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The "I wish to receive Pm's" (twist on the how many)

I would love to get more PM's, but I don't normally, and I don't send alot of PM's either. I have been made to feel like I am intruding on them. Also most people do not have very much in their profiles to make conversation about. I do not take a shot in the dark very well.

Then you have those that, just point blank have it in their profiles that they either have no interest in a man, or they point blank say, do not PM me.

Then you have those non-returned PM's. If you aren"t interested, why can't people have the common courtesy, to reply : Thanks for the interest, but I am not interested. But with that said, I can understand that you have persistent slime balls that will not take "no" for an answer. It makes people feel unimportant, who the fuck are you to decide who is not important. I am a human being! So take notice! It is called common courtesy!

Also, when I am made to feel like the conversation is one sided, and the other person is not showing a lot of interest, I get bored! Just the way it is, I guess.

Sorry for the rant!
 
KinkyGAGuy said:
I would love to get more PM's, but I don't normally, and I don't send alot of PM's either. I have been made to feel like I am intruding on them. Also most people do not have very much in their profiles to make conversation about. I do not take a shot in the dark very well.

Then you have those that, just point blank have it in their profiles that they either have no interest in a man, or they point blank say, do not PM me.

Then you have those non-returned PM's. If you aren"t interested, why can't people have the common courtesy, to reply : Thanks for the interest, but I am not interested. But with that said, I can understand that you have persistent slime balls that will not take "no" for an answer. It makes people feel unimportant, who the fuck are you to decide who is not important. I am a human being! So take notice! It is called common courtesy!

Also, when I am made to feel like the conversation is one sided, and the other person is not showing a lot of interest, I get bored! Just the way it is, I guess.

Sorry for the rant!
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I agree with most of what you said except the

"why can't people have the common courtesy, to reply : Thanks for the interest, but I am not interested."

I do reply to every pm, that is my choice.

When you send an unsolicited pm, you are intruding unless someone is on team pm, or says they want to receive them. You are not entitled to a response. It isn't about courtesy, it's that you shouldn't have the expectation that your effort is some how deserving of action by someone else, just because that is what you want.

You need to stop looking at sending a pm as something you are doing for someone else. It isn't. You are doing it for you and again...are entitled to nothing back.

I wish more men would understand this and stop thinking that women who don't respond are rude. They aren't. They don't need to satisfy your want of a response just because you consider it polite.
 
Iceprincess12 said:
I agree with most of what you said except the

"why can't people have the common courtesy, to reply : Thanks for the interest, but I am not interested."

I do reply to every pm, that is my choice.

When you send an unsolicited pm, you are intruding unless someone is on team pm, or says they want to receive them. You are not entitled to a response. It isn't about courtesy, it's that you shouldn't have the expectation that your effort is some how deserving of action by someone else, just because that is what you want.

You need to stop looking at sending a pm as something you are doing for someone else. It isn't. You are doing it for you and again...are entitled to nothing back.

I wish more men would understand this and stop thinking that women who don't respond are rude. They aren't. They don't need to satisfy your want of a response just because you consider it polite.
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Thank you for agreeing with most of what I said, but we will have to agree to disagree on the rest. I do not go around sending a bunch of unsolicited PM's, if I have something to say, or I found an interest in you, I will point blank, state my reasoning for PMing you. I do not try to immediately sway a conversation towards sex, nor do I send people pictures of myself. If I am just making a statement, I may not even expect a response, but if we were part of a conversation in a thread, or I send you a compliment, a response would be nice.

I see your point, and have learned to respect the way it is, that doesn't mean that I have to like it.
 
KinkyGAGuy said:
Thank you for agreeing with most of what I said, but we will have to agree to disagree on the rest. I do not go around sending a bunch of unsolicited PM's, if I have something to say, or I found an interest in you, I will point blank, state my reasoning for PMing you. I do not try to immediately sway a conversation towards sex, nor do I send people pictures of myself. If I am just making a statement, I may not even expect a response, but if we were part of a conversation in a thread, or I send you a compliment, a response would be nice.

