Re: Re: The Dom Lounge

Sincerely,..."art-fucked up again-ful"

Seems to describe me 24 - 7 also

 

[Richard49]

Re: When the best is the enemy of the good

Moving on after things don't work out. It's hard. And you feel like, after the healing, you need to get back in the game. And you know you'll have to kiss a few frogetts before you find you princess, but you are gun shy not wanting to hurt. But the need beats like a primal drum.

Boy can I relate

I personally am thinking of giving up the lifestyle
and ALL relationships

I can not seem to do relationships well
and can not seem to hold on to a sub
sooooooooo ...............

Here's a topic

When you release a sub does the need for her care come to your mind?

Do Doms need care when they are released/fired?

 

[WriterDom]

Where is this discussion?

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Originally posted by WriterDom
w. puss',

There was discussion about submissive behavior on the boards. Is that what you are asking, or real life behavior between a Dom and his sub?
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Where is this discussion?

I think it was within one of the mega Lance threads. Maybe he remembers.

 

[Sandia]

Re: Re: Do you Gentlemen mind if I interject?

I find this true of most RL women also

Heh. careful, Richard.

All relationships are hard, everywhere, IMO.

You give so much of yourself, you make a connection, and somehow things don't work out... you don't understand why, or maybe you do, but it just seems so unbearably sad... The worst is when it's nobody's fault, exactly, but people's limitations just get in the way. Limits they're not exactly responsible for, but just come as part of the person.

 

[Lancecastor]

New......Zen Lance!

Hi Richard;

Good to see you back.

Of course D's need care when a relationship ends, just as s's do....but I also know that the last person I want around to comfort/be comforted by after a split is "her".

Regarding WD's remark about WP's post about appropriate submissive behavior on the boards, WD is right....WP's question was, as I recall, during and/or in the middle of one of my direct, feisty, in-your-face threads, so the context would be hard to replicate just now, I think.

Back to your words about being bummed out about relationships...

It always seems like you'll never love again...Until you do.

Pretty fuckin' Zen, eh?

Lance

Boy can I relate

I personally am thinking of giving up the lifestyle
and ALL relationships

I can not seem to do relationships well
and can not seem to hold on to a sub
sooooooooo ...............

Here's a topic

When you release a sub does the need for her care come to your mind?

Do Doms need care when they are released/fired?

 

[Lancecastor]

Re: Re: Do you Gentlemen mind if I interject?

I find this true of most RL women also

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Originally posted by MsWorthy

The vast majority of self-identified submissive women I have met online are not submissive, in my opinion.

I think of them as PPs (pillow princess', they want to lie back on the pillow and and stay there) not as submissives. They want the sexual/emotional attention on themselves exclusively and do not really have any interest in submitting.

Amen, amen, amen.

Lance

 

[artful]

Richard

Here's a topic

When you release a sub does the need for her care come to your mind?

Do Doms need care when they are released/fired?

I am on my third sub,(in real life). So I can't state this with any AUTHORITY. My first, after being with her for over twenty years,...passed away.

My second, lasted for six years, and I did give her mental and financial support, when I released her,(she requested to be released).

My third is Dream, and I suspect I will have her till the day I die. In truthfulness, I *THINK*,.. each severed relationship, deserves it's OWN processing.

In conlusion,...I can't see how a sub could EVER be in a position to comfort a Dom.

(JMHO),...but it's mine,...and I own it.

 

[Sandia]

Lance, I have a question for you.

Back in the day... heh... you said something critical about subs who don't act submissive on the boards. I think you already know my position on that, and I "defended" you... Basically I said it was a "heat of the moment" type remark.

Anyway, what are your feelings about that?

Do you think people who are passive-aggressive, or just plain aggressive, are not true subs?

 

[Richard49]

Do you think people who are passive-aggressive, or just plain aggressive, are not true subs?

I'm no Lance
but I think they are just frightened
if they are passive-agressive

 

[Lancecastor]

Do you think people who are passive-aggressive, or just plain aggressive, are not true subs?

I don't think it's that cut-and-dry.

As Cym says...."strength in submission".

It takes a conscious, whole person to truly give themselves to another, in my view.

Anyone who is outwardly passive-aggressive and/or uses indirect aggression to express themselves gives me pause to wonder about how whole they are....because often as not, the passive aggressive indirect behind the back stuff is "seen" by everyone except the perpetrator, who, like a liar, is only lying to or hurting him/her self.

So, when I see certain behaviors here from some who loudly say they are sub, I wonder...and worry about them and whoever should be so unlucky to be bedding them.

This is different from a real submissive that is whole, articulate and expressive....a point that often was totally lost in the foam and lathering at the mouths of those who felt "attacked" or "defensive" in the discussion.

Lance

 

[Lancecastor]

I'm no Lance

(lance: Lucky for you! )


but I think they are just frightened
if they are passive-agressive

(lance: this in my experience often turns out to be the case. Sadly, backroom dealing and indirect aggression often is exactly the opposite of what the person needs to do to beat the fear, which is often as simple as standing right in front of it.)