The Dominant Ego (Not looking for trouble here...)

[shy slave]

ughhh shy you are rubbing off on me i quoted the wrong post from you....but you know what i mean.....right?

Its good to know I am not alone in fuck ups lol

 

[fallon2]

Be direct

I like a sub who is direct. I have known one that when she communicated a desire would say "you don't have to do it for me if you don't want to." Made me want to swat the brat on her ass many times! lol
A good Master after much communication with the sub will have a very good idea of what the sub needs and through the relationship the sub will communicate.
I could nevr be in a 24/7 relationship. Too much work and maintenance. So when talking to the sub we are able to communicate outside the bedroom effectively.

 

[s'lara]

I fuck up constantly; but with impeccable flare.

And this is a prime example of egotism with style ... nasty boots, You should sigline this and make egotistical history. Or become a politician.

As to the question, it's up to the Dominant to allow such "suggestions" to be made by a sub. If necessary, just ask for permission to speak freely and put it out there. What you (the sub) shouldn't expect is to be patted on the head and congratulated for the helpful hint. There may be times that you'll receive a "thanks, slut" or you may get nothing at all except instructions on how to ensure the Dominant does not make the same "mistake." Bottom line, we're here to serve and doing that also means we have to learn how to handle/stroke/preserve the ego.

lara

 

[Mr Blonde]

Like other competent dominants, I initiate conversations that take us through feedback and reviews. It is simply part of maintaining a productive relationship.

Here are two other comments about this subject:

1. During "play" (active sex), a subbie should use our safeword if there are problems but other issues should wait until later. It is no time for a running critique (unless that has been specifically requested) of what is happening.

2. There is limited value to repeatedly bringing up shortcomings that either can't be solved or are actively being worked on already.

 

[Phoenix Stone]

I fuck up constantly; but with impeccable flare.

And I'm betting you flare up constantly; but with impeccable fucking, too.

 

[AngelicAssassin]

Re: Re: The Dominant Ego (Not looking for trouble here...)

Like other competent dominants, I initiate conversations that take us through feedback and reviews. It is simply part of maintaining a productive relationship.

Here are two other comments about this subject:

1. During "play" (active sex), a subbie should use our safeword if there are problems but other issues should wait until later. It is no time for a running critique (unless that has been specifically requested) of what is happening.

2. There is limited value to repeatedly bringing up shortcomings that either can't be solved or are actively being worked on already.

Remind me to add this to Dom/mes thought of the day thread ...

 

[CGB's angel]

I fuck up constantly; but with impeccable flare.

where do you get impeccable flares? i have an emergency kit in my car but it only comes with the normal flares-ive checked online and cant find impecable flares, and being a perfectionist, i only want the best flares i can find