I see your point, and have learned to respect the way it is, that doesn't mean that I have to like it.
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No worries, most men don't like it :).

I am sure you don't send anything offensive, large quantities of mass pm's or anything else you defended against. I'm simply letting you know that you are still sending an unsolicited pm. I really just have a problem with the courtesy part. Courtesy works both ways and just because your pm is "nice" still doesn't mean she wanted it.

If she doesn't answer that is her way of telling you she didn't want one. Not sure? Send another one, lol.

Have a good afternoon!
 
If you are going to post here, at least have the courtesy to reply when people do take the trouble to pm you, even if it's just to say "Fuck off you pervert, I'm not interested."
 
hilton1958 said:
If you are going to post here, at least have the courtesy to reply when people do take the trouble to pm you, even if it's just to say "Fuck off you pervert, I'm not interested."
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Taking the trouble to PM. LOL! OK, I posted this before awhile ago. Spare me the common courtesy lecture.

a) I don't have to

b) You're creepy. Spare me the personal questions.

c) Being here for years with no profile info or posts just doesn't cut it.

d) When all of your posts are in AmPics or Personals, don't bother.
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:rolleyes:
 
hilton1958 said:
If you are going to post here, at least have the courtesy to reply when people do take the trouble to pm you, even if it's just to say "Fuck off you pervert, I'm not interested."
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LOL, get use to it. People ask and never reply. Others don't ask yet get a bunch of them. It's always a crap shoot if you will get any replies from a PM
 
Just one would be nice

As it is being new, a hello from a sassy lady would be well appreciated. :)
 
(I removed quote so as not to confuse, but since you have me quoted, it'll stay.. Rant was not directed at KinkyGAGuy)


I feel like it is time for me to weigh in again since I started this thread years ago. I'm not in the greatest mood, so I should probably wait, but that's no fun.

When I started this, it was because so many were complaining about lack of PMs in the "How many PMs did you get" thread, so I thought it would be a nice place for people to speak up about wanting PMs. In the beginning many women came in and stated the things that make them reply to a PM but most of the men just ignored these comments and posted "Looking for horny women", "talk to me about sex", "Tell me all your kinks", "cyber fuck me"
Most of the guys who actually interact around the boards, have learned that women (99%of them) want conversation, they want to see some information in your profile, they want to see that you have interacted on the boards. They want you to talk to them like a person and not some fuck toy that you are just going to use to get off. If you have little information for them to know you by, or haven't interacted on the boards, to see what kind of person they are, it is almost guaranteeing that you wont get much of a reply, if one at all.
Even those women who entered into some sort of sexual relationship with someone else, probably wasn't swayed in by "hey baby, wanna call me and tell me what you'd like to do to me?"
I see this all over the boards. In the personals, some lazy dude says "I'm bored, entertain me" It's no ones job to entertain you. "I'm horny, tell me what you'd like to do to me" Um.. Tell you to fuck off???
I know there are women who do like less talk. But it's rare and so many men are butthurt over the fact that women need more to stimulate them, then men do. I don't care if it is a "sex site" or not. I don't come here to help anyone get off. So many men say "what do you expect, it's a sex site" You don't get to pick why any other person comes here, or how they are treated, but I can promise that now that you have said that, you for sure wont get that PM that you think you deserve.
I try and answer all the PMs I get. But I wont answer rude ones that come out of the gate assuming I am there to help them.
I do agree. I don't think it takes up very much of my time to respond to someone who has taken the time to message me.
I do talk more to someone who has given me something to work with conversation wise, who I might have seen around socializing, or who at least has some interests or any little bit of info in their profile.

I am sorry that it is so much harder for guys to get PMs, but remember, those who are getting them more, probably took the time to offer up more then what their dick wants.
Almost every one of the friendships I either have had, or do have from this site, were people who sent me a message and took interest in me and not asking me to get them off.
 
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SassySheDevil said:
I feel like it is time for me to weigh in again since I started this thread years ago. I'm not in the greatest mood, so I should probably wait, but that's no fun.

