The "I wish to receive Pm's" (twist on the how many)

[SassySheDevil]

You've just made exactly the same point as me, you've just used different words to illustrate it.

Essentially what you're saying is that, as a guy, you have to put yourself out there. I agree with that, but it doesn't make it any easier for those of us who are naturally quiet. Your reference to "less than one post per day" is actually my point of frustration (in life, generally) - people who talk more (even if what they say is utter codswallop) are more often that not socially more popular.

Some women like the shy quiet ones. As long as one can carry conversation, you are good.

 

[vg27]

If its any help, the ones I find the easiest to send a message back to are those that are commenting on something I've said in a post or some info in my profile.

The ones that aren't are those that just say hi, I'm x, I'm this age and I like doing x. There's nothing wrong in that, it just makes it more difficult.

I think you're on to something here. In my experience, women do tend to reply if you put some thought in how a PM comes across to her. So some depth and not being overly sexual might help. That being said, it's also a little bit like a lottery. So you also have to hope for the best.

 

[malinko]

i would really like a pm right now just to assist with something in hand

 

[Pondlife]

You've just made exactly the same point as me, you've just used different words to illustrate it.

Essentially what you're saying is that, as a guy, you have to put yourself out there. I agree with that, but it doesn't make it any easier for those of us who are naturally quiet. Your reference to "less than one post per day" is actually my point of frustration (in life, generally) - people who talk more (even if what they say is utter codswallop) are more often that not socially more popular.

No, I don't think I am saying the same thing, and jhat has said a great deal of late but I don't think his codswallop had made him popular. Clearly some boorish boring oafs will be noticed and responded to, it's best not to mistake that for being liked though.

But as I said who on here have you noticed and thought I'd like to know them is it someone who has said nothing at all?

I don't think that what I said applies to only men, particularly in the forum from which this is an offshoot clearly women with their own thread will be noticed more than those who don't.
I think many of the posters on this forum are naturally shy people but people who are at least sociable will have more luck being popular than those hiding in a locked filling cabinet... behind a door marked beware of the leopard.

 

[Mindfondler]

I can empathise with UnashamedVoyeur as I'm naturally quiet and unpushy. It's still possible, though, to be sociable without being loud and forceful. I've been lucky enough to receive some lovely unsolicited PMs -- and to get replies when I've sent them myself. I don't think I've done anything special apart from trying to be polite, relevant and respectful.

I'd make the point again, though, that quantity of PMs received isn't necessarily any measure of "success" (whatever that might mean). Most of my PMs have been short exchanges that haven't led on to any further dialogue away from the forums. I think that's probably just the nature of the Lit forum -- people tend to put their personal information in their profiles and spend most of their time in the threads. Or am I doing it wrong?
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[SassySheDevil]

I'm very thankful that the PMs that I have gotten lately have been more about conversation then a quick thrill. Those have been much more likely to have gotten a response. I admit I've gotten a couple really strange ones too, but those get ignored. I really do enjoy the more personal info vs "this is my Monster cock, wanna talk to it"

 

[JudasIscariot]

I'm very thankful that the PMs that I have gotten lately have been more about conversation then a quick thrill. Those have been much more likely to have gotten a response. I admit I've gotten a couple really strange ones too, but those get ignored. I really do enjoy the more personal info vs "this is my Monster cock, wanna talk to it"

Ha made me giggle

 

[Mindfondler]

Go on.... surprise me!

As I've explained in this other thread, I'm a bit disheartened that I rarely receive replies when I send out PMs with good intentions. Surely I'm not the only person who wants to make more friends here but isn't interested in cyber?

Please feel free to read my profile and listen to my short audio introduction. I put them both up because I didn't want to be mysterious and furtive (or was that my mistake?). If you'd like to know more, then please ask me!
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[JaggyMcSporran]

Would like nothing more than to receive a PM from a woman commanding me to strip naked for them.

 

[ClassInAtl]

Ok, so I decided to post. It's odd because I've posted here a ton, but every time I start to reply in this thread I delete it. I feel awkward but hell, the title of the thread says it all - as well as the first post.

Yes, I have had PM chats with ladies on here, but I've always initiated them. I always thought it would be cool to receive one first. The thing is, I would be happy just for a friendly hello, but given the nature of this site (and the fact that I'm a man) I'd be anxious about the possibilities of where the conversation would go.

Anyway, I'd like to think I'm a decent guy who would love to be desired, but who can respect the fact that I may not be.

Damn - I sound like such a head case, now you know why I question myself about posting here.

 

[JHat]

Would like nothing more than to receive a PM from a woman commanding me to strip naked for them.

Aim higher, son.

Surely there's more to you than this pathetic shell.

And reality check - chix don't care.

 

[COCK_STAR]

Pm me ladies. I'm fuckin bitchin.

 

[JHat]

Go on.... surprise me!

As I've explained in this other thread, I'm a bit disheartened that I rarely receive replies when I send out PMs with good intentions. Surely I'm not the only person who wants to make more friends here but isn't interested in cyber?

Please feel free to read my profile and listen to my short audio introduction. I put them both up because I didn't want to be mysterious and furtive (or was that my mistake?). If you'd like to know more, then please ask me!
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You give off that needy, pathetic vibe.

Every chik wants needy and pathetic doods.

I'm surprised you don't get more responses.

 

[IARainman]

I would love to meet a few more women to have an informal but on going chat friendship with. Kind love to chat, tease and on occasion type up some damn hot chat. My experience is I usually meet someone, it gets hot quickly, I'll type them a hot story then they disappear.

I'm not interested in writing a thousand pm's to everyone that seems like they might be female, I've never been a"numbers game"guy.

If you wasn't some fun, pm me it's that simple. No pressure for pics out cam, if they happen, they do. I'm usually online days.

 

[GIJoeandI]

I wouldn't mind a few PMs

 

[GIJoeJ]

I wouldn't mind

Having a few people to talk to might be kind of nice

 

[PenforPrez]

I'd love to receive some PMs from the women here on Lit. I'm willing to talk about anything--tell me a joke, send me a recipe, ask me about politics, tell me your wildest fantasy, I'm willing to discuss anything. I love making new friends.

 

[BigbadBrian]

Would a pm session with a lovely lady of lit.

 

[SassySheDevil]

I'd love to receive some PMs from the women here on Lit. I'm willing to talk about anything--tell me a joke, send me a recipe, ask me about politics, tell me your wildest fantasy, I'm willing to discuss anything. I love making new friends.

haha I loved that. That made me giggle!! that's for sure one I haven't heard before!!

 

[PenforPrez]

haha I loved that. That made me giggle!! that's for sure one I haven't heard before!!

I love to cook and I'm always up for trying a new recipe. I'm very serious about that.

 

[SassySheDevil]

I love to cook and I'm always up for trying a new recipe. I'm very serious about that.

Nothing wrong with that at all. It was just a first. My diets pretty boring. Not a lot of cooking for me these days, other then my weekly supply of protein.

 

[katieandakitty]

I like making friends and interesting people.

 

[rpman08]

I like making friends and interesting people.

Welcome to lit, Katie. Hope you enjoy it.

 

[topip]

I would love to get a pm!!

 

[DoverTomo]

I'd love to receive some PMs from the women here on Lit. I'm willing to talk about anything--tell me a joke, send me a recipe, ask me about politics, tell me your wildest fantasy, I'm willing to discuss anything. I love making new friends.

Im looking for the same. Just lookin' for some folks to talk to so the time passes. A quick thank you to those who I HAVE chatted with, hope to chat again sometime.