When I started this, it was because so many were complaining about lack of PMs in the "How many PMs did you get" thread, so I thought it would be a nice place for people to speak up about wanting PMs. In the beginning many women came in and stated the things that make them reply to a PM but most of the men just ignored these comments and posted "Looking for horny women", "talk to me about sex", "Tell me all your kinks", "cyber fuck me"
Most of the guys who actually interact around the boards, have learned that women (99%of them) want conversation, they want to see some information in your profile, they want to see that you have interacted on the boards. They want you to talk to them like a person and not some fuck toy that you are just going to use to get off. If you have little information for them to know you by, or haven't interacted on the boards, to see what kind of person they are, it is almost guaranteeing that you wont get much of a reply, if one at all.
Even those women who entered into some sort of sexual relationship with someone else, probably wasn't swayed in by "hey baby, wanna call me and tell me what you'd like to do to me?"
I see this all over the boards. In the personals, some lazy dude says "I'm bored, entertain me" It's no ones job to entertain you. "I'm horny, tell me what you'd like to do to me" Um.. Tell you to fuck off???
I know there are women who do like less talk. But it's rare and so many men are butthurt over the fact that women need more to stimulate them, then men do. I don't care if it is a "sex site" or not. I don't come here to help anyone get off. So many men say "what do you expect, it's a sex site" You don't get to pick why any other person comes here, or how they are treated, but I can promise that now that you have said that, you for sure wont get that PM that you think you deserve.
I try and answer all the PMs I get. But I wont answer rude ones that come out of the gate assuming I am there to help them.
I do agree. I don't think it takes up very much of my time to respond to someone who has taken the time to message me.
I do talk more to someone who has given me something to work with conversation wise, who I might have seen around socializing, or who at least has some interests or any little bit of info in their profile.

I am sorry that it is so much harder for guys to get PMs, but remember, those who are getting them more, probably took the time to offer up more then what their dick wants.
Almost every one of the friendships I either have had, or do have from this site, were people who sent me a message and took interest in me and not asking me to get them off.
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Since you quoted my post, I very much assume that your post was directed at me. You make very valid points, but since you and I have never had a conversation, I don't think it is really fair to categorize me into a certain stereo type. Yes, when I wrote that, I realized that this would most likely put me on the "never pm list". I am fine with that!

Since, I am short on time, and patience this morning, I will not debate every point you made. Life is way to short!

So with that said, you go put yourself back on the pedestal, and look down upon all the men that wanted some real conversation, and have a nice day!
 
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KinkyGAGuy said:
Since you quoted my post, I very much assume that your post was directed at me. You make very valid points, but since you and I have never had a conversation, I don't think it is really fair to categorize me into a certain stereo type. Yes, when I wrote that, I realized that this would most likely put me on the "never pm list". I am fine with that!

Since, I am short on time, and patience this morning, I will not debate every point you made. Life is way to short!

So with that said, you go put yourself back on the pedestal, and look down upon all the men that wanted some real conversation, and have a nice day!
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Easy there big guy.. I apologize for making it appear that it was directed at you. I don't know you, never have talked to you. I quoted you because I was trying to answer some of what you had said. I will remove my quote as soon as I finish here.

I know there are some very great guys on here, and as I stated, all my friendships from here, are because they either took the time to send me a nice message (with conversation) or they talked to me out in the open.

It is really frustrating to constantly hear so many guys (again, not you) say how women should just take the rude behaviors that come in some PMs because it's a sex site. The people they (not you) are sending messages to, are still women, and still wanted to be treated with respect.

If you (yes this time you) had seen some of the PMs I (and other ladies) have gotten over the years, you might understand why I (we) am(are) so bitter. I rarely PM at all anymore because the bad apples, have ruined it for the good. Half the shit some guys (maybe not you) say in PM, they would either never say in real life, or never say out in the open rooms. My theory is, if you(men in general) are too chicken to say it in an open room, it's probably not the best way to start a PM. Which is why I don't talk in PM all that often anymore.

I have no idea what kind of PMs you send. You could be an amazing guy and maybe one of those good ones, and it sucks that so many women have been tainted from the few guys that can't speak to a woman with respect, because yes, it does hurt the good ones.

Again, I am sorry that it seemed directed at you. I merely meant to answer some questions as to why guys don't often get replies.I promise you that with in a few posts, some guy will come on here and post "looking for sexy chats" "looking for someone to help me pass the boredom, come help me get off" type comments.

I stopped really looking at this thread a long time ago, because many of the guys just ignored the women trying to help understand what kind of messages we wanted.

There is a very small percentage of women who actually will PM that guy and talk to him, so by all means, if that's all a guy can muster up, go with it. But don't be shocked when no one replies. (not you)

:rose::rose: My apologies Mr GA guy ;)

btw. May I keep my pedestal? I'm kind of short and would like to appear tall once in a while. :D
 
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SassySheDevil said:
Easy there big guy.. I apologize for making it appear that it was directed at you. I don't know you, never have talked to you. I quoted you because I was trying to answer some of what you had said. I will remove my quote as soon as I finish here.

I know there are some very great guys on here, and as I stated, all my friendships from here, are because they either took the time to send me a nice message (with conversation) or they talked to me out in the open.

It is really frustrating to constantly hear so many guys (again, not you) say how women should just take the rude behaviors that come in some PMs because it's a sex site. The people they (not you) are sending messages to, are still women, and still wanted to be treated with respect.

If you (yes this time you) had seen some of the PMs I (and other ladies) have gotten over the years, you might understand why I (we) am(are) so bitter. I rarely PM at all anymore because the bad apples, have ruined it for the good. Half the shit some guys (maybe not you) say in PM, they would either never say in real life, or never say out in the open rooms. My theory is, if you(men in general) are too chicken to say it in an open room, it's probably not the best way to start a PM. Which is why I don't talk in PM all that often anymore.

I have no idea what kind of PMs you send. You could be an amazing guy and maybe one of those good ones, and it sucks that so many women have been tainted from the few guys that can't speak to a woman with respect, because yes, it does hurt the good ones.

Again, I am sorry that it seemed directed at you. I merely meant to answer some questions as to why guys don't often get replies.I promise you that with in a few posts, some guy will come on here and post "looking for sexy chats" "looking for someone to help me pass the boredom, come help me get off" type comments.

I stopped really looking at this thread a long time ago, because many of the guys just ignored the women trying to help understand what kind of messages we wanted.

There is a very small percentage of women who actually will PM that guy and talk to him, so by all means, if that's all a guy can muster up, go with it. But don't be shocked when no one replies. (not you)

:rose::rose: My apologies Mr GA guy ;)

btw. May I keep my pedestal? I'm kind of short and would like to appear tall once in a while. :D
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Apology accepted! It appeared, that you were taking a combative stance, my apologies for assuming you were being combative to me specifically. And yes, you may keep the pedestal, since you stated that you are vertically challenged!

Now with all that out of the way. I agree that some of the morons, and yes me,at one time in my life, may have been to blame for some of the current thought process towards men.

Yes the fact is that this is a "sexually orientated" site. However, I have never thought of the women here as hookers or jack off material. I personally, like to find out what makes people tick.
Unless asked for, I do not offer pictures, and specifically pictures of my dick. That is wrong and just disgusting. In my opinion that is not how to start a conversation.

When I PM someone, I try to think of it like trying to start a conversation in a social atmosphere. " Hello, how are you doing today" in my opinion it is a respectful and non-invasive question, which hopefully leads to a response, and quite possibly more conversation. Instead of saying
"Hey Baby, you got nice tits, I got a boner, wanna play?" I could see why a woman would run away screaming!

I have read some profiles that are requesting well thought out and lengthy PM's, do I really need to write a novel, to get a 3 word response? Or a bunch of smiley faces ( oh yeah That took a lot of effort). Thanks for making time for me! Oh goody, maybe she will want to sext now!

Ain't nobody got time for that. Show me your worthy of a conversation, may it be friendly banter or whatever. Yes, I like sexual innuendos in a mix of conversation as well.
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